Ugh sorry he’s dealing with that! But can you clarify where he is bleeding from? (I’m just curious/nosy and it wasn’t clear from your post, hope ok to ask!)
A burst varicose vein.
I don't know what to do. He's refusing to call any doctors offices and won't answer me when I ask exactly what they did in the ER last night. I needed to get out so I took DS to my moms and am just sitting in the grocery store parking lot sobbing.
How much of a jerk am I going to be when I file and he has a serious medical condition?! I'm already consumed by guilt and this makes it ao much worse.
You filing will have no effect on his medical conditions. You haven't filed - and here you are. There were medics in the house last night, and he was in the ER with doctors. He had access to all the help he needs. You can't do this for him, and it's okay to save yourself.
I don't know what to do. He's refusing to call any doctors offices and won't answer me when I ask exactly what they did in the ER last night. I needed to get out so I took DS to my moms and am just sitting in the grocery store parking lot sobbing.
How much of a jerk am I going to be when I file and he has a serious medical condition?! I'm already consumed by guilt and this makes it ao much worse.
You filing will have no effect on his medical conditions. You haven't filed - and here you are. There were medics in the house last night, and he was in the ER with doctors. He had access to all the help he needs. You can't do this for him, and it's okay to save yourself.
True. It's the guilt of leaving him to deal with alone (if he ever chooses to).
Now my dad and the guy are taking his classic truck for a joy ride. I'm dying 😂
Post by starburst604 on Dec 27, 2023 16:18:47 GMT -5
blondemoment123 if anything this is just one more piece of the "why" for when you do break the news to him. You aren't a jerk in any way.
Venting here since I can't really in the real world. For the last few years we've celebrated NYE with 3 other families who are our close local friends, so I reached out on our text chain yesterday asking what everyone's plans were, hoping to get something started. Normally one of the two families with a very young child will host so they can keep having fun after they put the LO to bed, but I was open to hosting too. My friend C replied that she was staying down her parent's Cape home through NYE, not surprising since her dad is in poor health and she wants to spend more time with him. Today friend E replied that they had been thinking of staying at a fun hotel with the kids, but they've come down with the stomach bug and assume it will hit the whole family throughout the week. I replied that I was open to hosting for those who don't have plans. Friend K has been quiet through it all. Just now, C sent me a long text explaining that they are having another family (we know them through C but not part of the text group) down to the Cape house for NYE since they had asked a couple of months ago if they could come. She went on to say that when she mentioned it to K, she asked if her family could come too since they have kids that all line up in age, so they are going too. Hence K's silence on the text chain, since I clearly didn't know this and they were probably trying to think of the best way to break this info to me. I realize that not everyone is included every time blah blah but I just feel sad at our little family not being included and now we have nothing to do for NYE. I haven't replied yet because I can't fake the breezy manner in which I'd need to respond at this moment.
I've been the solo parent for the better part off a week now, and I'm fucking exhausted. Not just physically, but exhausted about managing small humans.
ETA: Also my uncle's obituary was published today and even though I haven't seen or talked to the man in 20 years it still made me cry (no falling out, just distance).
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Dec 27, 2023 16:32:13 GMT -5
I have been spending my 4d off of work doing a msssive purge. Tackled my kitchen and outside storage closet - tossed alot of stuff and donated a bunch of stuff. My kitchen and living room look less cluttered which makes my (and Miss R’s) anxiety go way down 😊
starburst604, that sucks. That happened with us for Halloween. We had a tradition of trick or treating with one family after many years they decided to go with other friends. It's all very understandable since the boys go to a separate party, and apparently I'm the last to know but the girls aren't close anymore. But it just sucked overall because it was the end of a tradition, and I don't expect the girls to be close again.
We did have a New Years tradition with this family also, but that was just a couple of times and ended years ago, so not as painful. We don't have plans on the eve, but are traveling on New Years day.
blondemoment123 if anything this is just one more piece of the "why" for when you do break the news to him. You aren't a jerk in any way.
Venting here since I can't really in the real world. For the last few years we've celebrated NYE with 3 other families who are our close local friends, so I reached out on our text chain yesterday asking what everyone's plans were, hoping to get something started. Normally one of the two families with a very young child will host so they can keep having fun after they put the LO to bed, but I was open to hosting too. My friend C replied that she was staying down her parent's Cape home through NYE, not surprising since her dad is in poor health and she wants to spend more time with him. Today friend E replied that they had been thinking of staying at a fun hotel with the kids, but they've come down with the stomach bug and assume it will hit the whole family throughout the week. I replied that I was open to hosting for those who don't have plans. Friend K has been quiet through it all. Just now, C sent me a long text explaining that they are having another family (we know them through C but not part of the text group) down to the Cape house for NYE since they had asked a couple of months ago if they could come. She went on to say that when she mentioned it to K,she asked if her family could come too since they have kids that all line up in age, so they are going too. Hence K's silence on the text chain, since I clearly didn't know this and they were probably trying to think of the best way to break this info to me. I realize that not everyone is included every time blah blah but I just feel sad at our little family not being included and now we have nothing to do for NYE. I haven't replied yet because I can't fake the breezy manner in which I'd need to respond at this moment.
That too dochas, I never invite myself to anything but if I did I definitely wouldn’t presume to invite myself to a vacation home where they are visiting an elderly relative over a holiday weekend. But I guess if the hosts were bothered they could have said no.
That too dochas , I never invite myself to anything but if I did I definitely wouldn’t presume to invite myself to a vacation home where they are visiting an elderly relative over a holiday weekend. But I guess if the hosts were bothered they could have said no.
