Solidarity, commiseration and all the love to every woman who has had - or had to consider - an abortion. fryjack2
It took me a very long time, almost thirty years to be precise, to be able to talk about having an abortion. And I *still* haven't told my family because they won't forgive me for having one, even thirty-something years later. But I've become more of a believer in "we need to talk..." than in "hiding the shame" about abortion over the past couple years.
I had an abortion when my ex was first disabled. We were having problems before his disability, but when he started seizing and lost his (military) career we stuck through things and did what he had to do to make it work at least through the hardest parts. He lost his job/career and with it the paycheck and the housing and all the benefits, including medical for me and the kids. CHIP didn't exist then (not for another ten years) and we didn't qualify for aid for one reason or another for more than two years. Between a lack of insurance and income, and all the medical, housing and child concerns, I wasn't taking any safe contraceptive measures. But because we were married, we weren't remaining celibate either - and I got pregnant. Our housing situation was tenuous, as was our relationship. There was no way I would be able to remain pregnant while still being able to care for the children we already had or caring for him with all his emotional, physical and neurological issues. So *together* my ex and I decided the best route at the time was abortion. The abortion itself was a simple procedure; the trauma came from the lack of support I had going in and coming out (including, especially, from my ex, who was with me in the decision but not for the procedure itself.) I sometimes wonder "what if..." but I am grateful I was able to make the decision. For many, it would appear to be an elective, since it was my *choice* but in my eyes, then and now, it was necessary for my sanity and for the safety and health of my already-born family.
Post by Velar Fricative on May 28, 2019 21:35:47 GMT -5
Mine took place in a hospital in Manhattan. It was an abortion for medical reasons at 21 weeks, and there were no providers in my outer borough that do them primarily because of scare tactics by anti-choicers. In New York fucking City. I’ve sensed that stand-alone clinics were the only choice in states where abortion access is worse, but wasn’t sure myself.
Isn't MO one of the states that requires any clinic offering abortion (I think including by medication) meet the same building codes as an ambulatory surgical center? An average OB/GYN office wouldn't be set up that way.
I know a texas did that. I didn’t hear that MO did that too.
It may not have. It's so hard to keep track now. 😢
Mine took place in a hospital in Manhattan. It was an abortion for medical reasons at 21 weeks, and there were no providers in my outer borough that do them primarily because of scare tactics by anti-choicers. In New York fucking City. I’ve sensed that stand-alone clinics were the only choice in states where abortion access is worse, but wasn’t sure myself.
I am not really sure, TBH. I imagine that up to 3 of the hospitals here may do TFMR (but not the one where I delivered because it’s Catholic). But I don’t think those are widely publicized because of the nature of the circumstances. I actually have no idea if any providers associated with those hospitals perform elective terminations. (I imagine any affiliated with a Catholic hospital would lose privileges if they did.) We do have two clinics in my city, but I truly have no idea if there is anywhere else to get an abortion. Also, last I knew, there were only 3 clinics still operating in the state, so if you live up north, you have to travel a pretty significant distance.
Mine took place in a hospital in Manhattan. It was an abortion for medical reasons at 21 weeks, and there were no providers in my outer borough that do them primarily because of scare tactics by anti-choicers. In New York fucking City. I’ve sensed that stand-alone clinics were the only choice in states where abortion access is worse, but wasn’t sure myself.
*Possible trigger warning*
I think it varies depending on location. I live in western NY, and there are still Ob-Gyns who perform them outside of PP and other stand-alone clinics. There was a pretty infamous murder here in the 90s of a doctor who provided abortions, and to my knowledge, his former practice is still open and still performs elective abortions (in a suburb of Buffalo).
Mine took place in a hospital in Manhattan. It was an abortion for medical reasons at 21 weeks, and there were no providers in my outer borough that do them primarily because of scare tactics by anti-choicers. In New York fucking City. I’ve sensed that stand-alone clinics were the only choice in states where abortion access is worse, but wasn’t sure myself.
*Possible trigger warning*
I think it varies depending on location. I live in western NY, and there are still Ob-Gyns who perform them outside of PP and other stand-alone clinics. There was a pretty infamous murder here in the 90s of a doctor who provided abortions, and to my knowledge, his former practice is still open and still performs elective abortions (in a suburb of Buffalo).
I was in high school on the other side of town from where it happened and very vividly remember that incident. My parents had friends who lived on that street.
All I have to add is friends of ours in Chicago had to terminate after 21 weeks I think. They had to fly to New Mexico for the procedure. I never asked them exactly why because it sounded strange to me that there wouldn’t be a provider in a place like Chicago but I’m sure they did all their research before getting on a plane.
I think it varies depending on location. I live in western NY, and there are still Ob-Gyns who perform them outside of PP and other stand-alone clinics. There was a pretty infamous murder here in the 90s of a doctor who provided abortions, and to my knowledge, his former practice is still open and still performs elective abortions (in a suburb of Buffalo).
I was in high school on the other side of town from where it happened and very vividly remember that incident. My parents had friends who lived on that street.
All I have to add is friends of ours in Chicago had to terminate after 21 weeks I think. They had to fly to New Mexico for the procedure. I never asked them exactly why because it sounded strange to me that there wouldn’t be a provider in a place like Chicago but I’m sure they did all their research before getting on a plane.
There are 4 providers in the US that do 3rd tri abortions. (I know you said 21w but just for general reference)
I was in high school on the other side of town from where it happened and very vividly remember that incident. My parents had friends who lived on that street.
All I have to add is friends of ours in Chicago had to terminate after 21 weeks I think. They had to fly to New Mexico for the procedure. I never asked them exactly why because it sounded strange to me that there wouldn’t be a provider in a place like Chicago but I’m sure they did all their research before getting on a plane.
There are 4 providers in the US that do 3rd tri abortions. (I know you said 21w but just for general reference)
Then it's quite possible they had already reached the 3rd trimester.
Hearing in which Planned Parenthood argued that a St. Louis City judge should grant a temporary restraining order against DHSS possibly not issuing its license renewal is over. The judge indicated he’s aware of the one day deadline. We will have to wait and see on the ruling.