Getting it on

[rosiebear]

Brought to you by a conversation with my friends. Just out of curiosity and you can define getting it on any way you wish.

[wise_rita]

Three consecutive days, one time per month.

Trouble TTC life. 

[jigsy]

Almost never.

Ahhh, single life with (maybe too) high standards.

[lexxasaurus]

Is there a poll I can't see? Is this how often we are gettin' some?

[tripleshot]

Twice a week. I’d prefer much less. Life is busy and I’m always tired.

[knx9211]

Our sex life died once I got pregnant with DS.It stayed dead while I nursed for 13 months. And a few months later, we were back at the RE and it stayed dead, when I became pregnant with DD and it continued to be dead.

Dead dead dead.

Hoping to get back to normal one day. It’s pretty sad actually. I had zero drive while nursing DS and I fear it’ll be the same this time, especially since I’ll now be home with two small kids every day.

[lostrn]

Too much.

[W.T.Faulkner]

We used to be once a week before I got pregnant. We worked opposite shifts, or I think it would have been more.

Now, DS is almost 9 months old and I think we’re at every other week.

[mala]

Nearly a year and half after having #2 and it's rare. It makes me sad, but I have no energy, no drive, no time. H is really understanding, but I know he's frustrated. A starts daycare this week, which will give us some breathing room and give us both a break, even if it's going to stretch our budget a bit. I'm hoping things improve soon.

[starburst604]

If my H gets his wish, 3x’s a week. I’m fine with once a week or less. I’m tired and just wanna be left alone lol.

[rosiebear]

We're at 2x a week. I used to want it more often, but since menopause, this is suiting me just fine.

[cinnamoncox0]

I’d say everyday, maybe every other sometimes. Like at night one day, then not the next, but early the following morning.
But average every 1.5 days or so. On my period, which is like a heavy ish day then two normal days, one day will go with out.
It’s been 20 years together 15 married and 3 kids, we have gone times where it’s twice a week or times it’s once a day and everything has n between (with the exception of the 4 weeks postpartum for 2 pregnancies/3 kids).

[irie]

My boyfriend and I usually have sex morning and night on the days we are together (50% of the time). Our kids are with their other parents, so that makes it easier. Also, we were both in basically sexless and intimate-less marriages before, so sex and other forms intimacy are very, very important to us.

[ssmjlm]

We average 3x a week. I’ve posted before that my drive really increased when I turned 35. It’s sometimes more, just depends.

[cinnamoncox0]

Sept 13, 2019 19:05:55 GMT -5 lostrn said:

Too much.

How much is too much?!

[Jalapeñomel]

We get a what class are you AND a how many times you have sex question in one day?

[lexxasaurus]

Hm. 5 to 10 times weekly? I also had an intimate and sexless (almost) relationship prior, as did he, so we are making up for lost time, ha. That relationship was the worst since I've always been extremely affectionate with a high drive.

[isabel]

We go in spurts. Basically, if we're having sex, we're having a lot of it. As in several times a week. If we aren't having sex, we're really not having sex and it's more like once a month. Things have been better lately for us and so I'm trying to keep us to at least once a week, as I think we're happier and more patient with each other when we're having sex.

[TR]

Sept 13, 2019 20:19:16 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

We get a what class are you AND a how many times you have sex question in one day?

Right?! We just need someone to post about rehoming their dog!

[lostrn]

Sept 13, 2019 19:58:21 GMT -5 cinnamoncox0 said:

Sept 13, 2019 19:05:55 GMT -5 lostrn said:

Too much.

How much is too much?!

I would say we average daily... usually there's one weeknight that I am absolutely too exhausted but then weekends we will usually do a couple times a day. I'd be content with a couple times a week. DH would be happiest with multiple times every day. Dude, just leave me alone already lol.

[winecat]

Sept 13, 2019 20:19:16 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

We get a what class are you AND a how many times you have sex question in one day?

Based on this post, I thought that the "how do you do it" post was going to go in an entirely different direction.  lol

[Queen Dick, Hibernating Bear]

Sept 13, 2019 21:06:00 GMT -5 isabel said:

We go in spurts.

[Deleted]

Probably 3-4 times a week. It would be every day if my H got his way, but I just can’t get it up that often.

[lobster]

Not nearly enough. It's one of the reasons why we are on the verge of divorce. I don't really remember the last time. It's been at least 6 months.

[klingklang77]

1-2 times a week, but there was no choice for that. I’d like it more.

[NewGirlNic]

I would say twice a week is average. Sometimes it’s 3-4 if we’re in a good rhythm. We just got a new puppy, so that’s been exhausting and putting a damper on things.
We’re definitely weekend warriors. It’s not uncommon for us to have sex 2-3 times over the weekend (Friday night-Sun) and then nothing all week.

[wambam]

2-3/week, usually all on the weekend. Weekday is really rare for us.

[cinnamoncox0]

Sept 13, 2019 21:42:38 GMT -5 lostrn said:

Sept 13, 2019 19:58:21 GMT -5 cinnamoncox0 said:

How much is too much?!

I would say we average daily... usually there's one weeknight that I am absolutely too exhausted but then weekends we will usually do a couple times a day. I'd be content with a couple times a week. DH would be happiest with multiple times every day. Dude, just leave me alone already lol.

I see. Similar amount here but I’m not ready to say leave me alone just yet one day I know it’ll lessen but hopefully we will both be ready to dwindle down around the same time.
There were a few years it wasn’t this frequent at all and this is much better physically and emotionally for us.

[mx27]

Sept 13, 2019 19:05:13 GMT -5 knx9211 said:

Our sex life died once I got pregnant with DS.It stayed dead while I nursed for 13 months. And a few months later, we were back at the RE and it stayed dead, when I became pregnant with DD and it continued to be dead.

Dead dead dead.

Hoping to get back to normal one day. It’s pretty sad actually. I had zero drive while nursing DS and I fear it’ll be the same this time, especially since I’ll now be home with two small kids every day.

Twins! Honestly, I don’t even mind...i’m too busy/tired to muster up the effort. We’ll find our way again, I’m not worried about it.

[kanga1]

My SO is usually gone during the week so we usually do twice on the weekend. Sometimes it's all 3 days of the weekend and if he is home a night during the week then we do then too. Or if he's home all the time then we usually do every other day. We're both pretty satisfied with this amount.
After my divorce from a horrible marriage I had some relationships where we would have sex 4-8 times a day. Then I met my SO and he didn't want to and couldn't go that often. It took me a bit to realize it was okay to not have sex like rabbits all the time.