I’m just not feeling me.

[swiftlyirun]

This pregnancy has been so strange. I was sick with my first two, but this time around, I almost feel depressed. Like I can’t control my emotions, I’m slightly irrational and on top of it I have felt like garbage (terrible headaches and mild nausea) since like 5 weeks. I feel like all the emotions started a few weeks ago after a few weeks of feeling rough, but MAN. To top it off I also just feel entirely disconnected from this pregnancy. It’s hard to imagine life with a 3rd suddenly


Remind me- how much of this is normal?

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[aprilsails]

This is definitely in the range of normal. One of my good friends struggles with pre-partum anxiety and depression with each pregnancy. She also develops PPD generally so she keeps closely in touch with her OB and her support network throughout the process. Otherwise she’s a really level headed individual. I suggested something might be up during her first pregnancy since she felt very disconnected from the entire process.

As a first step, I would reach out to your OB to discuss what supports might be available. Hormones suck. I’m sorry you are struggling. Big hugs to you.

[swiftlyirun]

Jul 21, 2019 20:13:53 GMT -5 aprilsails said:

This is definitely in the range of normal. One of my good friends struggles with pre-partum anxiety and depression with each pregnancy. She also develops PPD generally so she keeps closely in touch with her OB and her support network throughout the process. Otherwise she’s a really level headed individual. I suggested something might be up during her first pregnancy since she felt very disconnected from the entire process.

As a first step, I would reach out to your OB to discuss what supports might be available. Hormones suck. I’m sorry you are struggling. Big hugs to you.

Thank you for this.

I think that’s the thing that’s really gotten me this time, I’m so disconnected. Telling people I’m pregnant feels like a chore. I am excited, but I don’t feel it. I’m not sure if that makes sense. It’s like these emotions of anxiety or depression just cloud my ability to feel anything. I have my 10w appointment Tuesday so I’ll definitely bring it up then.

[hamster]

I definitely felt disconnected from my pregnancy. I got pregnant (intentionally) at 10 months postpartum. It sort of just felt like a means to an end. In top of that I was extremely high strung about developing pre-eclampsia and another NICU baby, part of which involved a very high maintenance diet as a preventative. Too top it off we didnt have a name until like, 35 weeks so he was just "baby".

Depression in pregnancy is real though. I would talk to your OB about how you are feeling, especially if your gut says it feels beyond normal.

[shoeless]

I don’t know what’s normal and what’s not- but I can tell you you’re not alone. I really wish I would have said something to my doctor early on- I just kept telling myself things would get better. I’m two weeks from delivering and nothing has been unmanageable but I haven’t been as happy, excited, connected as I was with my first pregnancy. I’ve warned H to be on alert for PPD signs at this point.

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This is worth bringing up with your OB. I’d definitely advise therapy and recommend an evaluation to determine if medication is appropriate. Perinatal depression is vastly under diagnosed, but it’s very real.

Good luck.

[puppylove64]

Thank you all for this! I have been feeling the same way and thought something was wrong, or I shouldn’t have gotten pregnant, then feel bad cause I wanted this. I feel slightly better that I can blame my hormones being wonky. I will talk to the dr at my appointment too.

[knx9211]

I feel very disconnected from this pregnancy in comparison to when I was pregnant with DS, and I feel SO guilty about it. It makes me feel better to know that this isn’t uncommon.