L is sick. Poor guy. So far he hasn’t had a fever when checking but he has a pretty bad cough (from the chest). At what point would you say go to a doctor? Or just ride it out at home? We’re travelling and in Canada so don’t have health insurance here or our regular doctor.
I was told to come in with a cough no matter what- I think before 4 months? I had NO IDEA. When DD (then around 8 weeks) got a cough I didn’t even plan to take her in because she seemed fine. My mom made me call and I had to bring her in right away so they could check her lungs and oxygen levels.
Post by farfalla2011 on Dec 23, 2019 22:35:21 GMT -5
More of a vent, but there was just a confirmed case of measles in our city, near where I work and at a few places I go occasionally. Thankfully I'm still on leave and haven't been in that area since I live in a (unfortunately close) suburb, but it totally makes me a bit paranoid about going out with L
DS is almost 7 months, but I'm feeling pissy all over again about the finances of maternity leave. I was paid during my leave, but my billing/revenue numbers were not prorated while I was out. We get quarterly bonuses based on revenue, which is a meaningful and planned part of my compensation. Q4 numbers just came out and I got hit hard there.
I've now been back to work post-baby for 5 months. My billings went back to full bore immediately when I returned. My revenue is back to normal this quarter as well. But for the 2nd quarter in a row, I don't get a bonus because my revenue is measured against a 52 week year, and I only worked 44 weeks (+8 week maternity leave) this year. My normal (/current) productivity level pulls in $10k+ per quarter in bonuses, so it's pretty easy to peg my 8 week leave to a cost of over $20k this year -- more than they paid me while on leave -- while killing myself for this productivity level. Add in 2x daycare tuition in order to kill myself trying, and I'm so freaking demoralized.
None of this is a surprise, it was the same with my last leave, but fuck, man. Financially, I am ready to see 2019 out the door. I guess at least income tax time should be good -- less income and more dependents?
Susie that would definitely be frustrating. Sorry 😞
DD has been waking up throughout the night because she loses her soother and cries until you pop it back in. She used to use her thumb, but she no longer does that. I am up 4-5x a night to replace a soother and it’s getting old real fast. I am pregnant and have a touch of insomnia, and it doesn’t help matters when I just fall asleep then have to go stick a soother in. I think I am going to have to break the soother habit, but am dreading it. This just started a week or two ago when she got her first tooth, so maybe it will be short lived, but I am doubting it.
My husband was diagnosed with influenza A yesterday after feeling like ass Christmas Eve and Day, so our pedi prescribed Tamiflu for Z just in case. Good thing she did because guess who started with low grade fever, cough, irritability etc yesterday afternoon? Poor thing is a sad panda for sure, and has been snoozing on and off all day.
Side note #1-any suggestions for getting liquid Tamiflu in a 6 month old? She's normally easy to give meds to but this stuff tastes like ass. I put it in a 3oz bottle but she was not a fan, going to try a 4-5 oz bottle at room temp because the Tamiflu is refrigerated and she doesn't love when her bottles are cold.
Side note #2-make sure spouses get their damn flu shots. We talked about it and then with me going back to work etc we both kinda forgot about it. My husband feels horrible about the possibility he got Z sick Thankfully AJ and I got ours at his 6 year well check and we're both feeling fine.
Post by farfalla2011 on Dec 28, 2019 22:12:44 GMT -5
OMG, the lack of sleep over here is nutty. Is this the dreaded 4 month sleep regression? L is 3.5 months old right now. I assume so, yes? He's been up every 2ish hours every night and is so hard to get to sleep in his crib the last couple nights. Last night I finally got him to sleep and let him sleep next to me in bed at midnight just so I could also sleep a bit. This was after almost a full day of refusing to nap.
It doesn't help that I have a cold and I think he may have it too
DS2's sleep is not getting better. He's 4.5 months. Last night he was up twice. The first time was at 10pm which is only 3 hours after he goes down. That makes me think we have more at play than hunger. My parents left this morning so tonight I'm letting him CIO. Possibly all night. I am so tired.
Post by lovelyshoes on Dec 30, 2019 9:01:48 GMT -5
We have been super sick here the entire month of December. It’s insane. The lack of sleep on top of being super sick is destroying me. I can’t wait until spring.
Poor D is teething hard. By the time we realized he needed meds it was bedtime, but I dont want to give him a new drug for the first time when I cant watch him. Thankfully he slept ok.
Unrelated, but stage one of sleep training is no feeds before 3 hours. He woke at 2:50 the other night. H thought there was a grace period. Nope!!
I'm starting to wonder if I should move DS2 from his Magic Merlin sleepsuit to a sleepsack. He's 4.5 months. We moved DS1 at 5 months, but he was mostly STTN at that point. I remember sleep got really bad for like 2 weeks when we did it, but since sleep is already bad maybe now's a good time to do it.....
