Mom to be Monday 4/15

[namasteak]

knx9211 the stokke high chairs have a baby attachment you can get. They’re expensive but I think we may get one because it could be a place to put baby down that’s high enough off the ground, a high chair that grows with them and a booster when they’re bigger. Plus it’s not hideous and would actually kind of go with our decor 🤷🏻‍♀️

[icedcoffee]

Apr 16, 2019 13:08:27 GMT -5 namasteak said:

ALSO I think I convinced DH we should use Finn for Ds3 and screw anyone who teases us. We love the name and no other names have felt right.

I think Finn is cute!  We have a friend who's kid is Finn and no one teases.  I think his legal name might be Finbar but I might be wrong...

[lovelyshoes]

I went to see daycares yesterday and didn’t like any of them. I’m having all sort of feelings about it. I was the same way the first time around, so that makes me feel a little bit better. I haven’t had the baby yet and I already don’t want to leave him/her.

[kellikans]

namasteak We have close friends who have a son named Finn and I've always liked it. I think it's a great choice!

DH won't budge off of his name choice. His argument is that I pretty much named DS, so he gets priority in naming DD. It's an okay name, but I certainly don't love it. And it's getting so common.

[knx9211]

Apr 16, 2019 13:08:27 GMT -5 namasteak said:

ALSO I think I convinced DH we should use Finn for Ds3 and screw anyone who teases us. We love the name and no other names have felt right.

I like Finn! We know two (one is 17 or 18 and his full name is Finn the other is a two year old Finnegan). I’ve heard a little grumbling about the full Finnegan but I’ve never heard anyone say anything bad about the name Finn!

[hamster]

Since we are on names, H has agreed to review the list together tonight.

Curious if we will find something new, or if we are still stuck between Marshall and Grant. I picked Marshall, but I'm second guessing myself. This was so much easier the first time!

[namasteak]

Apr 16, 2019 14:18:47 GMT -5 knx9211 said:

Apr 16, 2019 13:08:27 GMT -5 namasteak said:

ALSO I think I convinced DH we should use Finn for Ds3 and screw anyone who teases us. We love the name and no other names have felt right.

I like Finn! We know two (one is 17 or 18 and his full name is Finn the other is a two year old Finnegan). I’ve heard a little grumbling about the full Finnegan but I’ve never heard anyone say anything bad about the name Finn!

Oh the teasing is not the name itself but that our first 2 have the names of actors from a popular nerdy franchise and Finn is a character from that series. But MIL, my mom and I really think it’s a non issue and most people won’t think of that.

[farfalla2011]

Apr 16, 2019 13:25:13 GMT -5 lovelyshoes said:

I went to see daycares yesterday and didn’t like any of them. I’m having all sort of feelings about it. I was the same way the first time around, so that makes me feel a little bit better. I haven’t had the baby yet and I already don’t want to leave him/her.

I've been to 2 daycares in the past week and need to schedule visits for a few more. I really like one I saw yesterday but holy crap it's pricey. The other one is fine and closer to home BUT, I'm not sure I like it as well. I've know childcare is expensive, but I'm a bit blown away by the actual number itself. 

Is the high focus on learning/curriculum really helpful for infants, or is it more important once the baby is over a year and  are more people/toddler-like rather than infant? 

[lovelyshoes]

Apr 16, 2019 17:09:59 GMT -5 farfalla2011 said:

Apr 16, 2019 13:25:13 GMT -5 lovelyshoes said:

I went to see daycares yesterday and didn’t like any of them. I’m having all sort of feelings about it. I was the same way the first time around, so that makes me feel a little bit better. I haven’t had the baby yet and I already don’t want to leave him/her.

I've been to 2 daycares in the past week and need to schedule visits for a few more. I really like one I saw yesterday but holy crap it's pricey. The other one is fine and closer to home BUT, I'm not sure I like it as well. I've know childcare is expensive, but I'm a bit blown away by the actual number itself. 

Is the high focus on learning/curriculum really helpful for infants, or is it more important once the baby is over a year and  are more people/toddler-like rather than infant? 

