Sleeping in. Bacon. Champagne. My children not being the whiney trolls that they've been all week.
Reality?
Who knows. We actually don't have plans with MIL as far as I know, but it's subject to change. They've been texting about random things with frequency, which usually means they want to make plans. Bacon and champagne are likely. Sleeping in is impossible, thanks to the whiney trolls. And my kids not being whiney trolls??? About as likely as San Francisco streets being feces free.
Post by covergirl82 on May 9, 2019 13:56:15 GMT -5
Wishes...sleeping in and having happy, un-needy (is that a word?) kids. Taking a nap in the afternoon. I don't even need a gift (cards would still be nice) if I could have those things.
What is really happening... Maybe I'll get to sleep in until 8:00. I have to get up by then in order to be ready for church on time. My parents are coming to our church and then coming over for lunch. My sister is coming over for lunch as well. Not sure if we will see MIL; DH said he might stop by her apartment to say hi and drop off her gift.
We don't have set plans yet. My mom said she wants to see us so I might take her out for lunch on Saturday. I haven't heard from MIL and I doubt DH reached out. As the woman, is it on you to make the plans with your MIL? I'm sick of coordinating everything and would love to do whatever I want for the day.
DH usually makes me breakfast and lets me sleep in and then we head out to a park or hike. I won't be able to partake this year so I mentioned taking the two older kids to a movie. Maybe he can go visit his Mom with DD3 in tow when we do that? I don't want to entertain anyone at my house and deal with all of the clean up. Nor do I want to take three littles to a crowded restaurant.
I have the girls this weekend. Glad I'll get their mother's day love and silly presents, but it means no chance of relaxation at all. I think I'm going to take them to get their ears pierced. They've been begging and the weather is supposed to be bad, so it'll be a fun indoor activity. I'll see my mom the next two weekends so neither of us are stressing about a meet up this weekend.
Wish..to sleep in and not have to cook all day Reality..up super early as DH is insisting "we go away for the day so I can relax" which means me prepping for a day away (snacks, someone to let the dog out, planning dinner/lunch). I said if we had to go someplace we could go to the safari drive through as they are letting moms in free but that is a huge long day and there is nothing but zoo food to eat within 30 minutes of this place so I would have to pack. No amount of me saying I want a chill day at home is getting into his rock head.
I get a new heat pump on Monday and ordered myself a self turn on kitchen faucet and new kitchen sink for my gifts to me/house.
My mom is in town for two weeks, so it will be nice to see her for mother’s day.
I planned everything for mother’s day and DH and my mom said great.
My mom is having my two older kids spend the night at her condo Saturday night. Sunday DH will get up with DS2, I’ll sleep in and then go to Orangetheory 9:30-10:30. Then my mom will drop the older kids off with DH, and she and I will get blow outs 10:45-11:30. Then DH will bring the kids and meet us for lunch at a casual place with a nice outdoor patio.
Then home for DS2 nap and relaxation/reading the Sunday NY Times. I’m happy with this plan.
I want DH not to be a whiny child. I made reservations weeks ago - at Barnes and Noble. It’s super close to our house, I can buy a book for me and for my mom (who will be with us) and I assumed the pretty typical fare wouldn’t be objectionable. DH has whined because 1) he wouldn’t have chosen there 2) he wanted to eat later 3) he said he wanted to choose from a wide variety of salads (and he never orders a salad). It’s Mother’s Day! Next year I will make reservations for one - me alone, if the trend continues. Or me and the kids.
I asked for a shirt, bracelet and tote - all available from one store. DH didn’t take his meds and was a bear the day he took DS shopping so who knows what I will get.
Wishes- do something fun ish. For my phone to stop texting me about a girls trip. Happy to go, can't keep up on the messages.
Reality- Not sure if DH had any time to plan anything. I am sucking it with my Mom and MIL too, so I can't say I blame him. I have done nothing for them, and it's 4 days away. I'm not close by, so I needed to have something in the mail... And I'm missing the deadline on that....
