DH and I were at Target yesterday and at the checkout the lady asks when I'm due. I tell her. She then asks if its our last baby and I say yes, and she proceeds to ask who will be getting "fixed", me or DH. Um, what? I wanted to be like "neither, we're infertile", but rather than get into an even more personal convo with this random I just laugh and say "we'll see!", and she proceeds to tell me her opinion on the matter (which was have a c-section and get your tubes tied then...uh ok). The whole things was so over the top WTF and I can't believe strangers are so nosy about my reproductive choices.
I’ve got another migraine but can’t take the prescription because it makes me out of it enough I need help with the kids. Hoping to get help lined up soon because This really sucks. I think MIL will come for a few hours, then my sister after school and my mom before kid bedtime.
My mom is coming for a visit today so I should have plenty to talk about.
I bought myself a beer for after she leaves. Baby will understand, lol.
In the interim I'll whine about H working so many overtime hours. I'm feeling really burned out and started crying when he said he had to work Saturday. Then I felt even worse because it's not like he wants to work extra. Better to get it out of the way before baby comes, I realize.
Post by lovelyshoes on Apr 17, 2019 10:38:42 GMT -5
What an idiot.
Yesterday as I was walking into a deli some random young man around early 20s asked if I am having twins. Then inside while I was waiting to get my food, some random lady started asking me if this was my first and proceeded to make comments like omg you waited for So long between them. I hint at IF because I am not really going to discuss this with a random woman and she tells me she had IF because she couldn’t easily get pregnant with her 3rd and she would Never want to do ivf like “those” people because she didn’t want to end up with 5 kids. At this point I’m not even responding to her and she proceeds to tell me not to give birth in a certain hospital because you have to be one of “their” people to be treated well there. Their people = jewish, which I am. So that was a fun 7 minutes. Why do people think pregnant women want randoms talking to them about private and personal stuff?
My real vent, why is the cost of daycare around 1,800? It is insane and I’m not even in the priciest area here. I also somehow ruined my favorite maternity tee in the wash. I don’t even know how. So annoying.
holy shit, lovelyshoes. that is brutal and beyond rude on so many levels. I'm sorry. And yeah, I hear you on daycare. We'll be paying ~$3800 a month for 2 in daycare, and its one of the more affordable centers around :::cries:::
I'm sorry about the migraine namasteak; I hope you get some help and can rest soon.
Enjoy the beer, hamster! I hope your mom isn't too painful (I have one of those too, I get it).
Post by aprilsails on Apr 17, 2019 11:08:25 GMT -5
My minor venting is that people keep coming to tour my house even though it is conditionally sold and they have been notified. I am sick of spending evenings out at my IL’s house and DD just wants to play at home.
Also it is a beautiful day and I decided to get chip truck fries for the first time this year and I’m pretty sure their vinegar is actually water. I can’t taste it at all.
Why do all the men at work feel the need to tell me about their wife's/daughter's/DIL's labor and pregnancy? I don't mind talking with other mom's because they get it but I don't really care about your perspective on what the females in your life went through.
And some days I just want to walk around with a sign that says my due date, yes we are excited, yes DS is excited, and yes it is coming up soon!
Post by icedcoffee on Apr 17, 2019 12:33:01 GMT -5
I don't remember so many people commenting on my pregnancy the first time around. I think it's because I worked in a young organization for the first time and now I work with a bunch of nosy olds.
I've been venting about my day in the ML randoms thread. TLDR: Midas is a bunch of criminals and I hate them!
Umm, just read and that's insane. I'm all about the small locally-owned garages. The place I bring my car to does oil changes for $28. $80 is pure robbery.
I don't remember so many people commenting on my pregnancy the first time around. I think it's because I worked in a young organization for the first time and now I work with a bunch of nosy olds.
Yup, you're spot on. I have the opposite situation. I work with a mostly under 30 crowd and my pregnancy hasn't been addressed at all. Last time at my old firm (where the average age was probably 60) the olds were CONSTANTLY commenting on my body and asking invasive questions.
I've been venting about my day in the ML randoms thread. TLDR: Midas is a bunch of criminals and I hate them!
Umm, just read and that's insane. I'm all about the small locally-owned garages. The place I bring my car too does oil changes for $28. $80 is pure robbery.
Yeah--I think I may need to rethink my method. I know there's a small local garage my neighbors recommend, but it's near my house and Monday-Friday hours near my house doesn't really help.
