Would you consider giving a kidney to....

[hereonceagain]

A person who is/had been doing illegal drugs and excessive drinking, and you don't have much hope they'd change? Assume it's a very distant family member that you cared about but was never close to.

[Nonny]

No.

[heygrey]

Nope.

I'm not risking my life if they aren't taking theirs seriously.

[Balki.Bartokomous]

No.

[mollybrown]

No. There are very few people I would give up a kidney for, and anyone that doesn't take care of their body to start sure wouldn't make the cut.

[Kore]

I doubt most doctors would let you donate a kidney to such a person.

[hereonceagain]

Oct 14, 2012 0:13:26 GMT -5 Kore said:

I doubt most doctors would let you donate a kidney to such a person.

I know you can't be added to the recipient waiting list, but I don't know how it works if a family member is willing.

[trident0]

Nope. I'm not even sure I would for very close family if I thought they would never change.

[MixedBerryJam]

No. As a single parent, the only people I'd even consider donating a kidney to would be one of my kids. By the time they are launched and I'd consider anyone else, my old-lady kidneys probably won't be donatable.

[Deleted]

Hell no

[blueshirt2003]

No

[Deleted]

No way.

[chessie]

Oct 14, 2012 0:13:26 GMT -5 Kore said:

I doubt most doctors would let you donate a kidney to such a person.

This and age is a factor. I have a family member that has been asking, and I didnt even have to say no, doctor said no for me. They wont touch a patient with any sort of drug issue.

[satama]

Nope.

[Deleted]

No.

[Deleted]

Nope.

[Mrs.Beagle]

No, and I'm pretty sure it's a non-issue, because the doctors and transplant team likely wouldn't allow it anyway.

[315bride]

Oct 14, 2012 8:42:41 GMT -5 Mrs.Beagle said:

No, and I'm pretty sure it's a non-issue, because the doctors and transplant team likely wouldn't allow it anyway.

This.

[ladygrey]

Absolutely not

[Deleted]

No way.

My aunt received a kidney from her husband and has been hard to see her not take care of herself with poor diet and exercise and it wasn't even my kidney and she has no substance abuse issues.

[dragonfly08]

Um, no. Never mind "saving" the kidney in case a member of my immediate family needs it...I couldn't chance surgery complications or even just the regular recovery time. I have a responsibility to my own family and I'm not risking that for a distant relative who clearly demonstrates an inability to care for/respect his/herself.

[h]

In this circumstances, no.

[GailGoldie]

I wouldn't give To anyone that I wasnt super close to. Let alone someone who is an addict and has not changed behavior.

[liveintheville]

Perhaps. My FIL didn't qualify for the donor list but my SIL gave him a kidney. That was 8 years ago and since then my SIL has had 2 kids with no problems and my FIL is alive at 72. It can make such a big difference to someone with so little sacrifice on my part that I would definitely consider it.

[KaraOrNot]

No, not in this situation.

[gibbinator]

The only people I'd donate to are my immediate family: parents, sister, husband, and my kids.

[midnightmare81]

The only people I would do it for is H or my dad. My mom has had uncontrolled diabetes and has no interest in accepting this and changing her ways, and I know she wouldn't even if she ended up needing one to live. She will NEVER change. I could not give one to my H since we are not compatible. I don't know if I could for my dad, but I would if he needed it.

HELL NO, there is not a chance in the world I would donate an organ to someone who caused the issue for themselves and I knew wouldn't change their ways. As others said, I would be surprised if any doctor would even touch that anyway...

[schrodinger]

Nope. I follow a blog of a woman that gave up a lot to give a kidney to her brother. He's diabetic and didn't take great care of himself before or after the transplant. She's had a hard time emotionally dealing with his lack of gratitude and unwillingness to take better care of himself. After reading what she's gone through, I don't think that I could donate to someone that hasn't taken lasting steps to improve their health.

[aurora]

No. I could imagine donating one to an immediate family member who had caused his/her own problems due to drugs or alcohol, but only after they had demonstrated a real commitment to changing behavior so it would not be in vain.

[megalicious]

Not a chance.