And with work being busy it makes it hard to buy online and ship. Last time my mom complained about towels I got her from Amazon, so no incentive there to get her something from Amazon. And apparently my Grandma is definitely declining (she's been declining for 2 years), and if we don't all respond to my mom's text in 1 minute she texts again to see if it went through.
I don’t even know what my wishes are. My expectations for this holiday are so low!
We may be driving two hours to see FIL (who was just released from the hospital), attending a “dinner” at 4pm, and then driving 2hrs home. I’m considering just getting up at the regular time and going to my usual Sunday morning class at the gym. Unsure if I will make myself feel better or worse by not marking the occasion at all.
DH is on call all weekend so just me and the kids.
My wish is that the rain holds off a bit on Sunday and I can take my kids to the arboretum with my camera and get some good shots of them. We’ve done this the last two Mother’s Days. Overcast cool days are the most fun for me to play with my camera.
DH is making a spaghetti dinner so I don’t have to cook. Other than that, I’m just hoping for a nice day outside and maybe some time without my MIL. Not all day. I know that’s too much to ask. But at least like until dinner time?
Oh my! I think I got a month long membership to a crossfit gym. I’ve never done crossfit! Ever! I had mentioned to my husband. I go to the coach there once a month but just for the nutrition program not the actual classes. The first month is unlimited and you have to take like a bunch of intro classes or whatever. After that I can purchase a punchcard.
I feel a little guilty for having asked for it bc we pay for our regular gym which has so much, but I really need someone to coach me and make sure I have proper form.
He was a little late coming home today and at just about that time I got an email with a waiver.
Post by freezorburn on May 10, 2019 0:28:13 GMT -5
Tomorrow I have a chunk of time where I can work on my job search, and in general work on projects around the house. Then DS has swim lesson on Saturday. Sunday we are having a backyard potluck with some of my single mom friends.
Hoping I can be completely over this cold ASAP. Going on 2 weeks as of tomorrow.
Post by librarychica on May 10, 2019 4:09:38 GMT -5
Well ideally we would stay home, relaxing and maybe swimming, H would make me drinks and grill or we would get tacos ....
Reality is we are driving 2 hours each way for a beach day at his parents condo with his entire extended family. I am sure it will be nice and honestly I have come to terms with Mother’s day (and most other holidays) being an extended in-law family affair. I will take a makeup day later this summer.
My oldest insisted I open her gift in the car in the school parking lot yesterday and it is particularly adorable. A great picture of her (though her friend tied her shirt up to expose part of her belly ... 🤭 they’re only 7!), a coaster with one of her drawings on it and a little book.
On Sunday, DH scheduled a massage for me at 11am. So that means I get to sleep in a little bit. Then we will head to my mom's place for brunch with my family. We'll have a lazy afternoon there and head home around dinner time to get ready for the week.
This is the first Mother's Day since MIL passed away. DH and FIL will go to the cemetery at some point this weekend to put flowers on MIL's grave. If the weather is nice, me and the kids will go too.
I will be spending my day at the St. Louis ballpark drinking a couple of $9 beers on DD's class trip. All the parents go, so we are only in charge of our own child. I asked for a new pair of running shoes which I desperately need.
I will need to give my mom her flowers tomorrow. DH is taking care of his mom and I refuse to go over there. His parents did not show up for DD's confirmation last night, no call or explanation why. They show up for nothing. Someone is always sick. Fine, at least call. I was saving a seat for them. All of her classmates had rows of family, grandparents, aunts, uncles etc... and as usual it was me, DH and mom. So my gift to her is to not take their heads off and avoid them on mothers day weekend.
tomorrow will be crazy with DD1's dance recital and then brunch with my parents, my brother and BIL, my aunt and uncle and my cousin and his wife (who will be visiting this weekend).
Post by ilovelucyvv on May 10, 2019 12:03:06 GMT -5
My MIL has requested that I get an Amazon prime membership and share it with her as a Mother's day gift. I thought that was kind of odd but I would benefit from getting a prime membership anyway. She wants it so that she can watch the tv shows and movies.
