Post by covergirl82 on Feb 13, 2019 8:18:24 GMT -5
Dear state government,
Please grant additional inclement weather grace days. We all know that kids will not be engaged learners if they have to go to school a week more in June. Or let districts add time each day so we don't have to add days at the end. And change the law so that in future years, we can go to school on President's Day if we exceed snow days by then. Turn it into an instructional day focused on learning about our presidents.
Thank you for the privilege of having to leave my house at 6:20 to get DS to school for the field trip today. I love my hair looking crazy and not eating breakfast.
Signed, tired mom
Dear PTO,
I may have to sit out the meetings the rest of the year. I don't have it in me to discuss every fundraiser in detail for over an hour. I have one foot out the door anyway so I am just going to show up when I can. BTW hard pass on me standing outside the church after mass selling giftcards.
Signed, passing on to the next generation.
Dear Doctor,
You are trying to kill me, yes? When I asked if heart palpitations are no big deal, your answer should have been the majority of the time, full stop. You didn't need to ad that in some cases your heart can stop for several seconds and you fall over and die. And thanks for the heart monitor. This is fun.
Signed, hypochondriac that needs a more chill doc.
Dear boss- you have allowed your employee to sexually harass 3 people and regularly harass 6-7 additional people and yet you do nothing.. Fire her. And yet you didn’t. Enjoy being sued because your day is coming.
Dear husband and friends- you concocted this plan that DS had to go to this sports class even though I repeatedly said I can’t take him. Well guess what? Said husband and friends will be out of town one weekend, and now I have to leave early from work to take him to the class that I repeatedly said no I can’t take him and can’t leave work early for. Thanks for trying to include us- I do really appreciate it. But this is why I usually just run on my own schedule because yes you can help a little bit but I still have to do 9/10ths of it so .. ...it’s easier for me to just manage my own schedule. And I dont like being pushed because then I dig in my heels and I am not sure why it has to be a control issue except I know the wife says she is a control freak. But it seems like in your friend group there is some control tensions.
waverly, Can you get him a ride with someone else? That would drive me crazy.
Dear School District, 6 inches of snow, when the roads have been plowed, does not necessitate a snow day. You are an urban district. 7 snow days is excessive. And I have no urge to make these up. How about we use a bunch of those insane early release days, because why even go to school when the kids get out at 10:30AM? Signed, Parent who is drowning in work stuff
Dear Daycare, See note to school district, also if you are supposed to serve the university, how about staying open when the university does? And not close when the school district does. All of the parents have to get to campus anyways to teach. Signed, Again drowning
Dear DH, I am drowning in work, no more of these home projects where you do them all weekend and I take care of the kids. I need to get some work done. Signed, Please don't rewire the light so it takes LEDs instead of just buying an incadnescent
I think we are married to the same person. No, DH, you do not need to install a new plug in our bedroom to service the same TV set up that we’ve had for 5 1/2 years. Seriously. You don’t. Sometimes I think he invents stuff to get out of interacting with the kids. Which is ok if it’s for like 15 mins or even an hour. But lately it’s all weekend every weekend. I’ve started sending the kids to help 😜.
Thank you that I am out of the valentine box phase of life. When DD and DS were small, I admit that I took over their valentine box decoration because I wanted it to look nice, but it was basically construction paper and stickers - they did do the sticker part. The ones I am seeing online that look like basketballs, the millennial falcon, a vending machine, Mater from Cars, etc... are way above my skillset and paygrade.
Signed, uncrafty mom of thankfully middle and high school.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Feb 13, 2019 10:16:43 GMT -5
Dear Insurance,
Thanks for approving DD for growth hormones (!!!!!) but really? She hasn't had any testing at all? And you've already denied DS once and we haven't received any response on him yet. Really?
Also, I know I asked for this, but I expected this to take years to get done...she won't even let me brush her hair or wipe her face without whinging and flailing.
Signed, Mixed emotions
Dear DS' School
Thanks for saying you'd allow us to start DD in pre k instead of kinder. That simplifies a lot. Not that I'm hoping someone doesn't come back from maternity leave but...the current pre k teacher is so much better than your normal prek teacher so...if she didn't come back I wouldn't be mad.
Post by covergirl82 on Feb 13, 2019 10:21:19 GMT -5
rere, my kids have construction paper and sticker Valentine boxes too. I am so not crafty and I don't have the time to try to be. I can't even look at Pinterest. I am looking forward to middle school and not having to do that kind of stuff.
Post by justcheckingin73 on Feb 13, 2019 10:57:46 GMT -5
Dear work,
Are you trying to kill everyone? I just got an email that I’ve been added to a newly formed committee. How much more can you put on us? You got rid of half of our team and I’m drowning. And morale is low. Getting others to help is not easy. Finding motivation to get all of this work done is not easy.
