Thursday Updates and Minors

[mommyatty]

AKA TWERKS and DDOTS.

We have internet and they pulled the hanging wire so now it’s fence-height. So at least my kids can’t jump up and grab it.

I have an appointment tomorrow to spend an hour going over my resume with a resume writer. I’m hoping he can help.

[mustardseed2007]

mommyatty, wow where did you find one? I want to do this. I'm no longer looking at the moment but I feel like I should really get some help just in general.

DDOT: DD is starting a new pre k next year (at the same school her brother goes to). This group wants to do a big playdate but even though the moms all kind of work (part, full, from home - it varies), they want to do them on a Thursday at 9am or whatever. And since it's private school some of them live pretty far out there. I just....no. I'm not going to a suburb 30 minutes away from me and the school on a thursday at 9 am. Sorry.

[twinmomma]

I'm currently trying to figure out how to get rid of a stuffy nose/cold as soon as humanly possible. I'm on the tail end of it, but I have an amazing date lined up for tomorrow night and really don't want to show up with that weird congested, stuffy nose voice. Not appealing. Any remedies are welcome!

As for the date - he's a chef and he's taking me on a lake side picnic that he planned and cooked for. I'm swooning already. lol 

[rere]

So our legislature voted to take us out of the pension system. This would freeze my benefits and instead of retiring in 7 years, it would be 20. Our hope is that:
1. Our supreme court ruled that those in the system have an invoidable contract and benefits cannot be altered. If this is the case, why did they even pass it.
2. Lawsuits on the above and procedural issues.
3. This governor looses the election in November. Red state, one issue voters, but hopefully he's pissed enough people off. All state workers, teachers, firefighters, police, etc.
3. My director and board opts to stay in the system which is a good possibility.
The fight goes on.

DD is loving volleyball. She is still not really talking much, but comes home with stories every day. Apparently everyone is in a better mood in the afternoon than 6am. The coach called her a secret weapon yesterday because she is so quiet. She thinks the other teams will target her because she is quiet, but little do they know she can dig out almost anything.

[waverly]

twinmomma, Neti pot and or saline spray and decongestant or mucinex for the nose. Mucinex if the mucus is really thick. Decongestant if it is runny.

Decaf hot tea with honey for the voice.

[mommyatty]

twinmomma- Afrin. Not the squeeze bottle. The one you spray By pushing down the top. My allergist told me to use it to open up my sinuses before I fly so I don’t get ear problems and sinus infections.

librarychica- I found him through LinkedIn Profinder.

[waverly]

Update: My dad flies in today. He will see my sister Sat, I think. No word from him about the big fight with the girlfriend. Personally I think the girlfriend is a bit nutty. She thinks we can care for him or keep him in the U.S. It's impossible to care for him when he lives on another continent, and we can't tell a grown person where to live unless maybe they were ready for a nursing home which is not the case. She is just being dramatic.

[covergirl82]

MIL mentioned last Saturday (when she came over for DS's family b-day party) that her apartment complex is changing from government subsidized to non-gov't subsidized. I got a recommendation from a friend at work for a gov't subsidized senior apartment complex, and found another one that gets great reviews, so I sent those (separately) to MIL. After the second one, she was non-responsive. I think she took offense to me sending her senior complexes, because she doesn't consider herself "old" (she's 62), and because she never responded after the 2nd text. I had no intention of making her feel "old", but I think she'd have a better experience in a senior complex (quieter, fewer druggies (there was actually a meth explosion a couple years ago at her current complex), safer, and a better chance that it wouldn't be sold and unsubsidized in the future. Oh well...sorry, MIL, you're not living with us so I'm just trying to help!

[mommyatty]

Another update. DS had his first tutoring session with his kindergarten teacher for next year. She said he did an awesome job and isn’t the least bit behind. She said her biggest area of concern is that last year most of the time when she saw him he was playing by himself. This was a surprise to me since we asked his pre-k teacher multiple times about his social development, and she said he played well with other kids, sought them out, and they sought him out. Which is cementing my belief that his pre-k teacher had no fucking clue about my kid. K teacher said she would keep an eye on it, and would possibly recommend play therapy if he appeared to be struggling. But she said he appeared to have been more social during summer camp so it was likely he was growing out of it.

