twinmomma, yes that is what a partner is like. DH does that kind of stuff all the time. I'd keep him around. As for the moving in thing. eh, I might wait until after Christmas assuming things go back to normal during the summer. Or at least normalish. That way you have six months of normal and kids getting to know each other again and a chance to meet/get to know families before making that commitment. Just my thoughts on it.
Ya, we'll see how it plays out. No rush. I've been very honest that I'm going to take things super slow with disrupting the kids' lives like that. He gets it. I am also not going to get myself in a situation where I'm suddenly financially responsible for him and his son. I need him back on his feet with the restaurant first too. I learned my lesson the hard way with ExH on that front. He knows that too.
I reserved a spot Sunday for today's -Thursday grocery pick up. So reaching out to your mom at 10 pm last night to see if they needed anything was nice, but now why did I work so hard to get pick up. And then giving him a $200 list? This pisses me off. Get your all's shit together and quit blowing up my efforts to keep everyone safe. If we need to pick up MIL groceries, you all need to figure it out in advance. And yes DH I know you don't like to plan even 2 hours out, but during this time, you better suck it up. Plus the in-laws need to get the Walmart or Kroger app and do grocery pick up also, and we can go get them. FIL is the king of Amazon, so I am sure he can figure this out.
Signed, pissed, planner, efficient wife whose coworkers aka family are not good team mates.
Post by covergirl82 on Apr 16, 2020 9:09:58 GMT -5
Dear DS's teacher,
You are still his teacher. You are still being paid to be his teacher. So don't send me an email saying that DH and I need to sit down with him to go through some assignments he didn't complete correctly. That's your job. Unless you want to send me part of your paycheck. You know what he needs to do to be successful, you are the expert on the curriculum, and DH and I are still both working full time.
That’s some bullsh1t right there. Unless she’s literally teaching online for 6 hours a day, she should schedule a 30min zoom session with your DS to straighten things out. Perhaps you suggest that?
twinmomma , yes that is what a partner is like. DH does that kind of stuff all the time. I'd keep him around. As for the moving in thing. eh, I might wait until after Christmas assuming things go back to normal during the summer. Or at least normalish. That way you have six months of normal and kids getting to know each other again and a chance to meet/get to know families before making that commitment. Just my thoughts on it.
Ya, we'll see how it plays out. No rush. I've been very honest that I'm going to take things super slow with disrupting the kids' lives like that. He gets it. I am also not going to get myself in a situation where I'm suddenly financially responsible for him and his son. I need him back on his feet with the restaurant first too. I learned my lesson the hard way with ExH on that front. He knows that too.
I have spent the last two weeks exhausting myself trying to get PPP applications prepped and submitted. None have funded yet. And today, we got a letter saying funds are exhausted. I don't know if that means that what I've submitted already will get funded, or if they're just DONE. I don't even know how to update clients.
I have spent the last two weeks exhausting myself trying to get PPP applications prepped and submitted. None have funded yet. And today, we got a letter saying funds are exhausted. I don't know if that means that what I've submitted already will get funded, or if they're just DONE. I don't even know how to update clients.
Yep. We saw the same notice today. Some banks had already said they got $x so maybe each bank already had what they’re going to get and no new banks or extra amounts are given. We heard last Friday that one bank was already done - they got $x and it was already accounted for.
k3am and sandandsea, I think there’s likely going to be more money given out through the same program, right? Like another stimulus bill from congress? I hope your same paperwork will still be applicable and you’ll hold your place in line.
Dear School 5:30 pm distance learning zoom meetings just suck. I want to be done for the day then not just starting school. Me
I just saw the loans being all used up. I still have clients just trying to talk to the bank and figure out the loan application and now nothing. These are small mom and pop shops who thought they could deal with a month long shut down and still be okay but now with shut down looming probably until fall they could use these loans to help stay afloat.
sdlaura, there are rumors of another $250B. I'm not sure the status on it. It won't come close to covering the need. What we were able to fund was less than 10% of our applications.
I have spent the last two weeks exhausting myself trying to get PPP applications prepped and submitted. None have funded yet. And today, we got a letter saying funds are exhausted. I don't know if that means that what I've submitted already will get funded, or if they're just DONE. I don't even know how to update clients.
I feel for you. This is such a mess. My H has been desperately trying to get one of those loans (for less than $45KFFS). The local bank he has relationship with just isn’t answering the phone. The large chain keeps rejecting this one form but not saying why and the accountant has no idea and there is no way to speak to a person, just form email after form email. Payroll is tomorrow and he will need to start laying off people within a few weeks. Meanwhile! The hospitality exemptions means the restaurant and hotel chains around us have secured millions. 😡😡😡
librarychica, yes! Of the 19 applications I got (I have a portfolio of 21 clients), none got any funding. I have 3 clients able to secure PPP loans elsewhere.. meaning that they are well connected enough to investors/High Net Worth individuals that their applications got green-lighted at institutions they don't bank at.
I am surviving. True survival mode. I have only hidden in my closet and cried once though. Some days are fine and others are awful. I am focusing one day at a time. I have a fun to do list and a ugh to do list with due dates so help me looking forward instead of wallowing in the now.
And librarychica, tell YH not to hold it against his bank. They honestly are overwhelmed and have never gotten a good answer for how to do anything from the government. I answer and basically have to say "I don't know" - but I have a relatively small portfolio.
To put it in context, in 14 days, SBA has processed more applications than they have in the last 14 YEARS.
librarychica - DH has his business account at a local bank, and they have one person handling the calls for the whole state. ONE. So I told him to call the assistant manager of the branch who opened both of our business accounts. After a week, he finally did, and got a response almost immediately.
I am not sure if it was just the way it happened or some kind of psychological trick, but after telling me ALL my applications were declined, they sent out an updated spreadsheet and 4 of my companies will be getting funding, which feels like a huge win right now.
Post by librarychica on Apr 16, 2020 15:25:26 GMT -5
k3am, I don’t blame the bank employees. It’s just infuriating because his business is directly affected and he did everything early and everything right (he always does, he’s the most ethical business person I know) and it is falling apart because he can’t figure out why one form is rejected. Of course there is no one to ask about this. I am heartbroken for his employees and for him.
Which I have worked with the federal government my entire adult life and really should have known this would happen. It always comes down to one poorly-designed form.
librarychica, no I know. I know that when my clients are bitching me out, it's nothing personal and that they're really just frustrated with the circumstances in general.
Dear Park District in neighboring town I'm extremely sad to hear that you had to furlough the 59 staff you still had working and don't expect them to be back until July 1st. My hope for summer camps has dropped drastically since reading that. Mom who's DD was looking forward to your rock climbing camp in July.