Post by lifetaketwo on Jan 13, 2020 20:46:22 GMT -5
I’m not sure what I’m looking for here, because there isn’t much to do, but did anyone have a baby that was very fussy at daycare? Were there ages that it was worse?
The teachers have been sugar coating his day, as they knew I was struggling leaving him for work. Today one of the main teachers finally let it spill that he’s been very very fussy. Asked if I had any tricks (also came up with some ideas to try out) and asked me if I hold him the entire day.
I didn’t really think of DS as being extraordinarily fussy, but I’m realizing it’s because yes I actually do hold him most of his awake time. I hold him standing for 15 mins, then switch to tummy, then switch to back etc. I also realized he sort of demands us up in his face a lot, talking or kissing his feet or making faces. Basically, he can be a very happy kid, but it takes a lot effort to keep him there. With a 1:4 ratio I worry he’s just crying most of the day It sounds like that’s how today was.
Post by lifetaketwo on Jan 13, 2020 20:56:20 GMT -5
5.5 months. He’s been sporadic full days and 2-3 half days a week for 2 months. He spent a lot of those half days napping though. We just started full days 3 days a week and will move to real full time in a month.
Also forgot, these are the same 2 main teachers my daughter had. I love them and think they are wonderful.
I worked in a daycare and we had one of those kids. She really did cry whenever we had to put her down. Finally had to break it to mom that even though babywearing is a wonderful thing, we needed her to put the baby down to play and get used to not being attached to mom. It took a couple of weeks but the mom even admitted that things at home got easier because the baby started playing toys more and learning to entertain herself. Mind you, I would never want to be in the position of breaking a baby of that habit and I felt so bad for the mom, but what it came down to was that we at the daycare just couldn't hold one child all day long and still care for the others.
My 6 month old is at an inhome sitter but we've been dealing with this, starting about a month after I went back to work (so Z was almost 4 months old, give or take a few days). She's a crappy sleeper too so overtiredness has played a part but her sitter has tried all sorts of things. Over the last month, we've found that having a lot of toys to occupy her has helped but that in general she is very much a mama's girl so Mondays tend to be the roughest since she's been with me all weekend (I make it a point to not hold her 24-7 but she still likes to see me)...we've joked that we should make a "mommy" mask for the sitter to wear
My first was like this. Turns out she’s a sensory seeker. Still at age 6 she crawls into my lap, curls up, and just wants to be held lol. Meanwhile my 1 year old is literally shoving me away.
Post by lifetaketwo on Jan 14, 2020 20:17:12 GMT -5
Thanks everyone. It’s making my return to work so so so much harder. It’s definitely not a me thing specifically at this point. It seems to be a direct attention thing. It could be a sensory thing too. I don’t really hold him all day, but he does like touch. He likes to either be holding a hand or have me dancing his legs. I also suspect it’ll get better when he can control his body better. He grabs toys and chews on them, but gets very very frustrated that they aren’t doing what he wants them to do. He also pulls his paci out and can’t get it back in.
It doesn’t help that he is super loud. He ramps from 0 to screaming in seconds. There’s no in between with this kid
Post by cricketwife on Jan 14, 2020 20:29:58 GMT -5
lifetaketwo, fwiw, my first started daycare at 7 months and it was much harder than for my second who had to start at 3 months.
I think there’s a window in which the older they are, the harder the transition is. Also, I think the eradic and part time schedule is probably not helping things. With mine, they told me after the first day, give it two weeks. Sure enough exactly two weeks later it was like a switch flipped. This was two weeks of full time daycare.
Also, the way you describe him as 0 to full screaming describes how my kid was too.
Hugs. It’s soooo hard to go back to work when they are through the transition as well.