Week of 8/19 Randoms

[aurora]

Aug 20, 2019 10:14:18 GMT -5 lahoagie said:

Aug 20, 2019 9:16:01 GMT -5 WOT?* said:

I hope it's a good ending because that next-level bullshit in the hiring doesn't bode well for women in the industry. And the part where you took it to the folks who needed to hear it and were blown off? Even shittier. I hope she works out and is awesome, or that this is an excellent springboard for her if they continue on the path they started with here.

On the non-positive side, I am also looking for a new job. I am not okay with being blown off. They only come to me when another women leaves the group asking me to figure out what is wrong. I am only a couple years from having enough money to quit so I only have to deal with this bullshit for a little longer.

For some reason, this time has broken me. I have cried for basically 4 days straight. Not sure why I can’t stop.

It blows my mind how my employer can't understand that blatantly making things harder for specific women impacts the perceptions of other women who observe and come to the conclusion that the deck is attacked* against us.

Just because that specific gender-based discrimination event was targeted at my colleague, not me, doesn't mean it doesn't have an impact on me.

ETA I hope you get an awesome new job and feel better soon.

ETA2 oops , "attacked" should be "stacked"

[aurora]

Aug 21, 2019 9:34:09 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

Aug 21, 2019 9:30:56 GMT -5 @angryharpy said:

X-rays catch ordinary fractures. But stress fractures and lots of different soft tissue injuries generally require an MRI. There are a lot of things other than a fracture that could explain your pain. Hopefully an MRI will get you on the path to feeling better!

Yeah, when I had stress fractures while running, I couldn't remember if x-rays or MRIs caught them (so long ago, sigh). But also with that experience (and my more recent experience with plantar fasciitis), I could tell *something* is wrong given the sharpness and the small size and easily-pinpointed location of the area affected. I also injured it in the dumbest way possible - during Zumba class. I am so uncoordinated. 

I'm just glad at least an MRI will likely put these questions to rest.

I remember when I had a stress fracture in high school my doctor told me an x-ray would pick it up after a month or so because what it could see was the extra bone from healing. In my case I didn't get an MRI because it wouldn't have changed my treatment plan, which was to stop running.

I hope your foot feels better soon.

[2curlydogs]

Aug 21, 2019 7:05:03 GMT -5 wawa said:

We're in the final stages of prep for our next bike trip. Which starts and ends in Vermont, but includes a section in Canada. Because we're us, we've had a packing list in a Google sheet for months. Down to the GNATS ASS.

We were reviewing the list after a test overnight to see what we needed to change H suddenly made a weird face, wrote something down, and then handed me the laptop.

Passports. We seriously were going to forget passports. That would have been UGLY.

True story: We were going on a Caribbean cruise with my family and made it all the way to the airport before realizing we had forgotten we needed to pack our passports.

Pretty sure my husband broke the sound barrier driving home and back to get them before our flight. Thank god they weren't expired?

[2curlydogs]

I'm going to a wake tonight. Except I forgot to pack appropriate clothes to change into. I'm currently in my "running around in a construction site" uniform of jeans and hiking boots because... I'm spending my days running around a construction site.

My top is probably appropriate? 



I was thinking I'd pair it with a skirt and some dress flats that I'll have to buy on the way there?

I'm an idiot. 

[mbcdefg]

Aug 21, 2019 11:23:17 GMT -5 2curlydogs said:

I'm going to a wake tonight. Except I forgot to pack appropriate clothes to change into. I'm currently in my "running around in a construction site" uniform of jeans and hiking boots because... I'm spending my days running around a construction site.

My top is probably appropriate? 



I was thinking I'd pair it with a skirt and some dress flats that I'll have to buy on the way there?

I'm an idiot. 

A guy came to my dad’s wake straight from the gym, sweaty and in shorts and a tank top. He was a former student of my dad’s, and apologized profusely to us for his attire. He said he had literally just heard that my dad died and wanted to get to the wake before it closed. Trust me, we were just grateful that he thought enough of my dad to show up. Couldn’t say the same for a lot of “friends” (including the girl I went to HS with who was broadcasting the news on Facebook before his body was even cold).

[calamity]

Aug 20, 2019 18:37:30 GMT -5 secretlyevil said:

I’ve been told I should check out Brene Brown’s books. A cursory search didn’t show any skeletons in her closet.

Anyone have anything different about her?

I've watched some of her TED talks and really like her, haven't heard anything bad about her!

[wawa]

Aug 21, 2019 11:18:57 GMT -5 2curlydogs said:

Aug 21, 2019 7:05:03 GMT -5 wawa said:

We're in the final stages of prep for our next bike trip. Which starts and ends in Vermont, but includes a section in Canada. Because we're us, we've had a packing list in a Google sheet for months. Down to the GNATS ASS.

