I. AM. TIRED. I don't know what Dhs problem was but his tossing and turning woke me up at 3 and kept me up. If he says one word about being tired, I am going to knock him out. I'm sleeping in DS's room tonight.
Great weekend of pool and lakes. I haven't laughed that hard in a long time at some of the girl's day shenanigans.
I had a follow up Dr appointment at 9 for the leg pain I’ve been going to pt for. Get there and they tell me “oops, looks like we deleted you by accident, if you hang around we will fit you in.” So by 10 I finally see the doctor for three minutes for home to say “ya, just needs more time to heal.”
Got home to the girls bickering, hadn’t done any of the chores I asked, and now I’m trying to round them up and get their acts together. They have physicals this morning and then they switch to their dad’s house so we have to make sure all the school supplies for the first day tomorrow get there.
We had a nice week away at the beach, and now I'm starting to dig out at work. I'm also having to pick up some stuff for DH's work, so the balancing act with my existing clients.
My kids are in their last full week of vacation, and DD1 is struggling to get her summer reading done. Both kids have orientation later this week, and then the parents spend an hour in an orientation as well. Soccer practices start this week, and DD2 NEEDS to get back to regular physical activity.
I finally heard back from the head of the math department at DD's new school, and he feels strongly that DD1 should stay in the lowest level of math. I'm not going to push it - I don't want her to be overwhelmed - just challenged. He said that, if they feel like they can push her a little, they'll figure out a track to get her onto the Calculus track - which all sounds appropriate. So we will see...
Post by supertrooper1 on Aug 28, 2023 10:48:22 GMT -5
The weekend was good. We met Beau's brother at what is becoming our regular camping spot for dirt bike riding. We rode a good part of the day on Saturday on a trail that we had only been on once and that part was a fun ride. We tried a new trail after that, but it was too sketchy for me with some narrow drop offs. Luckily it intersected with a logging road part way through, so we jumped on the road and rode back to one of our regular trails back to the campsite.
Saturday night, Beau had mentioned about going out for a quick morning ride before heading home. But as we were eating breakfast Sunday morning, it didn't even have to be discussed that we were all too tired from Saturday's ride to go out again, plus it was getting hot quickly.
It's still smoky in our area from wildfires and I'm very wheezy today. This week should be pretty mellow with just the gym, but I do have to make a Costco trip since my list is growing and I'm not looking forward to that expense.
Weekend was good/pretty normal. DD's football game was Friday night. Saturday during the day we didn't do that much - Target run, backyard pool time. Saturday night during a bowling bday party for one of DD's friends, I took the 3 boys to see the Super Mario movie across the street. It was DS3's first movie in a theater. He did pretty well - sat and shoveled popcorn into his mouth for most of it. He just got a little restless toward the end, but there were only like 6 other people in the huge theater, so he was able to move around.
Yesterday DD had a 3-hour softball practice for her new travel softball team and then a pool party at her coach's house. I also hosted a little pool party for DS1 and 4 of his 9-year-old boy friends. DD has had a very active social life since school started a couple weeks ago, so I was trying to even things out a bit for DS1. We have one of those little plastic toddler rollercoasters, and the boys set it up to go into the pool. They had fun and we managed to not send anyone home injured.
Just after I was excited that DS3 was getting the hang of pooping in the potty...he did it in the potty a few times this weekend, but he also pooped at least 10 times this weekend, so many of them were not in the potty. I think he must be holding the poop in during the week at school and then let it all out! So that was super fun
I finally met with the ortho.. he doesn't know that invisalign would cause a huge improvement in the TMJ, but doesn't think it would make things worse. I could have improvement when wearing them, but getting rid of them may take me back to the same place. But I'd have straight teeth at least? He is apparently one of the more expensive options in town, but based on my dual insurance, the whole thing would be ~$50 out of pocket, so I think I'm going for it.
Post by soccermama on Aug 28, 2023 11:53:32 GMT -5
We had a good and fairy busy weekend also! (per usual?!) Friday I was able to work remotely, also had a Dr. appt and ran a couple of errands.
Saturday we had DS belated b-day party and it went great! We took him and 4 friends (and DD) to this new water park so close to our house, its actually at the water reservoir and they have those "Wibit" water inflatables in a sectioned-off area of the water. And so much other stuff to do as well! I want to go back and try the kayaking. The kids had so much fun & I was so glad we took them!