Working on on my resume this weekend
Dear fellow mom,
Thanks for not asking me to take your kids to the required religious Ed presentation last night. I was waiting for that text to come and after my awful day yesterday, I was dreading it. The last time I had to take your son to a church event, he talked, was loud, drummed on the pew and wouldn’t listen to me. He’s 9. Unfortunately I saw the kids with one of the other moms. Wonder if he acted the same?
rere, covergirl82, I really wish we could make a Valentine's box just for 1 year. Feel like my kid is missing out. I have some really cool ideas that DD would love that are super simple that she can totally do on her own. I don't even look at Pinterest for V-Day as it just makes me sad. 186momx
Dear DH Are you actually sick or just playing sick with a man cold to get out of doing stuff? We come home last night and you looked and acted fine. 20 minutes later you have tissues stuck up your nose and sniffling like crazy. What gives? Wife
mae0111, I have started sending them down to help also. DH does this thing where he says that its fine if they hang out in the basement while he is working on stuff, and then complains that they bother him? And really just wants me to watch them down there. I've started saying that either he needs to tell them not to go down there while he is working on stuff, or he doesn't get to complain. Because I have other stuff to do, which is not hanging out in the basement with the kids while he works on stuff. I don't usually care about all of the projects so much, but I am swamped and need the time to do actual work that pays our bills. Just buy another incandescent light bulb....
phdmomma- no one else can take the kids because they first have to pick them up from aftercare for me and also need the sports equipment. Friends of friends are going which is great but they are her friends not my friends and they don’t go to the aftercare so even if I did ask them and they agreed then I would have to walk them through the entire picking up process and send a letter to the aftercare with permission and then also have to figure out how to get my daughter back from them while also turning around and picking him up from the class.
friends- Ugh I get it- you feel guilty you kind of excluded us repeatedly a lot, and REALLY want to make this work but it’s ok. I’m ok being excluded. We still see each other at larger events and we don’t have to be on the same teams. And we get to meet new people and friends. You all work from home or part time, I dont. It’s ok.
I have the same husband. He is a bit obsessive and with his depression likes to invent tasks that keep his mind off things and feel productive. He re-wired all the outlets to child protection during my maternity leave (instead of using the plastic plugs), and didn’t help with the baby at all. I responded by kicking the door in hormonal rage but hey go ahead and invent 50 more tasks to do and spend $$$$ doing them.
Also I think I have PMS stress plus schedule stress work stress and almost hitting a car during the ice storm during my commute home stress, so I am taking the afternoon off.
Holy shit, you’ve gotten in some terrible eating habits. Just tracking your food for 3 days has made that crystal clear. Just not eating when you aren’t hungry would allow you to lose a shit ton of weight.
You Who Now Sees Why She Is Fat
Dear My Fitness Pal:
I’m not impressed with you right now. Why is it when I look at how many calories I have left for today, it’s 894 but when I look at macronutrients I’m suddenly down to 791? WTF? That’s a pretty big difference. Also why do you keep losing my extra calories from exercise?
Former Anorexic Ballerina To Whom 100 Calories is a VERY BIG DEAL
Post by covergirl82 on Feb 13, 2019 15:54:27 GMT -5
186momx, next year, could you still do a Valentines box, but for at home? Maybe the week or two before Valentines Day, you and your DD could make one, and you and your H could leave her cute notes (like a mailbox) and/or small surprises.
186momx - we totally did boxes and the kids put their valentines in them when they get home. Kits from Michaels. I put them away when I put away the Valentines decor. We have cute stuff up and the one thing people alllllways say is “I wish we could do Valentines boxes!” And I always side eye it because these people have kids at the SAME school. They can! Just at home....
Also, Dear Airrosti - my leg hurt this morning when I ran at camp. I know it wasn’t going to be all better after killing it in the 5k but it was still stabby. I’m redoubling my exercises and quality when I do it but I need faster improvement! Pleeeeaae fix me!
I feel like a loser when I walk at camp, but you told me not to run through the pain so I am being very very good even though I hate it
WPs I never even thought of making Valentine's boxes for the house. I need to remember to do this next January! I have this idea of making a box look like a balance beam and instead of the beam logo have DD's name. Super easy but will totally fit DD.
