Post by aprilsails on May 20, 2019 11:55:29 GMT -5
1. How far along are you this week? 22w4d
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I’ve made progress on packing up the house so that is good. I think the lowered stress has allowed me to sleep a bit better. I’m enjoying our holiday Monday here today.
3. Questions for the group?
4. How is your partner handling your pregnancy? Is he/she helpful? excited? detached? I had a really easy time physically with DD so he tends to sit on his ass until I tell him I need help. We have way more going on this time (building new house, selling our house, moving, my sisters baby, and an active 3.5yo to contend with). He’s been pretty awesome, so long as I tell him exactly what to do.
He’s generally excited, but I think the fact that it is a boy has thrown him for a loop. He is adjusting though, and is excited to feel the baby move.
OMG, scm1011, I’m so glad you guys stood your ground. WTF is wrong with people? I have to say that while there are a million things I want to kill MIL over, she is pretty good about this stuff. My mom will likely be with us for a few days again (especially since she will be the one we ask to come be with dd), but MIL (lives 2.5 hrs away) will likely come over just for the day.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I couldn’t sleep at all last night. I had a toothache that spread to my ear and throat, I was in so much pain... plus I’m solo parenting since DH is in Europe until Friday. I’m sitting at the dentist office right now waiting for my doctor...
3. Questions for the group? Has anyone had any major dental work while pregnant? I’m nervous they’ll have to do a root canal or something. I’ve been having regular cleanings but that’s it.
4. How is your partner handling your pregnancy? Is he/she helpful? excited? detached? He’s usually detached from the baby during the pregnancy and first couple months. He starts bonding a little later. He’s a great dad, I guess he feels less useful until he can really see the baby and do stuff with them.
Post by aprilsails on May 20, 2019 11:59:56 GMT -5
@goodygumdrop I actually set an alarm 2 hours after I go to sleep to wake me up to go pee. I find if I get more than 2 hours sleep before I wake up to go pee then I’m stuck awake. At the 2 hour mark I zombie myself over to the washroom crawl back to bed and am lights out right away. I usually only have to go pee once though.
3. Questions for the group? Has anyone had any major dental work while pregnant? I’m nervous they’ll have to do a root canal or something. I’ve been having regular cleanings but that’s it.
I had a cavity in a wisdom tooth filled in December, when I was maybe 14-15 weeks. I was also doing Invisalign, so I had orthodontists in my mouth a lot until March or so including having molds made for a retainer.
In general I didn't find it SO bad, I just consistently found that I could not be reclined with my head lower than my torso (or even anything close to that) because it made me terribly nauseous. It made work on the wisdom tooth hard just because of access/position. The only major impact on my care from my pregnancy was that it made the decision to fill the wisdom tooth cavity (for the 2nd time) instead of discussing extraction, because they didn't want to do an extraction while I was pg.
Post by KellyEasterbrook on May 20, 2019 13:13:57 GMT -5
woowoo, Just now reading about your hospital stay! I'm so glad you were able to be sent home. Have you been able to mentally shift gears on a most likely earlier arrival?
1. 37+3!!
2. I seem to be stuck at fully effaced and 3 cm dilated. I'm at a gestational point where my OB says the weekly cervical checks are now up to me. I'm really torn, because I LOVE having the information, but there's usually a 50-50 chance of a full blown panic attack while having it done (it's just way to similar to having the cervical dilation sticks inserted after our loss last time). Baby fully dropped about a week or two ago, and it's causing some major mobility issues. Basically, I'm ready to have this baby now. And I'm relieved that my OB thinks the labor will be on the fast end, so no need to try to time contractions to decide when to go to the hospital. I've been reassured to just go straight in at any sign of labor.
Oh, and we went under contract on a house this weekend. Because of course, after over a year of looking, a house has to come available now and for once, we weren't outbid. Luckily, my mom is flying in this week to help out if in case I go into labor during the inspection or something. Never a dull moment.