The one I liked the most is super expensive. I’ve done this before and it’s still blowing my mind this time around.
In my experience, curriculum is for older kids, not even the room after infant. By that point you can move them to a new school. I moved my son at ( and had so much agony about it, but he fit right in and loved it and it was the best choice. All that to say I wouldn’t pay any attention to curriculum for infants.
I’ve noticed this time that some daycares focus on No swings, bouncers in the room, while others have All the equipment and claim they won’t keep the baby in any device for more than 20 minutes.
The ones that have nothing in the room just had the babies lying around on the floor. I wish there was a happy medium. Our old daycare had 2 swings and activity table.

[Susie]

Apr 16, 2019 17:09:59 GMT -5 farfalla2011 said:

Is the high focus on learning/curriculum really helpful for infants, or is it more important once the baby is over a year and  are more people/toddler-like rather than infant? 

I'm not a professional in this area, but IMO as a mom of a 3 y/o (we've moved through 4 classrooms in the 3 years we've been at our daycare), I don't think it's that important in the infant age range.  Ratios are important to me, and I still like that our daycare doesn't do containment devices of any kind (besides cribs for nap), but the "academic" part at <1 year?  Nah.  Sounded good when we were touring, but didn't really come into play until mayyyyybe infant 2 (which she moved to around 13m) or more likely toddler.

Re: cost though, omfg.  We're going to have two at the same center together for about 13 months before my older one goes to public kindergarten, and double tuition has me terrified. 

[knx9211]

also, we’re probably announcing this week.

PDQ



My little guy looks so big 😭😭😭

[namasteak]

Oh guys look what I found! A bouncer that attaches to a high chair =)
www.buybuybaby.com/store/product/stokke-reg-steps-trade-bouncer-in-greige/1061902756?keyword=stokke
www.buybuybaby.com/store/product/stokke-reg-steps-trade-chair-in-natural-legs-white-seat/1061902701?keyword=stokke

It is another one that convert for newborns, to infants/new sitters, toddlers & beyond

[EllieT]

Apr 16, 2019 13:40:04 GMT -5 turbo said:

Apr 16, 2019 13:10:51 GMT -5 namasteak said:

knx9211 the stokke high chairs have a baby attachment you can get. They’re expensive but I think we may get one because it could be a place to put baby down that’s high enough off the ground, a high chair that grows with them and a booster when they’re bigger. Plus it’s not hideous and would actually kind of go with our decor 🤷🏻‍♀️

We have this high chair and I love it. It looks great at the table and will transition to just a plain seat without straps when DS is a little bigger - I expect he will use it until age 5/6. My only gripe is that the straps are really hard to wash (at least when you get to toddler age) because you actually have to take the chair apart to get them off. I would definitely recommend it, though, and if you're in no rush you should wait to see if it goes on sale with Nordstrom's annual anniversary sale. A lot of their best baby gear gets marked down significantly with Anniversary and I think the Stokke was reduced.  

Do you mean the strap/harness for the high chair? I’m not sure if it’s a different design for North America but you definitely do not have to take it apart to remove the straps (if it’s the same design as here). Let me get some pics.

[EllieT]

turbo


Does your straps look like this?

If they do then yes you did have to sort of partly take the chair apart to insert the white connector pieces the first time

But once they are in place you can just unhook the harness from the connectors.

This might be useless info to you though if the harness construction is different on the NA chairs. Or if you have an older version. (I know back when I was a kid the bar part was made of wood with a leather strap. It’s very possible there have been other versions in between)

[vlinder]

1. How far along are you this week?
32 weeks. Starting to get real, when I realized it's 50/50 on whether I'll make it to the last class of the next 7 week Fit4Baby session I signed up for this week.


2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week?
I am definitely starting to waddle a bit and I can't walk as fast as I normally would.


3. Questions for the group?
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4.What will you have your baby sleep in for the first few months? This is on my mind heavily with the RNP recall, etc.
Hopefully in the Halo Bassinest like his sister did. I loved that thing. She was a unicorn sleeper though, and I'm so afraid this little guy will be the complete opposite.

[vlinder]

Apr 15, 2019 13:55:08 GMT -5 namasteak said:

I said this in ML but I’m really annoyed at a doula agency who won’t guarantee I can meet the doula who might attend the birth before hand. I understand hiring a specific person and that she has a back up but it’s not unreasonable to ask to meet the backup. This agency has you hire a doula and then the other 8 take turns being on call. The whole point is to know and trust them...how am I supposed to do that if I have never met you?!?!

There's a group in my area that you don't meet the exact doula beforehand, but they at least charge less than other doulas.

