Owning a restaurant. I still have nightmares and physically feel sick thinking about how intense and all consuming that was.
Teaching my kids how to drive. Nope. My eldest daughter was enough for me. The rest of them are on their own. I’m pretty chill with my kids and them growing up and becoming their own person….I just can not with being in the passenger seat though. Driving lessons for them.
My mother always swore she had easy everything, including 2 of us being 10+ pounds and 2-4 hour labors with no meds being easy, but she tends to look at all of life with rose-colored glasses. I call it the Pollyanna Syndrome.
Boomers are over the top in their false memories of what it was like having kids. EVERYthing was sunshine and roses, so why isn't it for us, too? 🤔
DD was a difficult newborn and terrible sleeper. MIL LOVED to talk about how she never had sleep issues with her sons, and it's probably because she was a SAHM. OK crazy lady, thanks for the help and working mom shame.
Also my first pregnancy was easy and we had an easy time getting pregnant, but difficult L&D and newborn. I'm on track for the same thing this time only it's twins. The only thing getting me through this was the hope that at least they'd be easy babies... 😅
I told my H the entire pregnancy that the baby better be cute because being pregnant was not horrible for maybe a month (not 4 weeks in a row mind you). The rest of the time was full of UTIs & the meds and not being able to keep food inside of me because of the uti meds. 0/10 on uti meds when you have no symptoms of a uti and all you get is diarrhea for 10+ days every month for 9 months. Every appt time I had a urine analysis done and I'd have a uti. I had extra OB appts because I was high risk. So I was taking uti meds 1-3x/month. When I didn't have diarrhea I was constipated. It was awful. I only broke down crying once at work and once at the OB office which is a damn miracle considering how miserable I was.
Owning a restaurant. I still have nightmares and physically feel sick thinking about how intense and all consuming that was.
Teaching my kids how to drive. Nope. My eldest daughter was enough for me. The rest of them are on their own. I’m pretty chill with my kids and them growing up and becoming their own person….I just can not with being in the passenger seat though. Driving lessons for them.
I almost posted "owning a retail bakery" yesterday. I feel like I missed out on so much. I really wonder how different my life would be if I hadn't.
wanderingback, I enjoyed pregnancy beyond the first tri up to the last month. And I think there is something to that saying mentioned above. Pregnancy with C was fairly easy, but my labor and delivery was tough. My pregnancy with K was hard and high risk, but my labor and delivery was a dream, absolutely perfect. C, great sleeper as a baby, terrible as a toddler and K it was the opposite.
I think the key is embracing where you are and finding the good, because it is there mixed in with the hard things. And not that you need me to say this, but it is ok to not like being pregnant.
Yes I’m certainly thankful and just taking it day by day. I don’t really complain much cause things haven’t been too horrible. Just all day nausea for about 8 weeks and fatigue and then the random pains/pressure so far, knock on wood. I obviously have seen a lot of the horrible stuff that can happen during pregnancy too so I certainly have my privilege in check.
Was just saying going through an "easy pregnancy" so far (I had an ectopic pregnancy last year that was caught early and I had no symptoms), makes me firmly in the camp of "never again."
Boomers are over the top in their false memories of what it was like having kids. EVERYthing was sunshine and roses, so why isn't it for us, too? 🤔
DD was a difficult newborn and terrible sleeper. MIL LOVED to talk about how she never had sleep issues with her sons, and it's probably because she was a SAHM. OK crazy lady, thanks for the help and working mom shame.
Also my first pregnancy was easy and we had an easy time getting pregnant, but difficult L&D and newborn. I'm on track for the same thing this time only it's twins. The only thing getting me through this was the hope that at least they'd be easy babies... 😅
MIL never needed maternity clothes with her three, she stayed tiny and people were always surprised when she turned up places with a baby. Maternity clothes puzzled her.
DD was a difficult newborn and terrible sleeper. MIL LOVED to talk about how she never had sleep issues with her sons, and it's probably because she was a SAHM. OK crazy lady, thanks for the help and working mom shame.
Also my first pregnancy was easy and we had an easy time getting pregnant, but difficult L&D and newborn. I'm on track for the same thing this time only it's twins. The only thing getting me through this was the hope that at least they'd be easy babies... 😅
MIL never needed maternity clothes with her three, she stayed tiny and people were always surprised when she turned up places with a baby. Maternity clothes puzzled her.
Thought of another. Being president or an officer of any board/organization. Too much drama to be providing my services for free.
+1
I served 4 years on a board (2 as a member, 2 as chair) and NEVER AGAIN. I had to cut ties completely with the organization when my term ended to be free of the drama and risk to get roped back in. Never never never.
Thought of another one... never again will I keep a massive aquarium. I'm saying this as I prepare to lug multiple 5 gallon buckets of water/fish shit to and from the tank/bathroom.
We have this tank because H's sister didn't want it. H thought it was a great idea. H raves about how it looks. H does none of the upkeep.
I enjoy it, and I've gotten pretty good at keeping various creatures alive, but this is a hobby I did not ask for and would not choose to do again.
I could do a small tank... like a 10 gallon planted beta aquarium. 75 gallons is just too much... now excuse me while I gravel vac and water change for the next hour 😓
Thought of another one... never again will I keep a massive aquarium. I'm saying this as I prepare to lug multiple 5 gallon buckets of water/fish shit to and from the tank/bathroom.
We have this tank because H's sister didn't want it. H thought it was a great idea. H raves about how it looks. H does none of the upkeep.
I enjoy it, and I've gotten pretty good at keeping various creatures alive, but this is a hobby I did not ask for and would not choose to do again.
I could do a small tank... like a 10 gallon planted beta aquarium. 75 gallons is just too much... now excuse me while I gravel vac and water change for the next hour 😓
ETA: (yes, I'm procrastinating lol) the funny thing is this tank was originally my H's sister's husband's. And her H didn't do the work either. Which is why she wanted to offload it 😅
Thought of another one... never again will I keep a massive aquarium. I'm saying this as I prepare to lug multiple 5 gallon buckets of water/fish shit to and from the tank/bathroom.
We have this tank because H's sister didn't want it. H thought it was a great idea. H raves about how it looks. H does none of the upkeep.
I enjoy it, and I've gotten pretty good at keeping various creatures alive, but this is a hobby I did not ask for and would not choose to do again.
I could do a small tank... like a 10 gallon planted beta aquarium. 75 gallons is just too much... now excuse me while I gravel vac and water change for the next hour 😓
I hated my 20 gallon tank with the fire of a thousand suns...I can't even fathom 75!
Post by mysteriouswife on Jun 12, 2022 15:58:39 GMT -5
Mulching my flower beds. I told H ti hire this out. He said no we have spent much this summer already. I told him he can get bent. Next year I’m paying.
High heels. They never worked for my feet, but I suffered through. I’m old enough now to say screw it, flats forever.
Unless I’m in a wedding, I will suck it up for a few hours for someone I love (and then change to flats for the reception). But I’m hoping those days are behind me now too LOL.
Post by fivechickens on Jun 12, 2022 16:55:22 GMT -5
Some have been mentioned….
Pregnancy- had a pretty easy one all considering but it wasn’t as awesome as some say. The end result is pretty cool but pregnancy itself is overrated. (This is kind of a cheat as I am too old at this point).
Marriage- still married, don’t plan on not being married but I won’t do it again if something happens to H.