We are going out to eat for an early dinner on Sunday. H is leaving town immediately after dinner so better than nothing. Also we will be going to a place close enough to my house that I can still make him drive me so that I can drink.
Post by supertrooper1 on May 10, 2019 12:25:11 GMT -5
I'm hoping for a chill day. As of right now, I'm meeting the junk haulers at my old house and then doing something TBD with my parents and DS. I'm just happy I get to spend the day with DS.
Plans - Church, lunch, hang out at the beach/go for a hike at the dunes if the weather is nice. MD is hard for me, so I prefer to keep it mellow.
Wishes - I wish I could celebrate with my mom. She's been gone 12 years and MD is the hardest day of the year for me. She loved this holiday, more then any other. The beach/dunes was her favorite place so that's where I want to be all day.
Vents - DH leaves that evening for a 7 day fishing trip. I don't really care about the trip but man alive I am not looking forward to sole parenting for that long. All the rest of the men in his family leave the Friday before, but DH stays bc he knows how hard the day is on me. And I mentally cannot be the only person in charge of celebrating it with his mom.
Brags - My girls are the greatest and I couldn't ask for better children.
Post by traveltheworld on May 10, 2019 13:20:58 GMT -5
I bought a breakfast tray - so I'm expecting DH to serve me breakfast in bed.
I bought a massage for my mom for tomorrow, so I'll take her to that, then brunch at our house. My BIL and SIL will also be in town, so we'll probably just hang out with them
DD and I are spending tomorrow with my mom and grandma, and whoever else in my extended family decides to stop by while we’re there.
H got confirmation this morning that his PTO was approved for Sunday, so we’re going to sleep in, maybe go out for breakfast and/or coffee, and spend the rest of the day relaxing. No plans, no obligations, just the three of us.
I know that H got me a ring with DD’s birthstone, because that’s what I asked him to get me. I don’t know what the ring looks like, though, so I’m excited to see what he picked out.
Post by erinshelley21 on May 11, 2019 7:46:17 GMT -5
We are supposedly celebrating mothers day today since DH works tomorrow. As far as I know I'll just be getting the gifts DH helped the kids make. I'll probably go buy myself a bottle of wine. DH bought hanging flower baskets for me and they are already out. Since he is working, I included an easy breakfast for tomorrow so I have to do as little as possible while still solo parenting.
I haven't done anything for any of our moms. SMIL asked for different sizes of the pictures I gave her of us and the kids, so that can be her gift.
Ideally, the kids would behave perfectly this weekend so we can get all the housework done today and play and relax on Sunday. It would include lap around Ulta and Target with minimal complaining.
Post by mustardseed2007 on May 11, 2019 9:04:43 GMT -5
kind of weird but with big storms in our areas school was canceled for my kids on Friday so the stuff they made in school is still at school. Boo! They've both been talking about it but not talking about it - you know b/c it's a secret.
I'm going to work on the house this weekend. We need something to put DH's gaming stuff in and I'm going to declutter, it's what I want to do!
ALso, we have no forks in our house so I'm going to see if I can get some more. I may have to buy a whole new set though, which pisses me off b/c I like our set.
Post by librarychica on May 11, 2019 16:23:44 GMT -5
The gathering at my in-laws ballooned to 25 people — 7 of them kids and at least that many elderly — and it was decided that meant our puppy is uninvited. She’s 10 weeks old and they’re 2 hours away each way and I can’t find a dog sitter at this point, so I will be happily deep cleaning my patio and making myself carnitas tomorrow. Best of luck, H!
I got rotten news Friday just before 5 from the heat pump guys. The outdoor unit doesn't fit through the man door plus the whole attic needs to be cleared. We've spent all weekend cleaning out the gated side yard, attic, and garage. Huge dump run today and a whole truck full to Goodwill tomorrow. Feels nice to get crap gone but not a relaxing weekend or the orginal plan.