This is dumb and makes me feel guilty, but I feel like my mom talks to my daughters like they are still 3 or 4. She also is always on them immediately for a glass that is in anyway near the edge of a table, even when it is not.
And then I feel guilty because she is my only living parent and has been having health issues the past few years.
It drives me insane how my MIL talks to DS. So sing songy and SO SLOW. It takes her 30 seconds to read the two lines of each page of a book. “And the CAAAAR goes veeeeerrryy faaaaaaast!” Lady what. Stop it. My kid isn’t an idiot. Speak to him normally.
This is dumb and makes me feel guilty, but I feel like my mom talks to my daughters like they are still 3 or 4. She also is always on them immediately for a glass that is in anyway near the edge of a table, even when it is not.
And then I feel guilty because she is my only living parent and has been having health issues the past few years.
It drives me insane how my MIL talks to DS. So sing songy and SO SLOW. It takes her 30 seconds to read the two lines of each page of a book. “And the CAAAAR goes veeeeerrryy faaaaaaast!” Lady what. Stop it. My kid isn’t an idiot. Speak to him normally.
The other day in the car, my mom pointed out the clouds to K. She will be 8 in three weeks. Needless to say, she did not care about the freaking clouds.
I’m annoyed my SIL (brothers wife) refers to my mom as “mom” when talking to me. Like “Mom gave me this plant.” I was so confused for a while then realized she was talking about my mom not her mom. Just use her first name. She’s not your mom.
My neighbors house is less than 2 years old. It’s a plain looking two story with a flat front except for a porch roof. There are 3 windows on the second floor and a window, door, window on the first floor. They aren’t centered with each other and the first floor windows are much smaller than the second floor windows. It’s the first house I see on the culdesac when I turn on my street and it drives me nuts. They sold it after exactly 1 year so I wonder if the whole house is shoddy work.
This is dumb and makes me feel guilty, but I feel like my mom talks to my daughters like they are still 3 or 4. She also is always on them immediately for a glass that is in anyway near the edge of a table, even when it is not.
And then I feel guilty because she is my only living parent and has been having health issues the past few years.
It drives me insane how my MIL talks to DS. So sing songy and SO SLOW. It takes her 30 seconds to read the two lines of each page of a book. “And the CAAAAR goes veeeeerrryy faaaaaaast!” Lady what. Stop it. My kid isn’t an idiot. Speak to him normally.
This drives me CRAZY.
On Thanksgiving my son and I were sitting in the kitchen and my parents came in to say goodbye to me and my kid. We were chatting for a few minutes and suddenly SO's mom comes in, inserts herself into the middle of the group, and basically starts narrating for my son. "Looks like Nana and Papa are leaving now, right? Can you say goodbye?" in this unbelievably infuriating singsongy voice that I fucking hate.
I don't have much of a filter and I am so afraid some day I'm going to just burst out with something I shouldn't.
Also--my son is 4+ years old so he knew what was going on.
I hate all baby talk. I don't really understand the urge to add an extra syllable onto a word simply because you're talking to a baby/toddler. Is "doggy" so much better than "dog"?
I’m annoyed my SIL (brothers wife) refers to my mom as “mom” when talking to me. Like “Mom gave me this plant.” I was so confused for a while then realized she was talking about my mom not her mom. Just use her first name. She’s not your mom.
My SIL does this too and it drives me nuts! I’ve been putting up with the woman for decades, you don’t get to call her mom lol
Post by lolalolalola on Dec 2, 2019 14:06:51 GMT -5
In line with other posts above. I have a very good friend who decided to call her in-laws mom, dad, brother, sister, etc.
She did not ask them, they did not agree, she just decided to do this on her own. I always wonder how they feel about it. I know that in my family this is not the norm and I can’t imagine if my DH just started using the term mom and dad without asking first.
I’m annoyed my SIL (brothers wife) refers to my mom as “mom” when talking to me. Like “Mom gave me this plant.” I was so confused for a while then realized she was talking about my mom not her mom. Just use her first name. She’s not your mom.
My SIL does this too and it drives me nuts! I’ve been putting up with the woman for decades, you don’t get to call her mom lol
I grew up with my mom calling her inlaws mom and dad, and i think my dad did the same. For me, this is normal (not saying one is right and the other wrong). Maybe that is what your SIL saw growing up too? I think If I had known my inlaws for years before marrying H, I could have gone the first name route. But I did not and I don't even think they offered using their first names right away.
