I realized I have been hoping someone would throw me a shower and I’m sad it doesn’t look like it’s happening. It’s my third so I get why people wouldn’t think to and we are ok to but what we need, but I would like to do something to celebrate this little one.
I totally get how you feel. In my case, we really needed basically nothing because DS is so young, but I do feel a little sad that no one is celebrating her. I don't want to be rude, but I almost want to do a Sip and See or something like that (no gifts) so people can meet her and be excited.
I realized I have been hoping someone would throw me a shower and I’m sad it doesn’t look like it’s happening. It’s my third so I get why people wouldn’t think to and we are ok to but what we need, but I would like to do something to celebrate this little one.
I totally get how you feel. In my case, we really needed basically nothing because DS is so young, but I do feel a little sad that no one is celebrating her. I don't want to be rude, but I almost want to do a Sip and See or something like that (no gifts) so people can meet her and be excited.
My friend did a sip & see with her second kiddo and it was great! It also really cut down on her having a million visitors right off the bat which I think was nice for her. She did it a few weeks after they got home from the hospital. I don't think you even need to say "no gifts". Most people understand what the deal is and bring small gifts like books, clothes, etc. under $15 or so.
I realized I have been hoping someone would throw me a shower and I’m sad it doesn’t look like it’s happening. It’s my third so I get why people wouldn’t think to and we are ok to but what we need, but I would like to do something to celebrate this little one.
I totally get how you feel. In my case, we really needed basically nothing because DS is so young, but I do feel a little sad that no one is celebrating her. I don't want to be rude, but I almost want to do a Sip and See or something like that (no gifts) so people can meet her and be excited.
I think a sip and see is great! Apparently, that's what is usually done in my area (I just moved here 2 years ago) for subsequent kids. I was surprised to be offered showers. My coworkers are doing a sip and see in April, once E2 is a few weeks old and we're mostly out of flu season.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I had another scan with my RE yesterday. Everything was right on track. But I looked at my results and my SCH has gotten bigger. My RE admittedly doesn't deal with that, so I called MFM this morning. They can't move my appointment up and said it's common. Didn't really calm me down. But essentially there's nothing they can do about it now. Which DEFINITELY didn't calm me down. I need it to resolve so I can unwind.
3. Questions for the group? Nothing today
4. Cravings? Aversions? I smelled roast beef this weekend and thought I was going to throw up. Not a ton of cravings. But I've been going crazy for anything with a high water content. Strange amounts of celery. Probably means I need to drink more water.
WAIT I do have a question! S/T/FTM, when did you start showing? I am 8 weeks tomorrow and out of my damn pants and I feel huge. I'm on a ton of progesterone, so maybe it's mostly bloat but I am having a hard time hiding this in any of my outfits at work.. or anywhere.
WAIT I do have a question! S/T/FTM, when did you start showing? I am 8 weeks tomorrow and out of my damn pants and I feel huge. I'm on a ton of progesterone, so maybe it's mostly bloat but I am having a hard time hiding this in any of my outfits at work.. or anywhere.
I think I moved to maternity tops around 10 weeks. Pants I could hold out longer, but I cant remember when I threw in the towel. 16 weeks maybe?
WAIT I do have a question! S/T/FTM, when did you start showing? I am 8 weeks tomorrow and out of my damn pants and I feel huge. I'm on a ton of progesterone, so maybe it's mostly bloat but I am having a hard time hiding this in any of my outfits at work.. or anywhere.
As a FTM, I think I hid it until 12-13 weeks, with effort. This time, I had multiple people ask me directly if I was (including my assistant) at 11w, which sucked, because I was still waiting for NIPT results and not ready to tell. Especially the 2nd time, I was working at hiding it by like 8-9w. I'm only 5'2" and have longer legs than torso, and there just isn't much room besides OUT for it to go.
ETA: One thing that helped as a STM was that I had a whole bunch of belly-smoothing/de-emphasizing pants that I had worn when I returned to work postpartum last time. Not maternity, but generous and flattering to a fluffy belly. Save anything you're wearing now, because I found "newly back to work" and early first tri to be similar!
WAIT I do have a question! S/T/FTM, when did you start showing? I am 8 weeks tomorrow and out of my damn pants and I feel huge. I'm on a ton of progesterone, so maybe it's mostly bloat but I am having a hard time hiding this in any of my outfits at work.. or anywhere.
10ish weeks, I was in maternity pants and mostly wearing loose shirts. I've been much bigger this time around.
WAIT I do have a question! S/T/FTM, when did you start showing? I am 8 weeks tomorrow and out of my damn pants and I feel huge. I'm on a ton of progesterone, so maybe it's mostly bloat but I am having a hard time hiding this in any of my outfits at work.. or anywhere.
At about 5 weeks. LOL. No joke. I was 6 weeks at Christmas and had a solid baby bump going. My aunt and grandma both asked my mom about it. Most of it was likely the PIO injections, but by the time we stopped those at 10 weeks there was no difference because by then I actually had a real baby bump.
