Can you please give us a break. We have all of our regular bills, tuition, plus a lot of medical. However the real culprit these days seems to be recreational. Overnight trip to the horse track, 2 day class trip to St. Louis this weekend for DD, DH and I, paying for DS's summer camp, deposit on our 2 day camping trip in August (we are renting an RV), along with Mother's day gifts. There goes my paycheck.
Signed, broke because of non necessary necessities.
I know it's venting/insecurities/said tongue in cheek, but the answers in the GTKY thread make me sad. You guys are all doing your best, especially with challenging circumstances, and your kids all think you're great in the grand scheme of things. Kids are hard. Life is hard.
Signed, The woman who is apparently now your cheerleader.
k3am, I had the exact same though last night! I'm pretty sure none of us (my ExH aside) are royally screwing up our kids. I like to think they'll actually look back and thank us for whatever perceived slights we've caused them. I'm with you!
twinmomma, for sure! Your kids are going to be like.. Um yeah. My dad did some shady shit. My mom is a strong woman and taught me that we don't put up with being treated that way because we are worth so much more.
My kid tells me frequently that I'm the most important person in her life or her favorite person. Even though I constantly think I could/should be doing more. Kid perceptions are different.
Post by traveltheworld on May 8, 2019 10:15:17 GMT -5
Dear boss,
The extra discretionary bonus is much appreciated. It's not even about the amount, but more the recognition. And the fact that you had to go to the CEO to get this approved.
Btw - telling me this while I was spending the third 16 hour day at the office was great timing. It instantly made a difference.
Signed, Happy and grateful
Dear DS's School,
That was a good meeting. I'm glad you recognize that DS needs some more enrichment. Let's hope it leads to something concrete. I really don't want to switch schools and make the 30+ minute drive every morning.
Can you please give us a break. We have all of our regular bills, tuition, plus a lot of medical. However the real culprit these days seems to be recreational. Overnight trip to the horse track, 2 day class trip to St. Louis this weekend for DD, DH and I, paying for DS's summer camp, deposit on our 2 day camping trip in August (we are renting an RV), along with Mother's day gifts. There goes my paycheck.
Signed, broke because of non necessary necessities.
I feel you. We finally replaced our AC then the dishwasher dies, the washing machine at the rental needs replacing, summer camp looms and my mother wants me to spend money on a trip with her and dad rather than use my in-laws new, free to us beach condo for ... reasons.
Dear school- thank you for an awesome IEP meeting. We are all set for DS's new school (3rd-5th grade, same district).
Dear H- I'm sorry you are sad about the job. I know you would have taken it if we didn't have kids and a house. As it is, it is a pay cut, and I wouldn't have a job. You didn't like my compromises that you could live with your parents and try it out since your point is to be here for the kids more or like the idea of me being temporarily a SAHM. We didn't really care for the area we would have to live in for a nice commute (not near family) and to live elsewhere would be a crappy commute, which is hard to change to when you now have a wonderful train commute followed by a 5 minute walk with an S&P stable company.
Thank you for driving home early so I can attend the parent meeting for 3rd grade. Next time tell me when the window washer people are coming, so I don't accidentally call the police on them. I am assuming people with ladders are not robbing my house, but I need verification.
Dear WP- We are actually doing really well here- the kids are super happy. DD just has a complainer/ always want more personality that she inherited from her dad. I am hoping she ends up being a happier person than DH, and definitely the home life in our house was way better than DH's growing up, so I think she has a better shot.
Dear Finances, also spending more money than we should especially if that new bathroom is ever going to get done.... Which maybe it won't. I'm hoping DH's payout for his vacation will help.
Dear Finances Please stop the bleeding. 7k for new heat pump on Monday, new fence of $500 for 32ft of do it yourself time, proposed Seattle trip next month, summer camps. poor checkbook Me
DD You were so excited to go to B's Daycare today. Up before 6:30, excited, happy, and yelling bye mom I love you made my heart melt. Wish every morning was like this Mom
Dear Yesterday I know a room clear at school isn't something to be excited about but when I asked DD how school was with her sub I got awesome and chatter happiness about learning something new. All of this because of said room clear and the sub having to go with the principle, counselor, and student to the office so a 3rd grade teacher finished teaching for the day as her class was in state testing. 3rd grade teacher introduced them to multiplying by 1s as she had no idea what they were supposed to be doing in math. Plus DD didn't get any homework because the room clear messed everything up. Mom with a happy DD
Stop making fun of my baby's pictures. Her most challenging part of the day was art but she didn't want to tell me why. Then, in the middle of bed time reading, she starts telling me that her friends were making fun of her drawings and she's sobbing. She handled it in class like a champ but she is more sensitive that you know.
I want your names but I will remain calm and carry on.
