starburst604 , YH absolutely deserves your wrath. I'm also side-eyeing the family that hosted your daughter, though. No one looked at your pasty white kid and asked if she needed sunblock? I'm a pasty white adult and people are constantly asking me if I need to borrow their sun screen and it annoys me to no end (I always wear it, but I get pink if I'm even a tiny bit warm).
I was venting to the mom last night over text and she felt bad that she didn't think of it, but she had her own 3 kids to watch (who are much more olive-skinned than mine). The reason I reminded him to do it was so no one else would be responsible for it - if he'd put a good coat on her before they went over she'd have been good for the time she was out there. I didn't even realize she was that red until we got in our car and saw her in a different light. Of course, back to weaponized incompetence, he probably figured in the back of his mind what I always throw at him - "mom's got it", but in this case a different mom. Screw him.
starburst604 , YH absolutely deserves your wrath. I'm also side-eyeing the family that hosted your daughter, though. No one looked at your pasty white kid and asked if she needed sunblock? I'm a pasty white adult and people are constantly asking me if I need to borrow their sun screen and it annoys me to no end (I always wear it, but I get pink if I'm even a tiny bit warm).
I was venting to the mom last night over text and she felt bad that she didn't think of it, but she had her own 3 kids to watch (who are much more olive-skinned than mine). The reason I reminded him to do it was so no one else would be responsible for it - if he'd put a good coat on her before they went over she'd have been good for the time she was out there. I didn't even realize she was that red until we got in our car and saw her in a different light. Of course, back to weaponized incompetence, he probably figured in the back of his mind what I always throw at him - "mom's got it", but in this case a different mom. Screw him.
Her excuse sucks too. We just went to Mexico with my sister’s family. Every time we put sunscreen on our kids, we made sure her daughter got re-applied too. I do the same thing if our kids take a friend to the pool. The kids get treated as a unit. Even olive-skinned kids need sunscreen every couple hours. I’m side-eyeing all the adults.
I was venting to the mom last night over text and she felt bad that she didn't think of it, but she had her own 3 kids to watch (who are much more olive-skinned than mine). The reason I reminded him to do it was so no one else would be responsible for it - if he'd put a good coat on her before they went over she'd have been good for the time she was out there. I didn't even realize she was that red until we got in our car and saw her in a different light. Of course, back to weaponized incompetence, he probably figured in the back of his mind what I always throw at him - "mom's got it", but in this case a different mom. Screw him.
Her excuse sucks too. We just went to Mexico with my sister’s family. Every time we put sunscreen on our kids, we made sure her daughter got re-applied too. I do the same thing if our kids take a friend to the pool. The kids get treated as a unit. Even olive-skinned kids need sunscreen every couple hours. I’m side-eyeing all the adults.
But it doesn’t sound like she was there long enough that people would necessarily need a new application. I mean PP even says that if her H had done it she would have been fine. I think we can firmly lay the blame on her H.
Her excuse sucks too. We just went to Mexico with my sister’s family. Every time we put sunscreen on our kids, we made sure her daughter got re-applied too. I do the same thing if our kids take a friend to the pool. The kids get treated as a unit. Even olive-skinned kids need sunscreen every couple hours. I’m side-eyeing all the adults.
But it doesn’t sound like she was there long enough that people would necessarily need a new application. I mean PP even says that if her H had done it she would have been fine. I think we can firmly lay the blame on her H.
I don't disagree but it's also good practice that the hosts ask if everyone applied before they start swimming.
I was venting to the mom last night over text and she felt bad that she didn't think of it, but she had her own 3 kids to watch (who are much more olive-skinned than mine). The reason I reminded him to do it was so no one else would be responsible for it - if he'd put a good coat on her before they went over she'd have been good for the time she was out there. I didn't even realize she was that red until we got in our car and saw her in a different light. Of course, back to weaponized incompetence, he probably figured in the back of his mind what I always throw at him - "mom's got it", but in this case a different mom. Screw him.
Her excuse sucks too. We just went to Mexico with my sister’s family. Every time we put sunscreen on our kids, we made sure her daughter got re-applied too. I do the same thing if our kids take a friend to the pool. The kids get treated as a unit. Even olive-skinned kids need sunscreen every couple hours. I’m side-eyeing all the adults.
To be clear, she didn’t make the excuse that her kids weren’t as fair as mine, it’s just my commentary that she may not be as hyper vigilant as I am with a very fair kid. She just said she felt bad she didn’t think to ask her if she had it on already and I replied that it was H’s responsibility, not hers. I do think if her kids had been due for a re-coat she’d have put it on DD as well. Fortunately the redness calmed down overnight and doesn’t look as shocking today.
I’m sure going forward she’ll always ask her and TBH I’m now wishing I had texted her to double check, knowing I can’t always rely on Mr. Untreated ADHD Brain. 🤦♀️
When he would drop her at daycare when she was an infant, I called him every single time to “check how drop off went”, because I was always afraid of him forgetting and leaving her in the car or something.
Post by litskispeciality on Jun 23, 2023 9:41:31 GMT -5
starburst604, I think he needs probation even if he feels bad. As a fellow burner when I say the word sun he knows better to apply one layer and ask the other parents to continue to apply the bottle you provided. *sigh* sending you a big bottle of wine!