Because we never did TWERKS and it’s Friday. Bow to my creativity, y’all.
We have our appointment this morning with the therapist who is doing the neuropsychological educational thing for DS. I’m nervous, though I don’t know why. DH filled out the paperwork and he did a really great job. I was frankly surprised. Which makes me feel like a wicked witch of a wife.
Tomorrow is BSC. Two volleyball games for DD. I need an allergy shot. DS has a birthday party. It’s all kinds of crazy. Sunday we will be catching up.
Do you guys believe Thanksgiving is week after next? I’m so unprepared.
I found out yesterday that the position I am hiring for, may not have much to do until next August. The state is telling me they have had all the trainings (one) they will have until next summer, and no one can do this job, teaching classes at high schools and middle schools, without the training. It must be nice to live in their perfect little bubble where staff never leave and anyone can drive 4-5 hours for a week of training whenever they decide to hold it.
Christmas presents are arriving on my door step. I feel so much more accomplished and DD has wrapped two, and I need to wrap two of hers, so when our tree goes up, it won't be naked.
I was playing volleyball tonight, but a couple of friends came over last night to drink around the fire, so I think I am not feeling it.
DD and I are going shopping tomorrow. Then she is supposed to babysit at my house for a 1 year old. I think I am going to try to talk DH into going to the local tavern for drinks and dinner, so I am not babysitting the 1 year old.
We are putting our Christmas tree up Sunday!!! I have talked everyone into it (DD needed no convincing), because the time between Thanksgiving and Christmas is short this year. DS is the lone hold out saying wait until Thanksgiving. I am bribing him with ordering pizza for the event. We will put our downstairs tree up at Thanksgiving break.
Post by librarychica on Nov 15, 2019 9:51:51 GMT -5
The kids are going to my parents tomorrow overnight and H and I had grand plans for couple time with a side of car shopping and a late night dinner with friends. But I have a yeast infection now because of course I do. Hoping the medication works fast.
H and DD2 are on a field trip 1.5 hours away right down the road from my inlaws. The in-laws who never travel to us unless they’re evacuating a hurricane. Like they have come once in three years. They’re down the road, they have passes to the place H and kid are at and regularly go with their other grandkids, they are retired and MIL “may” come and see them, she is watching the weather. God forbid she get sprinkled on. It was never even an idea for FiL to come. I am going rapidly from mild dislike to “I loathe these people.”
Post by sandandsea on Nov 15, 2019 10:00:57 GMT -5
This week has been crazy. We got home after midnight on Tuesday night and resumed school/work on Wednesday. It has only been a week since my SIL passed and it feels like forever. I’m trying to get caught up but am sooo tired. Thankfully ds had very little homework this week, just studying for two tests.
I want to set up Christmas decorations this weekend too but it’s DHs bday and he doesn’t like Christmas creeping in on thanksgiving or his bday.
We have basketball evals, soccer, and bday dinner Saturday and then a bday party on Sunday. Other than that I have 8.2m loads of laundry to get through.
And I’ve forgotten my thyroid meds 2 days in a row so that doesn’t help my slump at all.
librarychica , Same. MIL told DD that she and FIL couldn't come to her volleyball games because they didn't feel good. For 20 games? Through the entire months of August, September and October? Both of you? WTH ever. Probably need to go to the hospital if that is the case.
This week has been the longest short week ever. Holiday Monday, WFH/PTO day for parent teacher conferences on Tuesday, and marathon meetings the rest of the week. I'm beat.
Beau and I are doing dinner tonight and I'll likely stay at his place tonight. We'll probably spend Sunday and maybe Monday/Tuesday evening together too since our kid schedules actually align this week. We both want to take advantage of the time since custody schedules with Thanksgiving and Christmas in the mix are a mess.
Tomorrow I'm spending the day with my family to see a show and do dinner in the city. It'll be nice, even my grandmother is coming. She'll probably make comments about how the girls and I don't visit enough. We don't, but it's just one more thing to cram in on my already limited weekends. I don't mean to not see her, but all of a sudden I realize it's been months and feel like a jerk.
Post by supertrooper1 on Nov 15, 2019 11:37:13 GMT -5
I agree, this has been the longest short week ever.