It drives me insane how my MIL talks to DS. So sing songy and SO SLOW. It takes her 30 seconds to read the two lines of each page of a book. “And the CAAAAR goes veeeeerrryy faaaaaaast!” Lady what. Stop it. My kid isn’t an idiot. Speak to him normally.
This drives me CRAZY.
On Thanksgiving my son and I were sitting in the kitchen and my parents came in to say goodbye to me and my kid. We were chatting for a few minutes and suddenly SO's mom comes in, inserts herself into the middle of the group, and basically starts narrating for my son. "Looks like Nana and Papa are leaving now, right? Can you say goodbye?" in this unbelievably infuriating singsongy voice that I fucking hate.
I don't have much of a filter and I am so afraid some day I'm going to just burst out with something I shouldn't.
Also--my son is 4+ years old so he knew what was going on.
I hate all baby talk. I don't really understand the urge to add an extra syllable onto a word simply because you're talking to a baby/toddler. Is "doggy" so much better than "dog"?
I took a dig at it the other day. My mom said something about how well our 2 year old speaks and that he comes up with some pretty complex thoughts. I went off on a tangent about how I wonder if it’s because we refuse to baby talk to him and even did an impression of the bullshit sing songy nonsense. DH has to know his mom does that so I wondered if he knew I was definitely in part taking a dig at her.
Also she always talks negatively about how as kids, DH’s aunt and uncle would make their kids “perform”- like “Adam, can you do this? Show everyone how you do this.” I find it ridiculous when they criticize this because my ILs live pretty far so we FaceTime a few times a week. They spend 90% of the call doing “Can you do this? Show me this. Can you say this?” And seemingly get irritated when he keeps just doing his thing.
In line with other posts above. I have a very good friend who decided to call her in-laws mom, dad, brother, sister, etc.
She did not ask them, they did not agree, she just decided to do this on her own. I always wonder how they feel about it. I know that in my family this is not the norm and I can’t imagine if my DH just started using the term mom and dad without asking first.
I do think it's odd to not ASK what they preferred to be called. But if everyone is on board, then I think people should do what they want. I have a good friend who calls her ILs mom and dad and they love it.
I would never be comfortable doing this myself, but if it works for others- good for them. BUT yes, it should be asked "waht do you prefer I call you"
I just got a Christmas card in the mail from my dad and his wife. Its a photo card and features pics of me, my kids, and my siblings/nephews. I know in the grand scheme this shouldn't matter but OMG I am SO annoyed by this. Why did they think it was OK to send a photo card with me/my kids on it without asking??
A woman I shoot archery with posts often on FB asking for gifts. It could be a random shirt, craft kit, appliances, or whatever. She'll post the link with her size and color preference. I know it doesn't effect my life, but man it irritates the hell out of me.
What is this nonsense???
Yesterday it was a Little Mermaid snowglobe. Friday it was Mickey Mouse earrings.
In line with other posts above. I have a very good friend who decided to call her in-laws mom, dad, brother, sister, etc.
She did not ask them, they did not agree, she just decided to do this on her own. I always wonder how they feel about it. I know that in my family this is not the norm and I can’t imagine if my DH just started using the term mom and dad without asking first.
I do think it's odd to not ASK what they preferred to be called. But if everyone is on board, then I think people should do what they want. I have a good friend who calls her ILs mom and dad and they love it.
I would never be comfortable doing this myself, but if it works for others- good for them. BUT yes, it should be asked "waht do you prefer I call you"
i agree 100% . I do think it's weird when she references them on facebook or introduces them to other people as her sibling/parents, regardless of what she calls them.
It annoys me when I am hanging out with a friend, and they are on their phones so much. I mean, I guess this is probably not irrational, but I guess maybe they don't think its an issue because we are close friends so it should be okay. I don't know, maybe I am just overly sensitive about it. I make an effort to be present with the people I am with, and I don't really like it when others aren't on the same page. I suppose I can bring it up, but it feels petty, like I don't get to demand attention from someone when we hang out a lot.
My mom is guilty of the baby talk to my DD - who is 9 - and started calling her out on talking to her like a baby when she was about 8. My mom hasn't stopped though.
On a related note, my mom, dad and brother all refer to themselves in the first person when speaking in the presence of my 9 year old DD. For example, "Uncle has a stomach ache." Wtf - you don't speak that way normally! Knock it off!!!!
I just got a Christmas card in the mail from my dad and his wife. Its a photo card and features pics of me, my kids, and my siblings/nephews. I know in the grand scheme this shouldn't matter but OMG I am SO annoyed by this. Why did they think it was OK to send a photo card with me/my kids on it without asking??
