Post by ginandjucie24 on Aug 23, 2019 8:12:35 GMT -5
It’s the second day of school for my ds, school starts an hour earlier then last year (new state, new school) and it just confirms that I am not a morning person. At. All.
It’s only 9 am and I am ready for a nap.
I met one of my neighbors, she was walking to pick up her child from school. She was friendly and when we left she said stop by whenever. I don’t know that works lol, do I just go over to her house during the day with my 3 year old dd or invite her to hang out outside while the kids play. I am so awkward. I didn’t see her walking this morning hopefully I will see her this afternoon. She seemed real nice and I hoped and prayed for a friend that lived super close to my house.
Our freaking power is having issues again. It stormed last night and the power went out. It came back on (after calling someone to come over) but it went out another 4 times overnight. I'm pissed. We just did this 2 weeks ago. My landlord said that the guy who came over last night to deal with it got there during the storm, and was able to see where the water was coming in that keeps causing the breaker to trip. So I guess now they can fix that. I guess it's a power company issue. Who knows. Just fix the damn power. I don't want to throw away more groceries or have to eat out because we can't cook or open our fridge. We are also flying out at 6am tomorrow so I'm going to be really frustrated if the power is out overnight and I can't shower. Tomorrow is already going to be a really long and annoying day so if I'm dirty it's going to be even worse. I'm also a little anxious about leaving our cat alone for almost 2 days if I can't even guarantee he has a comfortable environment. At least it shouldn't be quite as hot this weekend as it has been lately.
Taylor Swift came out with her new album today and I'm listening to it on Spotify. I really like it so far. I've always been a fan (sorry not sorry) but I am enjoying this updated and happy version of her.
Post by Leeham Rimes on Aug 23, 2019 8:59:25 GMT -5
I survived that wretched play date on Wednesday. Even after telling them that they had to leave at 4:00 PM bc we had swimming lessons, they still took forever to leave and were finally gone by 4:35. I had to say over and over "you need to leave now please" I wasn't even polite anymore. NEVER AGAIN!
He was also super mean to Wesley. Wes alleged that the kid called him an idiot but I wasn't downstairs and X didn't hear. I mostly believe him b/c the kid has done that before to Wes and I did overhear it and I reprimanded him for it in the past. BUT since I didn't personally hear it, I felt like I couldn't do anything. (I do try and keep Wesley away from X and his friends b/c little kids are downers, I get it, but this kid would want whatever Wes was playing with so there's only so much I can do)
But yeah, I'm fucking done. And the dad took his shoes off and laid down on my couch--I guess there's nothing wrong with it but, man, I've never made myself that much at home in anyone's house other than my mother's. But at this point, my dislike is irrational, so whatever.
I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham
After two days, I have very mixed feelings about our new morning routine. My DD2 has to be on her elementary school bus by 7:20 for a 7:50 start, and DD1 is in middle school now and gets on the bus at 8:30 for an 8:50 a.m. start.
I think my kids actually get ready faster because they aren't distracting each other, but it really drags out the get-ready time of the morning before I am able to sit down and work. I dunno, we'll see how we settle into it.
This flameful/bitchy - BIL/SIL are obnoxiously and inconsistently environmentalist. After we had Ds2 a comment was made that having children was bad for the planet and you should just adopt. Guess who is pregnant with a biological child? It is taking EVERYTHING I have to not call them out on it.
But when BIL eats meat when SIL is not around I totally say something.
Post by Jalapeñomel on Aug 23, 2019 9:23:36 GMT -5
I’m having a really hard time, and it’s fucking impossible to find a therapist that’s in network. I really don’t know what else to do. I can’t spend $400 a month on therapy.
I’m having a really hard time, and it’s fucking impossible to find a therapist that’s in network. I really don’t know what else to do. I can’t spend $400 a month on therapy.
Im sorry Mel (( Hugs ))) I used talkspace when I was in a similar position. It’s not cheap but it was helpful until I could get in with someone in person
FWIW DH preferred this method of therapy because it’s easier on his schedule and less awkward than in person sessions.
I’m having a really hard time, and it’s fucking impossible to find a therapist that’s in network. I really don’t know what else to do. I can’t spend $400 a month on therapy.
Im sorry Mel (( Hugs ))) I used talkspace when I was in a similar position. It’s not cheap but it was helpful until I could get in with someone in person
FWIW DH preferred this method of therapy because it’s easier on his schedule and less awkward than in person sessions.
It’s too expensive. I have great health insurance, but no therapist wants to take it.