[Susie]

Apr 17, 2019 9:10:24 GMT -5 vlinder said:

1. How far along are you this week?
32 weeks. Starting to get real, when I realized it's 50/50 on whether I'll make it to the last class of the next 7 week Fit4Baby session I signed up for this week.

I had the same thought, I take a prenatal yoga class and the next session is 4/30 to 6/4.  I'm due 6/5.  I think I'm going to pay the higher drop in rate for one class at a time instead of prepaying for the session, since it will work out to less as long as I don't make the last class.  DD came at 39+2 and my OB is talking induction this time, so I'm optimistic that I will not still be pregnant at 39+6!

[vlinder]

knx9211, the Stokke baby attachment was our plan, but then we were already planning on getting another Tripp Trapp.

EllieT, that's awesome. I have the older/NA version that turbo might have where the straps get screwed on.

[vlinder]

Apr 17, 2019 9:18:54 GMT -5 Susie said:

Apr 17, 2019 9:10:24 GMT -5 vlinder said:

1. How far along are you this week?
32 weeks. Starting to get real, when I realized it's 50/50 on whether I'll make it to the last class of the next 7 week Fit4Baby session I signed up for this week.

I had the same thought, I take a prenatal yoga class and the next session is 4/30 to 6/4.  I'm due 6/5.  I think I'm going to pay the higher drop in rate for one class at a time instead of prepaying for the session, since it will work out to less as long as I don't make the last class.  DD came at 39+2 and my OB is talking induction this time, so I'm optimistic that I will not still be pregnant at 39+6!

Yea, I couldn't sign up for the next session of prenatal yoga at the studio I go to either--it runs until the end of June. My studio at least realizes that this is the case for most pregnant women and gives you the discounted session rate as long as you sign up for at least 2 prenatal classes at a time.

ETA: And if I can't use the last class of the Fit4Baby session, I can use it towards a Stroller Strides class, so nothing lost there!

[namasteak]

vlinder does the Tripp trap baby attachment bounce at all? That is the appeal of the other stokke chair to me.

[robinsbff]

1. How far along are you this week? 12+0 today


2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? i had the NT scan scheduled for tomorrow, but they had a cancellation yesterday so were able to fit me in unexpectedly. doc said everything looked great on the scan, now just wait for the blood work part to come back, in about a week. we opted for the cell-free DNA test that will also tell us the sex. i'm getting nervous about knowing so early. we were team green last time, and it feels so much different. i know DH is super excited to find out though. i'm trying to think of a way to make it special for our DS though. since this new baby will change his world so much (5 years of being an only child) i want him to feel involved. does that make sense? i don't know, maybe i'm being too emotional about it. toying with the idea of keeping the info to ourselves until the anatomy scan.


3. Questions for the group? what have other STM moms done to help the transition for your first kid? especially if they are a similar age gap (DS will be 5y, 3mo when the second is born).


4. What will you have your baby sleep in for the first few months? This is on my mind heavily with the RNP recall, etc. DS was in a bassinet in our room until about 3 months old. the plan is the same for this one, but we shall see what kind of sleeper this kid is.

[aprilsails]

I haven’t seen you post recently - KellyEasterbrook I hope all is going well.

[jade]

Apr 17, 2019 11:10:02 GMT -5 robinsbff said:

3. Questions for the group? what have other STM moms done to help the transition for your first kid? especially if they are a similar age gap (DS will be 5y, 3mo when the second is born).

My DS is 7.  We told him right after we found out the sex at 12 weeks.  I have tried to involve him in a lot of baby decisions, to give him a sense of ownership in the relationship he will have with her.  He does the best with transitions when he feels like he has had some input and that his voice has been heard.

He made a list of names for us, helped me choose colors for a blanket I made her, toured the daycare with us, etc...  We talk a lot about what will happen when she gets here, how she will share his room, and what he will get to do to help out.  He definitely feels like this is his baby sister and not something that we are doing to ruin his life lol.  She gets hugs every night, he talks about reading books to her, is making her a hat, all sort of things.

[vlinder]

Apr 17, 2019 9:44:39 GMT -5 namasteak said:

vlinder does the Tripp trap baby attachment bounce at all? That is the appeal of the other stokke chair to me.

I’m not sure—the baby attachment for the Tripp Trapp wasn’t available in the US 3 years ago for DD so this will be a new purchase for this baby.