Yesterday was busy too! We went to the RV show for a little while, then DD and I peeled off and went to the mall (her request). Stopped for groceries on the way home. DD started high school today! (SOB)
Had a long weekend: Thursday mad dash to the office because my office was flooding. The upstairs tenant toilet overflowed, and he didn't notice. Management company was being a total PITA and trying to say it was our responsibility to fix it. They did finally send the carpet people into suck up the water and leave us a big fan to dry out my office. Managment figured since we caught most of it in 3 different trash cans, we should be good. I have two huge stains in my office and will probably bring my own carpet shampooer down this weekend to try and fix it. DD had orthodontist at 1pm and we missed lunch which made her hangry by 2pm. She got head gear, and that transition isn't going well. Friday DD and I took the dog over to the coast and had a nice walk on the beach and spent about 90 minutes walking in the fresh clean air. Saturday, we spent most of the day working on the fence out in the smoke. DD ended up with some bug or a reaction to the head gear because she couldn't stop sneezing and blowing her nose. I actually talked her into a nap, and she slept for over 90 minutes which is unheard of. Let her skip headgear Saturday night so she could sleep well. Sunday DD rode and we finished up the fence.
I swear all I did this weekend was piss DH off by breathing. I really want a do over to my long weekend.
Post by sandandsea on Aug 28, 2023 16:27:42 GMT -5
Since the hurriquake, Dh made it home from visit g his dad Tuesday night and he and ds1 left Wednesday morning for their race on the East Coast. FIL was discharged Tuesday also and hasn’t had to be readmitted or have another transfusion since so that’s great news! Ds2 had soccer this weekend and did well and Dh and ds1 got home around midnight last night. Today is back to school and then ds1 has tons do homework to finish still and soccer tonight so I’m planning to get takeout on the way home so we can focus on makeup homework.
Oh and we had a staff quit today. We are in the middle of busy season and I had asked her about not being in the office with her team and productivity as I’ve suspected something was amiss. So I reached out to see if she’s okay or needs any support and she replied with basically “I quit and I’m giving 4 days notice”. So basically she’s been quiet quitting. Everyone in the industry realizes how unprofessional this is and I’m seeing it as a huge red flag and am now glad she’s leaving and not going to become a huge issue to get rid of later on. But it still sucks for her to do to her peers. She’s going on the “not eligible for rehire” list.
Went back to work today and haven’t felt this positive about a return to work in years. It was lovely to see people from years ago and they said it was good to have me back.
These years of gaslighting really impacted me on so many levels. Questioning my own abilities etc. Today was very validating.
campermom , I'm so glad today went well for you! I was gaslighted by a supervisor at a previous job. It took me a months to even think it wasn't me that was incompetent. That was just the beginning of my journey back from this awful experience. FWIW, being with positive co-workers during the day and occasionally doing things with them outside of work (walks, coffee, running) really helped me with this.
My weekend was busy. H is in training to be a ski patroller. This week he was in classes all day Sat and Sun. I had the kids. It was usually fun, but between them, their activities, regular chores and getting ahead on a work project, it was draining. Dare I say, thank God it's Monday?
Kids start school tomorrow. It seems a bit anti-climatic because our summer was so short, only eight weeks. Both are happy with the teachers they got and have good friends in their classes. So here's to a great start!!
dglvrk2 the gaslighting was actually from the ExH, but really contributed to me to kind of falling down in many areas of my life. I used to be one of the top in my state. I spent the last 3 years trying to get through burnout. I think much of it was that all the mental load of parenting alone PLUS dealing w Counterparenting, left me with no bandwidth for a very emotionally taxing job.
Regardless I’m looking forward to a fresh start here!
Today was the girls' half day orientation for middle school. They're at their dad's house. They have to walk to the bus stop down the street there and this will be the first time they've ever done it. Yesterday DD1 asked if dad would walk them for the first few days because she's nervous. He half-heartedly agreed but said he hates getting up early in the morning.
Today I've texted both girls to say good luck and I texted ExH to ask how the bus went this morning. No one has responded. I'm irrationally nervous that he overslept and the girls will miss this first day because their dad is an idiot. Fingers crossed I hear from someone by the time school lets out around noon so I can breath easier!
Post by supertrooper1 on Aug 29, 2023 11:46:01 GMT -5
My mom just called me and said they were told to start prepping for evacuation from their home. They live on the edge of a mountain in a valley that opens into farmland and the other side of the mountain has a wildfire that started last night from lightning. It's not near their home yet, but it sounds like they're worried about it spreading fast. I'm an hour away, but I am tempted to head up there in case they need to load up their cows from the barn.
supertrooper1, I would go. If they are level 1 now and are expecting to move up the evacuation levels. If anything you can help pack important paperwork and video their home and belongings and bring them home with you. We know a few people who have been at level 2 for weeks and they have stuff stored in friends garage just in case along with their cars packed in case they can't go home from work to get stuff.
