“Friend” Vent

[achi]

Wow. What a bitch.

[ECB]

This woman is ridiculous and I’m sure she knows it. Telling her why you’re pissed isn’t going to do a thing.

[bugmeetsworld]

Feb 17, 2019 14:36:52 GMT -5 jennistarr1 said:

Friendship is over I'm sure

But I see nothing wrong with saying something like "hey, do you think you could bring us lunch like I did for you"

I would love to hear response

This is where I’m at. It sounds like she set up her own meal train. I would have no problem asking her to bring you a meal. I would love to hear her response too.

[woodgnome]

Feb 17, 2019 19:15:55 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Feb 17, 2019 15:40:51 GMT -5 meganew said:

Please tell me that you all at least had another group chat with the other moms to discuss how insane her delivery requests were.

I can’t even comprehend this! Lol
OP I’m guessing y’all paid for the food as well?

Yep

[woodgnome]

Feb 17, 2019 19:50:47 GMT -5 bugmeetsworld said:

Feb 17, 2019 14:36:52 GMT -5 jennistarr1 said:

Friendship is over I'm sure

But I see nothing wrong with saying something like "hey, do you think you could bring us lunch like I did for you"

I would love to hear response

This is where I’m at. It sounds like she set up her own meal train. I would have no problem asking her to
bring you a meal. I would love to hear her response too.

She did & most of the people she sent it to live out of town so they basically did the same thing that I did with the lunch situation lol

[cleo29]

Feb 17, 2019 20:43:22 GMT -5 woodgnome said:

Feb 17, 2019 19:15:55 GMT -5 mofongo said:

I can’t even comprehend this! Lol
OP I’m guessing y’all paid for the food as well?

Yep

[emjay]

Feb 17, 2019 18:26:42 GMT -5 fivechickens said:

Part of the reason she is like this is because people actually DO the ridiculous over the top things she asks instead of telling her to fuck off.

I agree ghost her and if she contacts you asking what is up (which she won’t because has zero self awareness) tell her she is a sucky friend.

Agreed. She isn’t totally to blame because everyone seemed to give into her requests. And somepoint those people are no longer a victim but a volunteer.

I am sorry she hasn’t acknowledged your newborn (congrats!!) That certainly isn’t a friend.

[notsopicky]

Feb 17, 2019 20:43:22 GMT -5 woodgnome said:

Feb 17, 2019 19:15:55 GMT -5 mofongo said:

I can’t even comprehend this! Lol
OP I’m guessing y’all paid for the food as well?

Yep

Oh for the love of all that is holy, please tell me how long this "friendship" went on. 

I'm having a hard time wrapping my brain around how people like this "friend" (barf) manipulate others into doing this kind of shit for them. I'm not flaming you, OP, but damn--I think I'd last about 2 minutes with this ridiculous fool. 

[4speedy]

Feb 17, 2019 15:08:14 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Feb 17, 2019 15:06:51 GMT -5 maudefindlay said:

She asked for them to get and deliver lunch to them. Her husband was working, so she wanted his lunch delivered to him at work and non friend wanted hers and her kids' lunches to her house.

so two deliveries? and why the hell would the husband need it?

And wouldn’t it take less time to place an online order for delivery than to type out a text message.?

[woodgnome]

Feb 17, 2019 21:52:06 GMT -5 notsopicky said:

Feb 17, 2019 20:43:22 GMT -5 woodgnome said:

Yep

Oh for the love of all that is holy, please tell me how long this "friendship" went on. 

I'm having a hard time wrapping my brain around how people like this "friend" (barf) manipulate others into doing this kind of shit for them. I'm not flaming you, OP, but damn--I think I'd last about 2 minutes with this ridiculous fool. 

I pulled way back from my friendship with her but because it was a group, I felt like if I told her to fuck off then I would lose those friends too. It made for a weird dynamic

[ECB]

Feb 17, 2019 22:15:12 GMT -5 woodgnome said:

Feb 17, 2019 21:52:06 GMT -5 notsopicky said:

Oh for the love of all that is holy, please tell me how long this "friendship" went on. 