[KellyEasterbrook]

Apr 17, 2019 12:41:09 GMT -5 aprilsails said:

I haven’t seen you post recently - KellyEasterbrook I hope all is going well.

All is well!  Thank you for posting.  I'm making a concentrated effort to not google any medical/pregnancy info this week, and I find it's easiest to avoid temptation by staying off the internet as much as possible. 

[osulori]

Apr 17, 2019 11:10:02 GMT -5 robinsbff said:

3. Questions for the group? what have other STM moms done to help the transition for your first kid? especially if they are a similar age gap (DS will be 5y, 3mo when the second is born).

My son will be just shy of 6 when his baby sister is born.  We told him about the baby when we told our families (just shy of 10 weeks, after our first OB appt) and have told him as much about the process as we think he can handle.  For example, he knows that Mommy isn't supposed to eat or drink certain things and has turned into quite the food/drink police with his questions of "Mommy, can you eat/drink that?  'Cause you're pregnant?".  And he knows that his baby cousin got "cut out" of my sister's belly but that, as long as there's no complications, baby sister will be coming out through Mommy's 'gina (and have told him that goes on the list of things we talk about with very few people, meaning NOT AT SCHOOL).  And he knows he is getting a new big boy room as soon as we clean out the spare bedroom, because the floor in his room now is laminate and thus much easier to clean up any baby bodily functions.  I think it's really all about your personal kid and what you think they can handle.  Like some may judge that we were honest on how baby sister is hopefully going to be delivered, but we knew he'd get it. After he got done thinking it was "ridiculous", that is. 

We are also planning on signing him up for one of the sibling classes at the hospital I'm delivering at.  They also offer "family" maternity/L&D tours for parents with kids so if we can line things up right we will probably go that route, so that he can see exactly where I'm going to be when I'm in the hospital and he's with my parents.

[KellyEasterbrook]

1. 32 w + 5 d!!

2. AW: Still pregnant!
Vent: NST yesterday showed some uterine activity/contractions. My doctor was reassuring that it can be totally normal for this gestational stage, but I still would rather have had nothing show up. Things looked stable enough that he went ahead and scheduled a growth scan for Friday. It'll be a busy day - ultrasound, cervical check and NST. 
Random: Really wish we could decide on a name

3. What's the earliest you've flown with a baby?  We don't have AC and last summer, the wildfire smoke was intense for close to a month.  90 degree weather + closed windows was brutal.  If that happens again, I want to get the heck out of here for awhile.  I don't want baby breathing in that crap.

4. I actually don't know what an RNP is!  I think we're just planning on a small bassinet.  I wanted to do a PNP, but our bedroom is tiny and I think we need something much smaller.  I'm actually not too worried about sleep issues.  It might be rough, but it won't last forever.

[EllieT]

Apr 17, 2019 9:44:39 GMT -5 namasteak said:

vlinder does the Tripp trap baby attachment bounce at all? That is the appeal of the other stokke chair to me.

I’m not in North America so what I say may not be true for you. For instance after seeing some pictures on Google I’ve realized the NA harness for Tripp trapp is definitely different from the European one (and it seems to come as a part of the baby set whereas I had to buy it separately) so they obviously have different versions of their products in different locations.

But from a quick look at the pictures it looks to me like the baby attachment is the same here and there and it does not bounce. (But I guess it could still be different even though it looks the same)

[Susie]

KellyEasterbrook, you are doing so awesome!  

I didn't fly with DD until she was 10m, but that was just circumstance.  I would want to get the 2 month vaccines before flying if at all possible:

www.cdc.gov/vaccines/schedules/hcp/imz/child-adolescent.html

which gives you plenty of time to have a copy of birth certificate to travel with, etc., and just to get your bearings as a parent.  Navigating airports, TSA, car seat logistics, and all that stuff is a lot to adapt to the first time.

[aprilsails]

KellyEasterbrook I have a friend who flew with her three week old across the country on a long haul flight. She also flew with him again at three months. She had bought refundable flights since she knew it might not work out. However, he was born full term and without any complications and her midwife didn’t have any concerns about her health or his on the flight.

At three weeks PP DD was doing great and I was in and out of the hospital for retained placenta. So, you never know. I guess you also don’t know how bad the wildfires might be this year and when they will occur, so you’re just bouncing ideas around.

Good luck- I hope your baby stays inside as long as possible and that you have a smooth transition to parenthood.