DD got the official move up to team paperwork last night at gymnastics. Practices switch to Tu/Th/F 4-7 and we got the fall compulsory meet schedule. Plus all the extra $$$ they need by the first of September. It isn't too bad $150 for meet deposits (meet fees run 60-70 per meet), USA Gymnastic annual fee, Leo/team gear less than $200 new even less if I can get some of it used. Her leotard will be the most expensive clothing item she owns, LOL. She is really excited but also nervous.
Post by soccermama on Aug 22, 2019 10:52:36 GMT -5
I have a random. I just posted this on ML too but whatevs, lol. So I have an event tomorrow night, a belated surprise bday party for my brother that his girlfriend planned. It is supposed to be like a dress-up "James Bond" type party, because my brother has always sort of been that type, if that makes sense.
Since I don't usually have the chance to attend fancy parties, of course I didn't have anything to wear. I decided to try out Rent the Runway, received 3 dresses last night (2 of same style, diff sizes and 1 add-on dress). The dresses fit & I am thrilled!!! I am wearing the add-on dress today to work, since that is really more of a work dress not a party dress. I am so excited to have something different to wear for once that is not another BLACK DRESS! The dress for the party is a short, off the shoulder deep fuschia.
I have already received several compliments on the dress I am wearing today. I really need to get some new clothes that fit/look better on me because I think that would just help me all around.
Post by supertrooper1 on Aug 22, 2019 11:34:43 GMT -5
STBXH and I have a attorney/mediator meeting tomorrow. I'm nervous and ready to get it over with.
Possible TW (death) advice needed:
DS has been struggling with the concept of death recently. Both of STBXH's grandparents passed away in the last couple of months (97 and 99 years old) and DS is anxious about death now. He will start crying and say he's not done enjoying the world. Both STBXH and I are Christian but not church goers. I tried to explain heaven to DS but I don't think I did a good job. He's also realizing that STBXH and I won't be in his life forever. Any advice is appreciated.
So I emailed HR about my promotion. The response was they talked to my boss a couple of weeks ago. HR talked to the director and sent a email to my boss to get this taken care of, so hopefully this happens sometime soon. I am sure my boss will not be thrilled to be called out for dropping the ball so that is nice. Good thing I am out next week.
Random: DD's volleyball coaches are thinking of cancelling practice for Friday, because they can't make it. They talked about Sunday, but need to think it through. Damn straight think it through. I have plans on Sunday that will not involve taking her to practice on a Sunday with 2 days notice. My plans are to sit in a lawn chair and grill food as a family, since DH has worked the last two weekends and this is one of our few days off.
soccermama, RTR is my favorite thing ever. For years I would buy boring dresses in the $100 range because I'd plan on wearing them again to antoher event.. and then the next year would roll around and I didn't want to wear the same thing, so there went another $100.. Sometimes I'd buy a couple dresses and wear one and keep the next for the next year, etc... with RTR I can get something MUCH nicer and definitely more fun and not worry about needing to wear it in the future.. but either way, I was spending $100 on a one use dress. (DH's company was big on the formal parties 2x a year, each with a theme.)
soccermama , RTR is my favorite thing ever. For years I would buy boring dresses in the $100 range because I'd plan on wearing them again to antoher event.. and then the next year would roll around and I didn't want to wear the same thing, so there went another $100.. Sometimes I'd buy a couple dresses and wear one and keep the next for the next year, etc... with RTR I can get something MUCH nicer and definitely more fun and not worry about needing to wear it in the future.. but either way, I was spending $100 on a one use dress. (DH's company was big on the formal parties 2x a year, each with a theme.)
I'm mad at myself that I've never tried them before!!! Now the only problem is that I actually want to keep/buy the dresses that they sent me, lol!
I feel like I got a killer deal too. Just $40 total, 3 dresses for 4-day rental? I thought that was pretty good! Style is Ralph Lauren.
k3am, I was just thinking that - reading this thread. I have no excuses to dress up.
We do have a wedding in a couple weeks, but the person getting married is our babysitter, and we'll only know one other couple there, so probably make sense to just wear something in my closet.
