Our weekend was good, except my kids were determined to drive each other crazy. DS was in full-on annoying little brother mode. DD was just picking at him. He would be pretending and she would come up and say “You aren’t a (ninja, dog, whatever) because you don’t even (know enough tae quan do, have a tail, whatever)!” in her snottiest voice. I yelled at them both on the way to birthday party #2 yesterday.
This week is Spirit Week at school, so the kids have silly things to wear every day instead of their uniforms. Friday morning they have a little parade DS will march in, then we set up for the football game that night. There’s a huge tailgating party with lots of fun stuff going on. Most classes have a tent, and it’s always a great party. I’m taking off Friday for it.
I woke up with no voice today. I’ve had a slight cold, but really not bad, so this was a surprise.
Weekend was busy. Kids had a bunch of friends over, or were at friends houses. 2 soccer games Saturday for DD2. Then Pats by the pool - weird to watch regular season football when it’s 85° outside.
DH is gone until Thursday night, so I’m hoping for a peaceful week.
My friend recently clued me in on some stuff happening in her marriage. Her DH has a drinking problem, and it has been escalating over the years. She told me about 2 months ago. This weekend she decided to start documenting things and sent me videos to tuck away. It’s disturbing and I don’t know what to do. No kids, but she is chronically ill and cannot work. And her elderly dad lives with them. She feels very trapped. But it is her house - she owned it for years before they got married, so she doesn’t want to leave. I’m trying to get her out for a few days under the guise of helping me while DH is away, but she won’t leave her dad. I’ve invited him too, of course, and I have plenty of room, but she’s not ready. So I’m trying to just listen. Any other advice?
Post by mustardseed2007 on Sept 23, 2019 7:07:14 GMT -5
mae0111, that's so hard. No advice but for her to see a lawyer and a therapist. Both.
I just found out that the kids have an edocrinologist appointment Friday morning and that Friday is a half day. I'm so annoyed. I really think it should be a full day given that last Friday school was canceled for weather. The doctor's appointment was made 6 months ago and although I'm gong to try to call and change it, I suspect if I do change it it's going to be for a month or more from now b/c that's how schedule's roll with specialists at our local Children's Hospital. Ugh!
This weekend was good as far as kids go. DS had two playdates and they both went well. We got to see our friend who switched schools last year and it was so nice.
Workout wise was not awesome. I missed an outdoor ride, indoor rides arent the same. I had to cut my long run short b/c I was not feeling well during it. And I have a race that is going to involve a night away from the family and I've been putting off thinking about it. Suddenly it's this weeekend! Another ACK!
Basically I'm looking at this week with measured dread...
Post by covergirl82 on Sept 23, 2019 7:47:54 GMT -5
mae0111, I agree she should meet with a lawyer and a therapist. She should also have a plan for leaving quickly if need be. If possible, she should get a TracFone that her H doesn't know about in case he ever takes her phone away, and give the number to reliable friends. No house is worth her (and her dad's) safety. A girl I worked with years ago had a sister in a similar situation. The sister eventually just had to leave her home and wait for the courts to work everything out so that she got her house back.
Weekend was pretty good. DD had fun cheering Saturday morning and DS's football game was right after. They won, and it was another shut-out. I got to spend time with a good friend for a few hours Saturday afternoon. Sunday we went to church and then spent the afternoon picking up, clearing out some clutter, and cleaning.
I ordered a new love seat for our living room, because we don't have enough places for people to sit when we have people over. We have two chairs and a couch that seats three. I got a small bonus on Friday, so that helped pay for most of it (it was $350, but assembly and delivery added $130). (We don't buy expensive things because 1) our kids are still young enough to ruin things and 2) DH is cheap.)
Hopefully this week at work will be less crazy than the last few, but I have to start working on an issue that came up Friday afternoon...ugh...
We had a pretty low key weekend, which we needed. We did a bunch of meal prep, so we have chili, grilled chicken, and burgers on hand for the week.
I am already over this week. Both kids had to get extra gear together this morning, DD volleyball, DS his dress uniform for club. After school DS and I have to pick up the 26 mums we sold for club and deliver. DD has volleyball tonight and 2 more games this week. DS qualified for the archery tournament this week which is Wednesday and Thursday. Thankfully, DH talked to another dad at the tryouts Saturday and got him a ride since he will be no help because he is working 60 hours this week. I am already tired.
I went on a 40-hour girls trip Thurs evening to Sat evening. This was our 5th year with the four of us doing it, and this year we went to Boulder because one of the friends who lives there just had her second baby. Two of the four of us got married in late 30s and had two kids within 17 months, and we all work full time, so it’s tough to get together. But we packed the spa, hiking, a puzzle, and lots of good food into less than two days.
Then I went home for 24 hours to be with the kids before flying out to New Mexico last night for work. We had soccer pictures for both older kids and a bday party for one of the kids in DD’s class.
