I decided that this is the beginning of a change for me. No more naps during lunch and going to get into a better routine. Well that was yesterday me, today me feels that a nap after not sleeping well sounds really good right about now.
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Oct 25, 2021 10:36:33 GMT -5
Lucy is on quarantine Bc she was exposed to covid at school. It was special lunch day and I felt bad that she was missing it. Did I door dashed from the same place. $50 later. Oh well
@sameoldstory I’m so sorry you have so much on your plate. I personally just started to come to terms with my own depression, admitted to my family how poorly I’m feeling/doing and cannot find a therapist in my area who is taking clients so I’m just over here stalling and watching the world go by. It’s hard.
Post by soccermama on Oct 25, 2021 10:59:23 GMT -5
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There was already a code yellow lockdown at my youngest kid's school this morning and I am just so upset. I don't think there was a gun situation at the actual school, but it was nearby.
Parents should not have to feel terrified at the thought of sending our kids to school on any given day because all of the violence that is happening. I want to know what more I could be doing so that this does not have to be a daily terror for kids, parents, teachers, administrators and everyone else who are in schools daily in this country.
My 11 year old DD is so much. So so so much. So much crying. So much laughing. So much extra. I remind myself that my mom said 11 was the hardest when we were kids- you know, in between deep breaths and trying not to give slammed doors the middle finger!
Post by amandakisser on Oct 25, 2021 11:02:24 GMT -5
My younger DD is on her last day of distance learning after TWO kids in her class tested positive. The vaccines for kids 12 and under cannot come soon enough - I am sick of my life being turned upside down every time there is a COVID case.
PDQ:
I start therapy in two weeks, and I haven't told my H yet. He gets VERY defensive every time I've mentioned wanting to go to therapy because, and I give an exact quote, "why do you want to go to therapy?? Because you know the therapist is going to tell you to leave me?" Well, H, if that's what you're worried about, maybe you should take a good look at yourself and ask why you think a therapist would tell me to leave you...
He IS the main reason I'm going (I've mentioned his drinking problems here sporadically, which have only gotten worse through COVID). Which is why I haven't mentioned it to him yet. I am not mentally strong enough to hear him panic and freak out - I need to do this for myself AND our daughters. They deserve a mom who is physically and mentally strong.
There was already a code yellow lockdown at my youngest kid's school this morning and I am just so upset. I don't think there was a gun situation at the actual school, but it was nearby.
Parents should not have to feel terrified at the thought of sending our kids to school on any given day because all of the violence that is happening. I want to know what more I could be doing so that this does not have to be a daily terror for kids, parents, teachers, administrators and everyone else who are in schools daily in this country.
Have you connected with Moms Demand Action? One of my best friends is extremely active here in Texas (chapter leader, bunch of other stuff). They ARE making progress and raising awareness.
And I'm really sorry about your youngest's school It is terrifying and even worse when it hits close to home.
My county got 20.5 inches rain *total* last rain year (July 2020-June 2021). We got more than a foot of rain in 24 hours Sunday.
It's been raining since Wednesday, so the usually desiccated ground was already saturated and all that is coming down on hills/mountain so the streams/creeks/rivers are overflowing. As you can imagine, we don't accommodate that level of rain well and it's a mess. It's not the level of flooding other places get, but still a mess. I'm glad our little valley has some incline and drains pretty well into the bay.
I can't remember the last time we've gotten this much rain in 24 hours. It just didn't stop! and it was consistently hard for 24+ hours.
DS2 seems really exhausted. I’m hoping he’s just still catching up and this isn’t the start of long Covid shit. He went back to daycare today though, so that’s nice to have him back in his routine. Hoping it helps.
Work is killing me, per usual.
DS1’s moped shield gets here today, so have to get that painted to look like the shield of Peach’s motorcycle. His dress isn’t my best work, but I think it’s still definitely recognizable, so that’s good. I feel like I really phoned it in this year on their costumes because work has been so crazy.
I had a pretty productive weekend, but also got to relax a little bit, so that was good.
Post by emilyinchile on Oct 25, 2021 11:58:19 GMT -5
amandakisser you're amazing for getting therapy scheduled even with that kind of opposition. I hope it brings you the support you need.
I am annoyed with a church secretary who on Friday promised to give me an update by today about whether or not we can baptize DS this Saturday and today said it'll be tomorrow. Baptism is important to everyone except me (FI, my family, his family), so we're trying to do it while my family is here, and it's a total logistical pain at all the churches we've checked with. Plus this weekend is a long weekend so I've got my best friend/baby's future godmother waiting to know whether she needs to be here or can go out of town, and I feel bad about holding up her plans.
DS1’s moped shield gets here today, so have to get that painted to look like the shield of Peach’s motorcycle. His dress isn’t my best work, but I think it’s still definitely recognizable, so that’s good. I feel like I really phoned it in this year on their costumes because work has been so crazy.
You made a dress and ordered and are painting a moped shield. If this is phoning it in, I am preemptively giving up!
Post by Patsy Baloney on Oct 25, 2021 12:14:04 GMT -5
isabel, your kids’ costumes are always the best. I feel like you’re going to post a pic on Halloween all nonchalant like, “Oh here’s my son in his fully-functional Mario kart cruiser, not the best, but he seemed to like it.” 😂
Was it the ice cream truck that had the working lights? I loved that shit.
I drove in snow today for the first time. I’ve had my license for 24 years and never had to experience this. I’ve always lived where it’s warm and the few times we’ve been in snow DH has driven. I felt very grown up as I sloshed through the elementary drop-off line this morning.
