I’m taking a weird half day. I’m going on late and leaving early. But I need to burn vacation, so even though my meetings today are all in the middle of the day, I’m taking some time. My kids are on fall break today and Monday. I’m also taking off Monday.
Tonight we have a birthday party for a boy in DS’s class. Sunday is a party for a girl in DD’s class. Other than that we are clear sailing!
It's been kind of weird around here. It is raining buckets today. DH's travel plans changed last minute and now he is gone Sunday- Thursday next week for training which is fine, I want him to be successful, but it was supposed to be December. This is actually better timing.
Every time he changes his apple ID because we are all linked, then all of a sudden I can see his texts and he can see mine, and I had a weird one from a co-worker about maybe getting a divorce. Sounds like just a bad fight and they are working through it, but I was like Nooooooo. And it's weird to be told by my H that someone he doesn't know (they aren't programmed into his phone) texted me about their divorce.
DD was not happy to get out of bed, and then told me she feels ugly. Of course I am her mom and biased, but to me she is the most beautiful child that ever walked the earth. Any suggestions on helping her with that? She feels that kids don't play with her even though they do, and she was at Art Club which she loves anyway, so they are making art not playing. She just is extremely hard on herself with high expectations, sounds like my DH and he has depression. How do I protect the mental health of my children? His whole family has depression, how do I make sure she doesn't get it?
I was so exhausted after work travel/ crappy hotel sleep that I went to bed by 9 last night and slept for 10 hours - why don’t I do that every night?
Date night tonight (need to figure out what we’re doing), two soccer games and a pool bday party tomorrow, and school carnival Sunday afternoon. Not too packed so that’s good!
This was a long week. We have been on high alert due to issues at school. My stress level has been so high that I spend much of my day shaking. DD1, after a decent behavior stretch, came unhinged this week. Her grades are slipping because the work is getting harder, and she refuses to do more than 10 minutes of homework a night. She also isn’t paying attention at all in class, so she’s not absorbing anything at school. Part of it is the social stress, but part of it is just refusal and/or inability to focus.
She was supposed to start ADHD medication tomorrow, but the pharmacy lost the prescription when its system went down for 2 days (national chain, not mom and pop). And I haven’t been able to get in touch with the NP to get a new script. So I’m stalking them today.
Tomorrow we are taking the kids to see a show after DD1 plays soccer. Then my dad’s birthday party is Sunday. No school Monday but DH works, so I’m hoping for good weather to hit the playground or something.
Heading to a concert with friends tonight. Can't wait!
Then tomorrow I'll wake up early and head north to visit with my family for the long weekend. My sister is bringing the girls up tonight and I'll meet them in the morning. Weather looks iffy, so I don't know if our original plans of fall outdoor stuff will work out or if we'll just relax around the house for a few days. The girls are fully hooked on reading, so I would not mind a cozy weekend indoors where we all binge read together.
Also planning to tell my folks about beau since things are getting more serious. The timing is good, since the holidays are coming up and I want to get it out there before any holiday plans happen. Wish me luck. They hated XH for our entire relationship and were vocal about that, so the divorce was a bit of a "told you so" moment for them. They were gracious and didn't say it, but they were totally thinking it. So despite the fact that I'm a grown woman, I'm nervous to tell them that I'm dating again.
Post by traveltheworld on Oct 11, 2019 9:36:06 GMT -5
waverly, both DH's and my family has a history of depression, and DH was severely clinically depressed as a teen so I've been on high alert about that from the beginning. So far DS exhibits no signs, but DD is definitely a glass half empty kind of girl. She also has a strong victim and "nobody likes me" mentality. We have tried to shift her focus to what she can do for others (kindness, helpfulness) instead of what others can do for her type of mentality. We meditate with her, do a grateful exercise every night and take every opportunity to point out actions that she's doing that is making a positive impact. DH also made a poster with her chosen affirmations and they read it every morning. I thought it was super cheesy and over the top, but they've been doing it for over a month now and it does seem to help.
Post by soccermama on Oct 11, 2019 10:11:58 GMT -5
I had a donut this morning and it was delicious. So worth it.
So glad its Friday!! DD is going to a social event tonight at our church (her 1st time going) so I'm hoping she likes it. Her last soccer game of the season is tomorrow at 2:30 (45 mins from our house-ugh) and she has a b-day party to attend on Sunday. As usual, DS is just along for the ride HA! In between all of that, I hope to exercise some and get some Fall decorations put out. Also do some meal planning as I plan to do a 21 day detox from carbs & sugar starting Monday (ugh).
waverly, you can’t make sure they don’t get it, any more than you can make sure they don’t get leukemia or Type 1 diabetes or scoliosis. What you can do is be aware of the heightened risk and watch for signs so you can manage it early. DH has obviously untreated OCD and is one of a long line of OCD sufferers in his family. I’m aware that DS can’t sleep unless he counts the bumps on the bottom of his nightlight and then says “and put it back in” before he puts it in its pocket of his dream tent. I watch for other signs, and when I see that they interfere with his quality of life, I’ll make sure he gets treatment, just as I would for any other genetically based illness he could inherit.
mae0111, thinking of you. Please take care of YOURSELF too. You can’t keep up this level of anxiety, which I’m sure you know. Talk to someone.