My boss totally knew at 5 weeks. It's why I told people so much earlier with this pregnancy. There was no hiding it.
I wear a lot of dresses to work, they're more comfortable for me than pants a lot of the time. I'm having trouble with dresses clinging to my tights and riding up though, especially on my couple-block walk from dropping DD at daycare to my office. I wear a full slip (sized up since I couldn't find maternity) under my dresses to help with cling and feel less exposed, since maternity dresses are often so thin. It's not doing the job on cling though. Anyone have any tips? I hate how self conscious I feel like I need to be, constantly checking.
It will get better when I eventually can stop wearing a wool coat over and tights under, but it was 16* this morning so that day is not coming anytime soon.
Post by pinkalicious on Feb 19, 2019 10:47:02 GMT -5
1. How far along are you this week? 34+1 today
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? Went to MFM yesterday, blood pressure was high. Took it a 2nd time, still high (this never happens, my BP is always perfect). They then did a growth scan, baby is measuring way ahead at 7.5 lbs. He also has a full head of hair (but no heartburn). Then they checked my BP a 3rd time and it was normal, so no L&D trip for me, thank goodness. Scared DH enough that when I got home, he finally agreed to order nursery furniture 🙄 Had a prenatal massage last week and it helped my sciatica pain so much. I would have one weekly if I could afford it! First baby shower is this weekend. Somewhat looking forward to it.
3. Questions for the group? How am I going to make it to the last week of March? (They already said I’m being induced at 39 weeks). I’m going to give birth to the Micheline baby!
4. Cravings? Aversions? Craving everything I shouldn’t have-carbs, sugar, sweets Aversions-nothing that I didn’t already dislike to begin with.
WAIT I do have a question! S/T/FTM, when did you start showing? I am 8 weeks tomorrow and out of my damn pants and I feel huge. I'm on a ton of progesterone, so maybe it's mostly bloat but I am having a hard time hiding this in any of my outfits at work.. or anywhere.
At about 5 weeks. LOL. No joke. I was 6 weeks at Christmas and had a solid baby bump going. My aunt and grandma both asked my mom about it. Most of it was likely the PIO injections, but by the time we stopped those at 10 weeks there was no difference because by then I actually had a real baby bump.
My boss totally knew at 5 weeks. It's why I told people so much earlier with this pregnancy. There was no hiding it.
My boss knew at 5 weeks with DS - I had taken a lot of time off for IVF treatments and had a prior loss that I disclosed to him because I needed some time away from the office after it. With this one, since I'm only in the office twice a week, I didn't have to take time off for appointments or my transfer. So I feel like everyone knows but is too nice to ask. And with the SCH, I'm just not ready to tell yet. I know it's common, but it's making me very nervous.
But none of my damn clothes fit. And I look like I have a bump even when I first wake up in the morning. Agh.
At about 5 weeks. LOL. No joke. I was 6 weeks at Christmas and had a solid baby bump going. My aunt and grandma both asked my mom about it. Most of it was likely the PIO injections, but by the time we stopped those at 10 weeks there was no difference because by then I actually had a real baby bump.
My boss totally knew at 5 weeks. It's why I told people so much earlier with this pregnancy. There was no hiding it.
My boss knew at 5 weeks with DS - I had taken a lot of time off for IVF treatments and had a prior loss that I disclosed to him because I needed some time away from the office after it. With this one, since I'm only in the office twice a week, I didn't have to take time off for appointments or my transfer. So I feel like everyone knows but is too nice to ask. And with the SCH, I'm just not ready to tell yet. I know it's common, but it's making me very nervous.
But none of my damn clothes fit. And I look like I have a bump even when I first wake up in the morning. Agh.
Solidarity. My boss made a comment to me at just about 6 weeks because I had to leave the office for an unplanned ultrasound because I was gushing blood. I told her I wasn't feeling well and she asked me if it was the type of illness some women get in the morning. I just said no, but I was thinking "Nope---Just going to see whether I'm having a miscarriage or not".
But, yes, with the first pregnancy I only really had a bump at night for the first like 5 months. Not this time. I wake up with a bump.
I really hope your SCH is nothing. Chances are really good that everything will be just fine.
We have an employee at work who I generally like, does good work, tries to be a good person... but often says some pretty insensitive things. She has two DDs, one is 18 and pregnant, the other is 18 months. It's a big gap. She's 38, one year older than me, and all excited about her older DD's anatomy scan tomorrow. She's going with, and the doctor will tell her the sex so she can do a big gender reveal party thing for her DD + boyfriend. Her head is totally in that place right now.
So she tells me this morning that she spent all day yesterday crying and depressed because she was thinking about how she's basically getting to re-mom with her 18yo's baby, and she is afraid she won't get to be involved with her 18mo's future kids because she's SUCH AN OLD MOM to #2. Her mom is 70, and going to be a great grandmother this summer, and how OLD she is too, and how awful it is.
