I’m in the first house I could actually see myself growing old in. And, we are considering “aging in place” in our updates/remodels.
On the other hand, I dream of my family’s lake house in TN, but that will likely be a fight with my step siblings (but, sorry, I feel I’m more tied to it since I had been going there since I was a baby, but they *love* it).
And, I also have a dream of a condo near St Augustine.
Sometimes, I question if my dreams will even be the same country when I retire.
For the question of warm but not fire of 1000 suns. Around my Dads place in Tennessee, there are a bunch of retirees they call Halfbacks. Folks from Ohio, IL, Michigan, etc. Retired to Florida and then came halfway back bc the weather let’s you play golf most of the winter, but summers aren’t unbearable (personally, I beg to differ), no income tax, etc.
Like mysteriouswife it depends on whether DS can live independently. Only time will tell. Regardless we will downsize to a condo at some point. Thankfully we can age in place pretty well.
One of the reasons we chose this house (one story, no basement)was so we can age in place. We’ll likely also get a condo or apartment where DD ends up if it’s out if state.
It depends on where our kids end up. We have no family where we live now and I wish we had support nearby, especially when the kids were really little...so our plan is to do that for our kids someday.
It never occurred to me to retire any where other than where I live right now. My entire family is within 1.5hrs. We just don’t go far from our home base. I assume my kids will settle locally as well and I want to be near them.
I live in one of the highest COLA’s in America. “Starter” houses are $1MM+. There is basically zero chance my kids will be able to buy a house here. I’m working on brainwashing them to move somewhere more affordable within an hour or two of each other.
Same. We will likely follow them and hope they live somewhere we like.
I plan on staying put, unless all my friends leave & then maybe I’ll move closer to where my kids end up. I have no desire to start over making friends at 70 or have my kids be the only ppl I know in an area unless I have to.
Post by gretchenindisguise on Feb 4, 2023 11:27:50 GMT -5
We have no idea.
Probably stay local. We currently rent, but are thinking of buying a small condo when the youngest graduates highschool. We will live here until we have a reason to leave. Retirement isn't a reason for us.
My house will be paid off so I will stay put. Maybe downsize to a one-story house. I always have my eye on some ranches around town but real estate has only gotten more and more nuts in my adult lifetime so who knows if I could afford to move even for a downsize. I may not want to move, would probably rather just renovate my first floor so I won't ever have to visit the other floors in my house if I don't want to.
Post by mrsslocombe on Feb 4, 2023 11:36:37 GMT -5
We bought our apartment as a place we could die in (we are in our 40s). Low maintenance, elevator building, walking distance to nearly anything you could want. No way would I retire to a place that isn't walkable/navigable without a car.
My friend's parents sold their large home when they were in their mid 60s and moved to a single level, ground floor condo in the same town. They have been convincing their friends to move into the same complex. They have plans with their friends to hire private aids/nurses/etc and share them, so they can a. share the expense b. be able to pay them a good salary for private care without dealing with an agency. It's sort of Golden Girls living, but with your own unit. It sounds like heaven to me.
mpm my parents were visiting us/staying in their condo here in March 2020 when the world shut down and ended up staying for four months. I think I have some legit PTSD from that time because my job was nuts (DH and I both work in investments and the market drop meant way more work than normal) just as we had 3 little kids at home suddenly and I was 6 months pregnant. Even with my parents’ help, our baby was still born a month early, I’m sure due to the stress of work and having all the kids here. I have no idea how much worse it would have been without my parents to help with the kids for a few hours here and there.
Florida (Oct-May; we already live here) and North Carolina (June-Sept). We are DINKS and have been planning for 2026. Hope the world is still around for us to kick back, lol.
Post by chilerellanos on Feb 4, 2023 12:24:36 GMT -5
Ummm, if I stay single, Ill likely have to stay here because it’s cheap.
If my bf and I ever get married, also probably here, because he has 15 acres of beautiful land and a beautiful house and I don’t see him ever giving that up. But we would travel a lot.
Post by lolalolalola on Feb 4, 2023 12:28:45 GMT -5
Like many Canadians I expect to be a snowbird. Summer in my current city and winter in southern US. Most people from my province go to the Phoenix area or Palm Springs. We really don’t know yet, just that we will have a winter place somewhere.
I don’t know! My parents had a small modular house built on land my grandfather’s tiny, uninsulated fishing cabin with no bathroom was on about 10 years ago.
My mom died before retirement age but they built it to age in place. My dad lives there now but eventually it will be mine so it’s possible we might end up there. It’s on a river but set back so unless the water level rises more than 15 ft (possible!) it should be okay. They purposely put all of the utilities on the street side/across the street.
Or we might sell it all and move somewhere else with no steps. I like our area.
My husband wishful thinking is moving to Portugal but I can’t see moving there at retirement age and having to navigate health care in a language we aren’t fluent in. Maybe if he was transferred there before then.
Honestly, I would move to my ILs house eventually because it has a studio and great kitchen but my husband doesn’t want to live in Staten Island again.
Post by goldengirlz on Feb 4, 2023 12:37:12 GMT -5
We plan to stay here, but not in our current house.
The dream has been to move to Sonoma County. Of course, with climate change and just, you know, life circumstances, who knows if that’ll actually happen.
I also imagine moving closer to my sisters in New York City. My grandfather lives on the same block as his sister and they see each other almost everyday. If I’m healthy enough to live independently, I think I’d enjoy something like that, probably more than following DC to some unfamiliar corner of the world where I don’t know anyone.
