Post by redheadbaker on Feb 9, 2024 15:20:21 GMT -5
I almost miss the "old days" where you had to wait for your doctor to call you with blood test results. Now, I get a notification and can see the results in my online chart, but have no idea what they mean, so I'm googling.
DD1’s 14th birthday is today. Yesterday I took her for contacts, something she desperately has wanted. Well, 3.5 hours later we left the doctor, with the contacts still in her eye and a prescription for a sedative and instructions to come back today because she was incapable of putting her fingers in her eye or letting any of the 4 other people - including the doctor - from doing so. So now today, in addition to a full day of meetings and cooking dinner for 13 people (birthday dinner with grandparents, aunts, cousins etc) I need to pick up the prescription, bring her to the eye doctor, convince her to take the sedative (which she has anxiety about) and then get those contacts out. I barely slept because MY anxiety about the whole thing is so high. Any words of encouragement or hair pats would be much appreciated.
And poor DD1 who has to spend her birthday this way. She hates doctors and everything medical and was so proud of herself for being brave enough to try contacts. Last night she cried that she is a failure. I was so proud of myself that for those 3.5 hours I stayed calm and kind. It was not easy. She also cried that she “doesn’t want to be high on her birthday” which made me chuckle.
And I just don’t know when to take her to be honest. She wanted to go after school with her friend who has the same birthday to a new candy store that opened, and I want that for her but also…we need the contacts out.
oh poor girl! I got my contacts at age 14 and remember being shocked that they sent me home in them. It took my 3 hours of crying and attempting to touch my eye to get them our that first day - I get it!! There are tricks to getting contacts out without touching your eye (and you actually don’t really touch your eye anyway, just the contact, but I get that it’s basically the same thing). There’s a method of pulling your eyelid up, looking hard to the side, and blinking rapidly that has them come out on they own
I was around the same age when I started wearing contacts, and also couldn't manage to put my fingers in my eye to take them out. (And it took me hours and hours the next day to be able to put them in.) The eye doctor had me squeeze them out instead with my eyelids, and that's the only way I've ever known to do it!
It's Olivia Rodrigo for me. It's something about everything being the same level of intensity that grates. I can tell I'm getting old because I will like about the first 1/4 of the song then switch to "please calm down, this is exhausting."
I don't know who Jason Isbell is, lol.
I like Olivia, but agree that she needs to go on a vacation and then write a happy song. Like are you still mad at the ex from the first album? Trust me 16, probably even 20 year old me would have been like PREACH Olivia, but now it's just annoying...except for the I wanna get him back song because we've all had those thoughts. However the song doesn't sound super good. It's like she's singing in to a megaphone while her friend records it on their iPhone. ::shakes fist at clouds::
I'm also kind of annoyed with the Grammy's for some of the nominations based on popularity rather than actual song writing, singing, playing instruments, and all that goes in to it. Olivia can really sang, but some of the album of the year stuff just kind of felt like let's nominate popular artists rather than good albums. Honestly though the Grammy's have been that way for a long time, and it's just easier to see with all the Taylor Swift stuff.
Post by litskispeciality on Feb 9, 2024 15:37:34 GMT -5
(((@nancybrown))) I haven't worn contacts in years because they never fit right and tend to break in my eye (sorry, gross). One pair fit so loose they fell out in school! Anyway, I thought the eye doctors had a weird tool that can pull them out without the person touching their own eye, but maybe they don't use those anymore? Ugh either way I'm sorry. I had a lot of trouble around that age and pretty much just wore big ugly glasses. I hope it gets resolved so you can party, and then sleep for 12 hours!
I'm so pissed, it just dawn on me last night that I cannot enjoy any good foods on sunday at the superbowl party I'm attending because I'm having a colonoscopy on Tuesday.
Oh that sucks! I’m sorry. My first colonoscopy was “urgent” too. I didn’t realize it was the day after thanksgiving! No wonder they had openings. I was the only person in the whole place
uuggh - you win.
But here is a sort of funny story. So I've had 3 emergency thrombosed hemorrhoid removal surgeries in the last year. The first one was on Valentine's day last year. As I'm laying on the surgery table with my ass cheeks spread, I go "Happy Valentine's day" to the surgeon. We both had a good laugh.
followyourarrow , I hope you have fun and get to relax as I know you've been through the wringer lately. I don't like to go to things by myself, but then have FOMO when I'm home and desperate to get out and have fun. A few posters on here have really encouraged me to go by myself to things my DH doesn't like, or can't go too. I think wildrice actually goes to a lot of theatre shows alone.
