1. I took down Christmas over the weekend. We took our tree to a farm for the goats to eat it, but as we were taking it out of the stand, I found a bird’s nest in it 😂😂.
2. I brought DD1 to her basketball game this afternoon. Her good friend from school is on her team. Her dad said hello and came to stand with me. Other folks care over (from the town, but not from their school) and asked him how his daughter’s birthday party was. DD1 was apparently not invited. I had texted her mom that day to see if DD1’s friend could come over and hang out, but she couldn’t because she had “plans”... which was her party. DD1 will be crushed if she finds out.
So I don’t know if I should hope that no one else from their school was invited, and she won’t find out, or if I should give her a heads up. This is someone she considers to be her best friend at school. Clearly the feeling is not mutual. Or maybe her mom told her that if she didn’t invite everyone in the class. There are a million scenarios, but if DD1 finds out at school, she will not be able to hold in her tears at school.
It sucks. And once again, I see the trouble she’s having socially.
3. Kids go back to school tomorrow after 2.5 weeks off. I’m anticipating a mess of a morning after late nights and sleeping in for 2 weeks. DH leaves tomorrow too. Should be awesome ! 🤪
Our tree is still up but I did get the outside lights out away. We went to an OOT wedding this weekend and it was nice and did not have snow which was super disappointing for the bride but good for guests.
Ds2 starts a new preschool tomorrow and I’m crossing my fingers. He will be fine but learning all the new routines and rules is hard for parents.
We all go back to work/school tomorrow after 2 weeks off and I’m 90% not thrilled. I think I may just want to be a bum for about 6 months.
Oh and the blow out tool k3am recommended is amazing. Dh got it for me for Christmas and I’m hooked. I have medium length thick hair and it takes about 25 mins from shower to done.
Post by librarychica on Jan 5, 2020 22:03:27 GMT -5
sandandsea, I also go back after two weeks off tomorrow and I also don’t wanna.
We had DD1’s party today. Several kids who said they were coming did not show and the two from school who did show were an hour late. 🙄 H tells me this behavior, at least the lateness, is common and cultural. It annoys me. But! They did eventually show up and it was all fine and everyone had a great time. Kids have tomorrow off so they’re spending the night and tomorrow with my parents and I had a couple glasses of wine with a friend and have spent the evening petting the dog. Not a bad end to the holiday break.
My mom did lecture me on vaguely-described “rudeness to adults” on the part of DD1 so I hope they’re not butting heads and DD is behaving. They’ve been kind of butting heads a lot lately. No one else describes her as rude so I think this is a thing between them.
Count me in the camp of “going back after 2 weeks and don’t want to.”
I feel like I’m having an existential crisis. I’m tired of my company. I constantly feel like I’m on the verge of being eliminated because no one understands what the hell I do. It’s absolutely vital to our company, but it runs so seamlessly most of the time that they don’t understand just how bad it would be if things weren’t running seamlessly. And when we have a screw up, it’s generally not because of my group. It’s because someone gave us bad information which we then acted on. But on the other hand, I really don’t want to move and uproot our kids. I may have another opportunity, but it’s away from here. And that means a huge move away from their very comfortable surroundings. I need to figure out which is worse. Staying where I am, or moving them from where they are.
Kids don’t go back until Tuesday. DD has her first guitar lesson on Tuesday right after school. Tuesday is going to be pretty crazy. I’m not looking forward to it.
We still have one day of abnormal-ness tomorrow - the older kids start back to school, but the toddler’s daycare provider is still on vacation till Tuesday. So our babysitter will come till 1 and then I’ll work from home in the afternoon while he naps.
Pretty good weekend. Saw Ford v Ferrari with DH which was great. Had a fun lunch at our friends’ today. I’m redoing our living room slowly and put together a new coffee table only to decide I didn’t like it, so disassembled and repackaged it and I’m shipping it back - that was frustrating a land a waste of time.
Has anyone layered rugs in a room? Apparently it’s kind of ‘in.’ I hate our floors and have some weirdly sized spaces so I’m thinking of trying it.
Spent the weekend deep cleaning or purging my bedroom. It actually looks like a room again and not a giant storage room. Dh also cleaned out his dresser and willingly got rid of a ton of stuff!!
Had my dad's bday dinner tonight. It ended in chaos with my dad going to the ER. He has has 6 giant hemroids and will need to have surgery ASAP as the eye can't stop the bleeding.
Post by librarychica on Jan 6, 2020 8:55:40 GMT -5
mommyatty, kids are resilient. At least explore the move. I would guess that your happiness would make more of a difference in their childhoods than any particular physical location.
mae0111, we had a similar situation with DS last year being left out. I'm sorry; it's so hard as a parent to see your kid left out. Super Bowl weekend he had a basketball tournament, and a lot of his friends played on the 3 club teams from our school district. Multiple of DS's friends were talking about going to a Super Bowl party (families, not just kids) at one of the family's houses on Sunday night, and we/DS were not invited. (Coincidentally, the youngest son of that family is who DS considers to be his best friend.) Then literally the next weekend, one of his friends from school had a birthday party and again, DS was not invited.
DH and I cleaned out the toy/junk room in our basement last Thursday, and we're still married, so that's a huge win. (Decluttering together is a challenge. I tend to keep things for sentimental reasons and 'in case we might need it again someday', whereas DH doesn't want to keep much of anything, unless it has an immediate use or is something very special to him.) The water line to our fridge leaked a couple years ago and damaged some of the drywall in that room, so DH is going to fix it, then I'll paint the room, and then we're going to make it an office for when I WFH and so the kids have a quiet place and a desk to work on homework.
