December @ randoms

[pugz]

Dec 3, 2019 9:15:23 GMT -5 eclaires said:

Dec 2, 2019 21:55:39 GMT -5 bears said:

He's 13... Is it possible that he's messing with you about blowing the Santa secret?

Dec 2, 2019 22:46:42 GMT -5 pugz said:

Eclaires what was his reaction?

No. He really believed. He cried.

pugz he was upset but wasn’t like devastated. He said none of his friends believed but he did so he kept it to himself and then I cried more. He did say he’s excited to be Santa for others though.

😭😭😭

[StrawberryBlondie]

We got a Christmas card from my parents yesterday and it's a picture of them with my DD from our professional family photos.

They sent it from them and my DD. Like, "Merry Christmas - Steve, Linda, & Julia (5)."

I'm not mad or anything, but that's kind of weird, right?

[taratru]

Dec 3, 2019 12:09:12 GMT -5 StrawberryBlondie said:

We got a Christmas card from my parents yesterday and it's a picture of them with my DD from our professional family photos.

They sent it from them and my DD. Like, "Merry Christmas - Steve, Linda, & Julia (5)."

I'm not mad or anything, but that's kind of weird, right?

It's...weird. But I think it's more "look how awesome our grandkid is" to their friends. 

[StrawberryBlondie]

Dec 3, 2019 12:15:21 GMT -5 taratru said:

Dec 3, 2019 12:09:12 GMT -5 StrawberryBlondie said:

We got a Christmas card from my parents yesterday and it's a picture of them with my DD from our professional family photos.

They sent it from them and my DD. Like, "Merry Christmas - Steve, Linda, & Julia (5)."

I'm not mad or anything, but that's kind of weird, right?

It's...weird. But I think it's more "look how awesome our grandkid is" to their friends. 

For sure. But I feel like that could be accomplished without including her on the "from" part?

[noodleoo]

Dec 2, 2019 21:22:39 GMT -5 eclaires said:

My 13yo still believed in Santa and I ruined it today BECAUSE I THOUGHT HE HAD BEEN HUMORING ME FOR YEARS.

It was traumatic for me honestly but he swears it’s fine and MH swears Jackson is fine (he talked to him after I did). And because my H is always looking for the funny angle told Jackson he expected him to thank him for all the years of presents. ::eye roll::

I legit cannot believe he still believed and that I RUINED IT. omg Wtf. I feel like the worst mother ever.

awww, he's 13!  It was time he knew.  My sister told her son at a similar age because it was getting to the point where everyone knew but him and she was afraid it would be an issue with his friends.  It's ok!  I'm sorry though, I can imagine that would be a traumatic conversation if you weren't prepared for it.

[noodleoo]

Dec 3, 2019 12:09:12 GMT -5 StrawberryBlondie said:

We got a Christmas card from my parents yesterday and it's a picture of them with my DD from our professional family photos.

They sent it from them and my DD. Like, "Merry Christmas - Steve, Linda, & Julia (5)."

I'm not mad or anything, but that's kind of weird, right?

I think it is weird altogether, but the signing part would *really* annoy me.  Like they are taking ownership of my kid and cutting me out.  But I'm possessive of them, LOL!

[bears]

Dec 3, 2019 9:15:23 GMT -5 eclaires said:

Dec 2, 2019 21:55:39 GMT -5 bears said:

He's 13... Is it possible that he's messing with you about blowing the Santa secret?

Dec 2, 2019 22:46:42 GMT -5 pugz said:

Eclaires what was his reaction?

No. He really believed. He cried.

pugz he was upset but wasn’t like devastated. He said none of his friends believed but he did so he kept it to himself and then I cried more. He did say he’s excited to be Santa for others though.

My heart. This is just so sweet.

[redheadbaker]

Dec 3, 2019 12:09:12 GMT -5 StrawberryBlondie said:

We got a Christmas card from my parents yesterday and it's a picture of them with my DD from our professional family photos.

They sent it from them and my DD. Like, "Merry Christmas - Steve, Linda, & Julia (5)."

I'm not mad or anything, but that's kind of weird, right?

I'd find it weird. Especially if they have other boundary issues.

[redheadbaker]

DS had his 8-year well check yesterday. The kid is in the 90th percentile for height. He's almost 4' 6"!

We have our 504 plan/gifted IEP meeting tomorrow. I have no idea what to expect. He's also going to start on Focalin for his ADHD.

[biscoffcookies]

Dec 2, 2019 14:38:59 GMT -5 picksthemusic said:

Dec 2, 2019 9:27:45 GMT -5 karinothing said:

Do kids lose their minds when they turn 8? DS1 has been so difficult lately. He overreacts to EVERYTHING we say. Like yesterday we were watching a movie and he accidentally turned the TV off .I said "Hey you turned it off" and he freaked out and said something about how everyone hates him and yells at him. Then stormed off to his room. Or when we were playing a game the other day and he went out of turn we pointed it out and again he accused us of making fun of him and yelling at him. None of those things happened. Today I was downstairs and he was upstairs and I yelled for him to come downstairs so we could leave for school and again he got upset about me yelling at him (and I seriously only yelled so he could hear me from downstairs!). I just don't know what to do, but I feel like I am doing everything wrong.

