Post by Captain Catnip on Dec 4, 2019 16:35:15 GMT -5
I feel like it is crazy to assume that people are ok with giving $50 - $80 toward a gift for bosses/owners of where you work. (the owners are a married couple.) I'm not comfortable with that cost and expressed that and they tried to guilt me into it. I've already shelled out 25 for each of their birthdays and then 50 for a secret Santa gift. The reasoning from cw is "they are so generous with bonuses and gifts at holidays and birthdays." I haven't been here for a holiday yet so I have no idea what to expect for bonus etc, and yes they give generous gifts but they can write them off I think, right? Also, I told cw tell them not to get me anything then if it is expected that I give that much towards gifts. Gucci tie for him and scarf for her or matching tumi bags.
Uhhh no. $50 is a lot! And I don't buy gifts for my boss. He owns the company. The profits he makes from that are a hell of a lot more than I'll ever see in the form of bonuses and gifts. How ridiculous.
Your coworkers are asking you to spend $150-200 annually on gifts FOR YOUR BOSS. My DH's Christmas gift was $200 and I didn't buy him anything else this year. This is so bizarre.
I think that if its a boss, it should be at your discretion. Nobody knows what your financial situation is and regardless of their supposed generosity, you could NEED that 50-80 for something.
yeah no. I think a small token gift to a boss is okay, but anything beyond that is inappropriate. And I am surprised that the bosses feel comfortable accepting lavish gifts.
I would think that the bosses are generous with bonuses because you do a good job, not because you reciprocate with gifts.
I've never worked at a place where we did this. I think one place we got the boss a gift in the $100-$150 range, but I think the son/ manager took care of it. I don't remember giving money for it, but if I did it wasn't more than $20.
It sounds like a company culture thing, and maybe if you had been their longer you might be more comfortable. I would personally have an issue doing $50 for secret santa and $50 for the boss. Could you opt out of secret santa and move that $50 over instead?
I've never worked at a place where we did this. I think one place we got the boss a gift in the $100-$150 range, but I think the son/ manager took care of it. I don't remember giving money for it, but if I did it wasn't more than $20.
It sounds like a company culture thing, and maybe if you had been their longer you might be more comfortable. I would personally have an issue doing $50 for secret santa and $50 for the boss. Could you opt out of secret santa and move that $50 over instead?
It's too late to opt out, I've already bought the gift since we drew names before Thanksgiving. I just found out about the gift for the owners today.
Post by imojoebunny on Dec 4, 2019 16:50:26 GMT -5
DH manages hundreds of people. It would be really weird, if anyone gave him more than a token gift. He gets some stuff, a BBQ rub someone makes, some cookies, things like that, but anything more that is not from a consulting business or a higher up, is just awkward, and not something he could accept. If it is a very small company, and this is their "tradition", it could be difficult to be the squeaky wheel, so you have to weigh that, too. The two small companies I worked for had much more casual, and unwritten rules about things.
No, that's a lot. I don't know what your field is but unless it's a field where everyone is making a high salary, I think $50 gifts for anyone (other than perhaps a direct report) are too much. That's on the high end of my budget for most of my loved ones!
In the past I've exchanged gifts with supervisors, but they have always been in the $20 range and any kind of group gift has always been "contribute what you want". The culture you describe would not work for me. Hopefully you speaking up about this nonsense will help others feel like they can too!
The idea that you have to match what they give you is ridiculous. This is like when people think they need to give a wedding gift to cover the cost of their "plate" at the wedding.
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Post by litskispeciality on Dec 4, 2019 17:56:32 GMT -5
Not wrong at all. $50 - $150 is a lot of money, at least on my salary. Plus it's weird because you're new...and what if you don't like the boss? I don't know I think it should be optional give what you want/can suggested donation of a lot less. Now I'm also curious what they want to give for such a high amount.
Not wrong at all. $50 - $150 is a lot of money, at least on my salary. Plus it's weird because you're new...and what if you don't like the boss? I don't know I think it should be optional give what you want/can suggested donation of a lot less. Now I'm also curious what they want to give for such a high amount.
Lol I make a whopping 35k a year. The woman Coordinating it was just saying like a week ago she feels like they are trying to get her to quit so I really don't get it. Sales people make more but still