I'm having a hard time wrapping my brain around how people like this "friend" (barf) manipulate others into doing this kind of shit for them. I'm not flaming you, OP, but damn--I think I'd last about 2 minutes with this ridiculous fool. 

I pulled way back from my friendship with her but because it was a group, I felt like if I told her to fuck off then I would lose those friends too. It made for a weird dynamic

So, why are these other people good enough friends with her that if you told her to fuck off,  YOU would lose them as friends??  Especially if you all talk about her and supposedly all agree that she's using you all??  What is it that she "offers" that makes you think they wouldn't defend you? 

[erbear]

This all seems ridiculous. That person sucks. The other friends suck if they stick with her when you peace out of the group. At some point, enablers of bad behavior are part of the problem.

Congrats on your new baby! It stinks that she didn't acknowledge that event.

[fivechickens]

Feb 17, 2019 22:15:12 GMT -5 woodgnome said:

Feb 17, 2019 21:52:06 GMT -5 notsopicky said:

Oh for the love of all that is holy, please tell me how long this "friendship" went on. 

I'm having a hard time wrapping my brain around how people like this "friend" (barf) manipulate others into doing this kind of shit for them. I'm not flaming you, OP, but damn--I think I'd last about 2 minutes with this ridiculous fool. 

I pulled way back from my friendship with her but because it was a group, I felt like if I told her to fuck off then I would lose those friends too. It made for a weird dynamic

If you tell this person, who is using all of you, to kick rocks and the rest of the group distances themselves from you, is that really a group of people you want to be friends with?

[justemily]

Yikes. F that noise!

I'd ghost her as well. That's not a friendship.

[followyourarrow]

Wow! She's awful and no friend at all. I'd just ghost her and move on with your life.

[flex]

With friends like that (including the group if they put up with this nonsense) who needs enemies?

[ECB]

I'll add - I get the dynamic of groups of friends. It's not always black and white. But truly - think about it - if you'd LOSE these other women as friends because you let the woman know what an asshole she is... really? It's one thing if they stayed friends with her and you simply were no longer a part of that group. But I would hope that they'd remain friends with you independent of their friendship with her.

Not that you're going to say anything. I still think it wouldn't do anything. You all aren't the first time this woman has been an asshole and I'm sure she knows it.

[flygirl]

I have an ex friend who was like this. Complete taker. When her kids were born, I threw her baby showers-as in multiple for different groups, babysat her kids for entire weekends, took time off when her kids were sick so she didn’t get into trouble at work, made her dinner (which she made fun of-I was not a cook but too broke to order something), etc etc. When my DS was born, she saw him once at a lunch when he was 4 mo old and hasn’t seen him since....he’s 8.
Drop her and anyone else who thinks this is appropriate behavior and find friends who aren’t assholes.

[egishere]

The ordering food thing is so weird to me! None of the other people in the group thought that was weird and that she is a taker or have you guys never talked about her?! Definitely drop her! We have some people like this in our neighborhood. The taker asked another Mom to watch her kids everyday after school and the Mom was like "uh hell no-I have three kids and can't do that". The taker also told - didn't ask, told, her she was using her washing machine at like 10:30 at night because theirs was broken - other Mom said no we are going to bed. They do stuff like this all the time and never offer to help anyone else or say thank you for anything so now everyone is avoiding them.

[Jermys]

This makes me realize how much nicer other people are, because I'm pretty sure I'd have laughed directly in her face if she had the audacity to ask me to buy her husband lunch when he's at work with his own wallet and a presumably working telephone. I doubt I'd have purchased her lunch either, but for damn sure I'm not buying her husband lunch.

This also might be why I only have like 5 friends.

[cherryvalance]

Did I miss this, or was it not mentioned? Did you guys ask what you could do for her and then she went wild with the lunch demands or did she just text you out of the blue?

