If you did PGS testing come in

[vmars]

I know this is a little early since I don’t have my results back yet, but I wanted to find out what others did...

If you did PGS testing, did you find out the sex?

If you had a choice between embryos did your RE give your their input as to which one to use first?

Does grading matter if they are considered normal?

[kellikans]

We chose not to find out the sex until we heard the heartbeat first. So we waited until 6 weeks. We had 2 chromosomally normal embryos and didn't choose which to put in. We asked them to choose randomly. I weirdly didn't want control of that since I wouldn't have control naturally either. Not sure how they picked.

[thoseareradishes]

Yes, we found out the sex of each when our nurse called with the results. We transferred the highest graded first (which ended in a CP), then the next highest for the second transfer.

[lovelyshoes]

We didn’t find out the sex, didn’t want to know. We let the dr decide.
Our dr said grading doesn’t matter.

[vmars]

Mar 31, 2019 14:09:06 GMT -5 lovelyshoes said:

We didn’t find out the sex, didn’t want to know. We let the dr decide.
Our dr said grading doesn’t matter.

Do you know how the doctor decides when grading doesn’t matter? Do they just pick at random?

[lovelyshoes]

When I asked about grading my re said that grading doesn’t guarantee success and he doesn’t pay attention to it. They go by the genetic report. I think each case is different too.
My friend had several embryos a each time let the re pick.
For what it’s worth, we had a fresh transfer of high grade perfect looking embryos and it didn’t work.
I hope this doesn’t come off mean, but take it one day at a time, see what the results are and what the re says. There’s so much to worry about as is.

[konapoppy]

We transferred the best embryo (we had one normal, one likely normal but would require an amnio to confirm). I did find out that one was female and one was male, because I made the mistake of asking if they were both the same sex when we got the testing results prior to transfer 🤦🏻‍♀️

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We didn’t know the sex of the one transferred until we had our first scan at 6 weeks.

[kristind3]

My RE also doesn’t care about grading. We only ended up with one so didn’t have to make any choices about which to transfer. We chose not to find out the sex and kept it a surprise throughout the entire pregnancy. They did ask us if we wanted to know when they called with the PGS results.

[woowoo]

We found out the gender but we only had one good embryo so we didn't really need to make a choice (or make a choice about whether to make a choice). We kept the gender a secret from family and friends though until we got to 12 weeks.

[peas]

We found out we had 3 genetically normal embryos, 2 girls and 1 boy. But the doctor said one of the girls was slightly behind the other 2. So, we ended up doing a literal coin flip to select which embryo to use first, and she stuck.

[turboteal]

We had 4 euploid and found out the sex of all. We had both grading and a ranking based on how fast they reached blastocyst stage, and a "mito" score from the lab that did the PGA, which is a different/new, experimental type of scoring based on something with the mitochondria levels. We had the docs pick the best one to transfer, of the best graded two (both girls) one reached blast first and one had a better/lower mito score, I can't remember which one we transferred first but it didn't take, second one did. We started telling the sex after 19 weeks (after anatomy scan) but haven't revealed the sex of our remaining two.

[msmerymac]

I have since found out the sex(es) since we have so many, and I was just really interested in seeing the reports, which tell you the sex chromosomes right on top. The abnormal reports are interesting, and seeing it all in black and white really makes me feel that it's the right decision not to transfer them. (My abnormals were either abnormal for multiple reasons, or had trisomy of chromosomes that are is so rare and so heartbreakingly terrible that they don't have names for them because no one survives to birth with those genetic mutations.)

I know we have 4 female and 2 male embryos, plus one non-concurrent. We plan to have the doctor transfer the best one, but not tell us the sex. We actually want to wait until birth to find out. If we had had one normal embryo, I would not have found out.

Not to put the cart before the horse, but if we have a child successfully and choose to try again, we may or may not choose to not know at that point, depending on how much baby stuff we might want to re-use. Hoping the decision to not find out will prevent a lot of very gender-specific items the first time around, though.

[megamous]

We had three embryos biopsied and found to be normal. We decided we did not want to know until after transfer because we did not want to pick the gender. However, my husband asked, and I allowed it, whether all of the embryos were the same. They were. So we found out we have all male embryos. We transferred the highest graded embryo, which is what we would have done regardless. Our next two embryos are similarly graded so that will be up to the embryologist/doctor as to which one gets transferred. It is kind of nice knowing they are all the same. It was a little disappointing knowing I won't be having a girl (unless a miracle happens).

[vmars]

Our nurse said if they come back normal there’s about a 5% swing between embryo grades. I want to see what my doctors thoughts are first and see if he has a recommendation. If he doesn’t, we will still have him pick, but basically let him know we would like to have a girl, but we don’t want to know ahead of time and obviously if there is no girl to choose from or that one may not work, we are 110% okay with having another boy.

DH and I wanted to make sure we were on the same page going into this. I have thought about knowing the sex before hand, but if something goes wrong, I think it would make it a lot worse emotionally knowing.