Dear DH I've told you numerous times to check the take out before leaving to make sure it is the right thing. You refuse and normally it is my food that is messed up. Last night it was your dinner that got messed up and you were beyond cranky about it. You called and got a credit as you go to this place frequently and dealt with eating the messed up dinner. All of this could have been a non-issue if you would have just peaked inside the bag before leaving. I told you so Wife
Dear DH x2 DD had a sleepover at my sisters last night. It was just the two of us and the dog. Your crappy attitude between dinner and misplacing your golf coupon was horrible. You didn't need the house turned upside down looking for your coupon and no I wasn't going to help because I hadn't touched it and I wanted ONE night where I wasn't helping someone else. I still found it and I'm sorry I yelled that you had to clean up the mess you made but I was pissed you were f^cking up our night. Wife we went to bed at 8:30 to escape your mood
Dear Sis You are a teacher! I'm LOLing over here that you are struggling to get DD to do her distance learning stuff today. I didn't even send you math because I know you don't do math. Plus DD should be able to do it all on her own. It is only vocab words sentences and a paragraph on how you can help your community. I hope this gives you some insight into how your high school parents are dealing with distance learning. Me
rere, I am currently looking up AirBNB's. Maybe just as a dream, but I think it will be easier to turn work off if we're not in the house.But would still be stuck listening to griping.
Dear WPs, Today was a melt down day. Had a total crying pity party this morning in between video calls. I have so much work to do and I am so burnt out from taking care of the kids and juggling everything else. Yesterday we had 4 kid zoom calls, I had 2 hour long calls myself, plus I had to make sure to get to the bus stop and pick up the lunches for the week. That left like 2 hours of actual work time, which of course was randomly interrupted by kids. There's literally no way for me to catch up on all the tasks that I need to do, which means I have zero time to dedicate to strategy and planning improvements to what we're currently doing. I feel so defeated. I was supposed to take a half day on Friday and ended up cancelling the vacation request because I just can't justify losing those hours of work time. Which made me feel even worse and more burnt out. Signed, Exhausted
Dear Beau, I am really looking forward to getting away this weekend. Renting a cabin in the woods to just not be home sounds like exactly what we need. And only have your son around and not all three kids for the weekend will feel like a vacation all on it's own. Sorry I will have to take my own car and meet you there later now that my vacation time plans are off the table. But it'll still be good! Love, Me
Dear teacher friends and school district, I kind of wish you would all stop talking to me about possibilities for the fall. Because at this point, I'm drowning and I don't know how I'm getting through the next week and a half of classes, and then a summer of working from home. The idea of distance learning and juggling modified schedules for the kids in the fall just makes me want to burst into tears and give up. It's too much. Signed, Appreciate the heads up, but stop
Dear ExH, Maybe we need to consider keeping the kids for a week at a time instead of this current custody swapping. I don't want to go a week without seeing my kids, but bouncing them back and forth every couple days with all these other schedule adjustments, distance learning, working from home, and the disaster that the fall sounds like, maybe it would be easier to manage? How the heck are we going to keep track of their school schedules on top of our custody schedules every week? I feel like I already spend half my life packing up a classroom's worth of stuff every two days. No one ever feels settled or comfortable. Plus, the idea of having a full week to myself to work an actual schedule sounds heavenly at this point. Signed, Am I Crazy?
WPs The botanical state park at the coast just cancelled the 2020 holiday light display. They do this amazing display at the park every year. Think zoo lights at a botanical gardens with the ocean sounds in the background. I'm really sad that stuff in December is being cancelled now. I know it takes a massive amount of volunteers to do the lights and run it from Thanksgiving-New Years but it is also a huge money maker for the park. They probably start planning now but it is still sad to hear about stuff in December being cancelled. Stupid COVID
twinmomma,I hope having a meltdown day makes tomorrow go smoother. I find once we have a meltdown day here things seem to be better the next day. Also I don't think changing up custody come fall when school goes back would be a bad thing. I just don't know how much your XH will do on the school front but it would be easier to tell the teacher which weeks are mom weeks vs dad weeks and if stuff isn't getting done or turned in on dad weeks then teacher can just talk with dad. Maybe?
twinmomma, Whenever different schedules are posited by friends for fall, I want to cry as well. Either tell me for certain, or I don't want to talk about it. I don't have the extra room for mental load right now.
twinmomma, Whenever different schedules are posited by friends for fall, I want to cry as well. Either tell me for certain, or I don't want to talk about it. I don't have the extra room for mental load right now.