Don't get me wrong, I think both are crazy, but I'm trying to envision how this went down.

[Leeham Rimes]

the first time this woman didn’t reciprocate should have been the last time you extended yourself to her. At this point all you can do is learn from this experience and know that just bc you do for others, doesn’t mean they’ll ever do for you.

Obviously I’m not the best one to point fingers (lol) but with my recent friend let down, I’m believing what they’re telling me about their “friendship” and I’m no longer going to be the one help them out. Screw me over once, shame on you, screw me over again, shame on me.

[circa1978]

Feb 18, 2019 15:13:22 GMT -5 Jermys said:

This makes me realize how much nicer other people are, because I'm pretty sure I'd have laughed directly in her face if she had the audacity to ask me to buy her husband lunch when he's at work with his own wallet and a presumably working telephone. I doubt I'd have purchased her lunch either, but for damn sure I'm not buying her husband lunch.

This also might be why I only have like 5 friends.

This was my exact internal monologue reading the OP.  

[Leeham Rimes]

Feb 18, 2019 15:13:22 GMT -5 Jermys said:

This makes me realize how much nicer other people are, because I'm pretty sure I'd have laughed directly in her face if she had the audacity to ask me to buy her husband lunch when he's at work with his own wallet and a presumably working telephone. I doubt I'd have purchased her lunch either, but for damn sure I'm not buying her husband lunch.

This also might be why I only have like 5 friends.

I don’t even have that many. Or—well. Any. Lol.


Oh well. Being a recluse is totally in, right?

[sparkythelawyer]

Drop this human like third period french.

[woodgnome]

Feb 18, 2019 15:23:24 GMT -5 cherryvalance said:

Did I miss this, or was it not mentioned? Did you guys ask what you could do for her and then she went wild with the lunch demands or did she just text you out of the blue?

Don't get me wrong, I think both are crazy, but I'm trying to envision how this went down.

Yes, we had asked if there was anything she needed because her son was sick & then 2 days later, she sent us a text saying she was going to take us up on our offer and could we order lunch and dinner for them. So it felt like since we had offered to help, we were on the hook.

[cherryvalance]

Feb 18, 2019 16:38:40 GMT -5 woodgnome said:

Feb 18, 2019 15:23:24 GMT -5 cherryvalance said:

Did I miss this, or was it not mentioned? Did you guys ask what you could do for her and then she went wild with the lunch demands or did she just text you out of the blue?

Don't get me wrong, I think both are crazy, but I'm trying to envision how this went down.

Yes, we had asked if there was anything she needed because her son was sick & then 2 days later, she sent us a text saying she was going to take us up on our offer and could we order lunch and dinner for them. So it felt like since we had offered to help, we were on the hook.

I get you. And who the hell takes someone up on a general offer of help to this degree?

[boxertdog]

This chick sucks. Ghost. 

[namasteak]

Feb 18, 2019 16:42:58 GMT -5 cherryvalance said:

Feb 18, 2019 16:38:40 GMT -5 woodgnome said:

Yes, we had asked if there was anything she needed because her son was sick & then 2 days later, she sent us a text saying she was going to take us up on our offer and could we order lunch and dinner for them. So it felt like since we had offered to help, we were on the hook.

I get you. And who the hell takes someone up on a general offer of help to this degree?

And 2 days later!

[Jermys]

Feb 18, 2019 15:30:49 GMT -5 Leeham Rimes said:

Feb 18, 2019 15:13:22 GMT -5 Jermys said:

This makes me realize how much nicer other people are, because I'm pretty sure I'd have laughed directly in her face if she had the audacity to ask me to buy her husband lunch when he's at work with his own wallet and a presumably working telephone. I doubt I'd have purchased her lunch either, but for damn sure I'm not buying her husband lunch.

This also might be why I only have like 5 friends.

I don’t even have that many. Or—well. Any. Lol.


Oh well. Being a recluse is totally in, right?

Hermits are so hot right now.