So the kid that started all the problems for our family earlier this year has a younger brother in DD2’s class. She’s just been invited to his birthday party.
She knows nothing about what happened. I believe that the family had been warned about doing anything to leave my DDs out of class wide stuff, so I don’t think this is an olive branch. But I could play dumb and take it as such. Or we could decline, and DD2 will be totally disappointed.
rere - right? Leave me out all day long. But my kids?? Ugh.
covergirl82 - As a parent, I’m very all-or-nothing with that type of stuff (as long as it’s feasible). So you invite all, or the party doesn’t happen. Its easy for DD2 - 11 kids in her class. DD1 has 9 girls total. Now there are complications with this family that I just mentioned, but otherwise I’ve made it clear - you leave no one out. Historically no one had been mean at this school, so include everyone. It makes me so crazy that adults don’t think like that.
Punchbowl apparently charges for invitations now? I'm annoyed. And even if you do sign up, you have to pay extra to get them without ads? So you pay for the invitations now AND still have to have your guests see ads? What the heck kind of business model is that?
In other news, I'm planning DD's birthday party. She's adamant she wants it at the ice skating rink. We got her new skates yesterday and they're MUCH bigger than her old ones (her old ones were WAY too small, these have some room to grow, so 3 sizes bigger), and the blades are sharp. She bitched that the ice was too slippery, fell a few times (twice into a puddle, resulting in her being soaked), and basically spent 1/2 her ice time crying. I tried to talk her out of a skating party, but noooooooooope. I'm also imaginging 10+ other 7 year old kids that don't know how to skate and basically thinking it's quite possibly the worst idea in the history of ideas.
It was a good low key weekend with DS. We didn't do much other than grocery shopping and a couple errands. My house shows that I didn't do anything this weekend. I'm hoping for a slow day of work so I can do some cleaning around the house. I already have a load of laundry done before 8:30.
Anyone have tips on how to get their kids to pick up after themselves? He doesn't care if I take away privileges or things.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jan 6, 2020 11:29:42 GMT -5
k3am , can you rent skates in her size for her party? DS went to a skating party not long ago and it was his first time on the ice. Most of the kids used the carts to keep from falling. They all seemed to have a good time.
supertrooper1, the rental skates are so awful she'd be worse off. I'm also probably projecting because I hate the rentals enough that I bought myself my own skates.
She'll have two months of lessons to get used to the new ones... hopefully not two months' worth of crying.
They'll have a mini lesson for all the kids and access to buckets for the kids who can't skate, but the bucket users are limited to a small part of the ice. At DD's first lesson, all of the kids started off with buckets, and within 30 mins, 80% weren't using them anymore, so hopefully it works out for them. And my hope is that most of the kids she would invite are more resilient than DD, she gets discouraged so easily.
supertrooper1, thanks. Update is that they are on the way to the doctor's office. ER got the bleeding under control and told him to follow up with his regular doctor. Called this morning at 8am and they said they could see him at 8:40 today or nothing until end of week. They weren't even up and dressed after the late night so I just got a text saying they are on the way to doctors and what was what. DD is really upset because everyone is leaving her out of the loop. I just told her papa was sick and had to go to the doctor. All this morning was how is papa, is he better, will he be at the house when grandma picks me up.
k3am, I don't think ice skating will be any different than getting invited to go roller skating. Have other activities and warm food to eat. At least ice skating is something different than the same old play place.
Post by covergirl82 on Jan 6, 2020 12:06:46 GMT -5
I forgot to include our remaining DCFSA balance in our debt payoff plan, so that gives us almost $700 to use for paying down our travel trailer. Should have it paid off by the end of April!
covergirl82 that's how I would feel if DH and I were able to clean/purge together - being lucky to still be married Except we are the reverse of you guys - I want to throw everything away and DH wants to keep everything. And god forbid I move anything. If it isn't exactly where he left it (so, not in the middle of some surface where it looks terrible) - there's no way he'll ever be able to find it again.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jan 6, 2020 13:55:54 GMT -5
A sticky situation happened in my old work department over the weekend, even making national news. I might not have the most exciting job right now, but every time something like this happens, it makes me glad that I made the decision to leave.
Just talked to my dad. The doctors office couldn't help him at all and is sending him to a specialist so now he is waiting to hear back from another doctors office. Ugh,
We had family in all weekend for Christmas and DD's birthday party. It went relatively OK considering.... We went swimming and out for dinner etc.
My acid reflux has gotten so bad again- it is almost at pregnancy levels like I can't eat chocolate or anything tomato again. Ugh. Going to the Chiropractor today (not for acid reflux lol).
k3am , there are certain parties that we would avoid for DS due to his motor planning and sensory issues those being ice skating and movie parties. He has gotten better at going to the movies- live action is less scary to him than cartoons, but ice skating is still on the list. We skipped ice skating for cub scouts. Roller skating is better for him, but we still have to tighten his wheels all the way and then he just holds on to the side and skootches his skates along. I might take DD for roller skating lessons here.
I was going to tell my boss/share at work today that I’m pregnant, given that our anatomy scan was normal Friday. But I’m just not feeling it. I think I’ll do it tomorrow or Wednesday.
sdlaura- yay for normal anatomy scan!! And tell them on your time. It’s not like they were anticipating an announcement and now you’re holding off and leaving them to wonder.
Wednesday random? Does anyone know what you call this weird armless knit cape jacket DD is wearing? And/or where I can get a new one? She’s been wearing this hand me down / homemade one for about 5 years and would like a new one she can wear for the next 5.
(She has a strong sense of fashion. I’m not sure I’d call it good, but it’s STRONG.)