Those who bf or pump, are you sweaty all the time? I am constantly having heat flashes. I hate being sweaty and stinky.
I was for the first 12 weeks or so. I would also start profusely sweating anytime DS would whimper or cry. I pump twice a day usually and it’s better now but sometimes I still get a little hot flashy.
DD slept through the night last night, and there are not enough raising hands emojis to describe my level of joy. I’ve been sick with a nasty cold/respiratory virus since Wednesday, and I reeeeeeally needed a night of decent sleep.
Those who bf or pump, are you sweaty all the time? I am constantly having heat flashes. I hate being sweaty and stinky.
H thinks there's something wrong with me because this is me!! I am always SO uncomfortably hot, I hate it. Is this a BF thing? I figured it could be hormonal.
Post by icedcoffee on Aug 24, 2019 13:51:47 GMT -5
DS1’s (he’s 2y9m) behavior the past couple weeks has been so atrocious I’m beginning to worry there’s something seriously wrong. I know he’s going through a big change, but omg. I’m really trying to give him attention and some leniency but it’s so hard. Today he had a meltdown at the park because the baby used his stroller. It’s so embarrassing and stressful.
D has started to just flat out refuse the bottle. I'm beside myself.
I’m so sorry. Have you tried different nipple types? Adjusting the temperature? Leaving the house while someone else feeds him?
There are a few things to try still. I'll start with a RTF formula and scalding some fresh milk. He was taking one previously, albeit a total trainwreck about it so hoping it's a taste issue primarily.
Mostly I just had a major meltdown about all the things I can't do for an entire year if I cant be away from him for more than two hours.
DS1’s (he’s 2y9m) behavior the past couple weeks has been so atrocious I’m beginning to worry there’s something seriously wrong. I know he’s going through a big change, but omg. I’m really trying to give him attention and some leniency but it’s so hard. Today he had a meltdown at the park because the baby used his stroller. It’s so embarrassing and stressful.
Hang in there, the first few weeks were ROUGH with my DS too. On my first public outing with both we were on the bus and DS had a total meltdown and refused to get off. I was wearing the baby and she starting crying too and a stranger literally had to help me drag a screaming DS off the bus because I physically couldn't handle it while wearing the baby. It was SO embarrassing and made me insanely anxious. He also threw a plastic bin at the baby's head out of frustration when she was about 2 weeks old.
Now he pretty much treats her as furniture, lol. He has accepted her presence in our family and while he certainly isn't giving her hugs and kisses, his behavior has improved dramatically.
I definitely make a point to do a special Mommy/Cal outing each week (a cool playground, the beach, out for ice cream, etc). That has helped.
DS1’s (he’s 2y9m) behavior the past couple weeks has been so atrocious I’m beginning to worry there’s something seriously wrong. I know he’s going through a big change, but omg. I’m really trying to give him attention and some leniency but it’s so hard. Today he had a meltdown at the park because the baby used his stroller. It’s so embarrassing and stressful.
Hang in there, the first few weeks were ROUGH with my DS too. On my first public outing with both we were on the bus and DS had a total meltdown and refused to get off. I was wearing the baby and she starting crying too and a stranger literally had to help me drag a screaming DS off the bus because I physically couldn't handle it while wearing the baby. It was SO embarrassing and made me insanely anxious. He also threw a plastic bin at the baby's head out of frustration when she was about 2 weeks old.
Now he pretty much treats her as furniture, lol. He has accepted her presence in our family and while he certainly isn't giving her hugs and kisses, his behavior has improved dramatically.
I definitely make a point to do a special Mommy/Cal outing each week (a cool playground, the beach, out for ice cream, etc). That has helped.
Oh man. I’m glad it’s getting better. He does pretend to love his baby brother, but he’s jealous too. I will definitely try to do something special with him each week. Kids, man.
Post by Patsy Baloney on Aug 24, 2019 22:58:36 GMT -5
We’re just having a really good night tonight. DD is student of the week and has stayed dry overnight for over a week now (she’s 6, and we’re working on breaking the habit of peeing in bed because we used pull-ups probably for too long with her) so we decided to celebrate with a popcorn and movie night in our bedroom. She picked Star Wars to watch, DS relaxed at the foot of the bed with some toys until bath time. Now DD is snoozing on the air mattress in our room because she wanted a family “sleepover” while DS is still in the bassinet.
