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[mommyatty]

Anybody have any updates? Anything to share?

[mae0111]

I’m going into my 6th and hopefully final round of interviews for this WFH job. Apparently aside from my friend and myself, there are 2 other finalist from my old department. Should be interesting to see who gets it.

DD1 and I are going to see a gastro specialist today to see if there’s some kind of food intolerance causing her behavior. I’m also reading the book that waverly recommended - the Explosive Child. It’s really resonating. I’m only 1/2 way through, so I can’t wait to get to solving the issues and working with her. Her anxiety and OCD is at an 11 this week, and she’s home on vacation. She needs every second planned and mapped out. While we have general plans each day, I do not have a schedule broken into 30 minute increments, which is what she wants. She’s had some blow ups this week, but they’ve been manageable.

Less than 2 weeks until Disney. I’m getting excited. It’s getting harder to keep the secret. We aren’t telling the kids until we are at the airport.

[2chatter]

DDOT - DH’s ex is getting evicted (we have heard this for four years). It only matters at all because SD has Spring Break. DH suggested she could sleep on the couch - but I start work at 6:00am in the dining room after leaving to work out at 4:30am three days a week (getting ready on that couch so as not to wake DH and the front door is right next to it). And DH said she would not want me to wake her. No, I am not skipping working out that week. It’s also the week DD returns part time to school, all going well. So a normal routine will be important. DH asked how to handle the nanny being here with the kids - where is SD supposed to go since they always have friends over. I asked him if SD wants to pick up the kids that week and he was like “no, but what is she supposed to do when they are here?”. Pretty much my answer is she has refused to sleepover - even when she had a room with a bed for her - since she was about 14. So, sorry. Go stay with a friend. I’m totally maxed out between work and DD’s medical challenges plus exh being a little bit of a mess right now. I have a list of things to do a mile long and can’t handle one more stressor.

[mustardseed2007]

We are getting DD's norditropin on Friday. I'm working on getting a nurse to show us how to do the injections.

We have DD's visitation/interview at DS' school is set up for next Friday...so probably not the most fabulous timing since she'll be freaking out over the shots in the evenings...but at least it's not in the mornings. While the head of school had told us that she could repeat PreK, they still want her to interview with her age group. That makes me a little nervous that they will say she should not do a repeat, but hopefully teacher feed back and DD being herself it won't be a problem.

[xctsclrx]

DD woke up fever free this morning! yay! I am also 10 days into my whole30 and I have noticed a huge difference in my stomach area which is fantastic. 20 more days.

[186momx]

Last night it was me, DD, the PTO president who almost didn't make it along with the principle and 5 staff members at the monthly PTO meeting. I told them the only reason I came was because DD wanted to chat with Mrs. J which she did (they whispered back and forth during the meeting). They spent the first 20 minutes trying to figure out ways to get more parents to come to PTO. Next month the teachers are going to ask parents individually to please come but are planning on doing it Monday after school (the day before); PTO is Tuesday night. I was like I need more notice than that and have them on my calendar a month in advance. I approved 4 field trip monies along with $500 to the district to cover 4/5 grade track in May. No planned fundraiser or events as both the president and I are booked with work the next couple months.

[polecat8]

Our local school district approved full day kindergarten for the next school year, just in time for DS1. I just set up his kindergarten screening and downloaded the registration packet. How is DS1 almost 5 already?

And my DD will be going to middle school next year! I have all the feels. My babies are growing up!
Speaking of DD, she is doing fabulous on her ADD meds. I've noticed that she knocks out homework pretty quickly these days. And she is able to concentrate better on multi-step projects. We have been seeing a therapist with her so that we can help DD learn how to manage her ADD. The hope is that we will figure out what is best for her by the end of this school year so that she is ready for the faster pace of middle school. This will also let us know if we need to file a 504 plan.

[waverly]

It's done. The harasser has finally been fired after harassing people and making inappropriate racist and sexist comments for years.

[mommyatty]

Trying to diet is hard. Trying to diet while not saying anything in front of your kids about the fact that you want to/need to lose weight is harder. DD told me this morning that her friend Kenbedy told her if she eats grass she will stay thin. WTF. They are in first grade.

[traveltheworld]

Random DDOTS: I just got told I’d have to travel to Europe the same week that DH is scheduled to be traveling as well. Both of our parents are on extended vacations, so it’ll just be the nanny and the kids for 3 days. It makes me anxious. At least DH will only be about an hour’s plane ride away.

We went to DD’s parent teacher conference and her teachers raved about her. DH and I are so used to hearing teachers talk about how bright DS is, but always, always followed by a “but” and a list of behavioural issues, so this was both a relief and a surprise. We kept waiting for the “but”, but it never came. Woohoo!