Also eff anyone who comments about how many people are in your party unless maybe you're at a Taylor Swift concert and now there's an empty seat someone could have overpaid to purchase, but even then they need to mind their bizness.
Yes - depending on what it is, I love going alone! The last concert that I went to by myself (the Chicks) I actually saw lots of single women on their own. I kind of loved being able to show up after the openers were done and just squeezing myself into the lawn where there was a small spot! And singing and dancing without feeling like I had to match my companion's energy, too. I usher at a professional theater so I do see a lot of theater by myself, too, though that's a little different since I'm volunteering. Anyway, I vowed to myself years ago that I would never miss out on doing something I want to do just because I don't have anyone to do it with.
But in general I think it's actually little odd how the norm is to go see shows/concerts/movies with other people. You can't talk during it anyway! So unless you get dinner beforehand or something you're actually not really even getting to interact a whole lot with the person you are with. May as well be on your own then!
Vent: I texted 4 friends on Wednesday a screenshot of a local coffeeshop advertising a Trivia Night for 2/23, and asked if anyone is interested in going. Crickets. From ALL FOUR. Not even a, "I need to check - I'll get back to you this weekend." Am I invisible?
I'm so pissed, it just dawn on me last night that I cannot enjoy any good foods on sunday at the superbowl party I'm attending because I'm having a colonoscopy on Tuesday.
Oh that sucks! I’m sorry. My first colonoscopy was “urgent” too. I didn’t realize it was the day after thanksgiving! No wonder they had openings. I was the only person in the whole place
Oh my god, I would for real cry. I love Thanksgiving so much. I hope you made up for it the day after!
DH and I likely made money when we traded in his truck. They gave us $12k for a truck from 2008 with like 145k miles on it. It was a 4 door with a longer bed and highly sought after. 🤷🏼♀️
Course then I got to write a check for $50k as the down payment on his new truck that he will drive until he dies or I take the keys. 😭
Why do people buy new cars with car payments? If you can’t afford it outright why are you going into debt for something that you will NEVER be able to sell at a profit or borrow against (like a home)? And if it’s not putting you in debt why aren’t you paying the total amount at once?
Lol 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 ::sigh::
I literally do not know one person that has paid cash for a car, new or used. Dear God.
Maybe this is a better discussion for when you are at tea at Downton Abbey.
I DID! We paid $10,000 for our 2012 Impala with a cashiers check.
followyourarrow , I hope you have fun and get to relax as I know you've been through the wringer lately. I don't like to go to things by myself, but then have FOMO when I'm home and desperate to get out and have fun. A few posters on here have really encouraged me to go by myself to things my DH doesn't like, or can't go too. I think wildrice actually goes to a lot of theatre shows alone.
Also eff anyone who comments about how many people are in your party unless maybe you're at a Taylor Swift concert and now there's an empty seat someone could have overpaid to purchase, but even then they need to mind their bizness.
All the concert software I've experienced won't allow me to leave one empty seat. They all require me to leave at least 2 seats empty. So in a row of 4, I can't pick seat 2, I have to pick 1 or 4.
I'm sorry the algorithm sucks, but agree you should def. go by yourself. It was about 5 years ago I think that there was a show I REALLY wanted to go to (Jewel performing at a small, intimate venue), and I posted on fb asking if I happened to have any friends that would want to go with me, and I got no responses. I didn't go, and now, every year when I see the fb memory on that day, I regret not going SO MUCH.
Vent: I texted 4 friends on Wednesday a screenshot of a local coffeeshop advertising a Trivia Night for 2/23, and asked if anyone is interested in going. Crickets. From ALL FOUR. Not even a, "I need to check - I'll get back to you this weekend." Am I invisible?
Aww, that sucks! That is surprising that at least one out of the four weren't able to respond. I'd go with you!
Post by underwaterrhymes on Feb 9, 2024 17:43:00 GMT -5
This has been such a shit week.
H’s stepmom, whom I was very close to, died on Monday.