First day for us. We are at a new school this year due to redistricting. DS2 was pretty nervous and it was hard to stand there and try to be brave for him because I was nervous too. I was trying really hard for him to not pick up on my vibes. Our school is half new students this year and I don't think they have done a great job with this big transition. Like they emailed at 7:30 this morning where everyone lines up. School starts at 7:55 am His teacher seems really awesome and could sense he was a little nervous so took a couple extra moments with him. I know he will be just fine. But walking up to the school hit him that everything was brand new. DS1 is in 6th grade and big dog on campus. He did pretty well and I am not too worried about him.
I have two of my lifelong friends coming into town this weekend. I am super excited to see them. Two bottles of wine are already chilling and I need to go make a TJ run.
I went to OTF this morning and it was so freaking hard today. I started feeling a little woozy during the floor portion but luckily I had to leave about 10 min early anyways to get home so DH could leave for work and I could get the kids to the bus then ready for work.
We don't have a lot going on this weekend. DS has soccer practice tonight. The girls are invited to a bday sleepover tomorrow night so maybe my Dad would watch DS so DH and me can go see a movie or something! Anyone seen anything good lately? We haven't been to a movie in forever.
I met one of my neighbors, she was walking to pick up her child from school. She was friendly and when we left she said stop by whenever. I don’t know that works lol, do I just go over to her house during the day with my 3 year old dd or invite her to hang out outside while the kids play. I am so awkward. I didn’t see her walking this morning hopefully I will see her this afternoon. She seemed real nice and I hoped and prayed for a friend that lived super close to my house.
I'm also an awkward person lol. I don't trust people that say "stop by anytime" to actually mean it (because having someone just "stop by" is like my worst nightmare) but I would totally text her and ask if she wanted to come over for a coffee/tea/wine while the kids played.
My random is more of a complaint. We've been looking to move for a while but want to stay in our current town. At any given moment there's usually 3 houses in our price range, and none of them ever appeal or will work for us. It's a small town and most homes are priced waaaay out of our comfort-zone/budget. I want to get out of our house so badly but am starting to think we never will, so I'm trying to find the positives to that (ie. extra vacation money, college money, etc). I'm still feeling a little bummed though, and (admittedly) jealous.
Jalapeñomel, do you have access to an EAP? I think you work independently, but wasn't sure about your H. If you do, they generally offer 3-6 completely free sessions. Big hugs. It's so stressful to go through the process of finding someone while also stressing about finances.
DH and I agreed to skip anniversary gifts this year so we can install ceiling fans in all the bedrooms. I am very excited about this. I'm hoping we can get it done before the end of the month. I miss having a fan above my bed. Also, DS2's room gets really warm because of where the sun hits the walls. A fan will make a big difference in the comfort level of his room in the evenings.
We have two birthday parties this weekend, but otherwise it should be pretty low key. I'm looking forward to relaxing a bit.
I found out I have 27 students on my roster. I teach second. I don’t even have enough desks right now in my room to seat all of them. I guess I’ll cross my fingers that not all of them will show up. 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️I’ve never had a class that big. Last year I had 22. It was divine!
Have you looked into local universities? Sometimes they have students who are nearing the end of their program who can see clients for a low cost. My H used to do practicum at a women's health center and saw community clients on a sliding scale.
I'm sorry you are struggling, and it's extra frustrating that you can't get an appointment anywhere. I hope you find something that helps soon.
I found an internship for next summer that I think would be a really great fit for me. But the locations are Somerville, NJ, West Chester, PA, Cincinnati, OH., Irvine, CA., Warsaw, IN., Raynham, MA. I'd be ok doing an internship in another city, but the only one on that list that I'm at all familiar with is West Chester, lol. The chances of getting it are probably pretty small anyway.
School starts Monday, so we had planned to take today off and do a family park day- rent kayaks, play mini golf, ride the carousel, etc. but it's gray and rainy so we're trying to knock out a bunch of boring crap. DH is getting one car inspected and hopefully getting an appointment check out the other car's tire issue, I'm going to grocery shop once he's back, and DD wants her ears re-pierced before school starts.
Tomorrow is looking gorgeous for a day at a couple of farm breweries with friends. Except I'm going to have to suck it up and do a hpt before we go. If I am pg, we're going to have to tell these friends and swear them to secrecy because there's really no way to hide me not drinking for an entire day like that.
I’m having a really hard time, and it’s fucking impossible to find a therapist that’s in network. I really don’t know what else to do. I can’t spend $400 a month on therapy.
I am so sorry. It is frustrating when you realize and admit you need help and are unable to find it. I know talk therapy is what you are looking for, but are you on any meds? Your doctor may be able to help with meds and might have suggestions. Good luck.
