So I’ve had many people ask me if this one was also IVF. Why do you want to know?? And the thing that makes me extra uncomfortable with the question is that no this one is actually “homemade”. I’m not ashamed of that but I don’t really like to talk about it much since I feel like it just reaffirms people’s misconceptions about fertility problems. Like everyone with IF has heard many times the whole “just relax”, “stop thinking/stressing about it” or the anecdotes about someone’s cousin’s neighbor’s bestfriend’s sister or whatever that tried for years and then gave up/did IVF/adopted and then after that became pregnant 15 times without intervention. And this not being IVF just seems to confirm they were right. (Even though I actually was never on birth control after DS and we did do two FET’s that failed so it’s not like it came easy)
Surprisingly no one asked me that (and my kids do have different dads). They just kept asking if DD was planned. 🙄🙄 People kill me.
It’s like they see a pregnant woman so they need to ask personal questions and give unsolicited advice.
I noticed this when I was pregnant with AJ too. Like dude come on now, just because I'm pregnant doesn't mean you can ask stupid questions. Or even better...just because I'm pregnant does not mean you can touch me! (I am actually okay with people I KNOW touching my belly, it's more the random strangers that I have issues with)
Post by farfalla2011 on Apr 18, 2019 14:25:02 GMT -5
There's several people that have asked if we were trying. A coworker just asked me earlier today. I HATE that question. I have no idea how to answer it. My closer friends know my history, but most people I see every day don't. I'm fairly open talking about it, if the topic comes up, but when directly related to me being pregnant now, I'm finding it a lot harder to talk about. I mean, we were just taking the approach of if it happens it happens because I couldn't bring myself to make a permanent decision yet and we haven't been preventing anything since late 2015.
EllieT - the confirmation of the "just relax" mentality drives me crazy too!
It's 80 degrees, normal is about 60. I'm DYYYYING.
I dont know how I'm going to make it 6 more weeks. I'm so damn big, everything is a belly shirt. I'm currently wearing an XL tee of H's. He jokingly asked how much longer I had when he saw me (he knows). So it's not just me!