I hate the first day back after vacation, or even a long weekend. E1 did NOT want to go to daycare this morning and spent about 30 minutes tantruming. I had to sit on him to brush his teeth, and carried him literally kicking and screaming to his car seat. Thank goodness I'm still strong enough to overpower him to buckle him in. I did not have time to wait for him to calm down today. Which he did finally do, about halfway through the car ride.
I'm also going to be a pumping cow today, since I'm collecting breastmilk for a study on zyrtec, being done by Infant Risk (they're semi local to me). They want me to collect at hour zero (aka right before I take my med), hour 1, hour 2, 4, 6, 8, 10, 12, then at hour 24. So that was fun trying to pump 3 times this morning, feed E2, and care for E1. They want 10 minute pumps too, to make sure I'm collecting hindmilk. My supply should look nicer in the next couple days though, lol.
Oh good lord pooh8402, that pumping schedule sounds rough!
DS is stressing me out. It appears to my untrained eye that his torticollis is not improving. The worst is when he does tummy time, he keeps picking his head up exclusively looking right, and can't even seem to bring it to center.
I'm really struggling with our daycare/work day routine with two kids, and am struggling to find time to do his exercises. I end up doing one or two at home in the morning, one or two at daycare at drop off, maybe some more in the evening if I can, and especially if I feel guilty about the quality/quantity of what he did in the morning. I always feel like what I am doing is not enough, so I feel like his lack of progress is my fault. He's getting increasingly resistant to the exercises, which means he screams, which makes him hard to stretch, and which means I need a big block of time (that I don't have) to do the exercises including all the calming him down. And I feel like it's all on me to get it done somehow.
If my 3 year old doesn’t return to a normal night of sleeping before the baby comes, I am going to lose my damn mind. What do you do with a three year old and new born who don’t sleep?
If my 3 year old doesn’t return to a normal night of sleeping before the baby comes, I am going to lose my damn mind. What do you do with a three year old and new born who don’t sleep?
Daddy was on toddler duty when ds2 was a newborn. If he woke up, h dealt with it. We started that before the baby even came so ds1 was used to it.
The kids raced upstairs at bedtime last night and i followed them with a glass of red wine. Ds1 slammed the door right in my face (I don’t think he knew I was so close) which made me splatter wine all over the walls, carpet, and myself. I also jammed my toe on the door resulting in a cracked toenail and A cut that bled everywhere.
When we talked about it after ds1 said “but mom you aren’t supposed to have a drink without a lid upstairs!” Which....is true.
H cleaned everything up and put the kids to bed while I moped and iced my toe. Here’s hoping my week gets better!
I'm really struggling with our daycare/work day routine with two kids, and am struggling to find time to do his exercises. I end up doing one or two at home in the morning, one or two at daycare at drop off, maybe some more in the evening if I can, and especially if I feel guilty about the quality/quantity of what he did in the morning. I always feel like what I am doing is not enough, so I feel like his lack of progress is my fault. He's getting increasingly resistant to the exercises, which means he screams, which makes him hard to stretch, and which means I need a big block of time (that I don't have) to do the exercises including all the calming him down. And I feel like it's all on me to get it done somehow.
I'm so sorry you're struggling.
Who does his PT? DD's PT for torticollis was through Early Intervention. The physical therapist specifically asked to have some of her appointments at daycare. Seeing as she was spending 40+ hours a week there, they wanted her caregivers to know the prefered postitioning, stretches, and toy placement to stretch her properly. They also left instructions with visuals to demonstrate as a reminder.
Maybe a few daycare visits are a possibility? That way if you know teachers are on top of it for several hours a day, some of the pressure is off you?
If my 3 year old doesn’t return to a normal night of sleeping before the baby comes, I am going to lose my damn mind. What do you do with a three year old and new born who don’t sleep?
Daddy was on toddler duty when ds2 was a newborn. If he woke up, h dealt with it. We started that before the baby even came so ds1 was used to it.
If my 3 year old doesn’t return to a normal night of sleeping before the baby comes, I am going to lose my damn mind. What do you do with a three year old and new born who don’t sleep?
We went through the same thing and I was worried because I usually do bedtime by myself, but DD completely flipped a switch and straightened up as soon as we came home from the hospital with DS. We had family stay and put her to bed while we were in the hospital so maybe that changed her routine enough, who knows. Just an anecdote of hope for you!
