Post by Patsy Baloney on Mar 1, 2024 17:06:41 GMT -5
So I played in jazz band jr high/high school and every year the jr high and high school bands would pair together and do a date night dance thing. It was my first year, so I was in 6th grade. After our set was done I ask our band keyboardist to dance with me to Smoke Gets In Your Eyes. He did and it was awkward.
I don’t remember the person or song. It was probably a friend at the 8th grade graduation dance since I never had a middle school BF or date. I clearly remember the first time a boy asked me to dance in 7th grade. I felt bad for a long time because I said no due to being shy and insecure, even though he was cute and nice. He barely talked to me the rest of our school years and never asked me to dance again, although we are fb friends now 😆
I didn’t go to many high school dances. The only specific people I remember dancing with are my friend who was my date and my ex-bf, both at Jr Prom. I Swear was probably the most played slow dance song of that era.
Post by JayhawkGirl on Mar 1, 2024 17:54:52 GMT -5
Vividly, except the song itself 1988, spring of 7th grade. I was moving as soon as the school year ended. It was my crush, Jimmy, and I was wearing a mauve pink Outback Red mock neck and a khaki jumper dress from Banana Republic, back when they had jeeps crashing through their windows at the mall. I had so very few name brand clothes and I felt like a million bucks in that outfit.
I’m sure we looked like robots swaying side to side 😂
My teacher got a pic of us and wanted to put it in the yearbook but I begged her not to. I didn’t want to deal with my dad getting mad I danced with a boy. Lord let me be a better parent.
It was my 12th birthday party and I invited the whole class of 25. People started dancing in the basement, and a guy named Mike asked me to dance. Very thoughtful of him since I was the world’s dorkiest preteen! I think it was to Chicago’s Hard to Say I’m Sorry, which seems like a weird choice for 1996. I definitely remember dancing to Kiss From a Rose at another classmate’s party that year.
It was the 7th grade dance (I'm friends w/ the dude on social media and he's a megachurch preacher now-I did not have that on my bingo card). We danced to some 80s REO Speedwagon (or it might have been Chicago) song. LOL for days.
I talk about these things (e.g. first dance, crushes from the other thread) often, because I work in a middle school. My students think my stories are hilarious.
It was my 12th birthday party and I invited the whole class of 25. People started dancing in the basement, and a guy named Mike asked me to dance. Very thoughtful of him since I was the world’s dorkiest preteen! I think it was to Chicago’s Hard to Say I’m Sorry, which seems like a weird choice for 1996. I definitely remember dancing to Kiss From a Rose at another classmate’s party that year.
Are you sure it wasn’t the Az Yet cover?? Why can I so easily recall this info???
I think it was 7th, and may have been to Kokomo by The Beach Boys, that song was on all the time that year. With a boy I had an on/off crush thing with for years before and after.
The one I distinctly remember tho is sophomore year homecoming to FireHouse Love of a Lifetime.
Oh boy. I can't remember the person or the song (some Boyz II Men slow jam, I'm sure), but it was in 7th grade (so I was roughly 13/it was 1993).
ETA: I went to high school in an area with a lot of Mormon families, and I was friends with a friend group of Mormons, and their stake would always hold dances like once a month for the teens. They were fun-ish. We of course had to dress modestly (long skirts and tees that covered our shoulders mostly) and they were heavily chaperoned, which is why my mom probably felt comfortable with me going to so many of them. I was never in danger of being converted, so it was just a fun way to hang out with my friends and meet boys from other schools (got a couple of boyfriends that way). They always played the 'adult contemporary' music so lots of Chicago, Journey, Richard Marx, etc. Not a lot of R&B or any of that since they probably deemed it too risky. LOL I did, however, learn to swing dance at those dances, and that was fun.
Some of the best dancers I’ve seen are Mormons, those teen dances taught them some moves!