No big plans this weekend other than spending time with Beau. I have 21 pages of financial questions I have to answer from STBXH's attorney. I need to blow off steam, so there may be a few adult beverages and an Uber in my weekend.
librarychica when BIL would come to visit his parents, he either (1) flew into our town and then rented a car and drove to their town or (2) drove PAST our house to get to theirs. Everytime we knew he was coming into town, we have thrown out the invite for stopping by for a few hours to visit, and everytime, he turned us down. When we went down south for holidays to see my side of the family, EVERY time, we suggested each of us driving 45 minutes to meet up in the middle, and every time, he turned us down because the "drive is too long" (despite us already having driven 5-10 hours with kids just to GET to where my family is. And then I found out he had the gall to complain to his parents that he was sad he didn't have a close relationship with DD. When he met his girlfriend (now wife), she quietly put an end to this, and now we see him on every trip up. Which is nice. I don't want to be around him for huge amounts of time, but he is a great uncle and my kids love him.
sandandsea, I'm on team YH. Christmas decorations wait until Black Friday and come down by Ephiphany. I love, love, love, love, love Christmas and that is more than enough time. Buuuuuuuuut.. if he's going to say you can't do it when you actually have time in your schedule to do it, then he's got to figure out how to make it happen within his constraints.
My kitchen backsplash is done and the kitchen is 98% back together and I love it. My bathroom is.. coming along slowly. Slowly. They really need to hand out anti-anxiety pills as part of their package for when things go wrong because I don't handle it well.
DH hurt his back playing volleyball. Again. It's worse than a man cold. I suggested that once he's feeling better, he needs to spend some time with a personal trainer in the gym (that they offer for a reasonable price at his work that is not an incovenience at all) because he needs to get his core strength up in order to avoid hurting himself so often, and he insists that it has nothing to do with his core or his strength levels. Eyeroll. I maaaaaaaaaaaay have told him that my wedding vows included loving him in sickness and health, but they did not include anything about during frequently occuring preventable injuries.
DD was supposed to have a friend sleep over tomorrow, but I cancelled. Her friend got lice on Wednesday and I'm just too traumatized by our lice experience to risk it.
I got tickets from my boss to the hockey game next week so I could take DD. We had two extra tickets and the *only* person she wanted to invite was a friend from school.. they thankfully accepted, but I'm kind of terrified of spending hours sitting with a mom I've only met casually before. I suck at meeting people and making friends. I luckily also get to expense in beer and don't have to drive, so there will be some social lubrication.
Post by traveltheworld on Nov 15, 2019 12:31:58 GMT -5
Work is just crazy right now. There's so much drama, and since my office is right beside the CEO's, there is a constant stream of people coming in and out and I find it super distracting.
I'm living in a high state of anxiety. DH's contract ends on Dec. 31 and he has no idea if it'd be renewed or not. I feel like we are not doing enough to support DS in living up to his talents, and that I'm neglecting DD because DS is so high-needs. Then next week I'm gone Monday to Friday on a work trip and have to speak on a panel. All of which is adding to my anxiety.
I feel like this week has been dragging. Last Sun/Mon, we took the kids to Great Wolf Lodge and met up with SIL, BIL, and their two kids. Ever since we got home, there has been no down time. We've had something every evening this week and I'm so tired since DS2 was up for 2 hours last night. Tonight is Parents' Night Out at the Y. I'm looking forward to dropping off the kids and having a quiet dinner with DH. Tomorrow, we'll head back to the Y to workout in the morning. Then I'll take DS1 with me to do some shopping with my mom. DH and the other kids can tag along if they want to. We have absolutely nothing planned on Sunday and I am excited to do nothing.
The highlight of my week was picking up my new car yesterday. The remote start and heated seats/steering wheel were very much appreciated this chilly morning!
I’m still sick. Everyone else in my department is mostly sick. 2 people tried to call in but that would leave someone to be alone for 2.5 hours which doesn’t work due to volume of people. So one agreed to come in. I took today off because of PT conferences and the kids are off. So I could have helped out for a few hours but would have had to bring the kids, so thankfully it worked out. They had good review except for DS’s writing which is to be expected.
I have to work Sunday so I have Monday off. Not sure what we are doing Saturday. We did t do any activities this week because of DS’s concussion which was nice. I am definitely an 80 year old woman. I don’t like driving in the dark. Are there any night glasses that help with the glare?
We are at the library near where we live and I think I’m taking them shopping for DH’s present after. He threw a big ta do about that last year last minute of course so I want to do it super early this time. I hate last minute surprises in terms of workload because I am pretty scheduled.
