when did your kids stop crawling into bed with you

[CloudBee]

When they woke up in the AM? Assuming this was a habit of theirs.

DS turns 7 in March, and still climbs into bed with us every morning when he wakes up. (If we aren't up yet.) I'm starting to wonder when will be the last time. There was an article circulating a year or two ago about how you never know when the last time you'll pick up your child will be. <3

[biscoffcookies]

DD is 8, and she still crawls into bed with us on the regular.

[Mrs.flang]

Jan 14, 2020 15:18:47 GMT -5 CloudBee said:

There was an article circulating a year or two ago about how you never know when the last time you'll pick up your child will be. <3

This is so sad. I was feeling smug reading the post title because we don't really let DD1 in our bed during actual sleep time (because she never ends up actually sleeping). But she does come to our room on the weekends when she wakes up. I kind of hope its never!

[gastro]

My eight almost nine year old would love to crawl into bed with us regularly if it was an option. Most mornings we have a 4 year old and a baby in a cosleeper next to us so he’s allowed to put on the TV if he gets up before anyone else. Otherwise he’d be crawling in bed with us.
Sometimes we do a whole family in the bed snuggle - the kids love it.

[puppylove64]

My 5 year old still does occasionally. My 7 year old has always been a super early riser so he usually watches tv, iPad or Xbox when he gets up. I told him it was ok, since otherwise he would be waking me up at 6am every Saturday.

[mrsGreeko]

My kids stopped by the time they were 5 or 6. If it makes you feel better I don’t really miss it. I like that they all sleep in a little on the weekends and I get an hour or so of peace before they wake up. And if they wake up before me they just do their own thing quietly until I wake up. I’m much more well rested now which I appreciate more than being woken up.

[noodleoo]

Awww man, break my heart why don't you! We end up with both kids in our bed daily as we are waking up (I still nurse DD2 first thing). While I often end up elbowed in the face, I hope it doesn't end soon. It's actually super cute how DD1 climbs in with her lovey and a bunch of books and reads.

[minniemouse]

My 6 year old still does every day. She also still likes to sit on my lap every time I sit down. My 10 year old still comes in to my room in the morning, but not every day. Typically just in weekends if I’m sleeping in.

[goldengirlz]

DD was never allowed to (but we only have a queen size bed so NOPE). But I let her sleep with me when H is out of town. She’s also constantly begging me to snuggle (in her bed.) Still going strong at almost 9 ...

[sandandsea]

My boys (8&3) climb into bed with us every morning. It has to be at least 6am before they can come in. They would sleep with us every Night all night if we let them.

[moonriver]

I’m curious when your kids *started* getting into bed with you? Mine is 3.5 and has never had an interest in sleeping in our bed or crawling in once he’s awake. He usually just stands next to me and says “I’m awake!” Sometimes he will go back to his room and play for a few minutes until i come down. I sort of wish he would go back to sleep in our bed?

[ECB]

Ds is 11 and sometimes on the weekend he’ll crawl into bed. Not every weekend, but occasionally.

[circa1978]

Jan 14, 2020 17:16:15 GMT -5 ECB said:

Ds is 11 and sometimes on the weekend he’ll crawl into bed. Not every weekend, but occasionally.

This makes me happy because DS is almost 9 and still loves to snuggle but I keep asking him (teasing) when he'll be too old to snuggle and he very seriously replied "really soon" recently. I know it's getting close but MY BABY.

[dropitlikeitshott]

I'm 34 and on vacation I still climb into bed with my mom to chat. We don't snuggle but I enjoy the one on one time.

[karinothing]

Umm my kid comes into my room and silently takes the ipad lol. When I cut off ipad time (after I wake up) he crawls into bed with us. He is 8. On school days he just crawls in:)

[dcn]

Jan 14, 2020 17:14:33 GMT -5 moonriver said:

I’m curious when your kids *started* getting into bed with you? Mine is 3.5 and has never had an interest in sleeping in our bed or crawling in once he’s awake. He usually just stands next to me and says “I’m awake!” Sometimes he will go back to his room and play for a few minutes until i come down. I sort of wish he would go back to sleep in our bed?

My kids don’t really ever climb in bed with us. They are 4 and 7.

[gibbinator]

Ds1 (7.5) never did regularly. I remember a period of maybe 6 months when he was 4 that he had nightmares a lot and would crawl in but otherwise never did much. He has always been good at staying in his room until whatever specified time. He loves having a sleepover with me and ds2 when dh is gone on a work trip though.