Tonight I created my own connecting flight to try to get back and see the kids before they go to bed. Then I fly out again Wednesday for an east coast work trip and back Thursday night. Luckily my meeting is in the city where I grew up and my sister lives, so I get to have a quick dinner with her after my meeting. I’m looking forward to this week being over and getting to be in town mostly for the next couple weeks.
The weekend was great! I didn't get my yard work done, but otherwise got caught up on chores.
The play I saw on Saturday was really beautiful. Perfect mix of funny and sad parts. I'm happy that decided to buy a ticket and go by myself. I'm getting more and more comfortable doing that - going out alone to do things I want to do. I was seated between two adorable older couples and had a nice time chatting with them about the show at the end.
Sunday was an all day date. Started with watching the game all afternoon, then we went to a diner and sat outside eating breakfast for dinner. The weather was so nice we ended up just driving to the lake and talking for a while after dinner. Still kind of in shock that I found this nice guy and it's working out so well.
This week will be busy. It's fair week so the girls have stuff to do for 4H to prep. I'm dropping off their homemade pickle entries tonight. haha
Post by mrsGreeko on Sept 23, 2019 10:19:31 GMT -5
Ugh Monday...
Weekend was busy, I think all I did was drive kids all over the place on Saturday. The glamorous life of being a mom.
I’m feeling super overwhelmed right now. My youngest is having surgery next Tuesday and I’m anxious about that and also about whether it will help fix some behavior issues. I just checked the kids’ grades and my oldest is missing more assignments. I’m so irritated with her. Do your work, turn it in, literally your job kid. Turn in the effing work!! My boss quit and was supposed to be here through Friday this week, but his email address is disabled as of this morning and I have no idea what is happening and I really needed his eyes on something this week and there’s no one else in the company who knows this so I don’t know what to do there. My brother is coming this weekend to finish the walls I’ve been removing wallpaper from so I have to finish getting the wallpaper off. It’s all just feeling like a little too much at his moment. Blah.
Post by erinshelley21 on Sept 23, 2019 10:30:26 GMT -5
We had a pretty good weekend. I took most of Friday off so I could keep DD while MIL had things going on. DD was a total 2.5 year old while shopping so I only got about half of what I hoped to accomplish done. I worked for about an hour in the afternoon then went to Menards to look at lights and get some stain samples.
Saturday was hectic at the last minute. DH was in a wedding and MIL had a separate wedding to go to. Kids had plans that magically appeared since all of the family was busy. That morning SFIL got a message that DH's grandpa (MIL's dad) broke his hip the night before and was in surgery. There's drama there so that's why SFIL got the message and not until 19 hours later. That created a last minute need for childcare before the kids plans started and left me with 15 minutes to do my hair, finish make up and get dressed. Grandpa made it through fine, wedding was fun and over before 9 and I got to have a drink with my BFF.
Sunday was church and working on the new house. I spent 2 hours pulling staples and my back hates me for it. After we took my mom to dinner for her birthday that was on Saturday and got ice cream.
One thing that came up that totally bothered me though.. at some point, there was a "cheers to the fact that we're better mothers than our mothers ever were" and it devolved into a "this is how my mothered screwed up everything" type stuff.
At one point I had to stop and say that I don't agree with any of that. My mother was not perfect, but I don't think she ever set out to be mom saying "oh, I'll just do the bare minimum to keep the children alive, I'll settle with a D- on the report card." Much like my mother before me, I was not handed a how to book on parenting, and I don't know if I'm doing it right, just that I'm doing my best. And that 30 years from now, I hope that DD is more like me - that she doesn't feel the way that these ladies feel. My goal is not to give her a complex about food and weight like my mother did, but I'm sure there's some other complex I'm giving her, and I hope she realizes it wasn't on purpose.
Post by soccermama on Sept 23, 2019 10:55:12 GMT -5
Jeez, I have been slammed since the minute I got to work today! I'm not complaining because normally its kind of slow here so its actually nice to pick up the pace for once.
We had a good & fairy busy weekend (the usual). DD had a soccer game at 4 both Saturday & Sunday. At least there was a playground nearby so that DS (6) could play with other kids, instead of being bored like he normally is.
I am going to hear Ruth Bader Ginsburg speak tonight & I'm excited for that! (and free for me) My undergraduate college is sponsoring this as part of their lecture series.
Post by campermom on Sept 23, 2019 11:01:11 GMT -5
I’m still off. I’m sitting on my patio in the shade and It’s breezy. Listening to my audiobook and working on a sticker mosaic (it’s like paint by number w stickers.) Kids are at daycare and school. Did all my “to dos” during medical leave including photo book for my parents and ordering prints of pictures for us. my cousin is coming over w Lunch soon and I’m looking forward to my first Diet Coke in weeks.
I walked .8 miles today! Also yesterday I went to a picnic and not one but two people asked me if I lost weight.
I go back to work Thursday when my whole life will get crazy stressful again but for now I’m going to embrace all of this. Peaceful!
