People who don't wear heels - evening footwear?

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I have two weddings coming up. One is in about 10 days, and the second is in early November. I have a basic black cocktail dress that's been my go-to for several years. I'd like to buy something new, but this looks good on me and works. I have some patent wedges in both ruby and nude that I used to wear with this dress, but they've become increasingly uncomfortable as I get older. I don't own a single pair of heels, and I hate wearing them - they're uncomfortable, and I suck at walking in them. But UGH, what do I DOOOOO for these weddings? I have a pair of basic black ballet flats that look OK, but not great, with the dress, but the shoes are getting kind of old and beat up looking. Basically all my shoes are grandma shoes these days because I wind up with so much foot pain any time I wear something trendy.

Having shitty feet sucks. HALP.

[cattledogkisses]

Embellished ballet flats? I think that the pointy toe kind look more dressy than the round toe kind.

[redheadbaker]

I got a pair of sparkly Anne Klein flats from DSW to wear to my cousin's wedding a couple of years ago, and got Superfeet inserts to put in them. They don't have the exact ones I bought anymore, but they do have at least one pair with rhinestones on them now -- Anne Klein Sport Aveline Ballet Flats.

[madringal]

How about something like this, I think they are super cute!

factory.jcrew.com/p/womens-clothing/shoes/pumpsandheels/patent-midblock-heels/AA535?color_name=black

[pixy0stix]

I usually wear sparkly sandals.

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Aug 21, 2019 9:57:25 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

I usually wear sparkly sandals.

Hmm. This could probably work for the first wedding, but November in Wisconsin is...not generally sandal weather, LOL.

[eclaires]

Leopard print pointy flats?

m.shop.nordstrom.com/s/cole-haan-ramsey-genuine-calf-hair-flat-women/5352617

DSW has some similar options for less money but I couldn’t get them to link.

[eclaires]

This is cute in the red. I’d look for something like this

m.shop.nordstrom.com/s/louise-et-cie-claire-ankle-strap-flat-women/4978737

[SusanBAnthony]

Pointy toed flats (I find rothys more comfortable then other pointy flats because the fabric stretches a little around my toes). Or the wedges/etc and change into my basic black flats at the reception.

Basically all I wear are black flats, tennis shoes, flat black boots in winter, and ugly sportsy sandals, I'm not spending $$$ on dressy shoes I'll wear once.

[tiramisu]

I have two pairs of the Cole Haan Tali bow ballet flats, one in nude leather with a matching bow and one in "nude" velvet (really kind of a blush pink) with a glitter bow. I love them.

www.6pm.com/p/cole-haan-tali-bow-ballet-nude-velvet-glitter/product/8447107/color/748335

[StrawberryBlondie]

Pointed toe Rothy's?

[Susie]

A couple years ago I sprained my ankle and wore these for all dress occasions for months while it took the slow road to healing.


www.amazon.com/Rockport-Womens-Motion-Adelyn-Ballet/dp/B013QV35W4/ref=asc_df_B079GCFW1J/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=334440611171&hvpos=1o1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=16008740126316625919&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9005667&hvtargid=pla-661864887278&th=1&psc=1

IMO the shiny patent leather and pointed toe helped a lot with the fact that it was a flat.

[pinkdutchtulips]

Kitten heels

[shauni27]

Aug 21, 2019 9:57:25 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

I usually wear sparkly sandals.

for the first wedding I would do this. This is my go to for a summer wedding (unless it is more formal, then I wear classic nude heels)

For the winter wedding I would get some sort of pointed toe ballet flat in nude, black or leopard.

[isabel]

Aug 21, 2019 9:48:52 GMT -5 cattledogkisses said:

Embellished ballet flats? I think that the pointy toe kind look more dressy than the round toe kind.

I agree with all of this. Pointed toe will look more dressy than rounded.

This is what I wore on my wedding day: www.theknot.com/real-weddings/vera-wang-flats-photo

Those are stupidly expensive (most expensive pair of shoes I own and I agonized over the purchase), but I think something with a peep toe or pointed toe and some embellishment can look classy and dressy.

I only wear heels for job interviews.

[mrsukyankee]

I'm also wearing more flats as heels don't work except for short term wear. What about something like these two:

www.clarks.co.uk/c/Ellis-Rose/p/26142587

www.clarks.co.uk/c/Linvale-Jerica/p/26142927

I find lower heels are much easier on me.

[2curlydogs]

Embroidered pointy-toe mules

Leopard-print


Leather with a unique shape


Go menswear with some oxfords like these:

[katieinthecity]

I've been known to wear my black Rothy's to formal events. I've realized no one notices my feet. But if I feel like being fancy, I have a few pairs of flats with embellishments.

I bought my first pair of heels in FOREVER to wear to an event earlier this month, then a week before sprained my ankle so was in a boot and didn't get to wear them anyway. That's what I get for even THINKING about heels. Figures.

[NitaX]

NitaX was here.

[okla]

I got these to be a bridesmaid in a wedding where heels would have made me taller than anyone else up there. Also wanted to be able to dance all night!


www.badgleymischka.com/hampden-embellished-evening-sandal/

[orangello]

For me personally, I find that more stylish flats vs. “fancy” read as more formal. It seems like more of a dress choice - ie, cute black dress with leopard flats, up hair, and statement jewelry is dressier for me than a black dress and plain or sparkly black flats. The latter feels easy for me, vs. the former which is more of a choice and took a little more effort . YMMV, however - either way, flats can totally be dressy!

[NitaX]

Here ya go. Clark's Tory Burch knock-off.

[jigsy]

Its hard to say for sure without knowing what your basic black dress looks like, but, when I am wearing flats with a dress, I kind of go for a 60's inspired feel - but I think the dress needs to fit that aesthetic too.

Something like these could look fun:
www.unique-vintage.com/products/betsey-johnson-leopard-print-vinyl-archer-sling-back-flats

www.unique-vintage.com/products/silver-sparkle-jelly-pointed-toe-d-orsay-flat?nosto=categorypage-nosto-1


www.modcloth.com/shop/shoes/turn-back-prime-vegan-flat-in-black/143978.html

www.modcloth.com/shop/shoes/restricted-a-step-ahead-slingback-flat-in-burgundy/166562.html

Modcloth also has some options if you can do a small block heel, but, since htat isn't what you asked for, I won't link it. lol

[AJL]

A slingback kitten heel

shop.nordstrom.com/sr/kitten-heel-slingback-shoes

[ECB]

At 6' tall, I dont wear heels anymore. I used to but got tired of feeling like I towered over everyone.

I have 2 pairs of kitten heel shoes for when I want to dress up. They don't add much height and I still feel dressy.

BUt I LOVE the mules that 2curlydogs posted! I have to keep that in mind.

[ribollita]

Pointy flats. I don’t think round toe flats work with evening wear.

[aurora]

Apparently Modcloth has a ton of pointy toed flats, at least based on the ads I'm getting in my browser now.

[mich1]

Birdies has some cute velvet flats that look dressy.

[georgeglass]

I have satin ballet flats that I love. I wear them with a black dress all the time.

something like this - 

[georgeglass]

These are the ones I have - LOVE them.