Moms, do you worry about your kid all the time?

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I worry a lot about bullying. The idea of any of my kids being the target of bullying makes my heart ache already.

I worry about a lot actually. I worry about being hit by a car, if I was to suddenly drop dead for whatever reason and the idea of her sitting there crying all day until someone finds her, I worry about one of the deck rails coming loose and her falling 2 stories...yeah. The deck rails are firmly secured, I'm just crazy. My h says I'm super paranoid, which is true. I just feel like I would rather be over the top cautious than to have something happen. I probably need to chill.

[Deleted]

Yes absolutely. Mia is type one diabetic, and there is thing called Dead in Bed Syndrome. Google it. It's basically SIDS for diabetics. Mia's school nurse's 21 year T1 son passed away a year ago in his sleep from this.

We check her blood sugar every night at 11pm, 3am and 6:30am. I'm terrified of this happening.

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Fuck Vino that's terrifying. I had no idea.

[cbwm1]

I think I'm a freak because no, I don't.

I mean, sometimes I'll have moments of panic - what if he has undiagnosed cancer? What if we let him walk himself to the bus one day and he's kidnapped? But they're just moments. Not constant worry.

I'm sure this will change when he's older. But maybe we did so much worrying about him before (when we thought he was autistic) that right now there's nothing to worry about? idk.

[Ruby Gloom]

Nahoku - I'm so sorry about your nephews, how horrible!

Vino - That, truly, would have me out of my head with worry. You are such a strong mom!

SueSue - Eye2Eye; once they've escaped our grasp and we can't count heads at night...we can dream up all the awful ways they can be hurt. And what you went through w/DS2 just so hit home with me. ((hugs))

I truly think, had I known before I had them how much they consume my brain and my heart, I wouldn't have taken the leap. I would've been afraid to love and hurt and worry this much. But then I would've missed out on those laughs, those smiles, all those hugs and the "I wub you mom"s.

And now I'm crying.

[gretchenindisguise]

I worry about it when I read the story, but I'm pretty good at getting past that worry and pretending it'd never happen to me/us.

[jaylea]

Oct 25, 2012 13:50:11 GMT -5 eddy said:

I can turn if off pretty easily. I have to avoid the stories you listed above though. I can't go down that road. I avoid sick children stories, dead children stories and all of that stuff. I prefer to stick my head in the ground at all times.

I worry about stupid shit a lot. Like what to dress Leo in at night and the second guess it all night. duuuuurrrr

This is me.

I have that twinge in my stomach each day on the way to work where I think "what if L got teased today/hurt herself on the playground/etc" but I recognize it's part of my adjustment of her being in school vs. daycare and can let it go.

But man, if I think I dressed DS a little too warmly, H will get 48 questions right before bed. "Should I change his clothes?" "Do you think he's hot?" "Is he sweaty?" "Should I go check him again?" "should I turn down the heat? I'm going to turn down the heat." lol

[KKD]

nahoku, I'm so sorry, how tragic. The fact that it can happen to anyone is so true, and so scary.

I sometimes stupidly worry that if anything happened to me, who would do the girls' hair? H certainly doesn't know what to do with it. I have to remind him to even brush it if he takes them somewhere without me in the morning.

I've also been so guilt-ridden ever since my fainting episode over the summer. I never want them to feel like they have to fend for themselves again. :(

[eddy]

jaylea-That is totally me. I can be so breezy about a million parenting things. But how to dress my kids gets me all fluttered.

I think it is because I am a naturally warm person so I don't trust my own judgement. Plus then I heard SIDS can be caused by overheating so I am extra worried that I have dressed Leo to warmly.
Why am I not medicated?

[Deleted]

I honestly don't worry about too many things. My husband is the worrier in our house.

[jaylea]

Oct 25, 2012 14:03:37 GMT -5 @stellasmom said:

Eddy! I worry about that when dh is out of town. Like, what if I had a brain aneurism and died and my kids were stuck in the house alone for like three days.

Omg. At least Payne knows how to get water from the fridge door...

I think I had too much caffeine the other day, and my heart was doing weird little jumpy things. So I started drilling L on what to do in an emergency because H was out for a night and I wanted her to be able to call 911 in an emergency.

Overreactor, party of 1.

[nahoku]

gretchen, I'm the same way, I like to thing those really freaky scary stories won't happen to us and try to turn that thought off.

vino, that's so scary

And, thanks, guys. It's been almost 10 years since the car accident and it seems like yesterday sometimes. My older SIlL's boys. They were 3 and 5 at the time, just about the same ages as DS and DD are now, and it kills me to think of what SIL and BIL have gone through.

[KKD]

eddy and jaylea, I do that too, even now that they're older.

I sent the girls to school on Tuesday in t-shirts and jeans because it was supposed to get above 70, but when I picked them up, it was still chilly and drizzly, and Em came outside in her t-shirt with her jean jacket still in her schoolbag because she didn't want to get it wet since it wasn't her rain jacket. I check the weather compulsively every morning and night. It wasn't supposed to rain! I felt so bad.

[cookies]

Yes, a lot. I always think that my family has avoided tragedy and we've got to be due for something horrible to happen to us. When I get these thoughts, they're usually really crazy and off-the-wall. And they usually involve car accidents. But my other irrational fear is kidnapping. We live on the first floor, and I refuse to keep his window open at night because I don't want someone sneaking in and taking him.

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Oct 25, 2012 14:35:43 GMT -5 cookies said:

Yes, a lot. I always think that my family has avoided tragedy and we've got to be due for something horrible to happen to us. When I get these thoughts, they're usually really crazy and off-the-wall. And they usually involve car accidents. But my other irrational fear is kidnapping. We live on the first floor, and I refuse to keep his window open at night because I don't want someone sneaking in and taking him.