Not much to update. DH has been working from home so the kids are taking the school bus back and forth to school which is awesome. It likely will only last another month, so back to aftercare for them. DS was not really interested in an extra curricular, so I don't think it will work out to pick them up at 4:30 after extra curriculars and save on aftercare, but it is nice saving for right now.
Otherwise not much else new. They started soccer. Dance starts after labor day. I have a girls weekend labor day weekend. And I have girls night bunco on Friday. In-laws are visiting for the weekend. I swear no one visits us for months and then everyone comes in August. I mean, I get why they aren't coming in February but really April- early November are fine in terms of not having snow, and it's not like everyone is coming to do outside activities specifically.
supertrooper1, I have heard some parents recommend the book the Invisible String.
I am terrible at teaching religion, and we haven't gone in a year, but we were doing the church Sunday School just to go over some of those Jesus/ Heaven type stuff. See I can't even write it out in terms of explaining it. I'm not saying find a church and go to Sunday school- just something to think about.
Post by covergirl82 on Aug 22, 2019 15:32:23 GMT -5
supertrooper1, there is a children's book called "God Gave Us Heaven" you could check out, as it is intended to help children who have experienced the death(s) of a loved one(s). You could also try to switch the focus from death to the full life they lived, all they things they experienced, the generations of family after them that they got to know, etc.
The tummy tuck, implants, and inner thigh lipo are happening in 19 days. So much for waiting till April! Whether I was putting it away in savings or paying it off zero percent financing...it’s all the same to me. I’m very happy with my decision to go with the dr I really really wanted even though he was somewhat higher than the other one (he did come down on price by a pretty good amount.) I’m completely comfortable with him and his office is close by for post ops which makes life easier too.
H is going to take a week off and and my “plan” is 2.5 weeks, but I have a cushion of a couple days if I just can’t. My job is a desk job for the majority of it and it’s the easiest slowest time of the year for me.
Oh for the implants. I’m going with gummy bear cohesive gel silicone under the muscle. I realized how different they each made the determinations of size. The second doctor simply took one measurement and put different implants in my bra and had me decide. That’s was 400cc modplus. She took like 2 minutes to do that. When I asked if I would come back to settle on the size (like my fav dr) she said “you just did”. Also it was weird and kind of gross that they smelled like someone else’s perfume.
The other dr had a special bra with similar filler type styles. He took a measurement but then He had the woman in the office help me choose, and she basically had me walk to the bathroom to look in the mirror. It was also weird. Also landed on 400mod plus. I also think she’s not the right person to help with this bc she said “gummy bear” means textured (as opposed to smooth). I questioned her and said I thought gummy bear means cohesive gel and she said “it means different things to different people. I think of it as gummy bear bc the texture is sugary on the outside” So glad I didn’t end up with this one.
My doctor took so many different kinds of measurements. He had two charts out from two different implant brands. I don’t know what he was calculating but it was very scientific. He really seemed much more concerned about my running and weightlifting. isn’t sure yet but is thinking 350 high profile. He says he has sterile sizers that he uses in the OR. He puts them in, sets the patient upright, and he and the three people (nurses? Anesthesiologist? I forgot to ask) give opinions. I was happy that “Active runner” was written on the top of that sheet and underlined.
Grumpy employee is getting grumpier. I called her out for some missed deadlines and bad behavior so we're back in a phase of her barely speaking to me again and not engaging in team discussions. Super fun. We are short staffed and I'm assigning her projects outside what she believes to be her "normal workload" so she's extra grumpy about that too. Really being a team player here.
Post by erinshelley21 on Aug 23, 2019 7:54:04 GMT -5
After complaining about it for years, I can come in here and say to you all that the BUILDING IS GONE!!!! We closed yesterday and while I am thrilled and so happy, it was bittersweet. That was the last page in the chapter of my life that consists of my dad's professional life. The good thing is we know one of the buyers pretty well. One of his SILs is my BFF and his BIL is my brother's BFF, so we've known the family for years and years. I'm glad it went to someone we know that will take care of it. Probably better care than my brother and me lol.
I turned 30 on Wednesday. I'm very unbothered by turning 30 and people find it odd. I honestly don't mind getting older so far. My 20s were not your average 20s so maybe that's why. I feel like now that I'm at my 30s, DH and I's lives are more in line with our friends that are our age now that I've gotten through everything from my dad and there *shouldn't* be any shitstorms that are just ridiculous.