Truth. Our county sent out a phone survey, then they sent out the results, then they sent out a bunch of reminders that it is the state’s decision. So .... why? Can we just not right now until we actually have a plan because a)I can’t imagine it’ll be based on parent preference and b)my brain is done.
twinmomma , Whenever different schedules are posited by friends for fall, I want to cry as well. Either tell me for certain, or I don't want to talk about it. I don't have the extra room for mental load right now.
Truth. Our county sent out a phone survey, then they sent out the results, then they sent out a bunch of reminders that it is the state’s decision. So .... why? Can we just not right now until we actually have a plan because a)I can’t imagine it’ll be based on parent preference and b)my brain is done.
Yes, exactly! I do not have the mental load to spiral on all the "what ifs" right now. Just tell me what to do and I'll figure it out. Until then, let me just get through this piece first!
twinmomma ,I hope having a meltdown day makes tomorrow go smoother. I find once we have a meltdown day here things seem to be better the next day. Also I don't think changing up custody come fall when school goes back would be a bad thing. I just don't know how much your XH will do on the school front but it would be easier to tell the teacher which weeks are mom weeks vs dad weeks and if stuff isn't getting done or turned in on dad weeks then teacher can just talk with dad. Maybe?
Right, I'm thinking just managing a week on/week off would be easier for everyone - us, teachers, kids. Next year they'll at least be in the same class, so that will save some of the headache right away. (For us, not the teacher necessarily... They'll figure it out!)
I know some families that do a week on/week off, but have one night a week where the "off" parent does dinner with the kids. That feels like a manageable way to tackle it if the school year schedule starts looking crazy.
twinmomma, weren't you still doing all the kid stuff during the week last year on his days? becasue he didn't get home until at 7 or somthing?
I don't think you are crazy, but if the girls are back to that schedule with the school year. and you can tell the teachers to talk to their Dad, but in my experince they never call or email the Dad. EVER. drives me crazy. I have gotten emails and while i have been out of the country for 3 weeks and had him cc'd on the email. Nope didn't work still called and emailed me. Phone calls to pick up my kid while I was out of town. They don't call him unless I don't answer.
I hate your freaking billing methodology. Infant center, preschool, and PreK are billed monthly, then starting in June before switching to JrK (and only people at this center know what JrK is!), we continue paying for daycare for June, July, and I think part of August, but in June, we also start paying for JrK which rather than following months, is just 10 lump sum payments, and the first covers nothing. Then you bill for materials, extended day, and tuition on all separate invoices, which are sent to my email, but it shows the regular tuition amount on the invoice, and I need to log into another system to see the ACTUAL amount we'll be billed net of a corporate discount.
Is it possible to make it any more difficult???
Signed, I'm not stupid and deal with money and billings and invoices all the time. It shouldn't be this hard.
twinmomma, weren't you still doing all the kid stuff during the week last year on his days? becasue he didn't get home until at 7 or somthing?
I don't think you are crazy, but if the girls are back to that schedule with the school year. and you can tell the teachers to talk to their Dad, but in my experince they never call or email the Dad. EVER. drives me crazy. I have gotten emails and while i have been out of the country for 3 weeks and had him cc'd on the email. Nope didn't work still called and emailed me. Phone calls to pick up my kid while I was out of town. They don't call him unless I don't answer.
Yes, but in large part due to his commute. So if there's no commute, that might help? Maybe wishful thinking. I'm just trying to think of options that feel less impossible. I know today is a bad day so it all feels impossible. But damn, I am tired.
twinmomma, hugs. I have broken down and cried a few times myself during this. If I also had to and 2 kids homeschool at that level I am not sure I would make it. I literally can't do that. I would send you wine and chocolate if I could.
You are right. If there is no commute and school is not in session I think this is a ligit request. Just make sure you call or meet up for dinner like you said. Your ex is probably assuming that since he only has them part of the week then he can push off all the responsiblity to you. If he had them the entire week it might click, or the girls will be further and further behind and you will have to play catch up even more during your week.
It has been a week. I had a dentist appt today and I have a cavity they want to fix tomorrow yay I acciendtaly made a payment on a credit card out of my mother's account. I have no idea how I got her check book, but I didn't realize. So I am tranferring her money today. oh and I forgot that summer camp stated this week. DS hasn't been. He is going tomorrow.
Post by erinshelley21 on May 28, 2020 12:48:31 GMT -5
Dear camper dealer, I hope you're right that our camper will sell this weekend. I would not mind getting rid of that payment before the next one is due. Signed, not looking forward to paying off the balance though
TWERK: Remember my coworker with cancer that spread to her brain? I saw her a couple weeks ago. Not looking good. Difficulty standing, walking, moving, talking, etc. She had gone downhill very, very, very fast. I was very glad that I had sunglasses on so that she (hopefully) couldn't see the tears.