DS2's sleep is not getting better. He's 4.5 months. Last night he was up twice. The first time was at 10pm which is only 3 hours after he goes down. That makes me think we have more at play than hunger. My parents left this morning so tonight I'm letting him CIO. Possibly all night. I am so tired.
You were STTN at 11 weeks!! WTF happened?!?!
E2 did the same thing. He STTN while still a newborn. Then 4 month regression hit and he's rarely STTN since.
Last night, he was up at 12:30 and again at 2:30. Since I refused to nurse him befor 4:30, I told H to go in and try. He was in there 10 minutes with no change in the crying. E2 literally cried off and on for 2 hours. He slept till 8 though, and so did I.
And E1 woke me at about 1 am because he wanted more water.
I am so tired.
ETA: we were out of town all last week visiting my family. Our first night, he was up every 2 hours. I nursed him back down each time. But every night after that, he woke only once, at about 3 or 4 am. *shrugs* until last night.
DS2's sleep is not getting better. He's 4.5 months. Last night he was up twice. The first time was at 10pm which is only 3 hours after he goes down. That makes me think we have more at play than hunger. My parents left this morning so tonight I'm letting him CIO. Possibly all night. I am so tired.
You were STTN at 11 weeks!! WTF happened?!?!
E2 did the same thing. He STTN while still a newborn. Then 4 month regression hit and he's rarely STTN since.
Last night, he was up at 12:30 and again at 2:30. Since I refused to nurse him befor 4:30, I told H to go in and try. He was in there 10 minutes with no change in the crying. E2 literally cried off and on for 2 hours. He slept till 8 though, and so did I.
And E1 woke me at about 1 am because he wanted more water.
I am so tired.
ETA: we were out of town all last week visiting my family. Our first night, he was up every 2 hours. I nursed him back down each time. But every night after that, he woke only once, at about 3 or 4 am. *shrugs* until last night.
It's so exhausting. It's also been challenging because we've either been travelling or had guests for like the past month so I have been really quick to nurse him just to get him to be quiet. My parents are still coming a few times this month and I know they can hear him in the basement (the heat ducts seem to let the sounds carry and I know my mom is judging me). UGH. I'm going to try to do some CIO between visits. LOL
We have the same experience, when I let him cry and refuse to feed he ends up alternating between crying and sleeping for hours until I give in. It doesn't make for very restful sleep for me.
Post by farfalla2011 on Dec 30, 2019 13:47:51 GMT -5
Since we're talking about crap sleep, at what point have you stopped swaddling? L busts his arms out of it either when fighting sleep or when he wakes up, so it makes me nervous still having him swaddled. But, I'm more worried about him constantly scratching his face! Anytime I've let him be in the crib without being swaddled, he scratches himself:/ how do you make the scratching stop?
Since we're talking about crap sleep, at what point have you stopped swaddling? L busts his arms out of it either when fighting sleep or when he wakes up, so it makes me nervous still having him swaddled. But, I'm more worried about him constantly scratching his face! Anytime I've let him be in the crib without being swaddled, he scratches himself:/ how do you make the scratching stop?
With both kids we moved to the Magic Merlin Sleep Suit around 8 weeks or so. With DS1 we kept him in that until 5 months. DS2 is still in it at 4.5, but I'm thinking of transitioning him to a sleep sack. I think it's more about when their startle reflex goes away than scratching. I'd just cut his nails short and hope for the best when you transition. If he's regularly breaking out then it's probably time to find a new solution (different swaddle or a sleep sack). Once they roll you have to stop swaddling.
Post by farfalla2011 on Dec 30, 2019 14:06:05 GMT -5
I do use the halo swaddle/sleep sack, I guess I need to leave at least an arm out. I know this transition is coming, I'm just slightly in denial because he likes rubbing his eyes when not swaddled, so I know it's going to making sleeping a bit rougher. But, I have downloaded TCB and plan to start implementing once my dad leaves on Thursday, if not sooner and I'm guessing getting out of the swaddle will probably be good timing as any with implementing new sleep stuff. And I'm sure rolling over is in our near future anyway based on how he plays during the day.
Post by icedcoffee on Dec 30, 2019 14:09:19 GMT -5
farfalla2011, Yeah I think we'll be rolling soon (he's already doing it accidentally) so I'm thinking since he's such a shitty sleeper all of a sudden maybe we should just do all the transitions at once and ditch the Merlin suit. Haha.
Since we're talking about crap sleep, at what point have you stopped swaddling? L busts his arms out of it either when fighting sleep or when he wakes up, so it makes me nervous still having him swaddled. But, I'm more worried about him constantly scratching his face! Anytime I've let him be in the crib without being swaddled, he scratches himself:/ how do you make the scratching stop?
We switched to the merlin at 12 weeks I think. I love that thing and not just for how cute he looks. He started rolling this week but doesn’t roll in the merlin so we have more time with it.