I'm really struggling with our daycare/work day routine with two kids, and am struggling to find time to do his exercises. I end up doing one or two at home in the morning, one or two at daycare at drop off, maybe some more in the evening if I can, and especially if I feel guilty about the quality/quantity of what he did in the morning. I always feel like what I am doing is not enough, so I feel like his lack of progress is my fault. He's getting increasingly resistant to the exercises, which means he screams, which makes him hard to stretch, and which means I need a big block of time (that I don't have) to do the exercises including all the calming him down. And I feel like it's all on me to get it done somehow.
I'm so sorry you're struggling.
Who does his PT? DD's PT for torticollis was through Early Intervention. The physical therapist specifically asked to have some of her appointments at daycare. Seeing as she was spending 40+ hours a week there, they wanted her caregivers to know the prefered postitioning, stretches, and toy placement to stretch her properly. They also left instructions with visuals to demonstrate as a reminder.
Maybe a few daycare visits are a possibility? That way if you know teachers are on top of it for several hours a day, some of the pressure is off you?
He is going to PT once a week right now, direct referral from his pedi to PT. EI has not been involved. He was referred at his well baby visit at just shy of 8 weeks and is 11 weeks now, so I would think he is too young for EI still? I don't really know anything about EI, the process involved, the appropriate age, who initiates and how, etc. OMG that would make life so good though if he could get PT at daycare. Both to spare us the 2 hour process of picking him up, driving there, app't., driving back, and getting back to the office, and also having professional instruction for his teachers. They have done torticollis stretches for babies before, and we have shown them the stretches, but we aren't pros. Visiting PT isn't an option with our current arrangement though.
Who does his PT? DD's PT for torticollis was through Early Intervention. The physical therapist specifically asked to have some of her appointments at daycare. Seeing as she was spending 40+ hours a week there, they wanted her caregivers to know the prefered postitioning, stretches, and toy placement to stretch her properly. They also left instructions with visuals to demonstrate as a reminder.
Maybe a few daycare visits are a possibility? That way if you know teachers are on top of it for several hours a day, some of the pressure is off you?
He is going to PT once a week right now, direct referral from his pedi to PT. EI has not been involved. He was referred at his well baby visit at just shy of 8 weeks and is 11 weeks now, so I would think he is too young for EI still? I don't really know anything about EI, the process involved, the appropriate age, who initiates and how, etc. OMG that would make life so good though if he could get PT at daycare. Both to spare us the 2 hour process of picking him up, driving there, app't., driving back, and getting back to the office, and also having professional instruction for his teachers. They have done torticollis stretches for babies before, and we have shown them the stretches, but we aren't pros. Visiting PT isn't an option with our current arrangement though.
He shouldnt be too young for EI - there should be a birth-5 or infant and toddlers program in your area. Legally they have 30 days to come out and do an evaluation after you call.
DD was referred for torticollis after her 2 month visit and has been getting every other week PT since - they come to our house but I SAH.
Post by mccallister84 on Aug 19, 2019 11:13:06 GMT -5
My vent is that I’m concerned about DD2 language - she really has no words at 14 months.
I talked to my sister in law who is an SLP but of course lives across the country. She told me to start with a hearing screen. I called the pedi to find out where to go and they told me they do screens and we set up an appointment for today. We get to the pedi and the doctor is like we can’t do hearing screens for kids under 3 or 4 - they just have the standard ear phones and the equipment isn’t reliable enough for kids that young. She did tell me to get EI involved - that she is concerned about her delay.
If we hadn’t already met our deductible for the year I think I would be complaining about the charge for the visit since it was basically a waste.
August is crazy for us. We moved into our new house. Hubs and I both start new jobs today. My parents' surprise 50th anniversary party is this Saturday and it's basically a family reunion with people coming in from all over the country.
I redid the budget last night to accommodate weekly lawn service because we've gone from a postage stamp size yard to 3/4 of an acre and a bi-weekly house cleaner because I know we will simply not keep up with the floors in this house. I am both excited and appalled by this. Like, we should be able to adult and do these things on our own and yet I know we won't.
pooh8402, my eyes were bulging with your pump schedule, but hearing it was just one day makes it much more palatable, lol. Susie, for sure I would see if daycare can help! We asked our caretakers to assist with that when we were dealing with PT. dcn, sorry about your toe!
S is being such a little shit. Every time he does something he knows he shouldn't (hit, kick, throw something, etc) and we stop him, now he says "sorry, it was funny!" HOW do we fucking get him to stop? We are doing natural consequences (if he throws food, he is done with the food, if he hits, we stop and explain the problem with hitting and stop the activity, etc.)
mccallister84, would I ask our pedi about a referral to EI instead of a PT practice? How does that typically work?