DS is complaining about school a little less and doesn't seem AS sad. I've not let him dwell on not wanting to go every day and have only asked 2-3 questions about his day every evening. I don't know if that has helped or not but I'll keep it going.
Post by librarychica on Aug 23, 2019 8:24:21 GMT -5
The Open letters thread helped me get some damned perspective and yell at DD1 less this week. So thanks for that y’all! She isn’t scattered and crazy at night to make me scattered and crazy — she just cannot help it. We’ve been using mini checklists that we make together and I asked H to be available from 6-8 when he’s in town for the next month or so. He can work Sundays if he needs to, but having two of us in the evenings will be a giant help. One of us can focus on each kid just to get us all back on track. He was happily not an ass about it.
Thankfully kid likes doing her math homework and, well, if my house is trashed maybe I just need to be less anal about my house.
DDOT: I am currently starting to consider life after my current role. I like where I work, I like most of the people I work with, but there are a couple of things happening that I'm just not okay with. And they all center around one person.. unfortunately, that one person plays a key role in my day to day. There is a rumored change to the corporate org structure that might happen in the near term that has the potential to improve it and I'm holding out for that with fingers crossed. If I left this company, there's only two local companies I could do what I do at. One involves a REALLY long commute (1.5 hours each way.. local? hah!), and the other, every single person has told me that the CEO is a dickhead and their work culture is to grind with long hours and lots of required after hour events. Neither one of them would let me do what I enjoy doing and not try to tack on a sales role.
So maybe it's a pivot into doing something else that I'm not as familiar with or confident in my abilities and hope they pay me as though I'm an expert. I'm really not stoked about any of these options.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Aug 23, 2019 12:01:05 GMT -5
DD has been getting speech therapy through our insurance, but only has two more covered appointments available (we get 50 a year). That used to be a soft stop with the provider being able to request additional, but apparently the insurance policy has changed and now it's a hard stop and DD only has 2 speech therapy appointments left. I had actually started the process to see if we can get speech therapy through the school district (apparently its the easiest kind of intervention to get) so we'll see what happens.
Now I'm trying to decide, in the meant time, if we keep paying the therapists' cash price and go less? Pay the cash price and go the same amount? Meh. DD is suddenly just as expensive as DS with his tutor.
Now that public schools are back in session, and it sounds like you submitted your letter etc. Then they have 60 days to test and respond. If you provide the previous speech teachers initial test, then they don't have to test again. It is good for 3 years.
Ours did it super quickly like we were the first IEP meeting of the school year and I waived all the 10 day notice qualifications, so I would say he was in speech probably in 3-4 weeks. I wouldn't keep paying the cash price unless the school said no. We were onsite at the public school though, and it was Kindergarten so school age not EI.
Post by covergirl82 on Aug 23, 2019 13:44:54 GMT -5
Update on DS's class placement and not having any friends: So DS had his best friend over this afternoon, and the mom and I were talking for a few minutes when she brought him over. She is a teacher at DS's school and teaches 4th grade, which is the grade DS is going into. She asked if DS was looking forward to school, and I mentioned that he was bummed that he didn't have any friends in his class. She shared with me (but made me swear not to tell anyone, but obviously I can tell you guys) that her son was supposed to be in class with DS this year, but due to a wacko mom, her son was moved to a different class (and wacko mom's son was left in the same class as DS). So while DS still doesn't have any friends in his class, in a strange way, I do feel a little better that he was supposed to have his best friend in his class. (Although I don't know why they couldn't have moved wacko mom's kid, since she was the one who wanted a change.) Best friend's mom said that she would do as much as she could to make sure DS is in a class with friends next year (since she will have some influence on student placement).
Post by mustardseed2007 on Aug 25, 2019 6:42:20 GMT -5
waverly, she's in preschool so I think that's EI. Although the letter they gave me is for a FIE, which I would have thought would be school age.
I was told the process can take 60 days. So far its been less than 30. I've picked up all my forms and filled them out and am going to turn them in to this person who will have me sign consents in person. Our school has forms they have to fill out which include a teacher evaluation, which is awesome since DD had 6 full days of school plus a half day. But I explained the insurance situation to our school and they said they'd get the evaluations done ASAP.