[rere]

Twerk. The dog is still barking. This has been going on for a week. DH last night got pissed at me for waking him up about the dog. He is off today and tomorrow, so he can sleep in. He had the nerve to tell me I was too loud this morning getting my jewelry at 7 AM; I got up at 5:30. I wish for just once he would handle something. I had to beg him to txt the neighbor. I ended up having to do it myself. He handles nothing. I have come to realize that for the rest of my life with him, I will never be able to count on him to take care of anything finances, school for the kids, retirement, vacations, anything. I am amazed when I hear other women say things, I let me my husband take care of it, or my husband takes care of those things. I would be waiting forever for him to step up to do anything on his own. He has absolutely no fing initiative at all.


On a good note. DS got a high enough score on the English portion of his ACT that he may be able to take college level English 101 next year in his junior year at the high school. I am concerned on his math and science scores. They are not bad for a sophomore, but it seems they should be higher since he is making straight As in all of his subject. I am also pretty proud he signed up for a speech competition in May. The only downside is, I now have to get him to school at 7 AM 2 days a week for practice.

[mommyatty]

rere- Same on the hubs. So frustrating.

We had parent teacher conferences last week. DD is setting the world on fire. She’s reading at the level they hope the kids will achieve by the end of 3rd grade and she’s in first grade. She’s also apparently human Adderall. The teacher puts her next to whatever kid needs a good influence and someone who will not join in with their misbehavior. DS, who is among the youngest kids in his pre-k class, got the same feedback we got for DD at that age: he needs to be more independent and be able to do stuff like put on his own jacket and shoes.

Which brings me to a complaint about DH and his mom. The reason my kids are so slow to do anything independently is because DH and MIL won’t let them or make them. Literally until I have multiple screaming hissy fits, they treat the kids like babies. For example, DH still put my 6 year old’s shoes on her feet. Wtf. She has ballet flats for school. She literally just has to step into them. He still thinks he has to actively wash both kids in the shower. DD can shower completely alone. She can even wash her own hair. DS can totally put on his own shoes and jacket but “it’s faster if we do it for him.” I’m so sick of telling them to stop treating my kids like babies.

[mellym]

DD3 is still sick for three weeks in a row and we finally got an antibiotic. She isn't sleeping well yet but hope it's coming in the next week.

My auditors are here but should have everything wrapped up in the next week. One more week of hell and I can maybe take a day off. My foot surgery is one month away so at least I have that to look forward to relaxing and laying low.

DDOT: Our blender of 13 years died so we're in search of a new one. Any recommendations? Ninja?

[supertrooper1]

I just booked DS's birthday party at Michael's craft store. They have some cute themes and DS picked a pirate one. They seem really organized, so I hope it turns out well.

I've been training my replacement since Tuesday. He started in the agency 2 months after I did and has almost as much experience in our core work unit as I do. So adding on my role shouldn't be that difficult. But I'm having to go back to basics and it's driving me nuts.

[186momx]

mommyatty, my mom is like this. It drives DD crazy and DD is constantly telling her "grandma I don't need your help". My mom gets in the back seat and buckles DD in her HBB. DD can buckle herself in this seat on her own, I've seen it multiple times. She buckles her self in in our cars too. But Grandma insists she is too slow so will do it for her. Last year Grandma had to go into gym and help DD change. It embarrassed DD to the extreme but no amount of telling her she doesn't need help worked so this year I told DD to change ahead of time at aftercare and gave my mom strict instructions to just drop off and not get out of the car. Can you start having your kiddos tell the extra helpful adults no I can do it I'm a big kid.

[mommyatty]

186momx- DD can, but DS obviously thinks if they do these things for him, it’s because he can’t do them himself. He CAN. Yes, he’s slower, but he won’t get faster because they never give him a chance to practice!

And DH won’t listen that DD can do things herself. It’s MADDENING.

[rere]

Has anyone had any luck with melatonin? I have got to sleep. I lay there and wait to hear the damn dog. Even when it's not barking, I am waiting for it. Dh says it doesn't wake him up, but I can't go to sleep or if I do, I don't stay that way.

[186momx]

rere, two Tylenol and a melatonin has been my go to the last couple nights. My head has been killing me with a tension headache and if I don't do this then I just lay there no matter how tired I am and think. I tried to skip it Tuesday because I was so tired and I just laid and listened to my stomach grumble for hours and then it was too late as I knew if I took it at midnight I would never get up in the morning.

[mommyatty]

rere- yes, but take the lowest possible dose of it! The first time I took it I figured I’m a horrible insomniac so I took an “extra strength” one. Omg. It knocked me on my butt for about 36 hours.

[rere]

Feb 21, 2019 15:52:29 GMT -5 mommyatty said:

rere - yes, but take the lowest possible dose of it! The first time I took it I figured I’m a horrible insomniac so I took an “extra strength” one. Omg. It knocked me on my butt for about 36 hours.

I got the 5mg? 

[sandandsea]

I started whole 30 yesterday and have not yet murdered anyone or cheated. I am chubby and need to lose weight and addicted to sugar and all of that embarrasses me...a lot. My sister is here and started it about a year ago to figure out some esophagus issues and it worked so she’s helping me with good recipes and snacks and hiding sugar.