Oooohhhh yes. The drama is high with 8 year-olds.

Signed,

Mother of an 8 year-old girl

Ugh. We already had high drama at age 7. I was hoping DD would mellow out now that she is 8.

Sigh.

[redheadbaker]

Today is DS' 504/GIEP meeting, at 3 p.m. H took the day off work to attend. I texted him about it the day I scheduled it to make sure he could attend. It's on our shared calendar (Cozi).

I asked him to take DS to school so that I could go into work early.

H didn't set his alarm. I had to wake him up before I left.

As I was leaving, I said, "I'll see you at the school."

He replied, "For what?"

I thought he was joking. He wasn't. I said, "The meeting with the SpEd teacher?!?"

He said, "Oh, yeah. That's at 7 tonight, right?"

I about blew up. At times, it almost feels like I'm parenting him, too. Yet, when I tried to explain why I was frustrated, he basically made me feel like an asshole.

[karinothing]

I was a mess yesterday. I am really struggling lately. I think the holidays, coupled with my cat's illness, DS1's behavior and being on my period. It was just not a good combo. I wanted to talk to the kids last night about the cat but they refused to stop fighting so I left the room and went and laid down on the couch. DS1 then comes in complaining about things and stormed off into his room. I started to cry and DS2 comes into the room and crawls up next to me and asks my why I am like this. He then proceeded to take me to the bedroom, told me to lay down, covered me with a soft blanket and told me to pet the cat to feel better. Then all of that broke my heart!

redheadbaker, I am sorry. My DH is like this too. It drives me insane.

[penguingrrl]

I massively overslept this morning and feel like an ass. When I snoozed my alarm I must have hit stop instead. I didn’t wake up until 7:38. Both girls were supposed to be at chorus at 7:30, so they entirely missed that mandatory rehearsal. Luckily the music teachers are pretty forgiving and neither has ever missed anything despite being in several ensembles each, so I’m sure they won’t be in trouble. They were on time for school, which is more important. My 6 year old son managed to get himself dressed and ready in 12 minutes while I got dressed and wasn’t late for school, which was a small miracle.

[mbcdefg]

More Sesame Street: Cookie, Big Bird, Elmo and Abby caption New Yorker cartoons:

The owl cartoon cracked me up, as did Elmo’s comment about the middle airplane seat.

[eponinepontmercy]

I registered DD for a "Learn to Ride a Bike" session that the local police are doing (they do it a few times a year - the local moms board raves about it). She has been carrying on about how she doesn't want to go, but wouldn't give us a reason. I finally got it out of her this morning. She's afraid the police officers will be mean and yell at her if she doesn't do well.

I think I talked her down. I said that these are nice police officers who do this all the time to help the kids in the area - no one will yell at her. I don't know why she was so scared.

[pugz]

eponinepontmercy I would have been freaked as a kid too but I was generally scared of male authority figures or being put in new environments where I didn't feel confident.

My 7 year old has no interest in bike riding

[mbcdefg]

F/u on the Kennedy Center Honors - I’m in hysterics that the puppets received the rainbow honor sashes alongside the human honorees. And that they’re in formalwear:




ETA: Caroll Spinney, original voice/puppeteer for Big Bird and Oscar, has died at 85 Sesame Street people (and puppets) attending the ceremony tonight are wearing yellow feathers on their lapels in his honor.


apnews.com/fd9a5a4a07af19ddcdb36f7d3d32bccc?utm_source=Twitter&utm_medium=AP&utm_campaign=SocialFlow

[1confused1]

I don't think I slept last night. Right before bed I go in a text fight with my XH about his lack of involvement in our kid's lives. I'm pissed that I even engaged.

I'm also stressed about my son's baseball schedule and how I am going to get him everywhere he needs to be.

[StrawberryBlondie]

We took about a year break and my kid wants to do ballet again. *sigh*

I don't mind ballet itself, but I do mind that we now have 3 kid-activities per week (2 are on the weekend).

I think it's my punishment for starting to think about piano lessons.

[pugz]

My 3 year old loves the Elsa dress I pulled out of the basement. Feels so weird to see her in it after her sister wore it 4 years ago. Now my 7 year old says that dress up is "embarrassing"

[Michelle]

My daughter asked last night if we could get her a wig so she could practice cutting her own hair. I said please don’t cut your own hair - if you need a change we can go to the salon.

I went to wake her up this morning and found huge locks of hair all over the bathroom floor. She cut four to six inches off depending on where she did it.

It will grow back. But she is lucky that was the start to my day because it had been one shitty thing after another and I might have lost my temper on her if I found it tonight.

She has a concert performance tomorrow night. Sigh.

Eta - she is almost 13

[wawa]

Dec 9, 2019 18:42:31 GMT -5 Michelle said:

My daughter asked last night if we could get her a wig so she could practice cutting her own hair. I said please don’t cut your own hair - if you need a change we can go to the salon.

I went to wake her up this morning and found huge locks of hair all over the bathroom floor. She cut four to six inches off depending on where she did it.