I think about this b/c the boys don't have CF. Like, I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop.

When we were at the opthamologist for Marc's eye I was so anxious it was going to be a neurological thing. So worried.

I'm so unbelievably thankful they're healthy.

[julez]

Oct 25, 2012 14:35:43 GMT -5 cookies said:

Yes, a lot. I always think that my family has avoided tragedy and we've got to be due for something horrible to happen to us. When I get these thoughts, they're usually really crazy and off-the-wall. And they usually involve car accidents.

This is me to a T.

[Ruby Gloom]

Oct 25, 2012 14:45:26 GMT -5 julez said:

Oct 25, 2012 14:35:43 GMT -5 cookies said:

Yes, a lot. I always think that my family has avoided tragedy and we've got to be due for something horrible to happen to us. When I get these thoughts, they're usually really crazy and off-the-wall. And they usually involve car accidents.

This is me to a T.

:Y:

Yesterday on the way home, Nicholas said all of this stuff about calling 9-1-1 if the house was on fire, in "a mer-jen-sea" and I was really impressed (he just turned 3) and relieved for like, two seconds. Then I started freaking out: OMG we only have I-phones, how will he know how to call 911 on a fucking I-phone?

Honestly, I cannot be happy about one. single. thing. without freaking out about another.

[cookies]

Oct 25, 2012 14:37:35 GMT -5 toledo said:

Oct 25, 2012 14:35:43 GMT -5 cookies said:

But my other irrational fear is kidnapping. We live on the first floor, and I refuse to keep his window open at night because I don't want someone sneaking in and taking him.

How is that an irrational fear?

Fine, I'm rationally scared of kidnapping.

[housegeek]

Oct 25, 2012 13:50:36 GMT -5 farmvillelover said:

I worry a LOT about him (his safety, well being, etc.).

Sometimes at night if I hear (or even think I hear) things around the house I go check on him even though I have a video monitor.

My heartbeat depends on his. So I can't help it.

Yup this exactly. I even still check for breathing sometimes...

[mrsjuleshs]

I worry in general about her safety but not to this level.

[litebright]

Yes, I worry. It was ratcheted up several levels because of Jessica Ridgeway's kidnapping & murder. And now, even though they've made an arrest, I don't feel all that much better. There have been at least 2-3 other incidents of adults trying to grab or lure kids in the Denver metro area in the past week or so.

The only reason those are making the news is that everyone has been so on-edge and worried about any connection. So even though getting one particularly sick guy off the streets is good, I had no idea that so many other psychos out there trying to get ahold of a child for God knows what.

Aside from that ... I worry a lot about DD1. A lot. She has autism. She's lovely and sweet and affectionate, and doing great now, but I don't know how things are going to go as school and social expectations get harder.

I don't know what her future will be like, whether she'll be okay in the long-term, whether she'll have friends or get married or go to college. Whether we're going to need to make special arrangements for her in our will, etc. In the more short-term, I worry a lot about how cruel and thoughtless both kids and adults can be to anyone who seems a little "off" or out of sync. Are we doing enough? Are we missing the One Great Therapy that will ensure she can thrive in the world?

Having a kid with SN takes the worry and second-guessing to a whole new level.

On the other hand, reading about the level of neurosis in other people's lives on here makes me feel better that maybe she won't be *that* far out of the norm.

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Oct 25, 2012 14:05:37 GMT -5 juliagoulia said:

I don't worry all the time- but some things trigger nasty anxiety/panic for me now that never ever did before. Since I was pregnant I've also gotten an irrational fear about driving at night... I've actually had 2 panic attacks now while driving at night that were bad enough that I had to stop & have someone come drive me home not sure wtf that's about.

Sons of Anarchy about gave me a panic attack at the end this week- I had to go check on my kid after that stupid show.

OhMahGawd ME TOO! I had my hand over my mouth the whole time and promptly ran upstairs to check on DS. I have been super SUPER paranoid driving him since Tues too. But getting into an accident when it's just him and me in the car has always been a huge fear of mine. We live in a rural area, what if no one sees us? Just typing this out is making me anxious.

Before that, the scene in the 2nd season of The Walking Dead where T-Dawg sees the bloody carseat has seriously fucked me up permanently. That scene flashes before my eyes often when I strap DS into his carseat. How the hell did I end up so emotional over TV shows? Good grief.

[Nicole]

Yes, I do. My H only worries like me (which is crazy style) when we go out of town without her

[youbetcha]

Oct 25, 2012 13:59:47 GMT -5 eddy said:

I had this awful thought one night. What if someone came in during the night and murdered me and H. Then Jack and Leo were left to fend for themselves. I picture Jack trying to get Leo out of the crib. Being the brave boy that he is. And then they woudln't know what to do and I would have left my babies all alone. This odd though vision had me taking to my bed practically. I don't even know where it came from. So I just go back to being pollyanna and assuming everything is just peachy. It is easier that way.

OMG, this is me. I fret about this every time my H is OOT. I think, if it was a Thursday night, it might be Saturday until someone started to worry! Now that my DS is 5 though, I've started talking to him about what to do in various emergencies and which neighbors to go to if there is trouble. That makes me feel slightly better. But when he was smaller, I just pictured him crying and starving in his crib for a whole weekend until the nanny came on Monday morning and found me all murdered in my bed and stuff.

Boy, this is cheery Thursday thinking.

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I worry often. Probably more than I should. I want everything in his life to be perfect always and for him to never expierence pain. I know that is not realistic though.

[jackandcoke]

My kids are allergic to tree nuts & peanuts. Like end up in the ER, have 3 sets of epipens, im the pain in the ass mom in your kids class. I worry when they're not with me or like 3 other people bc I don't trust that people are going to keep them safe.