[campermom]

My tummy tuck consult was originally scheduled for December but I have moved it up to 8/14. I'm also inquiring about possible breast augmentation and/or inner thigh lipo. It's going to increase the cost dramatically so I'm not set on anything yet. I have 3 consultations for the same day and my H is coming with me.

You guys....(if you recall my past posts years ago) I'm shocked and amazed at his level of support. I know a lot of it is bc we won't feel the effect of the money right now since I'm just not contributing to retirement for a while and taking that money into savings for this. In fact, the other day he spontaneously mentioned that he would be willing to change his contributions in order to get there faster. You have NO idea how huge this is for him.

Still planning on April as the surgery time but trying to figure out who to go to and how much it will cost.

[xctsclrx]

campermom, Please tell me all about this consult when it happens. It is something I have been considering. (thank you DD)

I am probably 5 years out from one if I do it.

[186momx]

DDOT: DD's practice just got cancelled. Her coach broke a tooth and is having emergency dental procedure this afternoon. Ouch! The head team coach has been on vacation the last 2 weeks and since she has left there has been one disaster after another. Coach JJ (26) got shingles, office lady popped her calf muscles leading into her knee, now Coach J with dental issues leaves 1 team coach. I was told that they would just practice an extra day next week and we would find out on Monday which day.

[supertrooper1]

STBXH's 99 year old grandfather is sedated and is in his last days. His grandmother passed away last month at the age of 97 and the family plans to do a joint funeral. I don't know how to support the family other than to send a card and attend the funeral, but I guess that is all that I would do if STBXH and I were still together.

[librarychica]

My last two attempts to hire a part-time (18 hours) babysitter have failed because I won’t pay under the table. This wasn’t a problem when I was hiring a full time nanny years ago. Le sigh. Thankfully school doesn’t start for another 3 weeks.

My husband is annoying me because he does yard work and then leaves bags of yard waste and his dirty clothing and shoes on the patio. I just cleaned and pressure washed that patio!

HR screwed up my paperwork for going back full time and now my timecard is all wrong and I can’t complete it. No one I need is in the office.

My parents say if I move back to my hometown they’d take care of getting the kids off the bus and putting them on it when H travels. Pros: lots of outdoor activities, lower cost of living. Cons: schools are just okay (middle school especially concerning) and it would double my commute (though my hours are more flexible and I WFH 1 or 2 days a week now, compared to when I started). Plus the girls would have a family reputation to deal with, not a thing in the busier and highly transient area we currently live.

[waverly]

librarychica , what kind of family reputation, are you all gangsters or something?

Do they really mean what they say? I am wary of moving back and then 2 weeks into it, they don't want to anymore and the longer commute/ schools.

Overall, it sounds like it might be a better community because it is less transient. Any way to get insight into the schools?

[librarychica]

Jul 25, 2019 15:30:43 GMT -5 waverly said:

librarychica , what kind of family reputation, are you all gangsters or something?

Do they really mean what they say? I am wary of moving back and then 2 weeks into it, they don't want to anymore and the longer commute/ schools.

Overall, it sounds like it might be a better community because it is less transient. Any way to get insight into the schools?

Just the usual “small town everyone knows everyone, your junior high art teacher dated your dad, whose sheet music you are still using 30 years later and, your grandmother held a 20 year grudge against the mayor because he shutdown the hair salon she ran out of the garage and, btw, everyone knows every family ‘secret’ y’all ever had” type family reputation. Not like a reputation of my family specifically, just that a lot of people have known one another for generations.