I don’t remember mine but it was probably junior prom with my high school boyfriend. I do clearly recall my sister slow dancing for the first time with a kid to End of the Road in 7th grade. Witnessing that transpire suddenly made me feel so far behind. #twinlyfe 🤣
Post by basilosaurus on Mar 2, 2024 6:04:23 GMT -5
I strangely actually do recall. I hadn't thought about it in years.
6th grade class trip to DC. I was short, one of the shortest in the grade, in the year when most boys were shorter than most girls. I know for sure because they lined us up by height to take a picture on the capitol steps as they'd done for decades. I was 3rd from the end. I was taller than the guy who asked me to dance (they moved the short boys ahead in the picture for probably some sexist vanity reason). We were in the formal school uniforms. Yes, even in a private space after visiting hours, we had to wear the jumpers and blazers. It wasn't even a religious school, just one with anachronistic uniforms.
A couple months later was the bar/bat mitzvahs every weekend for over a year, and I could not tell you who I danced with probably because I hated the dance part and tried my best to avoid it.
I cannot believe I remember that, and his full name, too! Even when I lived in DC that memory never surfaced.
Off to Google stalk. My guess is he's still short, and I'm a 5'6" giant where I currently reside. He's probably super rich, though, and I decidedly am not.
Post by basilosaurus on Mar 2, 2024 6:15:04 GMT -5
I will not forgive this board.
I looked the guy up. He is certifiably insane. Something about 9-11 and revelation (he's Jewish, so I'm not sure how that squares), is a self processed content creator, and the crazy continues from there.
minzy, she did have fun! She said it was very interesting and she’s glad she went but isn’t sure she would go again. She liked dressing up for the night though and hanging with her friends. She did not dance with a boy but she already knew her crush and other boy friends weren’t going!
I was in 7th grade and the year was 1991. I remember the boy (a year younger than me and shorter). We did not know what we were doing and held each other awkwardly and swayed. I wasn’t too traumatized— it was the mean girls who caused me more distress.
Can’t remember the song— could have been Boyz to men? I can remember other music from dances in that era- Milli Vanilli, I’m Too Sexy by Right Said Fred, MC Hammer, line dancing to Billy Ray Cyrus and some Spanish rock. Oh and who can forget OPP, which was removed from the playlist once the adults figured out the meaning.
I guess my first slow dance happened at my freshman year cotillion. I went to an all girls Catholic school and the chaperones would legit come and separate any couple who was dancing too closely 😂
My middle school dances were girls on one side, boys on the other.
Post by lovelovelove on Mar 2, 2024 22:48:52 GMT -5
I can't remember the first-first, but I remember a few awkward shoulder holding sways fromm 6th-8th. To End of the Road, Wonderful Tonight, Kissed By a Rose. Aw! But thinking about it reminded me how when the song was over we would just part lol lol! Like drop hands off shoulders walk away to...find friends? Giggle about it? Yikes! Lol
I only remember one slow dance from middle school years. It was a guy I had a crush on but I think my crush was only because he was taller than me lol. I don't remember the song but I do remember a butt grab lol. It was probably 8th grade but I won't swear to that.
At my middle school, the last dance was always a slow dance, and it was always Stairway to Heaven. Which 1) is 7 minutes long and 2) has a part in the middle that is definitely not slow 😂
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
I was so awkward in middle school. The only school dance was the 8th grade dance and I didn’t get asked to dance with anyone.
I remember as a sophomore going to a Halloween dance at our high school. I was on the cross country team and a junior on the boys team seemed interested. I can’t remember if we slow danced or not. I just remember the couple weeks before the dance he seemed very interested in me and he didn’t seem to want to leave my side at the dance. But I was shy and another girl on the team scared me. She told me that he was very sexually aggressive and practically forced her friend to have sex and then dumped her the next day. Super innocent me was scared and avoided him the rest of the night. Oh and yes he wound up dating my teammate.
The first slow dance I remember is with my first boyfriend. Junior year of high school…at a middle school dance. We were both chaperones to get service hours. Our first date was to see Aladdin so we had to dance when “A Whole New World” played. Lol.