DH is sick, and stressed, and taking it out on me and being really snotty. An old friend of mine that I’ve known for 30 years is going through a very difficult time. He is prone to depression and his sister committed suicide due to her depression a few years ago. He’s had to enter treatment in the past. He is afraid to tell his wife what is happening. He will be nearby this weekend and asked to see me. I wanted to coach him through talking to his wife. DH was so shitty about it.
For crissake I haven’t asked DH to watch the kids while I see a friend since AUGUST. I schedule friend time around the kids’ schedule whenever possible, which means I don’t see working mom friends unless they WFH and can sneak out.
I’m pissed. Like beyond. And he will gaslight me if I try to discuss it with him.
Well this day is going weird. There was an incident at a school. The news station wanted an on air interview due to it being health related. I was going to dress nice today, but it is Friday which is my casual day and a lot of people are out, so I have on boots, jeans and a sweatshirt. I took a cardigan off a coworker and they filmed from the chest up. Plus, I this was not a hair wash day which is usually not the best hair day.
Post by sandandsea on Nov 15, 2019 15:18:30 GMT -5
k3am. I’m generally team Black Friday too. Buuuuut thanksgiving is so late this year and we leave well before Christmas so I want to do it early. And we could wait to turn them on and just set it up now technically.
PTO is imploding and I actually have no idea what is up. I told the current president who has a 5th grader that I don't think I have the time or bandwidth to be on the board but will stick it out for this school year. Not that I don't want to help I just don't want to be in a lead role.
DD gym coach told us Tuesday that she needs to do private lessons with DD because she doesn't teach skills in level 3 just practices so to catch DD up we need privates. I'm not amused but going with it and told the head coach that this is not the time of year I have lots of extra funds for privates.
I guess it just has been a very full week and everything needs lots of effort.
k3am . I’m generally team Black Friday too. Buuuuut thanksgiving is so late this year and we leave well before Christmas so I want to do it early. And we could wait to turn them on and just set it up now technically.
With your schedule... if you have the time/energy to do it now, I'd do it now.
This has truly been the hardest parenting period of time I have ever had. This trip has been the hardest one on me yet, and we have been through deployment all over the place for our 14 years of marriage. I am so exhausted and so overworked right now. My youngest is still very challenging and I have had some very dark days this month.
My husband leaves to come home tomorrow. I have barely spoken to him. 1) I’m too exhausted 2) I’m very resentful. I admit it.
I just texted him to tell him I scheduled a trail run on Sunday at 8 am. I did not ask nor did I leave room for a “but...” from him. I’m sitting in my car at a park right now just taking a deep breath before I pickup my 4 year old and then get the big kids.
I liked the psychologist. She’s really nice and seems to be focused on how to help DS find ways to compensate if he has issues. And I’m pretty sure he has some working memory issues and maybe some visual or hearing processing issues. Unfortunately in my insane life, I realized I’m supposed to be in DC giving a speech on the day he will do his testing. Which makes me feel like a terrible mom even though we just drop him off, come take him to lunch, and then pick him up early in the afternoon. So DH could easily handle it. (Cue guilty mom voice saying “but he needs his mommy.”)
mae0111, could it be because it's a male friend, not because he has to watch the kids while you go out?
Possibly, but he’s like this every time I try to make plans with anyone - male or female - if it’s of any inconvenience to him. It’s tiresome. The guilt trips and following gaslighting have made me not want to see anyone anymore.
I might be more understanding of that perspective if a) he didn’t do it every time and b) he didn’t have female friends who have a history of flashing people... and he makes plans with them whenever he can without a word from me.
I think everyone has good ideas to do Christmas trees early - hmmm, maybe we'll do that soon. Especially since we leave 12/23 for 1.5 weeks on the East coast, so it would be nice to enjoy the tree for a month first (it's fake so we can leave it up). We re-organized our living room this past year when we got built-in shelving, so I'm excited to have a better place to put the tree now, and also I think DS2 is old enough for us to not have to put a giant gate around the tree this year.
Agree that this was a ridiculously long short week. DD and DH are camping this weekend with the YMCA dad/daughter group, so it's just me and the boys. DS1, who hated soccer and just goofed off at the beginning of the season, has all of a sudden gotten excited about it. He has a game at noon tomorrow and then a tournament with 3 short games on Sunday afternoon. I got a babysitter to put DS2 down for nap Sunday so that I can actually watch DS1 play soccer and so that I'm not rushed to try to get home for nap. I'm a nut about sleep schedules. We'll probably go to the Y both mornings so I can exercise and shower and the boys can play at child watch. A single mom friend of mine and her daughter are coming over Saturday night for dinner.