I don’t think my parents would renege. My dad especially is extremely reliable and neither is very overbearing with their childrearing opinions. When I first went back to work my mother drove 45 minutes each way to watch DD1 twice a week just because she wanted to and that was before dad retired. There might be some bickering about the level of snacks they’re allowed, but when they chips are down they defer to my judgement. My H works from home when he isn’t traveling so as the kids get older they could definitely hang out while he finishes up a couple of times a week so that they only had them 2 or 3 afternoons for a couple hours. (He also owns the company so this wouldn’t be against any policy.) It would be most helpful during the 25-50% of the time he travels which, well, you know how it is.

I went to the schools there but a)they’ve added a couple and b)that is out of date info. It’s a newly “discovered” burb and I know some people who’ve moved there recently, so I’ve reached out for newer info.

[librarychica]

Jul 25, 2019 9:51:12 GMT -5 mommyatty said:

twinmomma- Afrin. Not the squeeze bottle. The one you spray By pushing down the top. My allergist told me to use it to open up my sinuses before I fly so I don’t get ear problems and sinus infections.

librarychica- I found him through LinkedIn Profinder.

mustardseed2007, I think this is for you.

[mustardseed2007]

ha ha thanks mommyatty, and librarychica.

mommyatty, let me know if you think he's worth it.

[mae0111]

DD1 has only had two major meltdowns this week. Guys - this is huge!

DH is coming around to the fact that our town is imploding and that we need to move. We paid well below market for our house do we could stand to make a good chunk of money if we sell, but the two towns we like are $$$$$$$$. We would spend 50% more than what we paid here, and about 15% more than we will get when we sell. People are still running to this town because the services in the schools are very good (23% of students are on IEPs, vs 11% statewide), but we are on the upper end of the price range.

A week from tomorrow, DH and the kids leave for a camping trip. They will be gone for 6 days. SIX. DAYS. And I will be home alone. Sweet freedom!!

[traveltheworld]

Tomorrow is my last day at work before my vacation and I can't wait! DH starts his contract position right after we get back so this will be our last bit of uninterrupted family time before summer ends. We are just going back to our old city and will be staying with DH's parents. But we'll see all of our friends and DH's parents are super chill and helpful, so I'm also looking forward to some alone time with DH. He hasn't had a single call for an interview other than this contract position he got, so I think after this ends, it'll be a tough slug again; so I'm trying really hard to just enjoy this "care free" time.

Another DDOT: DS and DD have been playing so we'll together. They can now entertain themselves for hours, with only minimal crying from DD. It's so nice.

[covergirl82]

mae0111, enjoy your 6 glorious days home alone!! MH is taking the kids camping this weekend, but they'll only be gone 48 hours. Just long enough for me to paint the porch railing and hopefully binge-watch some shows.

[mae0111]

covergirl82 enjoy your weekend!! I’m fully expecting to have to pick up a kid early from the trip, so I’m assuming it won’t be 6 days. But whatever I get will be amazing! DD1 is still melting down here and there, and if she can’t keep it together, we’ve agreed that she’s coming home. And DD2 has never been camping, so I’m not sure about the whole sleeping-through-noise thing for her. But a couple of days will still be great!!!

[supertrooper1]

librarychica, sounds like my hometown...lol. I grew up in a town of about 250 people.

[k3am]

One of the guys I worked really closely with for 5 years died under sketchy circumstances. I have been fielding text messages and questions from people I haven’t heard from in a while.

No one knows anything for certain and it’s all a lot of speculation... but at the same time, based on where they found him, there is no chance it was something run of the mill like a heart attack.

I feel so terrible for his girlfriend and family. I can’t imagine what they’re going through.

[librarychica]

That’s terrible, k3am! I’m so sorry about your coworker.

[librarychica]

Jul 26, 2019 10:02:28 GMT -5 supertrooper1 said:

librarychica, sounds like my hometown...lol. I grew up in a town of about 250 people.

Lol, not even close to that small though maybe when my dad was a kid. It has rapidly become part of the greater sprawl in the last few decades but the character of the place was very small town. My mom says it has gotten a lot more accepting since I’ve left, though.