Dear client I pitched to yesterday, Please please hire us! It seems like you'd be great to work with and it would be a big win for me and for the firm. -I promise we'll devote lots of resources to you
Dear two separate United employees yesterday, Thank you so much for going above and beyond and getting me on the delayed earlier flight. It meant that I made it home to see DH on his birthday and got to celebrate with the whole family. If I had waited for my original delayed flight I wouldn't have even seen the kids before their bedtime, let alone gotten to celebrate. -grateful traveler
Dear termites, It has been a 2-month saga of extermination, wood repair, and painting, but I'm so happy with the result. The exterior of our house looks awesome. -I'll be fine though if we don't have to tent again for another decade
Um, remember how you told me I could go back to working the day after surgery like a bajillion times when I asked the question? That doesn’t really jibe with you saying today that I have an eye that is still dilated and is “super inflamed” so I need to avoid lifting stuff, bending over, or using a computer very much over the next week, and that this is to be expected. WTF kind of job do your other patients have that they do neither physical labor nor use a computer? Are they all Walmart greeters?
Glad I Prepared for the Worst and Arranged to Take Time Off/Work From Home
Dear Boss:
You are being really awesome about all this eye nonsense. I really appreciate you telling me to rest and take it easy. I needed to hear that.
When I text you today to bring a dessert for Mother's Day, I don't want any attitude or snottiness about it. I'm not going to have another year of me and our mom doing all/most of meal prep for Mother's Day. That's BS. I know you don't have kids, but you need to stop acting like one of the kids when we get together for family meals.
Signed,
Tired of moms (still) doing it all on Mother's Day
Dear kids,
I'm glad I was able to come on each of your field trips this week. It was fun to spend some extra time with you.
Dear bosses, Why do you ask me what I'd like to do with my team and then not believe me when I come to you with a plan? I've managed much larger teams of many of these varying skill sets before and I can envision how my current staff could shift and plug into new roles. You admit that you don't know my team well, but then don't like my rearrangement plan based on the very little interaction you have with them. Signed, Confused
covergirl82, good luck with that. I've started a few years ago doing something for my mom either Saturday or Friday before mothers day. She likes it and I get out of the big family get together that means me doing the cooking and my single sibs enjoying the benefits. It makes me much happier. This year my sister asked what time dinner was and was like could we make it 6:15 instead and I may be 5 minutes late as the camp she is working doesn't get done until 5:30. I just rolled my eyes.
Dear DH I really hope you stop the joking and acting stupid when you got to school this morning to chaperone. I didn't appreciate it last night or this morning. Don't embarrass DD Me and DD
Dear Kids, You have been AMAZING yesterday and today. Getting up and dressed and making breakfast and lunches together, brushing teeth and hair, chatting happily together — why does it take me being hurt for you to be well behaved? I mean, this should be every day.
Post by librarychica on May 9, 2019 12:56:13 GMT -5
Dear Benefit Wallet,
I finally finish straightening out the reimbursement debacle from 2018 and you reject aftercare for the first few months of 2019 because of no dates of service on the receipts. They’re right there! FFS! I hate you!
Sincerely, Hate you, give me my money
Dear science camp,
I have canceled this same week two times and both times it has not canceled.
librarychica, our benefit folks (TASC) are similar. I hate them with a passion, because they screw up my aftercare stuff so often.
Dear Kids, Thank you for being awesome. Love, Mom
Dear WP, A mom friend of mine just had her husband pass away suddenly on Tuesday. Her kids are the same age as mine, and all of us our transplants to this town. We are organizing kid watching, meals, and I was in charge of calling her house of worship to let them know. At the same time, I wish that I could do more. She emailed a handful of us yesterday just to let us know. Sad...but appreciating our good mom friends
Post by covergirl82 on May 9, 2019 14:01:42 GMT -5
librarychica, phdmomma, DH has DC FSA deducted from his check, and they just denied a portion of the claim he just submitted. They've done it before, but never indicate which receipt(s) was/were denied. They leave it to you to figure out or break down and contact them back. We usually can tell based on the dollar amount denied, but we can't for the one they denied a couple days ago.
phdmomma, I'm sorry to hear about your friend's husband passing away suddenly. Good work with rallying with other parents to help her out.
Dear WPs, I feel like such a grown up! Paid down one small student loan to snowball it into the next. Then refinanced my mortgage to drop to a 20 year loan at an interest rate that is half of what I got when I did a super quick refi to get through the divorce pay out. Signed, Look at me, adulting!
Why are you a different and separate entity than the Doctoral Program when the Doctoral Program is part of the Graduate School. The filing separate forms for each program is exhausting, and I am tempted to start using Google Translate on all my forms and submitting them in some random and rare form of hieroglyphics just for fun! Please learn to coordinate with each other. The Doctoral Program is more than accommodating and has been helping me fight my battles with the ridiculous abundance of exorbitant fees for nothing just to bilk students out of their money, but you have been doing nothing but putting up more and more monetary barriers. Maybe this is why enrollment continues to decline?