Since we're talking about crap sleep, at what point have you stopped swaddling? L busts his arms out of it either when fighting sleep or when he wakes up, so it makes me nervous still having him swaddled. But, I'm more worried about him constantly scratching his face! Anytime I've let him be in the crib without being swaddled, he scratches himself:/ how do you make the scratching stop?
We still use clothes with mitten cuffs so baby doesn't scratch her face.
farfalla2011 , DS has some of the Cloud Island footie pj's from Target, and they still have the cuffs over the hands through size 6-9m (which he currently wears). Sleeves like that might solve your scratching problem?
We were using Halo Swaddle sacks when he started rolling back to belly right at 4m. We started wrapping the swaddle wrap with arms out at that point, and then moved to regular Halo sleep sacks when he grew from 3-6m to 6-12m size. It went smoothly, similar to with DD before him. There was just one or two nights of him getting onto his belly and getting stuck there and crying for a rescue. Then he got ok with being on his belly once he flipped himself there.
Whyyyyyy do I keep getting clogs in the same place on my breast? Left breast, between 9 o'clock and 11 o'clock. Oddly, not the same place where I had mastitis last month, but I do keep getting recurrent clogs here, and I did have mastitis here when E2 was 3 weeks old.
I don't wear underwire, ever. While I am a side sleeper, I flip from side to side. I am inconsistent with taking my lecithin. E2 generally nurses in cradle position but now that he's more mobile, is starting to engage in some gymnurstics and positions are starting to get crazy.
With E1, I know I had recurrent clogged ducts too, but I don't recall them being in the same place all the time.
DD will be three months on the third. Her neck seems super strong when we’re holding her up or she’s on her back. Tummy time though? She just kind of kicks around and grunts and doesn’t really lift her head. Should I be concerned? I feel guilty that I haven’t been great with tummy time with her. It’s so hard with DS (2.5) needing so much attention. I’m feeling like I’ve failed her a bit.
If I lift her chest off the ground she holds her head really steady but she’s just not pushing up by herself.
I hate to compare them but I can’t help it. This is what DS looked like doing tummy time at this age Vs DD.
pooh8402 , I got a nasty clog yesterday, totally out of the blue. I didn't have problems with it with DD, and I've been nursing DS for almost 7 months now. Came on during the day when I was wearing a nursing tank, so no underwire, so what gives? My best guess for cause is DS bit me yesterday AM with his one new tooth, and it swelled a bit. Anyway, solidarity in that it sucks. A friend told me she had luck clearing them by massaging it with the back of the head of an electric toothbrush and then nursing/pumping, and as weird as it sounds, that was the thing that worked last night when nothing else did. Also, lol at gymnurstics.
knx9211 , if she has the strength but just hates tummy time, I would try not to worry yet. It's funny the things babies do/don't do. My DS has been in PT for almost 5 of his 7 months, first torticollis and then low tone, so I have been super angsty about all those milestones. The weirdo rolled back to front at 4m, still almost never rolls front to back (will be 7m on Wed), and is now getting up on all 4s like to crawl. Guess I should spare myself the worry about the rolling specifically.
knx9211 , if she has the strength but just hates tummy time, I would try not to worry yet. It's funny the things babies do/don't do. My DS has been in PT for almost 5 of his 7 months, first torticollis and then low tone, so I have been super angsty about all those milestones. The weirdo rolled back to front at 4m, still almost never rolls front to back (will be 7m on Wed), and is now getting up on all 4s like to crawl. Guess I should spare myself the worry about the rolling specifically.
I mean I think she does? Ha. I just held her more upright against my chest and she pulled her head back so it seems she’s using those muscles. I’ll just try to be more conscious of working on it. I’m always the one telling people to remain calm about milestones and now I’m the one freaking out!
DD got her 2mo shots this afternoon, and omg my poor girl. I must’ve blocked out these memories with DS. When she’s been awake she’s inconsolable and doesn’t even want to nurse. I just got her back to sleep after almost an hour of hysterical crying. /sob
Took Z to the pedi for a possible ear infection today...ears were clear so yay but she texted positive for flu A I'm not shocked since J has/had it last week but at the same time I was hoping it was just a cold. At least she's on Tamiflu already? My mom's willing to take her tomorrow since she's already had her flu shot (sitter got hers last week) so at least I can go to work tomorrow. I NEED to go to work. AJ and I are at each other's damn throats 😬
Funny note- I just heard her load up her diaper (she's in her bouncer) and now she's giggling. Here we go...
Since we're talking about crap sleep, at what point have you stopped swaddling? L busts his arms out of it either when fighting sleep or when he wakes up, so it makes me nervous still having him swaddled. But, I'm more worried about him constantly scratching his face! Anytime I've let him be in the crib without being swaddled, he scratches himself:/ how do you make the scratching stop?
I don’t remember exactly when, maybe at 10- 12 weeks, we switched to the Zipadeezip so it kept DS from startling but allowed him to get his covered hands to his mouth.