Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
Oh, I have a good one, related to the party. H and I turn 40 this year, one day apart. MIL wants to throw us a party, so she calls my mom. First, she wants to put on the invite that there will be a money tree people can contribute to. Lol. THEN, my mom asks where it would be. Well, MIL says her house is too small. She doesn’t want to have it at my parents house. So instead, it will be here- at OUR house, since we have a pool. Lol forever. Luckily, my mom shut that shit down quick!
Thanks for the Hawaii advice! We booked our trip last night. This is our first big trip since the pandemic and I just cannot wait! If anyone has any Oahu tips, let me know!
you can message me with any questions! A lot of restaurants in Waikiki are still doing reservations so if there's someplace you really want to go I'd make a reservation now. There's a Facebook group called Oahu Fun Things To Do that a lot of people living here and visiting post in so it can be a good place to get ideas or see itineraries.
Post by expectantsteelerfan on May 20, 2022 15:27:25 GMT -5
I have no defense for my husband (he is selfish and inconsiderate about many things, I am working on setting boundaries, but he did ask me if we could offer our house as the gathering place because the other friend's house is small and since the weather is bad it has to be inside, and I said yes, and he would honestly be fine if I did not lift a finger to clean for the party, but I would not feel comfortable with that, so I will do the minimal amount of cleaning I am ok with. The buying of the food today was more taken for granted because I am the only one who grocery shops ever at our house, and I would have gone to the store to get stuff today anyway whether we were hosting or not. But I am working on setting boundaries with him and what I am willing to do for him, honestly, I am) But I was also pretty shocked at the audacity of the wife making food requests (she also mentioned her husband's favorite desserts are tiramisu and flan, and I about spit out my drink) and asking if we could do something with our dogs. I do think she was asking more if we could crate them or shut them in a room or something, but that answer is also no because they would bark and freak out so much it would make it impossible to enjoy being in the house. If the weather was nice we could shut them outside, but that is not going to be an option (80% chance of thunderstorms). I think this all came about because this was their whole dynamic in high school too. It's not really a party, it's a casual get together, just now with kids and family. And it's really just our 3 families, plus the birthday guy's brother and his family. I did strongly tell dh he needed to figure out what to do about the dogs at least while people are arriving. I had him ask his one friend to get here early because my one dog in particular gets really excited when someone first arrives and will actually try to jump on people (and she's 85 lbs), but settles down pretty quickly, so I think as long as the family with the kids who don't like dogs aren't the first ones here, we can keep the dogs pretty mellow and distract them with a treat after they get over greeting the first people and they will leave other people alone. But I did tell dh if he doesn't figure it out and it's a disaster I am peacing out and leaving him to deal with it.
Thanks for the Hawaii advice! We booked our trip last night. This is our first big trip since the pandemic and I just cannot wait! If anyone has any Oahu tips, let me know!
you can message me with any questions! A lot of restaurants in Waikiki are still doing reservations so if there's someplace you really want to go I'd make a reservation now. There's a Facebook group called Oahu Fun Things To Do that a lot of people living here and visiting post in so it can be a good place to get ideas or see itineraries.
expectantsteelerfan, It is very kind of you to volunteer your house. Volunteering your house is one thing, but why should you take on the food/alcohol/cake for this party? I would refuse. SHE is being and asshole here, not you. Did you already agree to all this?
LOL to hunting down a dairy free cake in two days. Sorry, buy a cake at Costco and provide oreos for for the casein free kid. I will say, I was lactose intolerant as a kid. I could eat bread and cake (with oil/crisco icing) so it just depends on the severity of the allergy.
I am really disenchanted by a volunteer opportunity. I requested info and it took almost two weeks to get me a volunteer package. I sent the package back in on Monday (to include background check info with sensitive PII) and they can't even be bothered to reply that they've received it. There's a training that starts 15 June and the next one isn't until August. I almost just want to tell them no thank you if this is how it will be. They're asking a minimum of 18 months of volunteer time (10-15 hours a month).
emilyinchile how is L doing? Continuing to send positive thoughts your way <3
Thank you! He's still hospitalized and will be until at least Monday because they now need to give him IV antibiotics for 48 hours. The IV placements have been horrific - 9 attempts for 3 successes, 2 of which then failed, but this one is apparently a different type and will last - with all of us crying. L last night was crawling all around his crib and clearly feeling better at least, and today he just finished a 4 hour nap, so we are hoping that the extra help of the antibiotics will be enough to finally finish this crazy odyssey.
emilyinchile how is L doing? Continuing to send positive thoughts your way <3
Thank you! He's still hospitalized and will be until at least Monday because they now need to give him IV antibiotics for 48 hours. The IV placements have been horrific - 9 attempts for 3 successes, 2 of which then failed, but this one is apparently a different type and will last - with all of us crying. L last night was crawling all around his crib and clearly feeling better at least, and today he just finished a 4 hour nap, so we are hoping that the extra help of the antibiotics will be enough to finally finish this crazy odyssey.
