Post by dancingnancy on Dec 27, 2023 16:52:50 GMT -5
The hardest part is over and while you still have a tough road ahead, you chose yourself and good things will happen because you have already proven how strong you are.
Vicky, love! It’s good to see you here, but sorry it’s come about due to such hard circumstances. I followed you on Insta and then unfollowed and blocked J because ew.
Post by honeydew1894 on Dec 27, 2023 19:04:21 GMT -5
Welcome back. I don't "know" you, but I can tell you are a tough woman. I am sorry things are so hard right now, but each day will bring you closer to good.
Well damn. It's good to see you here, but I'm sorry for all that you've been through. I am so glad you left and are safe. The rest will sort itself out over time, but you're on your way to better things. Please keep posting!
Post by W.T.Faulkner on Dec 27, 2023 22:27:27 GMT -5
Goddamn. You are a survivor. I am sorry you have had to endure so much since you were last here, but there is nothing cliche about saving your own damn life.
Hi, I’m new but remember reading the board at a time when you used to post; you always seemed so kind and I could remember you by your Bjork avatar. I’m sorry you’re going through a tough time, and I’m glad you’re safe now.
If it helps with the cptsd part: I remember when I left my ex (who was abusive as well), one of the first things I did was go to a therapist trained in trauma therapy and emdr. It was very helpful just having someone to hear me and to help me learn how to ground/work through certain memories and feelings and all. At one point they recommended the book “The Body Keeps the Score”, but it can be a little intense for some people (I personally couldn’t get through it); but it’s basically about how trauma can get stuck physically in the body and come out in different ways. Getting massages, meditation, focusing on creative ways to get my feelings and thoughts out, and exercise helped. If I got triggered and needed to ground, cold water on my wrists, smelling or tasting peppermint, going for a walk, talking to friends, and going to relax in a quiet space helped. Feeling safe with my best friend and having their support, focusing on work I liked, taking breaks to relax and reset when I needed them, and getting enough sleep and making sure I ate/drank enough helped too. There are also cptsd-specific message boards that have been helpful at times as well.
I’m sorry that’s a little long, but I hope that maybe helps with the cptsd part. I also sympathize with the celiac, I’ve heard that’s not easy either. You’re not alone with it, and you have support. From a stranger, I’m glad you’re safe. (Also for music, I’ll recommend checking out some chill bands like The Get Right Band, Rising Appalachia, Yaima, and always Fleetwood Mac. For movies/shows, I rec “Miracle Workers” (with Daniel Radcliffe) and anything with Steve Martin. And games…I’ve heard Neopets got a reboot, and that was always fun. )
Post by mrsukyankee on Dec 28, 2023 4:06:18 GMT -5
Sending all the hugs and hoping the very best for you! Therapy in a Nutshell may have some good videos for you on Youtube. Even if only to deal with the anxiety and potential dissociation that comes with DV and CPTSD.
Fellow celiac checking in. The world needs more celiac safe bakeries, so don't lose hope. There is a learning curve to GF baking, but if I can figure it out as a non-baker, I know you can too. And, you'll be so much better at it than I am. GF people are loyal AF to safe businesses.
Same thoughts - obviously you need to focus on your health and wellness first but there is a HUGE market for tasty GF food because most of it leaves something to be desired. My dad was diagnosed a couple years ago and it's been so hard for him.... I can't imagine having a wheat-based career on top of that! But you have truly special skills that you can bring to the Celiac community if or when you are ready.
Hey Vicky! I'm glad you found your way back but I am so sorry at what you've been through. I've always enjoyed following you on social media, I could see your strength even then. You have gone through so much and are still standing strong. Don't ever forget that!
I’m so sorry. Good for you for pulling yourself out of a bad situation. I know that must have been really scary and hard.
I’m a fellow celiac and I love to bake! Cup for Cup, King Arthur, Bob’s Red Mill - lots of easy flour substitutes! Most of the time people are shocked when they find out my stuff is gluten free. Don’t give up!
Post by emilyinchile on Dec 28, 2023 8:15:35 GMT -5
I am so glad you're alive. The stuff with J sounds terrifying, as if everything else weren't hard enough. I can't help with the other stuff, but I will say that while the dead mom club is a really shitty one to have to join, I know there are plenty of us here who can be listening ears or shoulders to lean on as needed ❤️