3. For those who have had babies previously, how long before you were ready for a) visitors that stayed at your house and b) visitors that traveled to see you, but stayed in a hotel?
4. He's been amazing. He's gone to every appointment, calmed me down from panic attacks more times than I can count, taken over all household chores while I was on modified bedrest, and is just so excited to meet this little one.
KellyEasterbrook , my mom stayed with us a few days when we got home from the hospital. She was great. Stayed out of our way when needed, cooked, grocery shopped. It was nice. I wouldn’t have been ok with that from anyone else, though. For other guests it’s tough to say because at 2 weeks, colic hit. If it hadn’t, I’d say a couple weeks for out of town people who stayed at hotels, and maybe a month for anyone staying with us. But again, that depends on who it is.
Post by humpforfree on May 20, 2019 13:42:35 GMT -5
1. How far along are you this week? 8w4d
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? Meh. Just getting too big for my regular pants, but not quite big enough for maternity yet. I’ve been running around with my shorts unbuttoned today. Though I did put on a maternity dress on Saturday to try on for date night- it made me look like 16w. Holy crap. Also, I HATE this time in pregnancy. 4 weeks between appointments this early is awful. It’s too early to feel movement, or get a HB at home, so I have no clue what is happening and that everything is okay.
3. Questions for the group?
4. How is your partner handling your pregnancy? Is he/she helpful? excited? detached? I think we are both pretty detached? Idk third kid, busy, still super early. He has been super helpful though with the laundry and stuff that is “my” job but I just cannot being myself to do w/exhaustion. I’m hit or miss on meals and laying down during them, so he deals with the kids and all that during those times.
Yankees21 I was eyeing the FP soothing motions bassinet. I’m going to turn in my rnp and hopefully use whatever credit toward it. It’s not inclined, which my kids always like too (and lane needed bc he was a spit up monster), so I am nervous about that, but like that it vibrates.
3. For those who have had babies previously, how long before you were ready for a) visitors that stayed at your house and b) visitors that traveled to see you, but stayed in a hotel?
My in-laws will now be coming (and staying in a hotel) about 9 days after my induction. That's about as soon as I'd be ready, but I'm introverted and my in-laws are A LOT. The first week I pretty much spent topless trying to figure out breastfeeding while being a hormonal anxious mess, so I wasn't up for in-house visitors. I think it really depends on your personality and your relationship with the visitor, but I'd advise giving yourself some space the first week.
3. For those who have had babies previously, how long before you were ready for a) visitors that stayed at your house and b) visitors that traveled to see you, but stayed in a hotel?
My parents came to visit for Thanksgiving, arriving when DD was 9 days old. That was fine, especially because they basically brought TG dinner with them. Even so, by the end of their 5 day stay I was (lovingly) ready for them to leave. As a brand new FTM I felt super under the microscope and my exhaustion probably caused me to take umbrage quicker than I should have at any "you should do X differently" suggestion. I probably could've handled a visit sooner if it were shorter. We didn't have any hotel stay visitors.
Maybe by a couple of points, but not that dramatically. I check it once a day anyway, so I'm pretty calm provided I'm not in my doctor's office.
I hear you on the difference at the doctor's office, I always had those issues too. Are you having any other signs of labor?
No. I never had any with C either until my water very abruptly broke at 2 am.
It's still going higher, even when I'm feeling nice and calm. I'll do one more reading but I'm pretty sure I'll be calling the OB this afternoon. I can't tell if I have a mild headache or if I just stressed myself into one.
DH FINALLY talked to his parents about expectations after the baby is born. They are only about 90 minutes away and he has been so worried they were going to be very upset when we told them we didn't want them waiting at the hospital or coming immediately after he's born. We are going to let them come at some point the following day for a very short visit, and he communicated all of that to them...and they were totally fine! I'm sure we'll get some passive aggressive comments from his mom at some point (she's incredibly talented at those) but otherwise DH is finally in a good place mentally with that situation.