We were reviewing the list after a test overnight to see what we needed to change H suddenly made a weird face, wrote something down, and then handed me the laptop.

Passports. We seriously were going to forget passports. That would have been UGLY.

True story: We were going on a Caribbean cruise with my family and made it all the way to the airport before realizing we had forgotten we needed to pack our passports.

Pretty sure my husband broke the sound barrier driving home and back to get them before our flight. Thank god they weren't expired?

Knowing that we have similar spreadsheet based approaches to life, this weirdly makes me feel much less dumb. Common blind spot...?

[2curlydogs]

Aug 21, 2019 11:31:56 GMT -5 wawa said:

Aug 21, 2019 11:18:57 GMT -5 2curlydogs said:

True story: We were going on a Caribbean cruise with my family and made it all the way to the airport before realizing we had forgotten we needed to pack our passports.

Pretty sure my husband broke the sound barrier driving home and back to get them before our flight. Thank god they weren't expired?

Knowing that we have similar spreadsheet based approaches to life, this weirdly makes me feel much less dumb. Common blind spot...?

Now I'm thinking it was Canada we were going to? I know it was a family trip because my siblings were like "You moron." 


I'm hella frazzled today, completely focused on this damn building. It doesn't help that it's humid as fuck out. Yay WI in August. 

[pixy0stix]

I have a form that I'm using for a program this is just awful. It's a bunch of tables in word. When they asked for suggestions I said, "You can either have it look pretty, or you can have it function if you keep it in word. I suggest stripping out all the tables." They didn't like my idea very much because "we share it with other entities". I then said, "If you want it to look pretty, then create it in photoshop and print it as a pdf to share." To which I was told, "We weren't given a photoshop or adobe license." At which point I *almost* volunteered to use my personal license to create the damn form, but I kept my mouth shut.

[pixy0stix]

2curlydogs, that shirt is perfectly acceptable.

[BlondeSpiders]

Aug 21, 2019 7:05:03 GMT -5 wawa said:

We're in the final stages of prep for our next bike trip. Which starts and ends in Vermont, but includes a section in Canada. Because we're us, we've had a packing list in a Google sheet for months. Down to the GNATS ASS.

We were reviewing the list after a test overnight to see what we needed to change H suddenly made a weird face, wrote something down, and then handed me the laptop.

Passports. We seriously were going to forget passports. That would have been UGLY.

After weeks of meticulous planning, we actually showed up at the dock to board our Alaskan cruise (with a stop in Victoria BC) and I forgot my passport.

Luckily, we live about 25 minutes away from the port, so I was able to get a Lyft home to grab it with plenty of time to spare.

But man, did I feel stooooooopiiiiiiid.

[BlondeSpiders]

I know it's late and the board is dead but I rarely have free time before 3 (PST)!

I'm super annoyed at my team. I've heard the recruiters complain endlessly about how hiring managers don't take the interviews we set up for them seriously. I'll coordinate an interview with 6 or more people (1 or 2 at a time) and someone will inevitably forget, and the candidate sits alone in the interview room confused, and it makes us look shitty.

But when it comes to hiring people in our department, our recruiters and HRBPs absolutely could not be bothered. I've scheduled phone interviews for them, only for the candidate to email because no one called. This happened twice, when the recruiter missed the first call, and then blew off the RESCHEDULED call. Would you want to work for a company that had so little respect for your time? I know we are hiring for some very entry level positions, but these people are reporting directly to you; don't blow off your time and say, "other HRBP can talk to them, I don't care." I want to tell these people to RUN away!

I myself am a temp, and I have 2.5 weeks left. At one point I spoke with my team about finding another position I could transition into, but now I would not consider it. I really hope all HR departments are not as dysfunctional as this one, but I'm not holding out much hope.

[just]

Today went well! It was long, but considering there was 964 of us, it was well organized and only about 2 hours - There was 4 blocks of a line to get into the building though!

The judge was very pro-immigrant and often mentioned the current anti-immigrant culture and how important immigrants were to the US, and when talking about how we got here, mentioned walking across the southern border.

I got teary when I was asked to renounce other 'potentates' but appreciated when the judge reminded us that our oath renounced loyalties to previous governments - not to culture, heritage or family.





I also found out that my DH has organized a surprise dinner on Friday with a few friends to celebrate. I'm actually really happy that he thought of it, and even more happy that he told me so that it isn't actually a surprise!

[mrsukyankee]

just, congratulations!