You should be able to self refer. Ours is through our school system - if you do some searching through the office of special ed for your school system you should be able to find a related office. I called and told them DD had been diagnosed with torticollis and we were requesting an evaluation.
Who does his PT? DD's PT for torticollis was through Early Intervention. The physical therapist specifically asked to have some of her appointments at daycare. Seeing as she was spending 40+ hours a week there, they wanted her caregivers to know the prefered postitioning, stretches, and toy placement to stretch her properly. They also left instructions with visuals to demonstrate as a reminder.
Maybe a few daycare visits are a possibility? That way if you know teachers are on top of it for several hours a day, some of the pressure is off you?
He is going to PT once a week right now, direct referral from his pedi to PT. EI has not been involved. He was referred at his well baby visit at just shy of 8 weeks and is 11 weeks now, so I would think he is too young for EI still? I don't really know anything about EI, the process involved, the appropriate age, who initiates and how, etc. OMG that would make life so good though if he could get PT at daycare. Both to spare us the 2 hour process of picking him up, driving there, app't., driving back, and getting back to the office, and also having professional instruction for his teachers. They have done torticollis stretches for babies before, and we have shown them the stretches, but we aren't pros. Visiting PT isn't an option with our current arrangement though.
Hm... He shouldn't be too young for EI. Our state has birth - Age 3, and then services provided through school essentially. Perhaps every state is different? It could be worth asking your pediatrician. In our case, DD's torticollis was visibly noticable at birth (one side of her neck was concave, where muscles hadn't fully developed due to breech positioning). Her pediatrician sent a referral to EI around probably her 2 weekish visit. (It's a blurr, 3.5 years later). It took a week or so until EI contacted me. Then maybe another week until EI came to the house for an evaluation. She clearly met the criteria. Maybe another week went by before scheduling, where we then had appointments every other week. The first few appointments, I was still home on maternity leave. After that, we alternated appontments at home/daycare.
The only complicated parts of scheduling with daycare, was that the PT wanted an 'ideal' DD. So recently fed, recently napped, happy baby. Which is unpredictable as naps/bottles are on demand at daycare until 6 months. Our physical therapist rolled with it. Sometimes DD cried. Sometimes she fell asleep during tummy time.
This went on for a while. DD was cleared probably just under a year? We were told to call any time any other issues came us, as when they develop new skills (walking, running), they will often fall back to their prefered sides.
Post by countthestars on Aug 19, 2019 12:20:32 GMT -5
DH's work has been crazy lately - lots of changes at his company and basically chaos. Because of this we may be buying his company. They're meeting tomorrow on next steps but I'm equal parts excited and terrified. If we do this, I'll also be quitting my job sooooo there could be lots of change at the Stars household in the next few weeks.
Susie, DS had torticollis and progress was slow. We started out going to a pediatric chiro 2x a week for probably 4 weeks and then went to 1x a week for another 4-6 weeks. We were crap about doing the exercises at home as well, but in the end it definitely improved and he has no lasting issues.
The only complicated parts of scheduling with daycare, was that the PT wanted an 'ideal' DD. So recently fed, recently napped, happy baby. Which is unpredictable as naps/bottles are on demand at daycare until 6 months. Our physical therapist rolled with it. Sometimes DD cried. Sometimes she fell asleep during tummy time.
Ugh, yes, this is so hard. Right now we're trying to coordinate a ~2 hour block that we can leave work, with their availability, with a time when he's awake, rested, fed, and... lol, right. All with a baby who doesn't do routines yet. I can't even seem to hit "ideal baby" when I'm doing his stretches at home on the weekend! His PT keeps telling us "oh yeah, we can work with it, I've done entire treatments with babies who are sleeping." But he doesn't sleep through it, he gets angry and screams. It's hard to stretch a screaming baby because he gets all tense. We end up spending at least an hour there to accommodate nursing breaks so he can settle down, and I end up going to all the appointments so he can nurse.
Post by greenmonkey1 on Aug 19, 2019 12:47:16 GMT -5
Susie Early Intervention is a requirement from the federal law IDEA (Individuals with Disabilities Education Act) and provides services for children ages birth to three. Once the child turns three then the service provider requirement switches to the local school district. Your local school district (you can call the board office, special education coordinator, or even the elementary school) should be able to point you towards the EI contact information or you can Internet search "early intervention your county's name".
I asked my pediatrician about EI recently because I think my DS3 might have speech needs (DS2 is in speech therapy so I have some background). The pediatrician wants to refer me directly to private speech and said you get services faster if you go private. Not sure, but maybe that is why your LO's pediatrician referred directly to PT rather than EI. Downside for private PT/speech are all you mentioned, plus the cost (EI should be free/low cost whereas private can be $$$).
