It’s Friday, right?

[mommyatty]

I’ve had a really weird week. Wednesday I gave a speech around lunchtime, and it was much closer to my house than my office, so I went home afterwards. Then yesterday it looked like I was going to have a meeting-free day, so I worked from home. I needed to do continuing education, and our firewall at work blocks sites with videos, so I can’t do it at the office. Today I’m in the office with several meetings.

Tomorrow is the funeral for the mom of the little girl in DD’s class who died. I may attend just to show support, but it feels weird since I didn’t know the family at all. I may skip it. I don’t know. Any advice?

We have no other plans. I’m going to spend time hugging my kids and telling them how much I love them. That’s the only thing on the agenda.

[waverly]

I am full on PMSing I think, so that is my day. I am excited for the weekend.

Typically if we go to show support (mostly for co-workers relatives) what we do at my job is attend the visitation or wake but not the funeral. We kind of do a 20 minute lap at the funeral home as we are on work hours and head out.

[madringal]

mommyatty - if you have the time, I think that it is always appreciated when someone comes to a viewing/funeral.

This has been a super long, weird week. But I have a girls night tonight at a really cool, new Italian place that just opened in our town and I can't wait to hang with my friends!

[186momx]

I had to run into the office this morning to do a couple things I totally spaced yesterday like my own paycheck. So will hit the bank on the way home. Also stopping by the gym to see a friend this morning since she brings her littles to open gym. DD has practice and then the plan is for her to stay for open gym.

Weekend has nothing planned!!! I think I might clear out the spare room and try to deal with the huge pile of stuff in my bedroom or it might be a movie stay in your pjs all day kind of weekend.

TWERK-DD won't be competing at gym at least this month. All the registration for the meets at the end of the month were already sent in. She is close on a number of skills she needs. Coach J says the only one stopping her from getting them is DD so will see how tonight goes.
DDOT- my migraine subsided to just a dull nagging headache which I can live with and work with.

[twinmomma]

I'd do the wake, not the funeral. The funeral feels too personal if you didn't really know the family.

My empty weekend has completely filled up. I have a date tonight. Tomorrow I'm doing manis/pedis with my sister. Then I'm headed to see a show and spend the night at a friend's house. She offered me a free ticket, so why not?

Sunday I'll finally do the yard work I've been procrastinating on.

[HeartofCheese]

mommyatty , if you have the time and energy to go to the funeral, I'd go.

I'm going for all-you-can-eat sushi tonight and a zombie festival tomorrow. And lots of sex in between with a guy who I have decided is a perfect fit.

And I got DD's Halloween costume: www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07GFK188V/ref=ppx_od_dt_b_asin_title_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

ETA: Make sure you watch the video at the link. You're welcome.

[sdlaura]

mommyatty, if I didn't know the family I would probably send a donation to wherever they've requested. But it would also be totally reasonable and thoughtful to attend.

I've also had kind of a laid back week after two weeks of insane work travel. I even caught up on my meeting notes and cleaned up my office a little bit.

Some friends of ours from when DH was in grad school are in town to go to Legoland, so they're coming over for dinner tonight. I plan to leave work early to clean up the house and cook.

Tomorrow is two morning soccer games, then at sunset we have family pictures on the beach. Our photographer just had a baby on Sunday and still wants to do them. I think she's nuts but I guess there's not an enormous difference between taking 30 minutes of photos when you have a 1-week-old vs. like a 3-week-old (if she were to reschedule). DD and I are getting hair blowouts before the photos.

Sunday we're doing a daytime double date with another couple in the morning to watch football.

[mustardseed2007]

Long bike and run tomorrow followed immediately by fall carnival at the kid's school.

Then long run in the morning and my mom wants to come to dinner. 3 more weekends until my race!

[covergirl82]

mommyatty, I would attend the visitation/viewing if you didn't know her that well.

We got our new dishwasher installed late yesterday afternoon, and a new loveseat (or, as DS calls it, a love couch, LOL) delivered yesterday. I am super excited about the loveseat, because now we have enough seating for 7 people, so when my parents are over once a week and we're all home, we all have a place to sit (that isn't the floor).

Weekend plans... DH said he wants to go to get dinner in our little downtown area of our town tonight. I need to do a little cleaning after that.

Tomorrow DH and DS have to leave around 7:45 am to get to his 9:00 am football game (warm-ups at 8:30, and DH likes to get there early because he's the head coach) at a school across the metro area. I will miss the game because DD has cheer at 9:00 am. Then we are open (i.e., time to work on getting the travel trailer ready to put into storage next Saturday) until warms-ups for DS's baseball scrimmage at 4:00. Hopefully families will want to go out again after the game, as that was really fun last week.

Sunday is church in the morning. DD has her first Odyssey of the Mind practice from 4-5, and then we have small group right after that.

[mae0111]

We’ve had a very difficult week, so hoping for a peaceful weekend. DD2 has 2 soccer games tomorrow, and DD1’s birthday is Sunday. So I think DH is going to offer to take her to see a movie while DD2 and I go to her second soccer game.

Sunday is up in the air. My dad’s birthday is Tuesday so we usually do a combined family party for him and DD1, but it’s usually over the long weekend, which is late this year. My dad is a rabid football fan and there can be no distractions during the game, which takes up the whole day, so probably nothing happening.