That's a lot to go through! Crossables crossed that he's on the upswing!!
Post by RoxMonster on May 20, 2022 16:06:26 GMT -5
My company does summer hours from May-August where you can choose to work slightly longer days early in the week and then take a half day Friday. So I did that today and H has some PTO he will lose soon if not used so he took time off too. We went on a walk and for a little Starbucks date lol. It was nice. I haven’t taken any time off since starting this job in Feb because I have to accrue my PTO and want to save all my days for a potential October vacation. So it’s nice to get these half days for the next few months. It’s still 40 hours a week but I’d honestly prefer to always work longer days Mon-Thurs and take Friday afternoon off.
Post by wanderingback on May 20, 2022 17:09:46 GMT -5
I’m stuck at work later than usual. Plus I was supposed to go to an outdoor dinner with friends and a few new people, but now it’s raining And I don’t think I’m comfortable with indoor dining right now. I’m bummed as I was really looking forward to connecting with these people. But I do have some social outdoor plans for tomorrow, so I guess that makes up for it.
1. I would not hold that party. No fucking way. My H never, ever would think to do something like this without first asking me and then hiring a cleaner and finding a place to make the food. He wouldn't because he would know that I'd leave him to do it all on his own and leave the house with my dog for a spa weekend. 2. Don't clean, don't go, don't go shopping. This is not your party. Either your H does it or he ropes in others to help. Fuck that shit.
BOUNDARIES PEOPLE. HOLD YOUR SO's TO BOUNDARIES.
Yep exactly. My partner has hosted people without getting my "permission" because that’s fine for us. But he absolutely did all the prep work/cleaning and shopping for food. I would literally laugh in his face if he expected me to do any of it.
Once my partner had people over during the day while I was at work ( a lot of his friends don’t work "9-5" jobs), so I told him I’d prob be tired when I got home. So I came home, was friendly and said hi, made myself a plate of the food he had prepped and then retreated to the bedroom for alone time. It’s ok to have boundaries!
Yes! DH and I have VERY different social time needs. He will always say hi at some point , often pop out to see if we need anything but mostly stays to himself.
expectantsteelerfan , It is very kind of you to volunteer your house. Volunteering your house is one thing, but why should you take on the food/alcohol/cake for this party? I would refuse. SHE is being and asshole here, not you. Did you already agree to all this?
Yes! This woman has balls, I would tell her she can get the cake(s). And are they just expecting you to pay for all of the food?!
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
emilyinchile - Omg, so sorry:( I missed that L had been admitted. I hope all is well soon and you guys are back at home:)
Yup, been here since Tuesday. I have 100% not processed that my one year old is hospitalized for a week (at least), but I'm also so incredibly grateful that I'm not in the US freaking out about how to afford this on top of the worry about his health.
emilyinchile - that's a good silver lining, but I'm sorry you're all going through this. I hope he is feeling better very soon!
RoxMonster, my last company was on that schedule full time. Long days M-Th and "half day" Friday (but I never worked more than a couple of hours). It was amazing and I miss it.
emilyinchile - Omg, so sorry:( I missed that L had been admitted. I hope all is well soon and you guys are back at home:)
Yup, been here since Tuesday. I have 100% not processed that my one year old is hospitalized for a week (at least), but I'm also so incredibly grateful that I'm not in the US freaking out about how to afford this on top of the worry about his health.
Ugh:( are they thinking something viral? ((Hugs)) keep us updated.
ETA: I see the antibiotics so maybe bacterial? Regardless, thinking of you and your family. 🙏🏻
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
Yup, been here since Tuesday. I have 100% not processed that my one year old is hospitalized for a week (at least), but I'm also so incredibly grateful that I'm not in the US freaking out about how to afford this on top of the worry about his health.
Ugh:( are they thinking something viral? ((Hugs)) keep us updated.
ETA: I see the antibiotics so maybe bacterial? Regardless, thinking of you and your family. 🙏🏻
Thank you ❤️ Initial diagnosis was norovirus, but now they think that's messed with his gut bacteria to create a problem there as well, hence the antibiotics.