To me You are not the grim reaper. Just because everyone you called today to tell them their taxes were done and they all owe isn't your fault. Remember you can only work so much magic and some of these guys we've been telling to take more taxes out for years. To early in the season to feel this way
Post by traveltheworld on Feb 13, 2019 22:54:45 GMT -5
Dear Self,
Try to be more excited, or at least less grumpy about the trip. Remember the podcast you listened to that says to use business trips as opportunities for "me" time? Do it. And also, do stay engaged and charming for that one dinner. The guy who'll be there is revered in the industry. It'll be a fantastic networking opportunity if you can impress him.
traveltheworld - I LOVE business trips. I miss my at minimum monthly travel very much. It was a chance to do things for me - it used to be scrapbooking and working 12 hour days, and has included running in more recent years. I have friends in each city to which I have traveled more recently, so have long kid free dinners and boozy evenings. I loved reading in glorious silence, and more recently, my favorite thing is the bed is made and comfortable (DH now sleeps with his own bedding, and it’s a pain to even try to make the bed). It’s fun to network and meet people - there’s something about business travel that channels my 20s (probably because I traveled full time for a while and traveled a lot socially in that time, too). I used to lug my rollerblades with me on every trip and find the best public parks. It was my “golden hour” after work and before diving back in for the evening.
My point is - without the encumbrance of real life, what routines and rewards can you incorporate into business travel?
Post by justcheckingin73 on Feb 14, 2019 10:25:27 GMT -5
Dear DH,
Thanks for trying to help by bringing up the garbage and recycling cans. But next time, can you check to see if they actually emptied the recycling? It was totally full and we have another week to go.
I hate when people vent their problems to me that they refuse to actually fix or outline their game plan on what they're going to do (that will only make things worse). I know they don't want advice from me, but letting them think I think their plan makes sense just seems like the wrong thing to do.
Signed, UGH.
Dear husband's brother's best friend who also happens to watch our kids and is a GREAT babysitter and practically family,
I get it. You hate your roommate. You can't afford a place on your own, and even if you did, you have a cat you refuse to leave behind that makes the task even more impossible. I get that you think he's bullying you. Hiring a lawyer that you can't afford so you can "call his bluff" isn't going to help anything. What outcome do you think you get here? Basically, you get a legal bill and a lawyer who most likely is going to tell you that neither of you can evict the other just because you don't like each other. No one is holding a gun to your head and forcing you to be there. You're both playing a stupid game of chicken hoping that you'll convince the other to leave and it's been A YEAR. If it's effecting your mental health this much, move out. It doesn't matter if "he wins." Another roommate isn't ideal, but it's your only option.
Signed, I know you've been talking to MIL and she's giving you awful advice because she has *never* had to live in the real world or deal with real problems. The extent of her real world knowledge is Judge Judy. And Judge Judy would laugh if you tried to get this to court.
Post by traveltheworld on Feb 14, 2019 11:30:18 GMT -5
2chatter and k3am, I think I have a phobia for business trips since every one I've been on since I started this job has entailed working around the clock - part of it was driven by work, but part of it was just my mentality - I kept thinking that I need to progress files B, C, D and E while I'm on a work trip for file A. But I'm trying something new this time - I told all the other business teams that I'm just not going to progress on their files while I'm away, and so far people seem ok with that; so I'm packing some yoga wear, bubble bath stuff, and bringing my Kindle. I have high hopes of making it outside for a walk this time
traveltheworld - I try to get in at 6 a couple days a week on trips so I have time before I am “on” for whatever I am there for and I can keep up with the highest priority real work, but the real benefit is I can leave at 6 with no guilt. Four hours of me time before bed. Amazing.
I also decline time wasters in person so I can keep up with other things - the “since you are here, maybe you could sit in” kind of things. If it isn’t something I would need to do if I was not there, why would I waste my time just because I am physically present? Networking excluded....
traveltheworld, my business trips are mostly meet/greet/eat. I have 2-8 meetings a day depending on how close/far away clients/prospects/referral sources are from one another. I get a really nice dinner and drinks every night. Any client maintenance I do while traveling is over phone/email inbetween meetings, and any heavy lifting that needs to be done gets deferred to someone in the office. The week back is always a pain, but the week of is so refreshing.
Lately I've just had day trips - fly down to LA or San Diego for the day, meet with 2-3 clients, dinner, and head home. I keep dreaming my flight gets cancelled and I just have to stay overnight in a hotel. Sadly, hasn't happened.
traveltheworld, I tell my folks I will only fight fires while I’m traveling. I used to work around the clock. Now, except for business dinners (which I try to avoid), I knock off at my normal time. Otherwise, it’s just too exhausting.
On business trips, I load up on Netflix things I want to watch, Kindle books, and treat myself to decent dinners of foods my family won’t eat. And dinner in bed with room service is like the most indulgent thing on the planet. I eat what I want to eat, watch what I want to watch, read to my heart’s content. It’s lovely.
Oh and lunches out!! There are always lunches out when I travel because we cannot expense groceries any more, so I no longer cook or buy frozen food. And because it’s unusual that I am wherever I am there are always people to go with who justify it as semi work related and they are long and relaxing. Or catered on site - just as good and more networking.