Unfortunately, my work is located in a super expensive and ritzy part of town.
scm1011 and lovelyshoes, WTF is wrong with people? A couple weeks ago I had a patient's aide (whom I had met for the first time that day) ask me why there was such a big gap between my kids. I tried to just laugh it off and ignore but she kept expecting an answer so finally I was just like "uh, because we felt like it?" and thankfully she shut up after that.
hamster, your mom had better check herself. Again with the WTF is wrong with people? Don't they understand the ONLY appropriate thing to say to a pregnant woman is "what have you been craving lately? wait here, I'll go get one for you."
icedcoffee, we do a fair amount of talking about my pregnancy here but that's because I work with all women and most of us have kids and like to live vicariously through one another. Plus we've all worked together for ages so there is pretty much no topic considered inappropriate for lunch discussion, especially where pregnancy/labor/delivery are concerned...we just make sure to close the door to the room we eat lunch in
After her third comment on my size (you weren't this large with C, were you?) I lost my shit on her. She clearly thinks I'm wrong here but it shut her up. But then she said my feet look swollen. Why are we continuing to talk about my body??
I had long hair when I was pregnant with DD so I didn't really notice... but holy shit my hair is growing so fast! I cut it all off when the postpartum hair loss kicked in, and have had my current cut for the last 3 years. I used to get it cut every 7 weeks. At my last app't I was 27 weeks, so I started planning going forward. Curly hair in a pixie cut does NOT fare well when you let it go too long, so I shortened up the interval and made hair appointments 6 and 12 weeks from that date, for 33 and 39 weeks.
Yeah, no. I just got it cut this afternoon, and we agreed we needed to tighten it up to 5 weeks out/38 weeks for my next one, lest I go early at all. I do not need that level of bed head in any pics in the hospital.
To make this a thread-appropriate vent, that would be a very real worry, because last time MIL took pictures of me mere hours after delivering DD, on their first visit, even though I had my hand up in front of my face asking her to limit pics at that point to DD only. I was unshowered, exhausted after a mostly-all nighter, in a hospital gown, and totally not photo ready. She earned her nickname (from me) as the town crier, so I did not want her to have any compromising/private photos of me lest the entire town see them. Ugh. She sent that pic to my mom, and at least my mom understood and empathized!
Post by icedcoffee on Apr 17, 2019 14:34:52 GMT -5
Susie,Hair growth is insane. When I went in 2 weeks ago I was like "let's just cut it all off" and went above the shoulders. My H was like "WOAH", but honestly, it's already growing out. I don't plan to go back until 37 weeks so I'm glad I went big! I really hope I don't go into labor before that. Last time I had get my hair cut and colored at like 2 weeks PP and it sucked. I felt like my boobs were going to explode. LOL
I just ordered the Land diaper bag recommended by brooklyn. I hope I love it! I should probably have just put it on my registry, but I can't wait that long!!
I just ordered the Land diaper bag recommended by brooklyn . I hope I love it! I should probably have just put it on my registry, but I can't wait that long!!
We were just looking at those last night. Did you order from Amazon? I got frustrated trying to figure out which ones are knockoffs and which (if any) are the actual brand. Not like it's a designer bag or anything, but I'm an IP attorney, I can't bring myself to knowingly buy an infringing product!
I just ordered the Land diaper bag recommended by brooklyn . I hope I love it! I should probably have just put it on my registry, but I can't wait that long!!
We were just looking at those last night. Did you order from Amazon? I got frustrated trying to figure out which ones are knockoffs and which (if any) are the actual brand. Not like it's a designer bag or anything, but I'm an IP attorney, I can't bring myself to knowingly buy an infringing product!
Yes, I bought from the link in that thread (This one: www.amazon.com/gp/product/B078M76VM1/ref=ppx_od_dt_b_asin_title_s00?ie=UTF8&th=1). I also was confused and I do think it might be a knockoff. I was going to originally order from the "original" website which I think is this site, but I read the bags ship from China and take like 2 months to arrive. I feel like they're all knockoffs--even the original! LOL I'm not sure.
I’m really annoyed by the countless people who have asked me if this pregnancy was planned... wtf, why do people feel it’s ok to ask that?
I haven't gotten that question directly but when some people have found out the size of the gap between my kids' ages, I get the eyebrow raise. Like "ohhh so this baby must have been a surprise!". I've been (not seriously) tempted to get a shirt made that says something like "Nope. This was a very planned baby and a deliberate choice in age gap. Stop being concerned about my childbearing."
I’m really annoyed by the countless people who have asked me if this pregnancy was planned... wtf, why do people feel it’s ok to ask that?
And then when I say yes, it was planned. They act like we’re crazy for wanting 3 kids.
My kids are 10 years apart and I can't believe how many strangers asked if DD was planned (she very much was). First of all, none of your business. Second of all, she's coming so does it matter???