Then our dog jumped the fence on Wednesday and took himself for a walk around the block. I found out almost immediately because our other dog told on him, and I went out after him. He pretty much took the route we always do on our walks and he brought himself back home with me in hot pursuit. But we cannot let him in the backyard without one of us with him, which makes it challenging since he wants to be out there a lot when the weather is nice and I have to work.
Then K got sick and he’s already missed so much school we sent him on Wednesday because he tested negative for COVID and had no fever, but I had to go pick him up early. We kept him home on Thursday and that was good because he got a fever later in the day and then he tested positive for Flu A this morning.
Now I’m starting to feel sick, so I’m sure it’s just a matter of time before all of us catch it.
On the good news side, we are all vaxxed so hopefully the flu won’t hit us too hard, I ordered an amazing wine that my friend makes in the Napa area and it was just delivered and my mom sent money to my kids for Robux and for H and me to order crab cakes from GoldBelly for our anniversary.
Trying to make the best of a bad week, but maaan, 2024 is not off to a promising start.
Post by underwaterrhymes on Feb 9, 2024 17:48:45 GMT -5
rosiebear - we live in northern IL and I would totally come see you if we weren’t dealing with the flu in our house. Will you be doing it again soon? If so, send me a PM!
I (manager level) have to work with someone (director level) who does not understand that they can't get everything they want, in the timing they want it. For example, we are conducting a global project this year, which was aligned with the global leadership team for our function. She wants my team to do a project for her market/region, and what she wants us to look at is covered by the global project, so I told her that it would be covered by the global project, as that is what was approved by the global leadership team. She basically said that she would go around me then to implement what she wanted. So I'm going to bring this forward to my boss (director level) when we have our weekly meeting on Monday. To me, her behavior and approach is not acceptable, in addition to her insisting to go outside of what was agreed upon at the level above her. I am so glad it's Friday!
I swear this exact same situation happens all the time at my job! It's maddening, especially when I'm one of the ones implementing these projects. It's such a waste of time and resources for the company as a whole, but the regions somehow tend to get their way.
Post by underwaterrhymes on Feb 9, 2024 17:56:46 GMT -5
Also *beats dead horse* we have never been in a position where we could pay outright for a car. We drive ours into the ground and I’ve only ever driven used vehicles. Our current cars were financed in 2020 and will be paid off next year. They’re roughly $300 each/month, so I’m excited to get them paid off and drive them until they die.
Post by blondemoment123 on Feb 9, 2024 18:37:27 GMT -5
I'm exhausted. My boss was out all week so I was covering her tasks while training 2 new hires and an intern.
I stopped by Starbucks on the way home just for energy to get through until bedtime. DS then reminded me I told him he can stay up a little late and play on the ipad 😫
You are coming off as really judgey and priviledged lilafowler . Not everyone can afford to save up to buy cars so in our car focused society without good access to alternate transportation they have to take out a loan.
Yeah, yikes!
I bought a new Honda civic after college (a used one was almost similar price so I just went with new). I just looked it up and the lowest price honda civic is $24,000. Most Americans don’t have $24,000 sitting around! Shit is expensive these days and it can be hard to save!
Sure most people don’t need a $75,000 car but absolutely no judgement on financing cars as most places have shitty public transportation.
Post by fluffycookie on Feb 9, 2024 21:31:54 GMT -5
I just drove DS and another teammate around to decorate two senior players houses. They took this very seriously and took forever. Thank god it was only two houses.
We make a lot of financial decisions (including car purchases)others can judge us on, but I don’t judge anyone, and I hope that no one judges me. I try to live by what I tell my children all the time “all families are different and make different choices, this is what we do in ours….”
I sent H off to dinner with the kids to get some alone time and now I wish I would have gone because I’m starving and there is nothing worth eating in the fridge.
Vent: I texted 4 friends on Wednesday a screenshot of a local coffeeshop advertising a Trivia Night for 2/23, and asked if anyone is interested in going. Crickets. From ALL FOUR. Not even a, "I need to check - I'll get back to you this weekend." Am I invisible?
Aww, that sucks! That is surprising that at least one out of the four weren't able to respond. I'd go with you!
I agree that this sucks! And I’d go with you. I love trivia but it’s something I can’t really do on my own so I basically never go.