[mrsGreeko]

I think showing support after a death is always appreciated even if you don’t know the family super well.

We are just sitting around being lazy as my youngest recovers from his surgery. It hasn’t been bad, but the round the clock Med administration is wearing on me. As is the neediness. He needs an icee, now he needs something to eat, now he wants sherbet, etc etc. I’m so tired.

And dealing with an absolute shitshow at work with my boss leaving and me trying to pick up the pieces and figure out what to do with some things now. Gah.

I applied for a couple of new jobs yesterday because I haven’t been super thrilled with my current job for a bit and now without my boss it’s so much worse

[polecat8]

It finally feels like fall here with the temps in the 60s (instead of 90s)!
DS1 has soccer practice this evening. Maybe we'll sit around the fire afterwards.
Tomorrow, DS1 has a soccer game. Then we'll go to Hay Day with my family. We have family pictures just before dinner time at a local Christmas tree farm. If the kids are still in a good mood after that, we'll go out for dinner.
We don't have any plans on Sunday. I just have to get a 9 mile run done even though it's supposed to rain. I can't wait until my race in 4 weeks so I can be done with this crazy long running business!

[callmekd]

hi all - trying to keep up but things are crazy. my H started his new job earlier this week which required him to travel the 1st two days. I got a promotion and am trying to figure out my new area. we leave for Disneyland in less than 2 weeks, and I feel like time is flying!

[rere]

I went in briefly this morning and then am off. Dh and I went to this 500 mile yard sale. I found some decent golf clubs and bag for $10. Dh and I talked about taking up golf in a couple of years as the kids get more independent.

Going to the cabin with kids and moms tonight. Not sure about tomorrow, but Ds is going to haunted houses with friends.

FFFC. I got a txt today from a former friend to go see Downton Abby Sunday. She totally ghosted me and my Bff years ago. I pretty much only tolerate her at this point because kids and husbands are friendly, but I am not good at acting super nice when I dont like someone. We are the only people wanting to see this movie. I can't think of a halfway tacklful reason not to go. Maybe I'll drive separate.

[waverly]

rere, I am terrible at this too. There is one friend of a friend, and the husbands are friends, and I kind of loathe her but I have to act nice because we see each other often.

[traveltheworld]

This weekend will be our usual kids activities. DS has hockey on both days, and DD has piano and hockey. I also want to get back to our routine of going to the library every weekend, and maybe take the kids to a good farmer's market.

We are having some friends over on Sunday for dinner, so that should be fun.

[librarychica]

I had today off and spent 5 hours deep cleaning my patio. It’s clean and pressure washed. I added some herbs to my herb bed. Threw some broken outdoors toys away and deflated the pool stuff. So that was satisfying. Then we grilled dinner and I’m sitting outside and working my way through my favorite Cabernet.

Tomorrow the girls and I are visiting my parents while H works. My mom is making lunch, we will swim. Sunday it’s yardwork and errands in the AM and then am afternoon visit to a friend’s farm just outside town. Should be a great weekend.

[campermom]

rere, don't take this the wrong way but do you think she couldn't find anyone else to go?

I say this as a person who lets a fair weather friend in my life and I don't know why. She doesn't give to me, like I give to her.

[campermom]

I'm so exhausted! It was my first full week back to work. People I've talked to went back FT at 4-5 weeks but I needed to save my sick days and I went a two 2.5 weeks. It's mostly desk work.

There was a Nosy coworker who grilled my friend for info on why I was out, and eventually became mad at her for not telling. She acted sickeningly sweet, hugging me and using this sappy voice to say how much she missed me (she didn't notice my absence until someone pointed it out after 1.5 weeks). Well if a person who didn't know why I was out approached me, (I'm moving slow and a little hunched over) I would just say "I'm good, thanks for asking!" And they would GET that I didn't want to talk about it. I did tell a few people I trusted, though. So this nosy woman didn't come out and say it, but she asked so many awkward questions and wasn't following my lead that I didn't want to talk about it! She is horrible. When she asked out of the blue if I was running it was clear she can't stop thinking about this and everyone's in the room was like.......uh....plus that caught me off guard since we weren't even talking about this! I just said...um... no not right now but I will at some point....

When I am dressed you physically can't really tell that much is different, I'm sort of dressing it all down. At try some point I will wear something and she might figure it out.

H has drill this weekend so I'm on my own. I might actually take the kids to the gym and walk on the treadmill. Grocery delivery but I can't lift the bags so kids will need to help me out. DS has practice but I can keep the littles on the car and watch tv. Sunday no plans.

[rere]

Oct 5, 2019 6:23:32 GMT -5 campermom said:

rere, don't take this the wrong way but do you think she couldn't find anyone else to go?

I say this as a person who lets a fair weather friend in my life and I don't know why. She doesn't give to me, like I give to her.

I'm very sure that is it. We are the only two around that love the show. She's been more friendly lately I believe because the group she ghosted us for may be shifting. And one of them had a daughter that was close to hers and then dropped her daughter in high school. He daughter is still friends with mine. Female friends man...seems to be cutthroat all the way through.

[mommyatty]

I woke up with a horrible-sounding cough, so I skipped the funeral. But I took the kids to a pumpkin patch/petting zoo/farm thing. And we swam for what may be the last time this season. The water was surprisingly cold!