Nights like this remind me of how fortunate we are. ❤️❤️
I’m so tired of my H deciding DS is hungry every time he cries. No.... I just fucking fed him. Try rocking him.
Having a newborn with H was stressful for this reason. He kept telling me that maybe I wasn't producing enough and she was just hungry all the time and I should give her bottles 🙄 I don't understand why this is a man thing.
We’re just having a really good night tonight. DD is student of the week and has stayed dry overnight for over a week now (she’s 6, and we’re working on breaking the habit of peeing in bed because we used pull-ups probably for too long with her) so we decided to celebrate with a popcorn and movie night in our bedroom. She picked Star Wars to watch, DS relaxed at the foot of the bed with some toys until bath time. Now DD is snoozing on the air mattress in our room because she wanted a family “sleepover” while DS is still in the bassinet.
Nights like this remind me of how fortunate we are. ❤️❤️
I’m so tired of my H deciding DS is hungry every time he cries. No.... I just fucking fed him. Try rocking him.
Having a newborn with H was stressful for this reason. He kept telling me that maybe I wasn't producing enough and she was just hungry all the time and I should give her bottles 🙄 I don't understand why this is a man thing.
Because if they cant fix/stop the crying then it must be for a reason they cant fix.
I'm assuming. H is pretty good in this regard.
Also D just woke me up from a deep sleep. I couldn't immediately remember going back to bed, and I didn't know where he was. It's terrifying and happens semi-regularly.
Having a newborn with H was stressful for this reason. He kept telling me that maybe I wasn't producing enough and she was just hungry all the time and I should give her bottles 🙄 I don't understand why this is a man thing.
Because if they cant fix/stop the crying then it must be for a reason they cant fix.
I'm assuming. H is pretty good in this regard.
Also D just woke me up from a deep sleep. I couldn't immediately remember going back to bed, and I didn't know where he was. It's terrifying and happens semi-regularly.
Hi I don’t go here yet (less than 6 weeks WHAT) but this happened to me a lot with P. I’d wake up and be so confused and convinced the pillow I was clutching onto was him. I frequently woke up thinking I’d fallen asleep and was practically on top of him. It was so scary. I’m sorry.
Because if they cant fix/stop the crying then it must be for a reason they cant fix.
I'm assuming. H is pretty good in this regard.
Also D just woke me up from a deep sleep. I couldn't immediately remember going back to bed, and I didn't know where he was. It's terrifying and happens semi-regularly.
Hi I don’t go here yet (less than 6 weeks WHAT) but this happened to me a lot with P. I’d wake up and be so confused and convinced the pillow I was clutching onto was him. I frequently woke up thinking I’d fallen asleep and was practically on top of him. It was so scary. I’m sorry.
Exactly! I dont know if I just, like, set him down somewhere random, if he's in bed with me, etc. All i know is I hear him from somewhere. Thankfully the answer is always in his crib where I left him, but it's several long seconds of panic while I come to.
D has started to just flat out refuse the bottle. I'm beside myself.
E2 did the same thing, starting about 7 weeks. It took a few weeks of trying different things. We switched bottles, nipples, and warmed the milk pretty warm.
What ended up working was Lansinoh nipples. Once we switched him to those, he guzzled the milk.
I had to work yesterday, and then had a girls' night right after work (to see a local outdoor production of Mamma Mia!, which was really fun). So H had E2 from wakeup to bedtime. I asked him how it went and he said they had a really good day yesterday, even though E2 only had one nap. H said bedtime wasn't bad either (probably because E2 only had one nap). And he didn't even use the extra bottle I left. H has a habit of trying to fix all crying with more food, so I left an extra bottle for him.
Btw, it was SO MUCH FUN hand pumping under a nursing cover through the first 30 minutes of a play. /sarcasm font.
D has started to just flat out refuse the bottle. I'm beside myself.
E2 did the same thing, starting about 7 weeks. It took a few weeks of trying different things. We switched bottles, nipples, and warmed the milk pretty warm.
What ended up working was Lansinoh nipples. Once we switched him to those, he guzzled the milk.
We scalded my milk this morning, in case he dislikes the formula as the root of the issue. He had been using these bottles (avent), so I don't necessarily think that's it. But I do have a dr browns (which he previously rejected). I can try warming the milk more too, though he isn't latching at all, not latching and then rejecting. Considering C was exclusively bottle fed, this is really hard on me.