My SIL does this too and it drives me nuts! I’ve been putting up with the woman for decades, you don’t get to call her mom lol
I grew up with my mom calling her inlaws mom and dad, and i think my dad did the same. For me, this is normal (not saying one is right and the other wrong). Maybe that is what your SIL saw growing up too? I think If I had known my inlaws for years before marrying H, I could have gone the first name route. But I did not and I don't even think they offered using their first names right away.
I’m pretty sure she didn’t because I’ve been around them and her parents called their in-laws by their first names.
It isn’t something my mom suggested either but she accepts it and thinks it’s a little weird.
I could sort of see if she was my brother’s HS girlfriend or something but they met as (young) adults and got married pretty quickly. Both her parents are living too which makes a bit of a difference to me.
Now my mom has brain cancer and neither my SIL nor my brother are very helpful or can manage doing simple tasks so it is really irking me even more now.
It annoys me when I am hanging out with a friend, and they are on their phones so much. I mean, I guess this is probably not irrational, but I guess maybe they don't think its an issue because we are close friends so it should be okay. I don't know, maybe I am just overly sensitive about it. I make an effort to be present with the people I am with, and I don't really like it when others aren't on the same page. I suppose I can bring it up, but it feels petty, like I don't get to demand attention from someone when we hang out a lot.
It annoys me when I am hanging out with a friend, and they are on their phones so much. I mean, I guess this is probably not irrational, but I guess maybe they don't think its an issue because we are close friends so it should be okay. I don't know, maybe I am just overly sensitive about it. I make an effort to be present with the people I am with, and I don't really like it when others aren't on the same page. I suppose I can bring it up, but it feels petty, like I don't get to demand attention from someone when we hang out a lot.
I’d bring it up. I’m fine with a quick snap or text but phones down, please! I just stop seeing people who were on their phone all the time. Its exhausting and I’d always feel like I was competing for their attention. No thank you! I’d want someone to tell me vs quietly seething.
I grew up with my mom calling her inlaws mom and dad, and i think my dad did the same. For me, this is normal (not saying one is right and the other wrong). Maybe that is what your SIL saw growing up too? I think If I had known my inlaws for years before marrying H, I could have gone the first name route. But I did not and I don't even think they offered using their first names right away.
I’m pretty sure she didn’t because I’ve been around them and her parents called their in-laws by their first names.
It isn’t something my mom suggested either but she accepts it and thinks it’s a little weird.
I could sort of see if she was my brother’s HS girlfriend or something but they met as (young) adults and got married pretty quickly. Both her parents are living too which makes a bit of a difference to me.
Now my mom has brain cancer and neither my SIL nor my brother are very helpful or can manage doing simple tasks so it is really irking me now.
Gotcha. I am pretty sure I asked my in-laws and they said mom and dad were fine, but then when I would answer the phone with, "hi mom" she would then say ,"Well, your Mother-I-inLaw". I know. I have caller ID. lol I feel like I stopped calling her mom as much. If they had said they preferred being called by their first names i would have done that.
I am sorry about your mom being sick and the lack of help from your brother and sil; I can see how that would add to your annoyance.
In line with other posts above. I have a very good friend who decided to call her in-laws mom, dad, brother, sister, etc.
She did not ask them, they did not agree, she just decided to do this on her own. I always wonder how they feel about it. I know that in my family this is not the norm and I can’t imagine if my DH just started using the term mom and dad without asking first.
My parents are divorced now after 30 years of marriage but my mom called her ILs mom and dad. I obviously don’t know how it came to be since I wasn’t alive when it started. My grandma has been dead for about 15 years now and my grandfather just went on hospice, but my mom is still super close to the family.
To be honest, I didn’t really know people’s hatred towards their in-laws until joining these boards because both sides of my families get along so well. I thought it was normal to call in-laws mom and dad in certain circumstances if you’re super close, ha.
My parents are close to my SO and neither of them would have a problem if he started calling them mom or dad, but he’d never do that. (I had an ex from another country who started calling my mom "mom" kind of early on, I think that was just their cultural norm, my mom didn’t care).
I cannot stop laughing at this. You're so right. Are you by chance in engineering or another science field?
Why yes, I am. What gave it away? Lol
I am not science-y at all but this annoys me too. Also when people talk too much about something "making history." Like, sure, it was a first when Hillary Clinton was the first female nominee, but if Bernie had won it isn't like that wouldn't have been recorded in the history books.