Post by verycontrary247 on Aug 23, 2019 11:13:31 GMT -5
My bff has appendicitis. She's actually had an infected appendix on and off for the past 8 months, but because she's got a crazy bleeding disorder they have been treating it with antibiotics trying to avoid surgery- but now it's flared up enough times that they're going to finally remove it. She went in for routine tests yesterday and then they told her she couldn't leave.
Soooo we unexpectedly inherited her (young, energetic, neurotic, excitable) Golden Retriever, Betty White, for the foreseeable future. We are cat people so this is weird. And fun. And exhausting.
Maybe this is a dumb question, but have you looked into what your insurance might pay for an out-of-network provider? I found a therapist I loved but she didn't participate with ANY insurance companies. Instead, she provided a bill which I submitted to my insurance and they reimbursed me 75% I think.
Today is so blah out. I still need to shower and it is nearly 12:30. We moved K's room, so I still need to sort through the toy crap in her old room which is to become a new play room, so that will be fun. then it is off to AC Moore to pick up a birthday gift and then to the library to return books.
Post by notoriousmeg on Aug 23, 2019 12:05:50 GMT -5
Last day of vacation. On the one hand I am ready to sleep in my own bed and get back to some type of routine. On the other hand, this place is absolute paradise. I am currently at the pool overlooking the beach with a cocktail. Not looking forward to work on Monday and H traveling all week.
Post by georgeharrison on Aug 23, 2019 12:18:40 GMT -5
I'm in CA for work this week and fly back tonight. I'm looking forward to getting home, but I hate the late night flights. It will be fine. Everything is going to be great. My H is home this week (the doc wanted him to take the week off after his appendectomy), so I expect that the house will be clean which is always awesome to come home to. My mom came down to spend some time with me on this visit and it was really nice. She always cries when we part ways, but I hope she was glad to have had the visit in sunny CA.
My son has a movie date tomorrow. I wish he would realize that his mama is the only girl he needs.
I found an internship for next summer that I think would be a really great fit for me. But the locations are Somerville, NJ, West Chester, PA, Cincinnati, OH., Irvine, CA., Warsaw, IN., Raynham, MA. I'd be ok doing an internship in another city, but the only one on that list that I'm at all familiar with is West Chester, lol. The chances of getting it are probably pretty small anyway.
I don’t know anything about Raynham specifically, but it’s almost exactly between Boston and Cape Cod, which would be fun during the summer.
Post by bugmeetsworld on Aug 23, 2019 12:42:20 GMT -5
DD has been asking for a sewing machine, so we got her one for her birthday on Tuesday. I have never used a sewing machine in my life, so I have no idea what I’m doing. I got stressed out just reading the instruction manual. We’re currently on our way to the craft store to buy thread, because it didn’t occur to me it wouldn’t come with any.
I am heading to Denver for a wedding tonight. I am my BFF's plus one. She is gold on Delta and we got upgraded to first. It is a short flight, but, hey, first is first.
But, as excited as I am, I am also a little sad. BFF has a boyfriend now, and the only reason I am the plus one here is because this was planned before the BF entered the picture. So, it feels a little like this is the last time it will happen. We also have our annual Thanksgiving trip planned, but, again, I am pretty sure that it will be the last one. Her BF has kids, so, T-day seems like it will be a "family" holiday going forward. I knew it was going to happen eventually, but, it is kind of sad. Even though my friend is still trying to make time for our friendship (its easier because BF has kids 50% of the time), I can still see that shift happening. And its a bummer.
As shitty as my day was, my two BFFs are making me laugh, and we are going to have drinks later. I don't know what I would do without them (and without you guys, as cheesy as that may sound)
Post by lexxasaurus on Aug 23, 2019 13:39:37 GMT -5
We had 6 people in one office, and 4 people in mine that held my Dept. Specialist position. We are now down to 4 in one and 3 in mine. Two of the girls are leaving in October for a new position. My boss wants me to train the new people. That is potentially 5 people to train. And a task that used to be on a rotation and a 1-2 person job became my new task yesterday, much to my surprise. I didn't even get full training in the department and I'm so terrified to fuck it up because these are benefits that peoples lives depend on (long term medical care). I am so overwhelmed I almost cried in my car at break. I know I just need to get down a system but my god I feel swamped.
I've been kind of bummed out recently anyways as we are spread too thin with bills, I was working more than I wanted and seeing D less than I like (but hate that now I cut back in hours but now worry about money more) and just generally hit a lull of depression. I'm trying to do things that make me happy and bring me joy but it is hard to get out of. Slowly working but man, I am DONE with this week. I definitely had a few 'wish I could have a couple drinks after this shit day' moments but I'm over 6 months sober and am not willing to throw that away.
I just needed to bitch about it a little. I'm glad I have therapy tomorrow.