I just interviewed for a full time position at the university (I work there as a sessional worker and don't have contracted hours, which gives flexibility but I don't get any benefits or guaranteed pay). I think it went okay but it's tough to interview with people you've been working with for five years. I don't expect to actually get it as there are some fabulous sessional workers with lots of experience, so it's just good practice of interviewing (which I haven't had to do in almost 5 years).

[StrawberryBlondie]

I'm going to the State Fair today.

I'll be spending the morning planning my eating.

[WOT?*]

Thank you to all those who forgot their passports. I'm leaving for my first ever cruise at oh-dark-thirty and need to pack...including my passport. Any hints are welcome.

Congratulations just Those pictures are beautiful to see.

I miss my dog. He's been at boarding for the past six days. It's just not the same without him. So quiet, even with a houseful. It's going to be *really* quiet when it's just me this afternoon while H is at work and the last of my guests have straggled off to other destinations.

I get to work at the fair for my legislative district the morning after I get back from the cruise. (We actually have two "state" fairs going on this week. One is more local and only a week, the other is the "big" fair - right on down to having a "thefair.com" for their website - and about an hour further that lasts all month.) Looking forward to fair fare and all the assorted fried foods. I'm not planning on rushing it this time out and regretting my food choices because of long lines. That's precisely why I chose the morning shift, so I could spend the afternoon finding the better food booths. lol. StrawberryBlondie

[winecat]

Aug 21, 2019 9:15:25 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

Aug 20, 2019 14:32:40 GMT -5 winecat said:

I have a pissed off bride. She wants a refund. They expected me to jump a curb in my bus. She and her wedding planner didn’t answer my questions about access before the wedding. It was awful and her email was full of false statements. Thankfully I have some receipts but damn I don’t want to deal with this.

It wasn't just any curb, either. She and her planner are being dumb.

I had events back to back so today was the first day I could respond.  She got pissed yesterday afternoon and sent me another email.  She's now accusing me of stealing and has "engaged her law firm."  

[ChillyMcFreeze]

WOT?*

1. You won't wear nearly as many outfits as you think you will, especially if you're spending time at the pool. 
2. Even if heels look really pretty with your dinner dress, don't do it. Your wobbly legs will thank you.
3. Pack a sweatshirt/warm sweater for lounging. The air conditioning can be aggressive.

[winecat]

Finally saw my neighbor outside today and gave him the city's form that I signed and told him why I wouldn't sign the other form. He offered to cross out the word "access" and I still said no because of my experience with contractors. He said he understood. I told him that if the city's form won't suffice, to let me know. The architect on the form is also the GC. I couldn't find his license but could only search for his name and the architecture firm name since that's all the info I have.

[eponinepontmercy]

I got banned from a local news facebook page after I posted a comment making fun of a post that was just a White House press release. I went to look at it this morning, but my comment was deleted and I couldn't comment or like anything. I am dying. 

[taratru]

I started with a new therapist today. She is SO pretty. I really like her, though, so I'm not going to do my usual "be intimidated" shit. We are starting EMDR next week for my mom's death in 1982. I'm terrified, but in a good way.

[mbcdefg]

My paycheck is now a week late.

[2curlydogs]

mbcdefg - that's completely ridiculous. I'd go to your accounts payable or HR office and demand they cut you a check.

[mbcdefg]

Aug 23, 2019 9:37:52 GMT -5 2curlydogs said:

mbcdefg - that's completely ridiculous. I'd go to your accounts payable or HR office and demand they cut you a check.

I received it in the mail today.

PDQ:

The issue is that I work remote

[ChillyMcFreeze]

I was feeling stressed about all our debt (student loans, credit cards, and two mortgages until we can sell), but then I realized that we probably won't even have a planet to live on in 20 years, so who cares? Keep making those minimum payments, baby!

[winecat]

I sent my reply to the bride. One bff is a lawyer who told me what to address and the other is a mediator who softened the language so that it's nice but firm. Cross your fingers that this is the end. I will be updating my contract.

[mrsukyankee]

winecat, good luck!

[jigsy]

Aug 23, 2019 10:31:31 GMT -5 ChillyMcFreeze said:

I was feeling stressed about all our debt (student loans, credit cards, and two mortgages until we can sell), but then I realized that we probably won't even have a planet to live on in 20 years, so who cares? Keep making those minimum payments, baby!

Is this not a good strategy? Because I'm sitting right next to you and really...whatever. In 20 years, if it turns out that my biggest worry is that I don't have a fully funded retirement account, I will count that as a win. 

[taratru]

I just started Years and Years. Holy shit.

[StrawberryBlondie]

DH and I are going to see The Farewell tomorrow night. So excited!