Poll: tell us the first time you...

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got flamed or publicly berated by TK/TN/GBCN. Juicy details a plus.

Go.

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Back during the days of TK I woke up ridiculously early on a Saturday morning because I had a serious problem that was plaguing me. At that time, my BFF was engaged to someone who was verbally abusive towards her. Long story short he ended up telling her that she couldn't talk to me any more. I did try and help her, but there just wasn't a lot I or her mom could do.

Anyway, I wanted to send her a wedding invite to my wedding, even though I knew she wouldn't come. So, I posted to ask if I had to invite her abusive FI too. I left out the details about me actually trying to help her because I didn't think it was relevant to my question.

I got called all sorts of names and was told I was a horrible friend and person for putting my pretty pretty princess day above her safety. It was awesome.

Seriously though, in hindsight, it was pretty hilarious. I love it when people who don't know you from Adam and come out of the woodwork to be all judgey.

[kwpnjumper55]

My dad and I got into a huge fight and he told me he wasn't going to pay for my wedding. I decided that if I needed to, I would sell my horse so that I could pay for it myself.

Somehow I got told I was ungrateful to my parents help, even though I had come up with a solution to deal with the situation. I think that's when I quit the knot and didn't come back until after I was married.

[madDawg228]

On my month board (which I GBCK'ed because May '11-ers were a bunch of crazy c*ntbuckets), I responded to an AW post. The girl went into detail about how her wedding date was decided by some weird math method and it made her happy because she and her FI were math nerds. I posted something like "How nice, I love it when wedding dates have a special meaning to the couple, so much better than a total random date imo."

Another poster replied with "Every wedding date is special because that is the day you are getting MARRIED..." blah, blah, blah and she went into some rant and indicated I was a bitch because I totally dismissed/disrespected others wedding dates or somebullshit.

Well that poster was getting married on Cinco de Mayo and it was a DW. The DW included close friends, family, BMs, a "real" wedding, NOT an elopement, just a little small-ish guestlist-wise. Then the twatwaffle was having a PPD later, big ball gown, different BMs, huge guestlist, everything. I usually don't care if someone has a PPD, it's their money, who cares, I'm not a guest. BUT since she was bitching me out, and her "clique" started with the same type of responses. I decided to go out in a flame of glory.

I made fun of her for getting married on a drinking holiday (she was an uber goodie who judged those who lived together before marriage, and didn't drink). And I told her off for having a PPD. I'm trying to remember details, but I'm coming up a little blank. I think I posted something about not needing to have my relationship "okay'ed" by God and made fun of her for her religious-induced biases. I'll ETA if I remember something else I posted, but this was back in 2009 or 2010 so it's been awhile.

[jennlin]

OMG. i have been flamed SO many times by TK... i'll start with one story, and post more throughout the day.
....wait. the post asks for only the first time

i think it was when i said i didn't want bright pink cartoon peens at my bachlorette party. i asked how to tell my wannabe-bride, control freak, MOH that i didn't want them...and they all flamed me for being ungrateful, i don't deserve to have a b-party at all, a buzzkill, lesb, prude, and an AE. i've been "called out" as an AE because i "couldn't be real" on several occasions.

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Sept 26, 2012 12:28:37 GMT -5 jennlin said:

OMG. i have been flamed SO many times by TK... i'll start with one story, and post more throughout the day.
....wait. the post asks for only the first time

Tell us as many as you want. ;D

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I don't think I have? Well....except over the male circumcision thing like a year ago where it seemed a LOT of people got pissed at me for my opinion, but whatevs. I don't go anywhere but SN for a reason

[amandasw]

I also got flamed on my month board, pretty sure that was my first time too. I complained about it on here so you probably all know, but basically they all got SUPER mad that I made a poll asking who had kids because I hadn't been around. I made a clicky poll and apparently it was insensitive of me a) because several people had MC so it was hurtful to throw it in their face (?) and b) because I didn't make an option for babies who died.

One of them tried to be since and sent me a PM updating me on everything, but I was tired of the constant baby talk anyway because honestly, the whole board was pretty depressing. I'm not saying it isn't important for them to talk about, but it was ALL they talked about. I'm not there yet and haven't experienced all that, so I'm sure I'm not 'suppose' to judge, but I think a lot of people who are TTGTFKU lose perspective on life. I certainly hope when I get there I'll remember to be grateful for all the things I have and not let my fertility take over who I am as a person.

[amandasw]

Sept 26, 2012 12:53:44 GMT -5 @lauralynne said:

I was newish on the bump and someone said something that I had never heard before. I responded with "I must have woke up retarded" without even thinking about it. (I have reformed, I swear!!). It BLEW UP. I offended people who, I imagine, still hold it against me 2.5 years later....

see, stuff like this is NOT worth getting angry about. I don't see why you can't nicely correct someone and move on.

[Deleted]

There was a post on P&E about the percentage of marriages that end in divorce. I made a comment about how it was a wedding website and why were we throwing divorce rates into things. I got flamed for not knowing and for being such a naive young bride. Then the girls from AFSB made a post about my bio and started attacking my photos and making fun of my relationship with H and my relationship with my BMs.

[jennlin]

i also got flamed when i vented that i was really upset that my mom "announced my engagement" before i did, and before i was actually engaged. my mom knew h bought an engagement ring (i did, too)..and she went on and told the entire family that we got engaged, our wedding date, etc...and this was 2 months before h actually proposed. i was upset bc my mom "stole my thunder" when she announced to people when i wasn't there, and i didn't get a chance to tell my family myself....

i got flamed like crazy on this..most people were saying that nobody cares about your engagement, let your mom be happy, etc etc.. i even had one person saying "you should be happy your mom is happy, my mom is dead".