Ds2 (5) comes into our bed sometime between 2-5am a couple times a week and shows no sign of stopping. He crawls out of our bed as soon as he hears his brother's up. He also begs to go to sleep in our bed every night.

[bugandbibs]

DD1 who is 16 will still get in bed with me if the other kids aren’t already there. Mostly, she and I cuddle on the couch to watch tv after the younger kids are in bed. DD2 (8) and DS (5) get in bed with me everyday unless I have to wake them up. MH is usually gone by the time they wake up.

[JayhawkGirl]

DS (10) loved “snuggle time” so much he set his alarm early to keep doing it when he started 1st grade (he had PM kinder and preschool). About halfway through 3rd grade, so last year when he was just turning 9, he stopped and would rather sleep later. I loved that part of our day.

DD (6) would rather get up and play with big brother. But she has to have her “good morning” hug every day as it’s an awesome super long hug.

[Saudade]

moonriver, I have three and none have ever really climbed in to bed with me.

[lilac05]

Jan 14, 2020 17:14:33 GMT -5 moonriver said:

I’m curious when your kids *started* getting into bed with you?

Mine didn’t start until 3.5 or 4.  He’s 9 now and still does it almost every morning.  I purposely stay in bed after waking up just to get my morning snuggles.  He’s never one to snuggle any other time, and I know my days are numbered.

Oddly enough, my youngest who ALWAYS wants to be touching me does not come into my room most mornings.

[ellipses84]

My 8 year old is an early riser but he’ll usually come in and lay with us for a bit if he’s still tired. Other times he’ll go watch tv or play video games. Honestly I think what happens is they become tweens/ teens and start sleeping in way later than their parents.

[shauni27]

I hope my kiddo does this for many many years. What I wish he would STOP doing is sleeping with us at night...

[noodleoo]

Jan 14, 2020 17:14:33 GMT -5 moonriver said:

I’m curious when your kids *started* getting into bed with you? Mine is 3.5 and has never had an interest in sleeping in our bed or crawling in once he’s awake. He usually just stands next to me and says “I’m awake!” Sometimes he will go back to his room and play for a few minutes until i come down. I sort of wish he would go back to sleep in our bed?

DD1 started doing it around 4.  I think it started because she could hear H get up to get DD2 and bring her into our bed so I could nurse her and she felt left out.  She doesn't really sleep, she lies down for a bit before she starts bugging us to get up, LOL.  Or she brings books and reads for a bit.  I wonder if it will continue after I wean DD2.  

[CloudBee]

Jan 14, 2020 17:14:33 GMT -5 moonriver said:

I’m curious when your kids *started* getting into bed with you? Mine is 3.5 and has never had an interest in sleeping in our bed or crawling in once he’s awake. He usually just stands next to me and says “I’m awake!” Sometimes he will go back to his room and play for a few minutes until i come down. I sort of wish he would go back to sleep in our bed?

When he was a baby we would often bring him to bed with us if he woke up really early. I would nurse him, or DS would snuggle him. (He slept in his own room from early on, though. He never spent the night in our bed unless we were on vacation. If sick one of us would sleep on the trundle in his room.)

Fast forward to the toddler years and it happened less often. We would take shifts on weekends and rotate who had to wake early. The early riser would often grab DS (1-3 yrs old), toss him into bed with the other parent for a few minutes so he was being watched while we let the dog out, used the bathroom, etc. Then we would grab DS and go downstairs for the day, letting that other parent sleep.

Around age 4 and leading up to now he will usually slink into our bed after he wakes. Sometimes it's at 8am (he's starting to sleep later), and other times it's as early as 6:45am. We used to have a rule that he couldn't come up until 7am. But now he knows that if he wants to snuggle in bed he can't move around much or make noise. Sometimes he falls back asleep. He may be there 5 or 10 minutes, or an hour if he woke early.

I am so lucky. For the past 6-12 months DH has become an early riser on weekends. While DS may climb into bed for a few minutes, he and DH are usually downstairs doing tv / breakfast / video games / chess shortly after DS wakes. I often sleep in until 8-9am on weekends now. It is glorious!

[waverly]

Sometime after DS turned 8 he stopped coming into our room on mornings. Now he watched TV. DD still comes in. She is 7.

[Aquatica]

DD is going on 4 and comes straight to our room for morning wake up/snuggles. I've been giving in a lot lately and sleeping in her bed with her. If H is gone for work she wants to sleep with me saying I'll be lonely (how can I say no when she's so thoughtful and cute?).