KellyEasterbrook, yes. I'm in good shape about the induction happening a week early, mainly because of his size and how healthy his lungs appear to be. I think it's going to be a long and shitty induction because I don't feel like my body is ready for labor at all, but we'll figure it out.
3. For those who have had babies previously, how long before you were ready for a) visitors that stayed at your house and b) visitors that traveled to see you, but stayed in a hotel?
My in-laws will now be coming (and staying in a hotel) about 9 days after my induction. That's about as soon as I'd be ready, but I'm introverted and my in-laws are A LOT. The first week I pretty much spent topless trying to figure out breastfeeding while being a hormonal anxious mess, so I wasn't up for in-house visitors. I think it really depends on your personality and your relationship with the visitor, but I'd advise giving yourself some space the first week.
To add to this I will also say that whoever you THINK you are might not be who you actually are when your baby is here. By anyone’s standards I am very chill and not at all anxious, but early BFing troubles and dd’s colic rocked my damn world. I was a mess. So basically, just give yourself some space to be flexible and not seriously commit to anything.
I hear you on the difference at the doctor's office, I always had those issues too. Are you having any other signs of labor?
No. I never had any with C either until my water very abruptly broke at 2 am.
It's still going higher, even when I'm feeling nice and calm. I'll do one more reading but I'm pretty sure I'll be calling the OB this afternoon. I can't tell if I have a mild headache or if I just stressed myself into one.
I'm sorry. I hope things level out and that labor starts soon.
1. How far along are you this week? 36 weeks measuring 37 (which is possible since I have no idea about conception date but also could mean big baby like my others)
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? BAD - Officially have prodromal labor again we spent a few hours in L&D last night after a few hours of 10 min apart contractions, an hour of painful 511 contractions and then an hour of painful 311 contractions that nothing slowed down. They slowed down at the hospital (because OF COURSE) and continued to slow overnight. 4cm, 80% effaced, bulging waters, and baby has dropped to -2 station so who the hell knows when he will come. It’s still on the early side so it could be awhile or it could be soon 🤷🏻♀️ DH drove the 3.5 hours to work but we have a solid support system here and worst case he can stop and SKYPE in to the birth via the tv in the labor room.
GOOD - I really like my new therapist who specializes in pre and post natal women. She liked my postpartum plans and the only change she suggested was to make sure I got 2 nights of 5 hour stretches of sleep in a row.
3. Questions for the group? Favorite ways to keep yourself distracted?
4. How is your partner handling your pregnancy? He is so excited and far less anxious than I am. We decided to EFF and he keeps telling me how happy he is to be able to feed this baby.
Blood pressure seems to have stabilized and perhaps going back down. OB says to just monitor at home but to call, even if after hours, if it crosses 140/90.
Post by WinterWine on May 20, 2019 23:33:56 GMT -5
1. How far along are you this week? 15+5
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? As of this week I have a little bump, and broke out the maternity clothes. Bump is much more obvious in maternity stuff. I’ve also started having some lower back pain, not sure if it’s pregnancy related but I’m jumping at the chance to have weekly massages.
3. Questions for the group? None
4. How is your partner handling your pregnancy? Is he/she helpful? excited? detached? He is handing it great! But it still seems pretty abstract and not real to both of us. He’s been very patient. I am training for a half marathon in a few weeks and we are in the process of building a shed. I’ve been running in the morning and then am pooped so not much help if any on the shed. He’s been a trooper and hasn’t said anything when normally I’d help him a lot. 😊
Haven't checked yet this morning, but BP was 128/73 in the middle of the night.
On another note, I noticed a couple of times when I got up to pee that my stomach kind burned. Like the feeling that you get when you do too many sit ups. Is that because I'm now so big that getting out of bed is like a million sit ups (I mean, yes...) or is that a sign of of something?
I really wish that I had experienced any sort of labor with C. And H is off to work and will need at least an hour to get home.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? 5 more days! I am definitely ready. We had a long weekend here this weekend and we did so much relaxing. Went to the movies, went out for dinner for our 10 year wedding anniversary, and overall just lazed around a lot. I now have a to do list that I need to get working on so I am ready come Sunday. My public bones are so sore and tender this week. It feels as though I was kicked.
