We asked for our lighting to be updated at our office when we signed our new lease in September. Landlord approved it and the lighting guys called right before extension deadline saying they were on their way and we were like no you need to schedule not just show up today is not a good day. All our lights are on one switch so getting them redo means we won't be able to work. Fast forward to yesterday where we call landlord and he says you need to call and schedule. Okay who do we call and schedule with. We call leave a message with our hours and what we are needing. They call at 4 yesterday after we are closed saying they will be here this morning. Okay I get that message this morning. So I guess we are getting our lights done today? Why can't contractors be conscience of people's schedules?
186momx, I am mid bathroom reno. My coworker is mid "unit upstairs busted a pipe and it's flooded her unit, has mold damage etc." And we have come to the conclusion that contractors all operate with a different set of rules that no one else is privy to.
Yup I don't understand them. Whenever we get something from our heating/ cooling people here it takes weeks and weeks and weeks to get the part in. Nevermind we are a large public building partially without heat. My boss doesn't stalk people as well as I do ha ha, so I never have the info. I would have called daily if we had no heat if it were me. He's all patient about it.
We are waiting on something else that I've wanted for what 8 years or so. They ordered the part, again not getting back to us on when they are installing. We have to close the front doors again on a large public building. We kind of need to know when this is happening!
Post by greenmonkey1 on Nov 20, 2019 12:46:14 GMT -5
I told DH I woke up in a panic a couple of days ago about all the stuff we have to do to get our house ready to sell. My hope was that he'd jump in and pick up some of the slack (he's doing diddly squat to help currently). Nope, his response was "maybe we shouldn't try to move this year then". Except this year is the best year for our family when we look at the next 5-6 years. So it's really either move this year or wait 6 years. I don't want to potentially move school districts with MS aged kids, that's a tough age. DH agrees with the timeline, he just appears uninterested in helping get the house ready to sell. But he's all over the real estate listings and wanting to go to open houses. I'm pretty much at my wit's end trying to get some actual buy-in from him on the selling our house side.
I’m having more and more problems with a coworker - we are supposed to be on the same team servicing a client together. I am technically the lead. He traveled from Boston to Texas to meet with them and didn’t tell me. His defense is that he was going for a football game anyway and they asked to tack on a meeting. Fine. If you have time to change your travel plans to meet with them, you have time to shoot me a quick call or email letting me know so I/others at the firm don’t look like idiots for being out of the loop. Firm powers that be agree it’s not ok and said they’d take care of it. This is awful, but I think this coworker has some sort of CTE -he played in the NFL. He has a terrible memory and his personality is super mercurial.
The principal at the kids’ school is getting a huge award from the Archdiocese. It’s not an education award, but rather a “you’re the best Catholic ever” award.
After the way she treated DD1 and the rest of our family, I’m very upset that she was even considered. There’s a lot more that has happened that I didn’t share, and my lawyer is in the mix now. Her behavior was not fair, not forgiving, and incredibly punitive... not “best Catholic EVAH” material to me.
I’m very tempted to forward a letter from my lawyer to the Cardinal, but I won’t because it’s spiteful. But I will not congratulate her.
Post by covergirl82 on Nov 21, 2019 8:10:00 GMT -5
I'm irritated that one of our company "strategies" is to "think and act digitally", but then I have a meeting today, on my WFH day, and I'm told having a Microsoft Teams meeting is not an option and today was the only day that worked for everyone else.
I'm irritated that one of our company "strategies" is to "think and act digitally", but then I have a meeting today, on my WFH day, and I'm told having a Microsoft Teams meeting is not an option and today was the only day that worked for everyone else.
I didn’t realize we worked for the same company! 😉
Post by librarychica on Nov 21, 2019 10:36:28 GMT -5
Attempt two at getting dog spayed. H called in a favor to get a friend to drop her off. Vets office had lost all the paperwork we filled out so I had to scan it in from work and then they called not wanting to do the spay because she is 6 days over for her bordatella.
A) why do people vaccines have to be done like once a decade but dogs need them all the damn time?
B) why did I get no reminder? We were JUST THERE getting shots it seems. Or did they not check before scheduling surgery?
C) no. This is dumb. She’s not going to get kennel cough and perish. They are doing the surgery.
I raised my voice some and was not polite. I apologized but now I feel guilty.
Post by supertrooper1 on Nov 21, 2019 12:10:20 GMT -5
A continuing resolution hasn't been passed yet for government spending, which expires tonight at midnight. I hate having to watch the news to see whether or not I work tomorrow.
A continuing resolution hasn't been passed yet for government spending, which expires tonight at midnight. I hate having to watch the news to see whether or not I work tomorrow.
I'm hoping that it hasn't been talked about too much b/c it's going to pass and everyone knows it.
I just got to work. I've been at School since 8:15 at two thanksgiving feasts and then handing out the last of the prizes for our fun run. Thank goodness I'm finally done with that! Now I just have to finish up the sponsorship prizes. I think it's going to be 2020 by the time the whole thing is done.
When I’m out of town, DH completely falls apart. Granted this week is crazy because I had a long trip and he and the kids are staying with his mom because our house is full of fans drying out walls and floors. But today DS had a Thanksgiving feast at school and was supposed to wear black shirt and pants. DH forgot. DD has volleyball practice. He forgot. What the hell. He’s a SAHD. Keeping up with this shit is literally his job. So why do I have to remind him to do his job?