I’m pretty sure she didn’t because I’ve been around them and her parents called their in-laws by their first names.
It isn’t something my mom suggested either but she accepts it and thinks it’s a little weird.
I could sort of see if she was my brother’s HS girlfriend or something but they met as (young) adults and got married pretty quickly. Both her parents are living too which makes a bit of a difference to me.
Now my mom has brain cancer and neither my SIL nor my brother are very helpful or can manage doing simple tasks so it is really irking me now.
Gotcha. I am pretty sure I asked my in-laws and they said mom and dad were fine, but then when I would answer the phone with, "hi mom" she would then say ,"Well, your Mother-I-inLaw". I know. I have caller ID. lol I feel like I stopped calling her mom as much. If they had said they preferred being called by their first names i would have done that.
I am sorry about your mom being sick and the lack of help from your brother and sil; I can see how that would add to your annoyance.
That’s awkward! I’d stop calling her mom as much too.
I don’t think I ever had a formal chat about it with my ILs. They sign cards to me with their first names so I just took the cue.
It bothered me before but it is really pushing me over the edge now that she’s sick. Like she can’t be bothered to do the really basic low level things she’s asked but then she’s calling my mom, mom. It seems disingenuous to me. Back off!
In line with other posts above. I have a very good friend who decided to call her in-laws mom, dad, brother, sister, etc.
She did not ask them, they did not agree, she just decided to do this on her own. I always wonder how they feel about it. I know that in my family this is not the norm and I can’t imagine if my DH just started using the term mom and dad without asking first.
My parents are divorced now after 30 years of marriage but my mom called her ILs mom and dad. I obviously don’t know how it came to be since I wasn’t alive when it started. My grandma has been dead for about 15 years now and my grandfather just went on hospice, but my mom is still super close to the family.
To be honest, I didn’t really know people’s hatred towards their in-laws until joining these boards because both sides of my families get along so well. I thought it was normal to call in-laws mom and dad in certain circumstances if you’re super close, ha.
My parents are close to my SO and neither of them would have a problem if he started calling them mom or dad, but he’d never do that. (I had an ex from another country who started calling my mom "mom" kind of early on, I think that was just their cultural norm, my mom didn’t care).
I love my in laws (well, most of them) and my parents love my DH!
Other than my one friend, I haven’t heard anyone call their in laws mom & dad. I just think it’s strange that she didn’t ask them first. None of their other kids spouses call them mom or dad.
Post by fivechickens on Dec 2, 2019 15:22:21 GMT -5
Lots of things bother me.
Going along with cleo, my MIL tries to feed DD2, who is 8, because she doesn’t like the fact that DD2 is a picky eater. SHE’S 8! It also bothers me when I say ‘girls get a snack these are you choices’ and MIL will say ‘what would you like for a snack’ and gives them choices that I did not give. No MIL my kids can not have a piece of cake 5 minutes before they go to bed which is why that was not a choice I gave them.
I don’t know how to describe my aunt. A combination of bull in a china shop and completely oblivious to anything around her, I guess. She has knocked over DD3 numerous times when she was standing right next to her, walked right past DD2 when she is speaking to her. I often have to say ‘watch out’ or ‘DD12or3 is talking to you’ because she lives in this bubble of oblivion or some shit. It’s not that she is selfish or doesn’t care, quite the opposite she loves the shit out of my girls, but she is just so unaware. It is both annoying as hell and humorous.
It annoys me when I am hanging out with a friend, and they are on their phones so much. I mean, I guess this is probably not irrational, but I guess maybe they don't think its an issue because we are close friends so it should be okay. I don't know, maybe I am just overly sensitive about it. I make an effort to be present with the people I am with, and I don't really like it when others aren't on the same page. I suppose I can bring it up, but it feels petty, like I don't get to demand attention from someone when we hang out a lot.
I’d bring it up. I’m fine with a quick snap or text but phones down, please! I just stop seeing people who were on their phone all the time. Its exhausting and I’d always feel like I was competing for their attention. No thank you! I’d want someone to tell me vs quietly seething.
Our friend’s ex wife would have her iPad with her all the time, playing games while we were hanging out. It was weird and rude.
I went from calling my in laws Mr./Mrs. (my husband and I met as teenagers) for ten years to being asked to call them mom/dad when my husband proposed.
I've never felt comfortable with that, so I've mostly called them nothing.
On the other hand, my husband was bothered that my parents never offered to be mom/dad. I eventually asked my parents if they would be okay with being mom/dad to him and they were fine with it.
It's odd that we both have such different preferences.