Lifehouse Hanging by a Moment, senior year homecoming. I normally went to dances in a group, my guy friend and I decided to dance because he wanted to be there with A and I wanted to be there with D and we thought it would make them jealous.
That was the start of a 5 month period where he and I sort of dated 😂. He was too shy to say anything and so was I but we were basically together constantly. For senior prom A and D went together. It was kind of devastating because I was in love with D since freshman year (my brother's best friend) and A had the same dress as me. She spent the whole prom night with my date, and D was off being pissed and I was off being depressed. It was a high school sitcom for sure 😂
Ya know, I’m not sure I have ever slow danced?! School dances I never had a date & just went w a group of female friends. Then I was either dancing at a club (no slow dances) or weddings when I’d use the slow dance to cool down. At my own wedding, our first dance was flamenco-esque & we didn’t do parent dances. Even now if my H & I dance at home or whatever, it’s Latin dances.
Post by basilosaurus on Mar 3, 2024 21:12:21 GMT -5
I'm not counting the years my family forced me to fucking cotillion classes. How antiquated can you get. I even had to wear white gloves. Midway through the class the boys would have to go get punch and cookies for the girls.
But, hey, I can foxtrot to the locomotion song while hearing the internal "slooow quick quick" narration.
Oh, it so is. Pour one out for Mike M., from whom I learned that stubble-burn is a thing after hours of making out behind a canoe shed.
Oh man, church camp and retreats were SO BAD for that kind of thing. Youth group lock-ins (ours were always coed lol) where couples just disappeared for an hour and then came back all red faced.
This thread reminded me a Catholic Church in another town (in my MS/HS district) would host a dance once a month for anyone in the community. My mom was adamant that I couldn't go, but never explained why. One time my friends mom offered to take us during a sleepover, kind of passive aggressive knowing my mom didn't want me to go. Anyway, I met an older boy (I was 14.5, he was 17/almost 18) from another school district. We had a major make out session right on the dance floor. We "went out" for a few months, including a few meet ups and lots of phone calls. We're still FB friends, and he was actually kind of upset when I didn't recognize him IRL years ago when we bumped in to each other.
Anyway point being that church dance didn't seem to care about kissing and grinding as much as my public, non-denominational middle or high schools lol.
I also remember a group coming to the mandatory Confirmation weekend. They were younger late teens/early 20's, who compared themselves to Road Rules for church. They'd try to recruit you to join, explaining that it's a lot of fun, but you can't date (aka hook up) within the team while you're active. Turns out the main female leader was engaged to a man on the team, who she met during her contracted time, so that lead me to believe they did indeed date and hook up.
Post by basilosaurus on Mar 5, 2024 0:20:23 GMT -5
Oh the church lock in. I didn't have personal experience, but I certainly knew of stories.
The stubble burn came from marriage. Marry someone on active duty, go on vacation where they're not required to shave, and you'll experience it, too. My chin is currently empathetically hurting.
I know it was a 5th grade party at a boy's house, but don't remember who I danced with or the song. I only remember that the birthday boy's dad was an Elvis impersonator. (Not like, at the party... just in general.)
Post by litskispeciality on Mar 5, 2024 11:48:53 GMT -5
basilosaurus, oh the adult stubble burn! My DH can't have a beard due to his job so he always looks so shabby on vacation. I get it, but kind of drives me nuts if we get dressed up and go out that he won't clean up. I imagine my husband will have a looong white beard when he can finally retire *sigh*
basilosaurus, oh the adult stubble burn! My DH can't have a beard due to his job so he always looks so shabby on vacation. I get it, but kind of drives me nuts if we get dressed up and go out that he won't clean up. I imagine my husband will have a looong white beard when he can finally retire *sigh*
They allowed us a 2 week vacation in the middle of a year long training. He shaved the last day but left a stache. It was horrible, and, yes, I took pictures. This is a guy whose 5 o clock shadow shows up around noon. I think I just broke out even remembering it