My 2 year olds are determined to survive on goldfish crackers and air apparently. They haven’t eaten a decent meal in a week! They’re still drinking milk, and I have managed to get some fruit into them, but they’re even turning down toast and quesadillas which they will ALWAYS eat. What gives?! So frustrating. My slight confession is that I was happy to come to work because they are at home with my Mom today, and therefore someone else’s frustration for 8 hours lol.
Best part - my work BFF and I are finally working together again after 3 years of combined maternity leaves. Yay!
Susie, hang in there. I started the chiro visits the week I went back to work, and the recommended physician was 20 miles outside Boston. I had to drive to appts during rush hour with a car hater/screamer. It was INCREDIBLY STRESSFUL managing the missed work/miserable baby/stressed mama aspect, so I can empathize with what you're going through. We also spent a lot of time nursing/calming during sessions, but my chiro used that as part of the treatment - making DS nurse on the side where it was harder for him to turn his neck.
My 2 year olds are determined to survive on goldfish crackers and air apparently. They haven’t eaten a decent meal in a week! They’re still drinking milk, and I have managed to get some fruit into them, but they’re even turning down toast and quesadillas which they will ALWAYS eat. What gives?! So frustrating. My slight confession is that I was happy to come to work because they are at home with my Mom today, and therefore someone else’s frustration for 8 hours lol.
My almost 2 year old is the same way lately! I was trying to think of his favorite meal to make for his birthday this week and literally couldn't think of anything that he consistently eats. Even his usual favorites have been hit or miss. Guess we're eating string cheese and goldfish.
Oh good lord pooh8402, that pumping schedule sounds rough!
DS is stressing me out. It appears to my untrained eye that his torticollis is not improving. The worst is when he does tummy time, he keeps picking his head up exclusively looking right, and can't even seem to bring it to center.
I'm really struggling with our daycare/work day routine with two kids, and am struggling to find time to do his exercises. I end up doing one or two at home in the morning, one or two at daycare at drop off, maybe some more in the evening if I can, and especially if I feel guilty about the quality/quantity of what he did in the morning. I always feel like what I am doing is not enough, so I feel like his lack of progress is my fault. He's getting increasingly resistant to the exercises, which means he screams, which makes him hard to stretch, and which means I need a big block of time (that I don't have) to do the exercises including all the calming him down. And I feel like it's all on me to get it done somehow.
I had similar problems with DS1’s exercises. We just did what we could and tried not to stress about it. Fairly certain daycare didn’t do any exercises despite our constant reminders. FWIW, they kept him in PT from 10 weeks until about 9 months and basically kicked him out because they did everything they could. He’s 7 now and I haven’t noticed a tilt in many years. I think he worked it out himself once he got older and stronger
August is crazy for us. We moved into our new house. Hubs and I both start new jobs today. My parents' surprise 50th anniversary party is this Saturday and it's basically a family reunion with people coming in from all over the country.
I redid the budget last night to accommodate weekly lawn service because we've gone from a postage stamp size yard to 3/4 of an acre and a bi-weekly house cleaner because I know we will simply not keep up with the floors in this house. I am both excited and appalled by this. Like, we should be able to adult and do these things on our own and yet I know we won't.
Hope the new jobs went well today. Let me know if you need a rec for a lawn service - we gave up on trying to cut the grass years ago, even when we had a small yard. Now we're on almost 3 acres, and there's no chance of us ever doing that on our own!
Post by timorousbeastie on Aug 19, 2019 19:29:54 GMT -5
I feel like this has been the shortest summer of my life. Back when preschool got out, I had no idea how I was going to make it through 14 weeks of almost no breaks from DD. Now I can't believe that kindergarten starts in 2 weeks. I feel like there is so much I wanted to do with DD that we never got around to doing. This week is jam packed with activities, but I think we'll basically live at the park next week.
Question - Ds1 started kindergarten today and has eaten way less than usual. Could it be the stress of a new school and longer day? He ate a good breakfast, said he ate his whole lunch, mini chips ahoy snack at school and a fruit/veggies/yogurt pouch after school. He barely touched one of his favorite dinners and just had a glass of milk.
Question - Ds1 started kindergarten today and has eaten way less than usual. Could it be the stress of a new school and longer day? He ate a good breakfast, said he ate his whole lunch, mini chips ahoy snack at school and a fruit/veggies/yogurt pouch after school. He barely touched one of his favorite dinners and just had a glass of milk.
He’s probably exhausted, i wouldn’t worry too much!