Post by supertrooper1 on Aug 29, 2023 16:28:37 GMT -5
186momx, I was getting ready to go and had work coverage lined up and they adjusted the level 2 evacuation to a smaller area that didn't include my parents. It's near a lake and they have a plane dumping water on it now so hopefully it will be contained soon. It would take a big change in winds to head in their direction, so they're safe for now.
We got the most annoying email today. I teach at a very casual, progressive school that markets itself on being different from the very stuffy, very snotty private schools in the area. Families choose us for that reason (we are not this school or that school). There is a dude in the development office that is hell bent on branding the school as something it’s not. It’s mildly annoying all the time but we just laugh at him and move on.
Today, we get an email (mind you, we were all in so this announcement could have been finessed in person and it would have gone over much as described above) that basically says we are being photographed for media tomorrow and we should look “professional” then goes on to describe what that means (dresses for the women, but no bare shoulders and no cleavage) and ties for the men. There are at least 5 NB/gender fluid teachers at the school. Cool for them, asshole.
Also — Literally no one dresses like this — ever. He then linked the faculty website of a school in the area that is a direct opposite of our vibe “to get ideas”.
So we spent our whole party tonight planning ridiculous outfits. I told my boss I’d buy him 6 beers if he wore a tux. He better not let me down.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
I finally got to talk to them last night and it sounds like it was a great day! They've got a good mix of people they know in each class and the entire grade has lunch altogether, so no worries about who to sit with or which friends are at lunch with them, which is really nice.
Every year we get together with their BFF's family to do some first day of school pictures before the kids get on the bus, so we did that today since it was the first "real" day of school. Of course, exH showed up with the girls 15 minutes late because "he forgot" even though we literally talked last night about it. Which meant no one was ready when the bus drove by my house. And the bus didn't even slow down a little, even though we were all out in the driveway. So exH drove the kids to school today.
Hopefully the bus situation gets smoother! They gave me SUCH a hard time when I signed the girls up, since exH and I are on different bus routes. It's all in the same town and there's a bus from each of our homes, but the bus company was acting like they'd never heard of divorced parents and alternating schedules before. They literally made me write out our entire parenting plan and what days we switch and even then were not super helpful about getting us signed up.
erbear, I'm going to need a follow-up on the outfits. Especially any tux.
I am adamantly opposed to any and all dress codes that require dresses for women. We can look nice and be professional in pants. It's not the 1800s where women had to do literal manual labor....in a dress.
erbear , I agree malicious compliance would be awesome here. A professional dress with no bare shoulders or cleavage? 100% of the requirements met. And anyone who looks at that would be going.. WTF?
So…we spent the morning listening to a presentation from a trans woman about how to create a safe space for trans and non-binary kids. So someone (not me!!) raised their hand and asked “so how would you handle a school email that left no space for people who identify outside the binary or who don’t want to dress in gender normative clothes?”
The history department took our photos in our collection of hats from the French Revolution.
Then we got an email apologizing for the whole debacle.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
Question: Have your kids ever gotten a project the first part of school and it not be due until June? Last night DD's math/science teacher stated that she had no nightly homework but she did larger projects as homework. They would get the biggest project next week but don't worry it isn't due until June.
My brain can't handle projects like that. I asked DD what she thought of that and she said I will do the whole thing before the end of the first month of school so I don't have to worry about. I'm thinking most of our kiddos would have problems with this too.
Question: Have your kids ever gotten a project the first part of school and it not be due until June? Last night DD's math/science teacher stated that she had no nightly homework but she did larger projects as homework. They would get the biggest project next week but don't worry it isn't due until June.
My brain can't handle projects like that. I asked DD what she thought of that and she said I will do the whole thing before the end of the first month of school so I don't have to worry about. I'm thinking most of our kiddos would have problems with this too.
End of quarter, yes. End of year, no. But what the teacher may be doing is just going “hey, heads up about this project” and then will be breaking it up in chunks with the kids. That’s how the quarterly projects have gone.
Example, project is assigned, the kids are given a sample timeline (have outline done by week 3, draft done by week 5, visual aids by week 6 or whatever) and then they do pieces in class and/or get reminders throughout the period that the project is to be developed.