[2chatter]

sandandsea - IDK what whole30 really means, but we keep a stash of whole food snacks. IDK if this helps but carrot chips, peppers, apple slices, snap peas, grape tomatoes, avocados and green beans are the popular raw snacks in my house. We eat crudite about once a week and it’s mainly raw veggies and fruits. Riced roasted broccoli and cauliflower make amazing salad base with spinach - I have had to double what I was making to feed the kids and I and have a portion left for DD to eat as lunch. Adding asparagus, chicken, Parmesan, and other roasted veggies makes it super good.

I had peppers and salsa with lunch and carrot chips with tuna for a snack. And peanut butter as my second snack because I hadn’t had enough fat today.

I’ve been thinking a lot about food today so ...

[sandandsea]

My snacks have been:
Plantain chips with avocado/salsa
Apples
Bell peppers
Cashews
Hard boiled egg

And I tried black coffee with almond milk. It was bad. It needed sugar. Lots of it.

Whole 30 is basically no grain, dairy, or sugar (including honey, agave, or any fake sweeteners). Supposed to help break sugar addiction and reset your body in 30 days. We shall see.

[xctsclrx]

sandandsea, I am on day 10 of my Whole30. I usually snack on fruit for my snack or a hard boiled egg. I had to start tracking calories to ensure I was getting enough when I cut all of the stuff out.

Fruit gives me the sugar that I was missing. My biggest hurdle is the creamer in my coffee. My next hurdle is going to be going to my in-laws next weekend. Not sure I will be able to maintain while I am there since I don't have control over the menu. . .

I think I am going to end it then and then maintain the whole30 when I am done while allowing myself some treats here and there. I don't really like rice so I can easily cut that out of my diet unless I want Chinese food. I don't miss pasta at all. I don't even really miss bread right now which is odd for me.

I am missing cheese and milk though.

Also I have noticed a significant difference with my stomach. I know I have gotten smaller, because my pants are too big now. Keep it up.

[erinshelley21]

Hiiii! I dont think I've updated in a while?
- I still own a commercial building. I heard tonight that someone is buying it and turning it into a strip club lol.
- DS's emotions have calmed down a bit. Thank you to whoever recommended Inside Out. We watched it last weekend and its nice to have an example of how to explain emotions on a 5 year old level.
- the school we are sending DS to for K raised tuition by $1100 so that's really cool. For the first time ever, DH wants to consider public school after K. If we ever go that route, DH's family will shit. MIL has asked if I've gotten his K forms filled out and SIL sent me a text randomly telling me to fill them out and turn them in fast. WHAT IF I DONT WANT TOO?! Lol. We will have gone from paying $0 for childcare then $95/month for 9 months, $135/month for 9 months to $375. I know it could be so much worse, but holy shit. Thinking about paying for both kids in 4 years makes me want to vomit.
- speaking of the second kid, she will be TWO in 2 weeks!

[twinmomma]

PTA Update: I officially told them I'm not continuing my term next year. It's supposed to be a two year term, I'm bailing after one. I just can't do it, and I know I'm the biggest slacker on the board. I have literally just not done stuff that I said I would because I don't have the bandwidth for it and that makes me feel awful because I know it screws over everyone else. I think it's better to quit early and help them find a replacement instead of continuing on. It did not go over well. I thought the president was going to cry. They all tried to convince me to stay. Essentially, if I step down, the entire board could be new next year because everyone else's terms are up for voting. I pulled the divorce card and the working mom card and everything and they're still trying to keep me on. It sucks. I feel like such a jerk, but I know I have no business keeping this commitment on my plate.

[2chatter]

twinmomma - here two years is a cap, not a requirement. When I was on the board, before I figured out they run it on a chaos model and bailed, we just rotated positions when we hit our two year caps in each role. So don’t let the thought of a new board guilt you at all - if someone said that it’s a manipulation. Be excited you announced and are almost done! You will not regret it! Best decision I made was to volunteer way less overall.

[justcheckingin73]

twinmomma, try not to beat yourself up too much. Our terms are only 1 year but when I was secretary, the co-president’s decided they would do a 2 year term (I thought they only meant them but apparently they meant the whole board). I quit after a year. I had been unemployed when I joined and then got a job which involved travel and I couldn’t do it. Not to mention the 2+ hour meetings  . One of the presidents made a snide comment about it which I almost went after her for but I was just happy to be done.

They shouldn’t be making you feel guilty either. The single, working mom card is totally valid! 

[twinmomma]

2chatter, We have term limits and rules about all the board positions. So if elected, your term lasts two years. Then you have to run again and you can only hold the same position for 4 years total. All the other board members have older kids, so they've essentially maxed out most of the term limits for the various roles. The elections are usually staggered so that they don't end up with a clean slate all at once, but it's looking like that might happen next year. I think our current president is taking it very personally and feeling like she failed me and that's why I'm stepping down. Meanwhile, another woman who works as a part time admin at the school and has one kid is stepping down because she's "Too busy." I side eyed the shit out of that.

[xctsclrx]

Your stories make me never want to be part of the PTA.