We bought this house as our "first and final" home. It has a first floor primary bedroom, and laundry, so we could easily treat it as a ranch when stairs get dicey for us, only going down to the basement occasionally. It's not at all where we thought we would land, but here we are, so that's the current plan. We've recently talked about getting a condo somewhere we could go to in the winter, but we also may just rent somewhere for a couple months when the time comes. Not super interested in buying a second home because we want to travel too many places, and I don't want to feel like we "have" to go to some spot.
But if the girls settle elsewhere, I can see us moving closer to them. Maybe a condo by grandkids, and a condo elsewhere if they live in a winter frozen tundra? So 2 downsized spots instead of our big forever home? Who knows - I don't particularly love taking care of one house, so 2 is really unappealing, not to mention $$.
I have no idea, it's not something I've really thought about. Retiring and moving somewhere else full-time hasn't really been a thing in either DH's or my family. My ILs have retired and live in the same house in Ohio that they always have; they aren't in good enough health or inclined to travel, and most of their kids are in the area so they really need to stay there if they want help. My parents will probably work until they die or can't anymore -- by choice on my dad's part, wanting to continue running the family business; my mom will help him because she feels obligated.
DH and I will probably stay in our current house until our 60s or 70s, I would imagine. At that point I could see downsizing, but he's a part-owner in the company he works for now, and I doubt we'll leave the area unless or until he's ready to stop working. Maybe once our kids know where they're settling down?
I dunno, moving to FL or AZ or somewhere warm, where I know no one, holds no appeal for me. We just moved cross-country like six years ago and it has been hard enough to build a social circle and feel like part of a community. Although I suppose I could see us moving further into the rural DMV and having a little stone house and a farmette where I can tend chickens and bees and we can live at the end of a dirt road somewhere, lol. I wouldn't mind a senior community at some point, but I think DH would prefer more solitude rather than close quarters with other people. So I'm really not sure.
We discuss this A LOT. We have lived here in Boston for 23 years, but neither of us are from here/have family in state. I’m obsessed with our house but it’s not conducive to aging (too big once we are empty nesters, it’s 117 years old so has lots of maitanence, lots of narrow steep stairs etc). So we are definitely moving. It may be soonish because DS1 graduates high school in 2025 and DS2 starts HS a year later - we think a different HS may potentially be better for him so seems a good time to move. Maybe.
ANYWAY we are sick of cold and snow and I don’t want to be 80 years old worrying about slipping on ice. So the major goal is warmer weather. DH wants to move to Hawaii. I want to keep a small place/apartment in MA somewhere and snow bird between here and Southern California (where I’m from). Both have issues lol. We shall see what happens.
Lake Tahoe. I have already worked with a financial advisor to make this happen in the next 10ish years. I will probably still work when I’m there, but it will be doing something that I enjoy.
Post by dreamcrisp1 on Feb 4, 2023 13:36:23 GMT -5
We tend to move every 2 years (give or take) soooo. Let’s see. Hopefully somewhere back in europe but don’t know how feasible it’ll be unless we wait and become permanent residences here before we move back to Canada. But ideally we’d have a house somewhere warm and be able to go back and forth with winters there and summers in Canada/wherever the boys are.
We def bought this house with the plans to age in place, the house is perfect for the two of us. It’s honestly the hurricanes. They are coming bigger and with more regularity that’s clearly not going to change, just get worse. The entire coast of La has been impacted, the number of friends and family in the state that have had to rebuild is alarming. I can’t imagine we get lucky forever, and it’s fucking stressful.
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
Post by rondonalddo on Feb 4, 2023 14:54:00 GMT -5
When is more important to me than where. I wanna retire early, 55 ideally. We moved to WA from IN last year and I like it here. In my mind, we eventually downsize and move into a single level rancher, or at least a home where our most active living spaces are on the ground floor. Sell our current house to some people that could use all the space.
I'm hoping for Delaware. Where I live now just feels like such a struggle all winter, and winter is long.
Today is uncharacteristically cold, but still: my car engine coolant froze and my car started overheating. It was below 0 out. Thankfully it happened just before I got on a highway, so I could limp along in first gear to a gas station, where I could wait inside and safely warm for help, but seriously. If it's so cold my coolant freezes, I don't want it.
I am retired, my H has about 2-3 years left. We sold our home a few years ago and are renting. We are in NJ and although the cost of homes is crazy I love it here. All my family are here, 2/3 of my kids will be staying here, and all my friends are withing 1-1.5 hours.
We had planned on leaving, but now that the time is here I have changed my mind.
I actually spoke to a realtor this week starting to make a plan.
Maine. We want to move there (currently in PA) in the next 10-15 years. We'll see as far as our kids' lives and school goes, and what happens with my mom though. She wants to move closer to us, so if she moves to suburban Philly, we'll stay until she's no longer around. My in-laws live in MA. They're older than my parents, but also, Maine is closer to them.
My dad just built a new house on Lake Ontario which my brother and I will inherit (the property has been in our family for ~90 years). My brother lives 20 minutes away, but it will be maybe an 8-hour drive from Maine. Since my H and I both work remotely and don't ever really see that changing, we'll likely be able to spend more time there for summers and holidays.
(We like Maine because we like New England, we like forests, we like water, and with climate change being what it is, we want to move further north.)
We’ve been talking about Southwest Colorado, maybe Durango. We also tell our kids to pick somewhere good when they graduate from college and we will follow.