It will grow back. But she is lucky that was the start to my day because it had been one shitty thing after another and I might have lost my temper on her if I found it tonight.

She has a concert performance tomorrow night. Sigh.

I'm sure she'll look cute with a bob.

[Michelle]

Dec 9, 2019 18:44:01 GMT -5 wawa said:

Dec 9, 2019 18:42:31 GMT -5 Michelle said:

My daughter asked last night if we could get her a wig so she could practice cutting her own hair. I said please don’t cut your own hair - if you need a change we can go to the salon.

I went to wake her up this morning and found huge locks of hair all over the bathroom floor. She cut four to six inches off depending on where she did it.

It will grow back. But she is lucky that was the start to my day because it had been one shitty thing after another and I might have lost my temper on her if I found it tonight.

She has a concert performance tomorrow night. Sigh.

I'm sure she'll look cute with a bob.

Actually we did that one year and she looked amazing. She said she did t want to have them cut it at a salon because they take too much off - UM - WHAT ARE THESE 4 inch LOCKS EVERYWHERE!?!

Lol

Here she is 4 years ago with a bob and bangs - she was so cute!! She says she doesn't want a bob right now though. But she might be getting one whether she likes it or not!

[Michelle]

Dec 2, 2019 9:19:53 GMT -5 cville said:

Guys. I don't have a picture of this, but I will try to take one.

My son (6) learned about sashes (beauty pageant ones) watching some show recently. He has a stuffed monkey that has been his constant companion since birth. And when we went to Disneyworld this fall, he got a Mickey doll and then Mickey signed his foot.

He made "monkey of the week" and "mouse of the month" sashes out of paper and put them on the dolls. He also made his bed and arranged all 283673 of his other animals at the foot of the bed and put the monkey and Mickey at the head of the bed facing them, because they're the audience.

I love this!!!

[Michelle]

Dec 3, 2019 12:43:54 GMT -5 noodleoo said:

Dec 3, 2019 12:09:12 GMT -5 StrawberryBlondie said:

We got a Christmas card from my parents yesterday and it's a picture of them with my DD from our professional family photos.

They sent it from them and my DD. Like, "Merry Christmas - Steve, Linda, & Julia (5)."

I'm not mad or anything, but that's kind of weird, right?

I think it is weird altogether, but the signing part would *really* annoy me.  Like they are taking ownership of my kid and cutting me out.  But I'm possessive of them, LOL!

Yes this. 

I would be worried that their recipients would think they had custody of her or something. 

Would be different if they said, "Merry Christmas - Steve & Linda, with our special photo guest and granddaughter Julia." At least then they'd be recognizing the boundary and acknowledging there is an extra person in the photo that isn't part of their immediate family unit. Better if they signed Steve & Linda and included a quick note that said they couldn't help but show off their cute granddaughter Julia too.

[pugz]

omg Michelle I would have flipped out

[Michelle]

Dec 9, 2019 19:14:33 GMT -5 pugz said:

omg Michelle I would have flipped out

I probably would have if I weren’t still half asleep. Or if I saw it now that I know I had a team member resigned today and our IT Team is making it impossible for our software to be compliant with a mandatory USCIS upgrade due this month so we will have to manually process until they do.

This day has been pure shit and her desire for creative personal expression really is minor in comparison to the other stuff!

It will grow. It will grow. It will grow. My mantra on repeat!

[msmerymac]

A girl I used to be a summer nanny for (high school job) is 23 today. :S

[underwaterrhymes]

Dec 2, 2019 13:46:10 GMT -5 nessness said:

Does anyone have experience with Dual immersion programs? I'm considering enrolling DD1 for K next year. They use a 90/10 model, where K is 90% Spanish, 10% English, with increasing amounts of English each year after that. I think it would be awesome for her to be bilingual, but I'm worried that she would be frustrated and overwhelmed, at least at first (she speaks basically no Spanish now). I speak some Spanish, but am not fluent, and DH only speaks a little. From their website, they seem to have a mix of kids with English-speaking and Spanish-speaking parents.

I also have some logistical concerns - the school is near my work but about 40 minutes from my home, which would be hard on days I was traveling or not working, and would make things like playdates challenging.

Our oldest son is in our public school’s dual language program, and our youngest will be grandfathered in because his brother is in it. (Spanish speaking student who want to be a part are automatically granted entry, but because they strive for a 50/50 match in the program, English-speaking students must apply via lottery.)

It’s an immersion program that is K-8th grade (whereupon they can do AP Spanish at the HS level.)

We love it. It is hard because it’s truly immersion, but the day is split, so half the day in English and half in Spanish. Right now he has math in Spanish and science in English, but that will flip flop in the third grade.

He doesn’t understand everything his teacher says, but they do a great job of using visual cues to help them get it. I’m happy to answer any questions you have.

[eponinepontmercy]

I volunteered with the Salvation Army today (with my company)- we were sorting toys and filled stocking for Toys for Tots. We were sorting things by age and gender, which I think is dumb. I put anything STEM-related in the girl boxes, plus a bunch of Nerf guns and Minecraft lego sets.

I was happy to see that 95% of the toys donated were really great, in-demand toys. No Rose Art crayons!