I've been battling a really bad spinal headache for the last few days so our weekend was very low key. Saturday the weather was gorgeous so we did outside projects. Took DD to action night at the gym (parent night out) and came home to do more yard stuff. We go the pool put away, DH worked on the boat canopy cover, I thatched the front yard and put down seed, and dealt with the garden. Sunday it poured cats and dogs so we ran errands in the rain and then had a quiet afternoon. DD and I painted for fun while DH hung out doing wood working in the garage. Only bummer was DD fell off the mountain at action night and smashed her knee into the floor. It has a nice bruise going on so she was whinny. It seemed to be better when she kept moving but trying to explain that to an 8 year old was difficult.
I am going to hear Ruth Bader Ginsburg speak tonight & I'm excited for that! (and free for me) My undergraduate college is sponsoring this as part of their lecture series.
Post by supertrooper1 on Sept 23, 2019 11:29:54 GMT -5
It was a good weekend. Friday night was dinner with Beau. Saturday I went to DS's soccer game and then Beau and I went to a local casino for a great concert. We stayed the night so we didn't have to worry about driving after a few drinks. Sunday was low key since the weather was bad all day.
I'm excited to get my hair cut and colored today, even though I don't know how I'm getting it done yet!
I had taken Friday off and it was good to have several dates with DH and get stuff done. Sat was soccer. Sunday I had to work and the kids spent their time fighting and driving DH crazy. Back to work today.
On Saturday, DS1 had a soccer game and did really well. He scored 4 goals. Then we went to our community day parade and wandered through the food booths and games. On Sunday, my family had a small birthday party for my niece at my parents' house, which my brother (niece's dad) didn't even show up for. I am so angry with him. He wants to punish my parents because they are cordial to his ex-wife, but he's really punishing my niece too. I don't think him or his wife did anything special to celebrate her birthday. His current wife doesn't like any of us even though we have tried to make her feel welcome. But she's not doing herself any favors by constantly punishing niece for the stupidest things (like niece is grounded for 3 weeks because she clogged the toilet by accident). I feel so bad for my niece and I really hope my brother comes to his senses soon.
And today DS1 woke up with pink eye! What a great start to the week!
Post by soccermama on Sept 23, 2019 12:05:24 GMT -5
mommyatty, campermom, I am so excited about tonight!! I don't feel like I get to "step outside the box/routine" very much because of working/kids, so its great to get this opportunity every once in a while! I will update tomorrow on how it was! ; )
Post by greenmonkey1 on Sept 23, 2019 12:17:14 GMT -5
This weekend I submitted a referral for my youngest for early intervention. The intake coordinator emailed today to inform me that I'll hear from a coordinator to schedule an assessment in the next 7-10 days. Now I'm second guessing my decision to have DS3 evaluated and I really shouldn't. Best case scenario the therapist tells me he is a late talker and will catch up. Medium case scenario involves speech/language therapy, but it will be free and home based (I pay $$$ OOP for DS2's speech therapy and have to schlep him twice a week). Worst case scenario is some developmental/medical scenario I haven't considered.
Post by traveltheworld on Sept 23, 2019 18:06:10 GMT -5
I'm at my conference, and honestly, feel a bit out of place. Since it's a small group (about 40 people), most people seem to know each other; and as I had feared, I don't have nearly as much experience as the others here, so I'm feeling rather self-conscious.
We had a really Saturday together before we left - the kids were just about perfect; and apparently they were perfect yesterday too. I think perhaps we under-estimated how hard back to school was for DS - now that we are a few weeks in, he seems to be doing much better.
greenmonkey1, my first two kids were late talkers, but had improved by 2.5 years. I think you’re thinking about it the right way - there are only upsides, really, to having him evaluated. I hope you get good news!
Post by mommyatty on Sept 25, 2019 18:42:21 GMT -5
sdlaura- we had DS evaluated at about that age. They found he wasn’t technically delayed, though he was slower than average. So while he didn’t qualify for services, they did give us some tips and tricks that I think really made a difference. The biggest thing, which we still battle almost daily, is his older sister talking over him or for him. It’s so frustrating. She’s trying to help. We don’t want him to feel like we are making him talk because he needs help. We don’t want her to feel bad for trying to help her brother. But omg, no matter how often we explain it to her, she does it.
mommyatty, my two older kids are the same sexes as yours and I think the same ages as well (7/2nd grade and 5.5/kindergarten) - and unsurprisingly, we have the exact same issue with DD talking over DS. He’s never been able to answer questions for himself. Now that he’s getting some actual homework, we have to help him with it in a separate room from wherever DD is, so that she doesn’t try to do it for him.
Post by greenmonkey1 on Sept 26, 2019 19:33:14 GMT -5
sdlaura, mommyatty, Thanks for the support. In the grand scheme of things DS3 does talk and he does talk a lot. It's the lack of complexity/simple sentences that really pings my radar. I am going to guess the evaluation will identify him as a late talker, but I'm not an expert hence the call the EI. Like your family's DS3 has older siblings that also talk a lot and I wonder if that contributes. There is only so much air space available!