If anyone is looking for a team-building activity at work - we just had a "crafternoon" where we hot-glued moss and succulents to the tops of pumpkins and it was our best team-building activity we've had in my 12 years here. It was easier than expected, both men and women got to try something new together, and I ended up with something I'll actually use at home. The end products looked like this:
Not sure if last nights birthday party was worth it. I completely ruined my voice talking to other moms (due to my cold). It was a 30 minute drive in Friday rush hour traffic so probably more like 40 minutes. DH was supposed to leave the city at 4, but didn’t leave until 5, so I had to totally crash the party with an extra child. I mean we had fun but I cannot talk today at all and I have to work tomorrow and talk to people.
Random update from date night: when beau went to use the restroom before we left, the waitress made a point to come over and tell me "He's a really great guy. You look so happy. Congratulations!"
Post by librarychica on Nov 17, 2019 17:43:59 GMT -5
We went straight from 24 hours with the grandparents to a 3 hour roller skating birthday party and there were no meltdowns. And there were meltdown triggers everywhere! I had to take DD2 even though she wasn’t invited and though I paid for her skates and tried to keep her separate, she wanted in with the big kids. No one over 12 spoke English and my Spanish is awful and so I couldn’t properly explain that I’d paid for her and so worried that they’d think I was a mooch! (This is a somewhat irrational fear of mine. They didn’t seem to.) DD1 can’t really skate! Emotions ran high for all three of us but we made it without incident.
We went straight from 24 hours with the grandparents to a 3 hour roller skating birthday party and there were no meltdowns. And there were meltdown triggers everywhere! I had to take DD2 even though she wasn’t invited and though I paid for her skates and tried to keep her separate, she wanted in with the big kids. No one over 12 spoke English and my Spanish is awful and so I couldn’t properly explain that I’d paid for her and so worried that they’d think I was a mooch! (This is a somewhat irrational fear of mine. They didn’t seem to.) DD1 can’t really skate! Emotions ran high for all three of us but we made it without incident.
This was my issue with the birthday party that DS crashed. I would never ever do that but I had no choice. We do leave him home for short periods at 9, but I didn’t want to leave him for 1.5 hours when it was originally supposed to be 1/2 hour. I guess I figure some kids cancel last minute some show up last minute so the numbers even out and actually that did happen because one boy was sick. So I told myself not to worry about it, but I did feel bad.
I’ve had a busy weekend, but it’s been really good. Saturday DD (7) finally, FINALLY managed to serve the ball over the net in volleyball. 4 times, including match point! So she scored the winning point, which was awesome. DS has fun at a party for his friend, and we found out his friend has some of the same sensitivities DS has to loud noises, which was nice to hear. I guess that’s one of the reasons they like to play together: they aren’t loud boys. So they can be not loud boys together.
Today was a quiet day. So I used it for things that fed my soul. I taught DD to use the sewing machine and helped her make two stuffed snakes. I made a casserole to take to one of DD’s friend’s family because the mom just spent a week in the hospital. I got some appliqués done on a quilt I’m making for DS. It was busy but fun.
Then DD came in and said the carpet in the living room was wet. Third time in 2 days. The first time we assumed the kids had spilled water and didn’t fess up to it. Second time I didn’t know about. Third time, we are pretty sure we have a flipping slab leak. Sooooo, shit. DH is going to call a plumber tomorrow while I take DS to the ophthalmologist to see if he needs glasses.
Post by covergirl82 on Nov 18, 2019 20:39:26 GMT -5
This is way late, but we got some sad news last Thursday about a former coworker of both me and DH's...he was just diagnosed with a kind of leukemia, and they started chemo right away. He has a wife and two kids, and his kids are around DS and DD's ages. Based on their FB posts, they have a positive attitude, but I'm sure they are also scared.
This is way late, but we got some sad news last Thursday about a former coworker of both me and DH's...he was just diagnosed with a kind of leukemia, and they started chemo right away. He has a wife and two kids, and his kids are around DS and DD's ages. Based on their FB posts, they have a positive attitude, but I'm sure they are also scared.
I’m so sorry. Having just been through it some thoughtful things people did for my BIL and SIL were start a food train and set up a calendar to offer to help with kids (play dates, driving to/from places, etc). Their community really came around them and made a huge difference. They’ll likely need a lot of help with logistics and basic stuff.
They used a site called lots of helping hands or something like that. One of my SILs friends set it up and BIL and SIL could add specific needs to it as they arose.