She went in for cyberknife brain surgery several times last week and... is on the upswing. She said it is amazing how quickly she's coming back. FX that it continues.
Are you really, really, really sure we should be adding a landscaping project to our summer while trying to finish our basement? I already feel like I've lost my mind so what the hell are we thinking!? Maybe we should only do one of them and save cash since pandemic.
Signed, I don't want to be a grown up
Dear WP's,
Why does landscaping cost so much? We are looking at putting in patio pavers with a fire pit and are waiting on three quotes. The guy yesterday said the last one they did was $17k. We got the idea because the girls are starting to enjoy camp fires in the backyard, DH doesn't like our portable pit, and we are going to be spending a lot of time outside this summer. Does anyone know if this is a good house investment on resale? Anybody have a fire pit that they love and it's worth the money?
mellym, That sounds really high for a fire pit and pavers, but I am not the expert. Unless it is really big and is more of an outdoor fireplace patio with lots of bells and whistles. For that money, I will stick to my portable fire pit in my driveway. But I am also cheap, so there's that.
I would rather spend $1k on a really nice portable gas fire pit. Built in anythings tend to not look so great after a while, or break, and then you're stuck with... an expensive old built in something. My sister's old outdoor kitchen is perfect example... I am sure it was great when installed in the 1990's, looks pretty shitty now.
I would probably still go for the pavers though. Which is where the majority of the expense comes from, I'm sure.
rere, yes it's an outdoor fireplace patio. Good points k3am. The guy we liked the most said he would do line items so we could take items out to get to our budget. The pavers sure would be nice and they would level out our backyard but I'm not sure I want to spend the money on that. I'm leaning towards putting more into the basement project but need to convince DH.
Thank you for finally sending a confirmation that you will be running camps this summer! We have to re-register given that they have to get rid of some camp themes, they start a week later than planned (June 22) and no swimming, but I’m so excited that my kids will get to get out of the house, see other kids, and get more exercise! I’m also excited that you decided to do some safety measures that are NBD, like temp checks, but didn’t say anything about the kids needing to wear masks.
Signed, maybe it will feel a little bit like a normal summer after all
twinmomma, DD has been listening to the final Harry Potter book and just passed the part where Fred dies. I forgot how quickly it happened in the book vs the movie. The movie makes a big deal with crying and emotions and the book just kind moved on quickly. When the girls get to the 7th book you could always read ahead of them and either read that part together or skip it all together. 186momx PS the audiobooks are really well done
Thank you for finally sending a confirmation that you will be running camps this summer! We have to re-register given that they have to get rid of some camp themes, they start a week later than planned (June 22) and no swimming, but I’m so excited that my kids will get to get out of the house, see other kids, and get more exercise! I’m also excited that you decided to do some safety measures that are NBD, like temp checks, but didn’t say anything about the kids needing to wear masks.
Signed, maybe it will feel a little bit like a normal summer after all
One of ours announced no camp. The other one after publishing online camp, announced they are doing in person camps, but with no information. The jury is out on masks.
We had already hired a babysitter, and I think it will make for a nice relaxing summer, but more time all in one space. So now I am a bit sad we will miss out on camp.
If the pool opens and they don't have to wear masks I might send them to at least one week.
Post by mustardseed2007 on May 28, 2020 17:29:38 GMT -5
We hired a sitter! Well, she's coming tomorrow to see how it goes. We've set a rate and she's coming to meet the kids. I have high hopes b/c we already know her and know that she's super kind and has a lot of energy. I think it'll go well with the kids.
My only concern right now is that we don't have enough rooms in the house. But my sister is supposedly moving out in the next two weeks and so H will have more of a place to hide. I can go into my office while she's here b/c hardly anyone is in my office, but he really can't.
Also, our school is doing something pretty nice. They are having free online classes over the summer that are one day per week, 45 minutes each. Just extra curriculum stuff. Theater, art, nature, gardening and PE. The kids have said they are interested in Theater, Art and Nature...I'm curious to see what nature is vs. gardening but you can't argue with free. And our sitter can facilitate that happening. What a load off!!
I got a call from another camp that I had signed up for today (at the humane society in the next town over), wondering if we still wanted to do it since they switched to only being 8-11 am. It’s 20+ min from us and there’s no way we’d get there before 9 am, so it’s not worth it. But I told them how grateful I was that they were still willing to run and how much I think kids really need in person camps this summer. The woman told me I was the third person in an hour to tell her that.