Tomorrow, we shop for bathroom tile, floors, and countertops. Demo is scheduled for Monday, but I'm not 100% sure we're still on.
We have an invite for a family trip to the local kiddie amusement park, but I'm not really interested in going. I'm just.. tired. I want to relax, not be running around and socializing. I want full on hermit mode. (I went from a week traveling for work, straight into a weekend out of town full of family togetherness for BIL's wedding, and straight into the next work week. I haven't had any downtime and it shows.)
I also need to spend Sunday purging and boxing up my closet - my closet is part of the bathroom, so for the next 4-6 weeks (hopefully no more than that) I'll be living out of a small section of DH's closet and DS's closet. "Luckily" while I know I have 15-20 pairs of bottoms between casual and work, I only wear/fit into 4-5. Same thing with shoes. Less so with tops and dresses. On a happy news note, most of the things I don't fit into is because they're too big. Somehow after two kids, I'm in better shape than when I had all the time in the world and was running 40-50 miles a week.
Monday would normally be my perfect hermit day. Work is closed for Columbus Day, but DH and the kids are at work/school. But alas... the demo. Which I'm hoping they'll tell me on Saturday they need to push out. But if not, I may just hole up at a movie theatre and/or go visit DH at work and ruin his productivity by making him take me to the main campus.
waverly depression runs on my dads side. I keep an eye on mine and look for anything that seems to persist. Plus giving them as much positivity and a soft place to land at home.
Off today, cleaning then haircuts and going to look through some clothes for dd. I have a cousin her size who buys fabulous clothes and wears the about twice. Then to moms for super because she hasn't seen the kids in a while.
Tomorrow shopping for dds dress uniform for national convention and shoes fir homecoming. She has the cutest dress.
So remember when I posted about an incident at my kids' school homecoming bonfire with the unconscious 12 year old girl? Well, the police released a statement on Wednesday that the girl made the whole thing up to get out of some other trouble she was in with her parents. I'm glad nothing serious actually happened, but I'm really worried for this girl. It sounds like she has a lot of issues.
I'm going for a run in this beautiful fall weather after work today. Then maybe we'll go to the library used book sale this evening. Tomorrow, DS1 has a soccer game in the morning, but it is supposed to rain. I'm kind of hoping the game will be cancelled if it is raining. Then DH and I are having a day date at the art museum and then we'll grab a late lunch/early dinner. My parents will watch the kids for us. Sunday is wide open right now. I'll get my 10 mile run done then.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Oct 11, 2019 14:34:42 GMT -5
I actually have a 4 day weekend - off for a field trip, then off on monday for Columbus/Fall Harvest day!
DD had a field trip to a farm. Which is great. Except that it's been 90 degrees here and the temp suddenly dropped to 55 degrees between leaving the school campus and arriving at the farm. And my freakin weather apps said NOTHING about that.
So here's my poor child in shorts and a t shirt and it's freakin cold and incredibly windy (yes it is cold I don't care what you people up north think!). I gave DD a long sleeved shirt of her brother's that was in the car, and then eventually put my jacket on her. We all left early. Despite that it was fun...but it was uncomfortable too!
Long long long bike ride tomorrow, and then 14 miles the next day. Save me. Then a birthday party for a kid on Sunday, followed by a day off on Monday where we plan to hang out with some friends.
I’ve been back having a rough time with returning to work, general exhaustion, pain, not being able to exercise, and H’s trip away coming up. We are on the way to the campground for the last trip of the year. I don’t really want to go...I just started sleeping in my bed last week so I’m not sure how the bed isn’t the camper is going to go.
On the plus side...I can’t lift/pack/unload anything?
So glad it's Friday though today felt like a Monday! Glad I have a 3 day weekend. This weekend we are going on a trip to the mountains near us. Should be fun
Post by librarychica on Oct 11, 2019 19:33:13 GMT -5
We have really nice weather this weekend. Tomorrow H will take both girls to DD1’s riding lesson and they’ll generally hang out with the animals (it’s at a horse and farm animal rescue) for a while. I’ll go to a barre class. In the afternoon he needs to do some serious clothes and shoes shopping and we may or may not go with.
Sunday we are gloriously free of plans. I think I’ll roast a chicken. Maybe do some yard work.
Monday one kid is out of school and I have the day off. Dentist appointments for both kids and H leaves for two weeks, boo.
I’ve been back having a rough time with returning to work, general exhaustion, pain, not being able to exercise, and H’s trip away coming up. We are on the way to the campground for the last trip of the year. I don’t really want to go...I just started sleeping in my bed last week so I’m not sure how the bed isn’t the camper is going to go.
On the plus side...I can’t lift/pack/unload anything?
Too late now but I would have totally backed out. You have a completely legitimate reason to not want to go camping.
Hopefully it's okay and you have fun. Don't push yourself.
No school yesterday and DH took the day off. DD practice got moved yesterday to 12:30-3:30 from 4-7 so that screwed up our plans. The college football game was at 7 last night so have a feeling that was fun why practice shifted not because it was a no school day. Today Saturday I'm at tax school all day. We are learning about Lyft, uber, airbnb, and foreign income and I love our speaker. Sunday is chores and prepping for our busy week.