3. Questions for the group?
4. How is your partner handling your pregnancy? Is he/she helpful? excited? detached? When we got our induction date, he said it was the first time it felt real to him. Then this weekend he was in full nesting mode. He got a lot done though so I am not complaining!
Post by stellelinds25 on May 21, 2019 9:36:17 GMT -5
1. How far along are you this week? 16+6
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? We bought paint and flooring for the nursery and we’ll hopefully decide on a crib soon (because I have coupons that expire).
3. Questions for the group? Nothing this week
4. How is your partner handling your pregnancy? Is he/she helpful? excited? detached? He’s been great and he’s very excited. My only complaint is that he doesn’t deal with my hormonal mood swings well and tries to argue with me. This weekend I ended up in tears. I think that kind of helped him understand that I really can’t help my emotions right now.
Okay, induction being scheduled for Monday night for sure.
Question for those of you that have been induced or are planning induction. What are you packing to wear for the time frame of the start of your induction? We'll be starting with cytotec most likely. Do you wear the hospital gown the whole time or something more comfy? I bought a slightly more comfortable hospital gown to wear for delivery, but I also know induction can take a couple of days. Just trying to figure out how to pack now that I'll be in in a labor room possibly for 24-36 hours or more.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? RLPPPPP all day every day kill me haha. Also I think MH might leave me before I settle on a name for this poor child.
3. Questions for the group? Not GotP related really but if you have switched a toddler age daycares, any advice? DS LOVES his sitter but she can't watch him anymore. She sobbed telling me haha she really loves him back! I have found a new one and she seems amazing and got a glowing referral from my neighbor. DS met her last week and seemed excited about her house but like, what do I say when he asks when he can go back to LoLos? I think this sitter will be better for many reasons but I'm just worried about him being sad.
4. How is your partner handling your pregnancy? Is he/she helpful? excited? detached? He's awesome. He isn't much of a cook or housekeeper, lol but he never gripes when I disappear into my room because I can't handle the day anymore. He will figure dinner out, get DS in bed, whatever. I try really hard not to take advantage but maaaannnnn pregnant after 30 is no joke, man!
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? not really. everything is just moving along. still fitting in most of my regular clothes, but got out my bin of maternity clothes to try on. some worked, most did not. made some big orders at old navy/gap and loft to fill in some pieces. waiting for movement to happen. last time i had the placenta up front, so it wasn't until 22ish weeks, hoping it's earlier this time.
3. Questions for the group? not really.
4. How is your partner handling your pregnancy? Is he/she helpful? excited? detached? he's fine. very helpful with household stuff since it's also my crazy time at work and i need to be concentrating on that to get through. he's excited for another boy for sure.
Okay, induction being scheduled for Monday night for sure.
Question for those of you that have been induced or are planning induction. What are you packing to wear for the time frame of the start of your induction? We'll be starting with cytotec most likely. Do you wear the hospital gown the whole time or something more comfy? I bought a slightly more comfortable hospital gown to wear for delivery, but I also know induction can take a couple of days. Just trying to figure out how to pack now that I'll be in in a labor room possibly for 24-36 hours or more.
i didn't pack for my induction, since i just got sent from a doc appt, but i stayed in the gown even after DH arrived with my stuff. there were a lot of checks and monitoring and it was just easier since they had the access they needed. a lot of grossness happens and i was happy to get it on their gowns and get fresh ones as often as i wanted than get 'my' clothes dirty.
Post by dreamcrisp1 on May 21, 2019 10:59:36 GMT -5
I feel like I always have the most random questions.
If you live in a city and don’t drive, do you bring the car seat to the hospital when in labour or do you bring it later (I.e my H would have to leave and go home to get it then come back)? I think everyone I know has driven to a hospital so this hasn’t come up but I have no clue.