I'm currently pregnant at 37, so I'm older than she was with #2. My mom has been gone for almost 3 years. My #2 will never meet my mom; my #1 only had 5 months overlapping on Earth with her. I don't have a single photo of my mom, me, and my DD, unless you count one when I was pregnant. It's so awful that your mom is 70? I guess I wouldn't know, mine died of ovarian cancer at 59.
All of this is stuff no one can change, but I really need to not have to be the sounding board for how terrible and depressing her younger DD's situation is. Because if that's terrible and depressing, where does that put me? Besides still processing being pregnant this time with no mom, and all the downstream implications of that.
Is there really a difference between a $15 vs $50 changing pad? It seems like it shouldn't matter because either way it will have a changing pad cover over it, but I don't want to cheap out if there's an important difference. What pad are you using?
Post by aprilsails on Feb 19, 2019 11:37:55 GMT -5
knx9211 the struggle is real this time. I purposefully bought loose and longer fitting tops over the past year since they seem to be in style and I knew I might be able to use them for the second tri. Jokes on me, some are barely cutting it and are already clinging a bit at 9.5 weeks. I do luckily have two pairs of jeans that are still comfortable, but I’m giving them maybe another week or so before I bust out the elastic button trick. None of my work dress pants are viable, and I’ve been wearing tights and leggings a lot. I’m hoping to not tell until I hit 11.5 weeks after our first ultrasound. I’m sure everyone will feign surprise appropriately.
Susie - people are so myopic and rarely look outside their own life circumstances. I’m sorry she hurt you with her ridiculous concerns.
Also I rub down my tights with a dryer sheet before I put on my skirt. Summer cannot come soon enough.
As a funny aside my girlfriends made fun of me for wearing a slip this summer. None of the five of them even owned one. I make a lot of my own skirts and dresses and sewing in a lining is expensive and time consuming so I wear slips. I thought everyone did! Apparently not.
Is there really a difference between a $15 vs $50 changing pad? It seems like it shouldn't matter because either way it will have a changing pad cover over it, but I don't want to cheap out if there's an important difference. What pad are you using?
We have the peanut changer. It’s $$$$ but I really liked it. Easy to wipe down and move on.
Is there really a difference between a $15 vs $50 changing pad? It seems like it shouldn't matter because either way it will have a changing pad cover over it, but I don't want to cheap out if there's an important difference. What pad are you using?
pinkalicious, I know intellectually and from LOTS of experience that 3rd tri weight estimates are pretty inaccurate, but I feel you. E2's estimated weight was 6#8 last week at basically 36 weeks. E1 was only 7#3 at 40 weeks, and his 3rd tri ultrasound was pretty accurate. I'm over here like, please please dont be a 9 pound baby!
Post by farfalla2011 on Feb 19, 2019 11:44:00 GMT -5
1. How far along are you this week? 9 + 3
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I wish I could just fully relax, enjoy and not have any concern on whether this is really happening. Thankfully I have an appointment first thing tomorrow morning to make sure everything is still looking good and put my mind at ease! Also, yesterday I got an email from my dr's office about my deposit I have due for delivery which is such a weird feeling. This journey ultimately started for me 11 years ago, so to finally be here it's causing all sorts of emotions from my hormonal self right now.
3. Questions for the group? What the hell did you guys do about bras in your 1st trimester? I hate to go spend the money when I'm going to have to do it all over again in another couple months, but holy crap, other than my sports bras, I'm having issues lol.
4. Cravings? Aversions? Nothing significant, mostly just eating more carbs (breads/pastas) than usual simply because they are comforting to me.
Susie , She might try to be a good person, but she's failing. I'm sorry that she said that to you. What a jerk.
Agreed.
And that's just BS. I had "old" parents (36 & 37 when they had me, which in 1981 was scandalous according to my mother lol). I've never felt like I had an old mom, not growing up, and not now at 37. Nor did I feel that way about my grandparents, who were active and involved participants in my childhood and lived into my adulthood. There have been numerous studies that children of older parents are generally better set up for success due to the general stability of having parents established in their careers and relationships.
I'm sorry you were cheated out of a mom so young, it's not fair. But I'd try to let her absurd proclamations go in one ear and out the other.
Is there really a difference between a $15 vs $50 changing pad? It seems like it shouldn't matter because either way it will have a changing pad cover over it, but I don't want to cheap out if there's an important difference. What pad are you using?
We have the peanut changer. It’s $$$$ but I really liked it. Easy to wipe down and move on.
This. We have the Keekaroo peanut upstairs and it's sooooo nice. Just wipe it down with a Clorox wipe every so often. We have a regular cheap one downstairs though and it's fine too, but the Keekaroo is just a little bit better. I think there's a knockoff now by Bumbo that's a little cheaper and virtually the same though.
Post by pinkalicious on Feb 19, 2019 11:50:02 GMT -5
Thank you everyone, I know they can be inaccurate, but I’m still nervous, especially with having gestational diabetes. Does my weight gain have any bearing on it? I’ve only gained about 18 pounds.