In poor health, who wouldn't love to have a house full of strangers with small children?
My husband wanted a gaming laptop. He has like zero computer skills (doesn’t use a computer at work. Nothing!) I tried to steer him to an Xbox, but he insisted in a laptop. Ok, find, I consulted with the gamers I know and bought one the recommended. It’s been 48 hours and…. My 27 year old gaming friend is coming over later tonight to make it work 😂 Because we are our parents.
The week from Christmas to New Year's is always so weird, just a lazy blur. We've been eating leftovers since Christmas and we're almost out of food so I guess I have to go to the store tomorrow and meal plan for the rest of the week. I was super responsible earlier in the month and scheduled pilates classes for the rest of this week but, blah. I don't wanna.
I took DD on a mommy/daughter date and it was delightful. We went ice skating downtown (her first time) and it was a blast. She picked it up right away and we skated for a solid 90 minutes, then wandered the public garden with hot cocoa. She is usually my tough kid but didn’t have one complaint all day. I really need to make more 1:1 time with her because she clearly loves/needs it.
School friends hosted an outdoor moving night with pizza popcorn, a d cocoa. There were about 15 kids in sleeping bags and parents with booze, it was super fun.
Post by mysteriouswife on Dec 27, 2023 21:44:11 GMT -5
H went to visit his dad 2+ hours away. He took the kids and SIL’s family. I have been home solo for nearly 9 hours! I got off at 5. Took a nap. Ordered dinner. Took a shower. Now I’m watching crime shows in peace. Debating on heading to bed before they get back
That too dochas , I never invite myself to anything but if I did I definitely wouldn’t presume to invite myself to a vacation home where they are visiting an elderly relative over a holiday weekend. But I guess if the hosts were bothered they could have said no.
In poor health, who wouldn't love to have a house full of strangers with small children?
Maybe poor health was the wrong phrase, he has early Alzheimer’s so it’s more of a race against time for his kids and grandkids to be around him when he’s still mostly lucid. They have been with her parents since right before Christmas. Her parents live out of state in the winter, so I’m not clear on when they are leaving the vacation home and if they’ll be around fully for NYE. I assume they are though because 3 families wouldn’t max out that house.
OR THEY HATE ME AND WOULDN’T INVITE ME IF THERE WERE 7 SPARE BEDROOMS.
We took the kids to dinner and to see Wonka. It was a good movie and my teens enjoyed it. This is my favorite week of the year with time off and no big plans.
I took a ball to the head at soccer last night. I wasn’t even playing at the time. I was outside the rink subbed out and had turned my head to talk to someone. Someone kicked the ball and it hit me square in the side of my head. I never saw it coming.
I definitely have a concussion. I helped DS2 set up a fort and had to take a break to lie down halfway through. I’m so irritated about it and really hoping this doesn’t last more than a couple days.
Ouch and very scary! It usually hurts more when you are hit by surprise. Did you go to the doctor? How are you feeling now? Hope you fully recover soon.
In poor health, who wouldn't love to have a house full of strangers with small children?
Maybe poor health was the wrong phrase, he has early Alzheimer’s so it’s more of a race against time for his kids and grandkids to be around him when he’s still mostly lucid. They have been with her parents since right before Christmas. Her parents live out of state in the winter, so I’m not clear on when they are leaving the vacation home and if they’ll be around fully for NYE. I assume they are though because 3 families wouldn’t max out that house.
OR THEY HATE ME AND WOULDN’T INVITE ME IF THERE WERE 7 SPARE BEDROOMS.
This is worse! Who intrudes on this? Seriously - let me just hate your friends for you so you don't have to! I have been sick since Christmas and was sick at Thanksgiving. I need an outlet for my rage and clearly I have settled on these people!
I took a ball to the head at soccer last night. I wasn’t even playing at the time. I was outside the rink subbed out and had turned my head to talk to someone. Someone kicked the ball and it hit me square in the side of my head. I never saw it coming.
I definitely have a concussion. I helped DS2 set up a fort and had to take a break to lie down halfway through. I’m so irritated about it and really hoping this doesn’t last more than a couple days.
Ouch and very scary! It usually hurts more when you are hit by surprise. Did you go to the doctor? How are you feeling now? Hope you fully recover soon.
I did not. It snapped my head to the side. My neck was a little sore yesterday, but no other physical pain. By late afternoon I was feeling a little better, but tired. Although that may have been all the loud little boys (because yes, the play date was after I got hit). I feel ok so far this morning, but I haven’t gotten out of bed yet.
You filing will have no effect on his medical conditions. You haven't filed - and here you are. There were medics in the house last night, and he was in the ER with doctors. He had access to all the help he needs. You can't do this for him, and it's okay to save yourself.
True. It's the guilt of leaving him to deal with alone (if he ever chooses to).
Now my dad and the guy are taking his classic truck for a joy ride. I'm dying 😂
It's going to be hard whenever you decide. I'm sorry things are going to be hard for a while, but I hope you get through this or past it somewhat quickly.
Ouch and very scary! It usually hurts more when you are hit by surprise. Did you go to the doctor? How are you feeling now? Hope you fully recover soon.
I did not. It snapped my head to the side. My neck was a little sore yesterday, but no other physical pain. By late afternoon I was feeling a little better, but tired. Although that may have been all the loud little boys (because yes, the play date was after I got hit). I feel ok so far this morning, but I haven’t gotten out of bed yet.