[carylee07]

Sept 26, 2012 12:56:18 GMT -5 @amandasw said:

Sept 26, 2012 12:53:44 GMT -5 @lauralynne said:

I was newish on the bump and someone said something that I had never heard before. I responded with "I must have woke up retarded" without even thinking about it. (I have reformed, I swear!!). It BLEW UP. I offended people who, I imagine, still hold it against me 2.5 years later....

see, stuff like this is NOT worth getting angry about. I don't see why you can't nicely correct someone and move on.

I agree. One time I posted something about being crazy happy and I used the word gay instead of lame. (I've reformed also) Luckily someone PM'd me and told me to edit instead of calling me out in front of everyone. I still felt awful but it could have been worse.

So I don't know if you all saw, but I started a thread yesterday on another board, and I totally regret it.

It was totally meant to be a light hearted, funny post about how i sneak purchases from my H but apparently I am the only one who is "dishonest" with my husband and Im a liar and making my husband look like a joke. Luckily there were only a handful of remarks like that.

Yeah, I know I put myself out there on a board that Im still relatively new, too, so I should have known better, but now I feel awful and wish I could just delete my original post. Yes, this was my first so I'm not hardened yet.

I'm trying not to let what people say bother me, as a) theres always going to be haters and b) they're only seeing the story with no context or knowledge about my relationship with H, but Id be lying if I said it didn't bother me.

ETA: Originally shared too much info.

[Deleted]

I don't even remember all the times that I've been flamed really. There are several of them. The snow incident earlier this year on E, talking about E too much, asking if I should contact that lawyers that had a class action lawsuit against the makers of the anti-depressant I was on when I got pregnant that been found to cause cleft lip and palates. The list goes on and on.

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Sept 26, 2012 13:22:49 GMT -5 carylee07 said:

Yes, this was my first so I'm not hardened yet.

You've been initiated! We like to call that hazing.

[amandasw]

Sept 26, 2012 13:36:57 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

I don't remember getting flamed...maybe I'm clueless or forgetful.

or you're super likeable

[jennlin]

Sept 26, 2012 13:32:36 GMT -5 @uwhuskygirl said:

Sept 26, 2012 13:22:49 GMT -5 carylee07 said:

Yes, this was my first so I'm not hardened yet.

You've been initiated! We like to call that hazing.

hahahaha. welcome. yours wasn't too bad at all. i'm still just getting started on all the times i've been in internet-fights

[jennlin]

there was another time, when the niner (september 2009) board got "attacked" by p&e...we were known to be a puppies and rainbows board, so somebody made "badges" to put in our sigs that had puppies, rainbows, unicorns, and cake on it..some of the girls were asking for it, and posted it on the national boards..and p&e came by and tore us all apart. somebody was posting dirty NSFW website links all over, and i made a new post warning the girls not to click on the links from this poster. i was made fun of for being "momma bear" to my cubs.....i don't think that was all that bad, was it?

[jennlin]

in general, if anybody remembers jessngiff (and a variety of her names....jessandgiff, jessandgriff, etc). she had it out for me..and basically called me out on every single thing i posted, saying i was a whiny brat. she mocked my wedding, wedding date, honeymoon..

[amandasw]

lol jenn - I'm glad someone around here has lots of experience with internet fights I feel like we're prepared in case something ever comes here... haha

[jennlin]

Sept 26, 2012 15:41:56 GMT -5 @amandasw said:

lol jenn - I'm glad someone around here has lots of experience with internet fights I feel like we're prepared in case something ever comes here... haha

lol. unfortunately so. i still have many many many more stories, haha.

i remember when seattle TK was looking for a mod, it was right after one of my internet fights and tygirljojo said "wouldn't it be funny if jenn became mod?" and i slapped the mod-stick on that thread saying "hey, check out my name on the top of the board"

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Why do I feel like it would be something like this?



*snap* *snap* *snap* *snap*

[BlackCanary]

TK flamed me for supposedly insulted our best man by honoring DH's best friend who had passed way from cancer a few years before. We had decided on making one of the boutonniere different and couldn't decide on if DH or his brother would wear it.

And apparently that meant we were saying that his brother was second choice. Technically that is true, but he understood that if the friend was still alive, he would have been the best man.

[llh0211]

I haven't ever been flamed. But... I don't really put much out there, either. Nor do I post much (if at all) on any board other than Seattle.

I did kind of get into it with a girl from a private board that a group of us from the Phoenix Nest migrated to. But she was being a snarky, self righteous biotch to several people on the board. I was tired of it, and called her on it. She didn't like it. But it wasn't a big huge blow up fight, or anything.

[carylee07]

Sept 26, 2012 13:11:06 GMT -5 jennlin said:

;you should be happy your mom is happy, my mom is dead".

WOW!

[tacocat]

I don't think I've ever been flamed, or I blocked it out. I don't really get to post much though!

[tacocat]

Dup!

[joenali]

I got über flamed on married life for having an alcohol free wedding. Apparently my IRL friends talked behind my back because dh and I are so boring and weird, and why would I ever do something like that to guests at a wedding.

I also got flamed on h&f because I used to have a dr. In my sig pic. And someone "found out" I wasn't a "real" doctor and they got super pissed off that I could "pose" as a doctor. It was a running joke for quite awhile on h&f.

[sarack]

i don't think i've ever really been flamed. but even if i was.. i'd probably laugh. unless my favs were being mean to me..

[karebear219]

I finally remembered what mine was. I got flammed on H&F once for complaining about people who smoke in areas where people usually work out, like running and biking trails. Some how I was incensitive to people who have addictions and smoking is all they have??? I get it, but I still don't think it's too hard to walk off a trail 20 feet to have a cigarette.

[InBetweenDays]

I'm feeling a little left out - I'm not sure I've ever been really flamed. Guess I better start posting more controversial stuff!