Having a newborn with H was stressful for this reason. He kept telling me that maybe I wasn't producing enough and she was just hungry all the time and I should give her bottles 🙄 I don't understand why this is a man thing.
Because if they cant fix/stop the crying then it must be for a reason they cant fix.
I'm assuming. H is pretty good in this regard.
Also D just woke me up from a deep sleep. I couldn't immediately remember going back to bed, and I didn't know where he was. It's terrifying and happens semi-regularly.
This happens to me too it was really bad for the first couple of weeks, went away, and now it's back. Many times I've woken up in a panic and had to look at the monitor to make sure she was in her crib.
E2 did the same thing, starting about 7 weeks. It took a few weeks of trying different things. We switched bottles, nipples, and warmed the milk pretty warm.
What ended up working was Lansinoh nipples. Once we switched him to those, he guzzled the milk.
We scalded my milk this morning, in case he dislikes the formula as the root of the issue. He had been using these bottles (avent), so I don't necessarily think that's it. But I do have a dr browns (which he previously rejected). I can try warming the milk more too, though he isn't latching at all, not latching and then rejecting. Considering C was exclusively bottle fed, this is really hard on me.
E2 wasnt latching to the bottles at all either. That's why I think changing the nipple type helped. FWIW, Lansinoh Momma nipples fit on Avent bottles.
We scalded my milk this morning, in case he dislikes the formula as the root of the issue. He had been using these bottles (avent), so I don't necessarily think that's it. But I do have a dr browns (which he previously rejected). I can try warming the milk more too, though he isn't latching at all, not latching and then rejecting. Considering C was exclusively bottle fed, this is really hard on me.
E2 wasnt latching to the bottles at all either. That's why I think changing the nipple type helped. FWIW, Lansinoh Momma nipples fit on Avent bottles.
Because if they cant fix/stop the crying then it must be for a reason they cant fix.
I'm assuming. H is pretty good in this regard.
Also D just woke me up from a deep sleep. I couldn't immediately remember going back to bed, and I didn't know where he was. It's terrifying and happens semi-regularly.
This happens to me too it was really bad for the first couple of weeks, went away, and now it's back. Many times I've woken up in a panic and had to look at the monitor to make sure she was in her crib.
It apparently still happens to me almost every single night. I thought it was getting better and happening less often, but H just brought it up the other day and told me that I’m waking him up every night to ask him to help me check to make sure DD is okay. I have a history of sleep-talking, so I’m not surprised that I don’t always wake up enough to remember it in the morning.
My therapist did EMDR to help when I was having really vivid, graphic nightmares after DD was born. I’m going to talk to her at my next appointment to see if we can revisit that to work on the continued wake-ups, even though they aren’t tied to nightmares anymore.
Post by Patsy Baloney on Aug 25, 2019 20:19:15 GMT -5
The sleep rule that I often broke with DD and DS was sleeping with them in a recliner in their first few weeks of life. I’d prop pillows under both of my arms and smush us down into the chair, folding my arms across baby. It was just the only way to get good sleep and be able to feed quickly after a c-section.
Well, with my DS one night, I woke up to him SCREAMING in my arms. I start instinctively bouncing and shushing, trying to wake my H up so he can heat up a bottle (we all three slept in the living room until I was healed enough to lie flat in the bed), and I hear him shushing the baby and saying something like, “You need to burp buddy.”
He is already awake and feeding the baby, who I remembered was having a particularly good night sleeping in his bassinet. I look down and I am shushing and bouncing our cat, lol 😂
The sleep rule that I often broke with DD and DS was sleeping with them in a recliner in their first few weeks of life. I’d prop pillows under both of my arms and smush us down into the chair, folding my arms across baby. It was just the only way to get good sleep and be able to feed quickly after a c-section.
Well, with my DS one night, I woke up to him SCREAMING in my arms. I start instinctively bouncing and shushing, trying to wake my H up so he can heat up a bottle (we all three slept in the living room until I was healed enough to lie flat in the bed), and I hear him shushing the baby and saying something like, “You need to burp buddy.”
He is already awake and feeding the baby, who I remembered was having a particularly good night sleeping in his bassinet. I look down and I am shushing and bouncing our cat, lol 😂
I'm trying really hard not to laugh out loud at this cause I'm feeding the baby 😂