PGAL - dealing with anxiety

[fairfax]

How do you guys cope with the anxiety and fear? I feel like all the symptoms I had the two weeks after our successful transfer have decreased or disappeared. My first scan is a week from today. I’m trying to distract myself but it’s hard.

Sorry to be a bummer.

[landmermaid]

I'm so, so sorry. It's really such a terrible mind f*ck.

I wish I had an easy answer. With my third loss, I kept trying to do the "today I am pregnant" mantra. And just tried to be as positive every day as I could. I was still devastated when it didn't work out, but I *think* maybe I enjoyed a small piece of it?

I dunno. This sucks and I'm really sorry for what you're going through. The good news is that symptoms can come and go. I hope you get good news at your scan.

[cherryvalance]

I'm so sorry. PGAL is the absolute worst.

Honestly, and this will suck to hear, but nothing made it better for me but time. I just focused on whatever was the next hurdle--getting to the first scan, graduating the RE, etc. Even up to the end I had bouts of fear, waiting for the other shoe to drop.

ETA: Don't put too much into symptoms. They come and go in the early weeks. It's a complete mindfuck.

[kellikans]

Ditto cherryvalance. I just focused on the next thing coming up and tried to keep myself busy in between to keep my mind off of it.

And fwiw, I didn't have really any symptoms with DS except for sore boobs that came and went.

Hugs. Hang in there.

[woowoo]

The anxiety and fear is awful. There isn't a ton of advice except to take it one day at a time and to relish in the moments of excitement and joy when you do have them (and you will).

[pickel]

I don’t have any real advice as I’m dealing with this as well. With symptoms though, I had no real symptoms with my DS and this time I’m pregnant with twins and felt great with just some sore boobs now and then and hunger until just a couple of days ago (7W). I spent a lot of time wondering if I was even really pregnant, despite three betas, until my ultrasound.

[stellelinds25]

I don’t have any advice, I just wanted to send some ((hugs)). I can’t imagine the mind fuck that is pgal.

[lovelyshoes]

It’s so hard, but try taking things one day at s time and not get ahead of yourself. Best wishes.

[shoeless]

I didn’t deal well at all (see my posts on the graduate board). I also had no symptoms and was convinced I was going to miscarry at any moment. The only thing that made it better was trying to stay busy and time.

[fairfax]

Thanks all. Taking things step by step has worked up until this point and then it’s like everything went off the rails. I’ll keep trying!

It’s a cruel trick of nature that we have to deal with all this and can’t even have a glass of wine!

[knx9211]

Feb 20, 2019 10:11:12 GMT -5 fairfax said:

Thanks all. Taking things step by step has worked up until this point and then it’s like everything went off the rails. I’ll keep trying!

It’s a cruel trick of nature that we have to deal with all this and can’t even have a glass of wine!

Seriously. So mean.

I just send hugs. Because my answer to how I’m dealing is... not very well.

[shauni27]

I wish I had advice, but honestly being pregnant AL was so emotionally challenging for me that I said I would never do it again. Every week the first 16 weeks felt like a month.

Things that helped a little were early testing. Then once I got past my loss date in weeks (17 weeks for me) I was able to relax a bit more, and then again once the ultrasound at 20 weeks showed everything was healthy I was finally able to enjoy it a bit.

I also got myself a home doppler that I used more than I care to admit that really reassured me from about 14 weeks on.

Hugs, it is truly one of the worst experiences. I cried daily for months.

[robinsbff]

i haven't been there so i have no advice, but sending lots of hugs.