I’m annoyed about this. I’m even more annoyed that in addition to working on the road this week and reminding him stuff is happening (which he doesn’t connect to “I need to do X since Y is happening”), I’m also planning Thanksgiving for next week and kid activities since the kids are off school all week and figuring out Christmas shopping. While he’s.... I’m sorry, what does he do again? I honestly don’t know.
mommyatty - I’m annoyed for you. I’m now a SAHM and that stuff falls squarely with me. DH knows NOTHING of what has to happen at school unless he is expected to be there. Honestly. I mean, I wish it was different and he was a bit more involved, but he can’t handle it. He just can’t. So I do. Because, you know, IT’S MY JOB.
I keep a ridiculous paper calendar to keep all that crap straight. He knows nothing. And that’s as it should be.
mommyatty, I would be raging. I'd probably go so far as to tell him that since SAHD is his job, he is fired and needs to get a different one since he can't pull off the basic tasks and responsibilities involved. But, that may not be the nicest way to deal with the issue.
Post by covergirl82 on Nov 22, 2019 8:56:55 GMT -5
mommyatty, that is unacceptable. I agree with others, if you're a SAH parent, it's your job to keep track of anything that goes on during the day. If he can't handle that and needs you to do most of it, then maybe he needs to get a different job.
mommyatty, I used to be the SAHP. In my mind, if this is my role, then I took up most of the house/kid load so DH could do his job. Of course he still had to help out, but I was the house manager and made sure things were running. Unfortunately, that is still my role as FT working parent, I just delegate more.
mommyatty, super frustrating! On a practical level, do you guys have a shared calendar? There could be a separate color of items for things that he has to take care of. That way you wouldn’t have to nag. Assuming he’d actually look at it?
My DH is also a SAHD, yet I am still managing the household tasks/events. DS1 has Fall Feast today where an adult can join them for lunch. DS1 asked DH to go. It's been on the calendar for a few weeks. Yet I had to remind DH that he needed to find a babysitter for DS2. The other week, I had to remind him that there was a fundraiser pickup around the same time as DS1 got home on the bus and I wouldn't be home to help him. I asked him how he was going to figure it out, he gave me a smart ass answer, and I didn't ask any more about it. I'm still not sure how he managed it.
We have a shared Google calendar with a 60 min reminder. DH never knows what is going on until 60 mins before it happens.
I though he was just overwhelmed during the summer when he had all three kids at home during the day. But now that he only has one kid to manage during the day, the dishes pile up in the sink and the clean laundry sits in a basket in front of my dresser.
My vent: I just found out that my 2 days of executive planning meetings is actually 4 days. I'm running the first day. And on the third day, I'm hosting our company Christmas party so I have to manage all the vendors and last minute stuff for that while being locked in a room planning 2020. Oh, not to mention the fact that it takes me away from my desk for FOUR full days. I kind of want to cry just thinking about it. But I don't want to let on to the CEO that I'm too overwhelmed, because I really want this promotion. I desperately have to hire someone to be able to keep all these plates spinning if this promotion is for real.
Post by greenmonkey1 on Nov 22, 2019 14:48:41 GMT -5
mommyatty I'm a SAHM currently and manage all the house/kid stuff. Do your kids like calendars? My older boys (7 and 5) both have paper calenders and I put the exciting things they need to remember so they can get in the habit of being responsible/aware of their own schedule. Your DH still needs to step up to the plate, but your kids might be able to help manage themselves and thus take some of the stress off you.
Is your DH the type that if you don't do it (i.e. Thanksgiving plans, Christmas presents, etc.) it doesn't get done or it gets done poorly? I have no solution for that one as I deal with it on a constant basis with my DH. The first year I told DH it was his responsibility to get his Mom's birthday present he forgot/didn't bother and ended up getting her a big jar of 4C powdered iced green tea mix the night before. I am pretty certain she doesn't drink iced tea plus her birthday is in the fall when the weather is cold where I live.
My sister has unofficially moved in my house despite my mom's house being 10mins away and I am extremely displeased..you all gave me good advice this past summer and it saved our family summer vacation somehow things have gotten worse since then!
My sister has unofficially moved in my house despite my mom's house being 10mins away and I am extremely displeased..you all gave me good advice this past summer and it saved our family summer vacation somehow things have gotten worse since then!
I am at my wit's end and its my fault.
Not sure how to tell her to leave now...
Uh sis, you can’t live here.... Do you need help finding an apartment?
Post by mustardseed2007 on Nov 26, 2019 10:01:58 GMT -5
My vent is I had off yesterday so DH could handle stuff in court, but today I'm working, and tomorrow and the rest of the week I have off. Working on a Tuesday but not on a Monday is so....it's insanity. I can't believe I did this to myself and I can't believe I actually got out of bed and made it here.
I have a meeting in 30 mins, the another after that, then the office thanksgiving party and then another meeting after that.
Dh told me last night he isn't comfortable driving to our friends on Friday due to what the weather is forecasted to be like and how much snow the passes has already gotten. Okay, good. I tell him he needs to call and let them know. No he wants me to do it so they don't get mad at him but it is okay for them to get pissed at me again. Argh be an adult DH! I'm pretty sure I'm going to send my text to them exactly how I wrote that first sentence.
And head lice is going around before/after care. So far it seems to be limited to just one school which isn't DD but we are still being cautious. Tea tree oil shampoo is just yuck to wash super long hair in.