Getting tubes tied?

[gastro]

I was done.done.done after #2 but couldn't commit to a permanent birth control. Now I'm pregnant (planned) with #3. I would fully support/encourage a vasectomy for DH this time around.

[jeaniebueller]

Ditto isabel nearly word for word except I don’t know what kind of tubal I had 🤔

[dcn]

Feb 19, 2019 23:13:51 GMT -5 luckyno7 said:

I guess I will disagree with a vasectomy is easy for your H. Yes, in most cases it’s pretty simple but there are still risks. My H had one done and 3 months later he is still having bad pain where they snipped him. He said the pain was so bad when it was happening he almost threw up during the procedure. Granted I know he’s the exception.

ETA: vasectomies aren’t guaranteed to work too. I’ve know one person who got tested and it didn’t work and another who didn’t get tested and his wife got pregnant (which almost caused a divorce cause he was “snipped”).

Not saying it’s still not the right thing just know it’s not fool proof and there could be complications too.

Yeah my H definitely didn’t have an easy smooth recovery which surprised me. I mean, it still didn’t compare to having a baby and a 3rd degree tear and recovery from that. But he also wasn’t back to normal in a few days. I had vaginal deliveries, so that was the driving factor for him to get a v.

[CrazyLucky]

I had mine done when I had my c-section. If I had to do it over again, I would run away screaming. Before having my tubes tied, I had normal periods. After, periods from hell. Painful, long, irregular and a lot of blood. Like, I couldn't make the 45 minute commute without a tampon and a pad. Ablation failed, so now I have an IUD.
Even DH wishes he had a vasectomy instead.
The doctor says the tubal and the periods are not correlated, and I understand it's just one data point, but you'll never convince me they aren't related.

[closertofine]

I had mine done following my second c/s. It did add almost an hour to the surgery bc I had some bleeding issue. Recovery was no different than my first c/s. Ex and I were done bc he absolutely wanted no more children, and I had had two high risk pgs. My doctor didn't say I should be done, but she leaned that way. I ended up divorced, and I would love another child. But I am now almost 42 and still single, so the tubal was probably for the best.

My periods are definitely heavier and my cycles irregular, but my new gyne says I'm perimenopausal.

[dontlook]

I had my tubes removed after my 3rd. It was a vaginal delivery and I had my tubal the day after. Zero regrets. I was a little sore but nothing crazy. No scar. H offered to do a V but I wanted to do it. I’m 100% done having children meanwhile H would have another if I would agree.

[mrssandro]

I got my tubes tied at 2 months after having my second kid. (plus 3 miscarriages) I feel it was the best decision for us. No big issues to report. It has been a relief and our sex life is pretty decent and not having to worry about it helps with that.

[erbear]

I tried to VBAC but I didn't want to get my tubes tied if I had a c-section. DH had a vasectomy when DD2 was about a month old.

[dochas]

All of the period changes people have described here I experienced after childbirth. There were no additional changes after getting my tubes tied years later.

[oregonpachey]

I had my tubes removed on October 30th (not after childbirth, I had a separate procedure) and have no regrets. I didn't get a period for almost three months but when I did, it wasn't any heavier or worse than normal.

[lolalolalola]

Honestly this was never an option for me despite two c-sections. If something went wrong and God forbid baby 2 didn’t survive, I wouldn’t want to close that door forever. It’s such a simple procedure for men, DH had it done when we were 100% sure.

EtA- I mean I understand there can be complications from vasectomyies just like any procedure but my understanding is that it’s lower risk compared to a tubal.

[isabel]

Feb 20, 2019 10:16:19 GMT -5 dochas said:

All of the period changes people have described here I experienced after childbirth. There were no additional changes after getting my tubes tied years later.

You know, I've always attributed my period changes to my tubal and was going to tell you that, but as I was typing, I realized that I don't really know what my period was like after having DS1.

It came back pretty normal (just as it did after DS2/tubal), but then I got an IUD and that was just absolute hell for me. I bled constantly for months until I finally got it removed. And then literally the month it was out, we started trying for DS2. I got pregnant immediately and so I never actually had a regular period outside of that first one after DS1 was born. So really, my period could have changed drastically after my first birth and it could be entirely unrelated to the tubal.

It's really no big deal for me, but I have definitely heard some horror stories.

[ssmjlm]

CrazyLucky, please go see another doctor. My ob has been upfront every annual appointment that if my periods were causing disruption to my day to day life (outside of the norm) that he would be happy to discuss options.

[starburst604]

Feb 20, 2019 9:08:58 GMT -5 CrazyLucky said:

I had mine done when I had my c-section. If I had to do it over again, I would run away screaming. Before having my tubes tied, I had normal periods. After, periods from hell. Painful, long, irregular and a lot of blood. Like, I couldn't make the 45 minute commute without a tampon and a pad. Ablation failed, so now I have an IUD.
Even DH wishes he had a vasectomy instead.
The doctor says the tubal and the periods are not correlated, and I understand it's just one data point, but you'll never convince me they aren't related.

I've heard what you described from multiple people and I'm genuinely curious how the tubes affect the menstrual cycle? The ovaries and uterus still do their thing, there's just no "transport" for the egg after ovulation. I had one tube removed for a twin ectopic when I was six weeks pregnant with DD. My periods are definitely heavier and more erratic since having her, but I've always chalked that up to having had a child and getting older. Is it possible that a lot of people blame the tubal that they had along with C section when it's really a post-baby/age thing? 

I'm not saying I don't believe you - I just genuinely can't wrap my head around how the body can even "know" the tubes are gone?

[CrazyLucky]

Feb 21, 2019 16:03:55 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

Feb 20, 2019 9:08:58 GMT -5 CrazyLucky said:

I had mine done when I had my c-section. If I had to do it over again, I would run away screaming. Before having my tubes tied, I had normal periods. After, periods from hell. Painful, long, irregular and a lot of blood. Like, I couldn't make the 45 minute commute without a tampon and a pad. Ablation failed, so now I have an IUD.
Even DH wishes he had a vasectomy instead.
The doctor says the tubal and the periods are not correlated, and I understand it's just one data point, but you'll never convince me they aren't related.

I've heard what you described from multiple people and I'm genuinely curious how the tubes affect the menstrual cycle? The ovaries and uterus still do their thing, there's just no "transport" for the egg after ovulation. I had one tube removed for a twin ectopic when I was six weeks pregnant with DD. My periods are definitely heavier and more erratic since having her, but I've always chalked that up to having had a child and getting older. Is it possible that a lot of people blame the tubal that they had along with C section when it's really a post-baby/age thing? 

I'm not saying I don't believe you - I just genuinely can't wrap my head around how the body can even "know" the tubes are gone?

Yeah, I get what you're asking and don't know the answer.  I had DS at 33.  No issues with my period after him.  I had DD two years later.  Could two years make that big of a difference?  I don't know.  Doctors agree with you though.  In any case, I wouldn't risk it if I had to do it over.  DH would get a vasectomy.