I went to the bakery this morning to get rolls for dinner and they had rum buns which I had seen in the menu before but never saw them in person. They were these tiny yeast rolls that were sort of like cinnamon rolls sans cinnamon and dipped in a glaze. So good! The woman working said that people order them for pastry trays so I guess they had some left? They were just on a plate stuck by the check out so I asked about them and she sold me two.
They’ve always had a much larger menu posted than they have sitting out (out is mostly doughnuts, danishes, pies/cake, rolls and some seasonal items) and I’ve never quite understood why or how that worked (I thought it was just a price list for what they rotate on the counter) but I guess you can ask them to make anything and they will? I need to explore this. It’s a really old fashioned bakery that sort of puts things out when they make it so I thought I just had never been there on rum bun day. Deep Monday bakery thoughts.
I have been struggling over the last two weeks. My mental health has been in the shitter despite lexapro and weekly therapy. It all came to a head last night when I got home with my kids and we were over tired and getting ready for bed and I just broke down crying. I never cry, maybe once a year if that. It was such a bad weekend with my parents and I just lost it. My kids and I move next week and we're all looking forward to it. But it's stressful as I try to pack up my house by myself and get everything lined up. Their dad is refusing to help but acting as if he's being such a good person. BF is away and can't help either. Add in some really challenging cases at work and....it's just...a lot.
I'm trying to figure out if I'm just sad or if I'm depressed. My marriage is in the shitter. My exH just makes my life miserable. My Dad has Cancer. My family is a bunch of antivaxxers. I cry all the time. I don't want to do anything but sleep all the time. I hate everything right now and feel like I'm one bad piece of news away from running off to the crazy farm.
I found great comfort when my PCP told me that we are really only able to handle two big, life-altering events every 18 months or so. This was a number of years ago after I had a baby, DH had started his master’s degree, we’d recently started some major DIY home remodels, FIL was diagnosed with cancer, etc. and I found myself struggling with IBS for the first time. She was very matter of fact but also very calming to my troubled mind/body. She said that when we experience too much change or trauma either our body, mind, or both are going to suffer. I now try to pay more attention to my mental and physical health but still ended up with my first-ever UTI a few weeks ago. Between covid crap (didn’t have it but it impacts all of us), moving to a new state, buying a house via FaceTime, distance learning then changing to new schools, unemployment, temp. employment, then a new permanent job, etc. my body gave out again. My mind has suffered too but I’ve managed to handle that fairly well because I knew to look for signs that all the changes were doing me in. Anyway, that’s a long way of saying that I would be surprised if you weren’t experiencing some kind of emotional and/or physical struggle after all you’re dealing with.
Post by Leeham Rimes on Oct 25, 2021 12:36:34 GMT -5
omg, icedcoffee. that's crazy that a workplace doesn't have something better in place. I have three cloud backups that back up daily, one portable hard drive back up that I back up weekly and one flash drive that I back up daily. Clearly, it is my fear to lose my work, lol. the cavalier attitude is perplexing me b/c I would probably have a heart attack if the only back up i had was pre-covid.
I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham
isabel, your kids’ costumes are always the best. I feel like you’re going to post a pic on Halloween all nonchalant like, “Oh here’s my son in his fully-functional Mario kart cruiser, not the best, but he seemed to like it.” 😂
Was it the ice cream truck that had the working lights? I loved that shit.
Lol yes. The ice cream truck had functioning headlights and taillights and last year he went as a mail carrier and I revamped the same base to use for that. His excavator costume didn’t have working lights, but did have a functioning digger arm.
emilyinchile, their Halloween costumes are the one and only time that I get all Pinteresty and give a shit. I might work on the dress more this week if I can get the motorcycle done. I’m pretty happy with it overall, but the darker pink fabric around the waist doesn’t look quite right. I’m also undecided whether I want to try to add a wheel to the motorcycle shield. It’s not going to be exactly what I want, but I have to be careful because otherwise it will be too heavy for him to carry around all night.
MIL gave me a self help book (The Language of Emotions) for my birthday 😳 LADY READ THE ROOM.
Wtf lady?!? Mother in laws…man oh man.
It started off nice "Oh I read this book and enjoyed it" and then she told me what it was .... Lady, you know what yesterday was and the next 2 months will be hard on me. She isn't super self aware so DH brushed it off as "oh its just my mom being my mom" which frustrates me even more!
It started off nice "Oh I read this book and enjoyed it" and then she told me what it was .... Lady, you know what yesterday was and the next 2 months will be hard on me. She isn't super self aware so DH brushed it off as "oh its just my mom being my mom" which frustrates me even more!
Our 13th wedding anniversary is today. We celebrated over the weekend. It really doesn't feel that long. My kid is making us pancakes for dinner as our "gift." She is adorable.
Post by starburst604 on Oct 25, 2021 13:23:13 GMT -5
Happy Anniversary!! Ours is today also - 8 years. I didn't even think about it until yesterday and said to H "hey, so for tomorrow is a card and a "Happy Anniversary" good enough for this year?" He was like "YUP!!" Haha, neither of us has the energy for planning or buying anything right now, especially since we just had a long talk about tightening up our budget in preparation for a new house next year. We are going to go out to dinner with DD after work, nothing fancy though. Just a restaurant that WE want to go to, instead of DD's choice!
Ooooh our niece's friend is selling her Peloton and niece asked if I was interested. I don't know for how much. I'll have to look and see what used ones usually sell for.